How To Have An Advanced English Conversation Like A Native English Speaker

hey as an english learner your goal is

to speak english fluently right

you want to master english conversation

right

well the only way you can master english

conversation is by knowing the four

parts of an advanced english

conversation and i’m gonna teach you all

four parts

today now if it’s your first time i

wanna introduce myself i’m teacher

tiffany

and my goal is to help one billion

students

around the world just like you finally

speak

english with confidence and that’s

exactly why i created today’s lesson

for you now are you ready to learn well

then

let’s jump right in

all right now there are four parts to a

natural advanced

english conversation let’s look at part

number one

start with small talk now again this is

part one of an advanced

english conversation it is a way for you

to get the conversation

jump started naturally now let me look

at this really quickly

jump started it means to start or

improve something

more quickly by giving it extra help

so basically the way you can understand

or remember this term

is think about when you’re in a

conversation right there’s this awkward

moment

where you don’t know what to do right

you don’t necessarily know how to start

the conversation

you don’t know what to say jumpstarted

means to

get it started very quickly and that’s

the goal

of small talk so what exactly is

small talk here we go polite

conversation

about unimportant or uncontroversial

matters

especially as engaged in on social

occasions so the easiest way for you to

understand small talk is

a period in the conversation at the very

beginning

that is not too deep um but it’s still

interesting but it’s basically focused

on

simple things to talk about that

everyone basically general topics that

everyone can talk about

now there’s a word in the definition

that i want to go over with you really

quickly okay

the word is uncontroversial you see it

uncontroversial now this emphasizes the

point i was making about general topics

uncontroversial refers to not likely to

be

disputed or to cause strife

or quarrel not likely to cause

controversy or

problems so again small talk focuses on

general topics topics that everyone can

basically agree on or

talk about without any issues so

uncontroversial matters or

uncontroversial

topics all right okay now i want us to

look at some more details about small

talk

during this part of the conversation you

want to show

a genuine interest and you also want to

ask

open-ended questions so real quick

when you start a conversation off if you

ask a question and then you’re like

uh-huh

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i don’t look too interested do i right

you want to start off

by being genuine by showing genuine

interest

even during the small talk part now the

next thing is

asking open-ended questions again this

is another detail

that you can understand about small talk

so open-ended questions

basically questions that have no

determined

limit or boundary so for example the

easiest way to understand this

where are you from how was your day

how was work how did you hear about this

event

these are example questions you can use

during the small

talk part of the conversation again

open-ended there can be

many different answers to these

questions right

now i do want you to also remember this

as you’re getting into this part of the

conversation

avoid talking about personal topics

such as beliefs or religion health or

political views

also always practice active

listening now real quick before i go to

active listening i did want to emphasize

something

when you’re starting a conversation off

you don’t want to talk about personal

topics because you’re

trying to keep the conversation

basically light

at the very beginning you kind of want

to have this comfortability that

everyone is experiencing at the

beginning of the conversation

but the moment you get into religion or

political beliefs

suddenly the conversation gets really

deep

but you don’t want to do that at the

beginning of a conversation

now the other thing i said is always

practice active listening

remember earlier i showed you body

language right

using my body language how okay yep

uh-huh

uh-huh i’m not really interested but you

actually

need to be listening actively

during the small talk part of the

conversation so again

active listening means concentrating on

what is being said

rather than just passively hearing the

message

and finally i want you to remember small

talk is a way for you to find

a common point to explore more

remember as you’re jump starting the

conversation

you like i use that right there yeah as

you’re jump starting the conversation

your goal is to connect with the person

you’re speaking with right

you want to see hey wait a minute what

do we have in common

what can we talk about and we’ll both be

interested

this is what the first part of the

conversation is

for so let’s look at an example small

talk conversation here we go

i want to show you an example of small

talk we have two

individuals anna and robert here we go

anna starts hey i’m anna what’s your

name

robert hey anna my name is robert

where are you from notice what’s

happening they’re both

asking open-ended questions right very

light conversation to start if you’re

following right

good then anna answers his question

i’m from california how about yourself

now you’ll see the red i’m gonna come

back and explain the portions that are

bolded

but let’s keep going through this part

of the conversation

robert says really me too i’m

actually from riverside what city did

you live in

anna says what a coincidence i’m from

sacramento

but i have lots of friends from

riverside

robert says that’s awesome man

it really is a small world so you see

the first

part of the conversation again making

small talk

very light-hearted conversation but you

see there’s kind of this connection

being made

right they found this commonality like

oh wait a minute we’re both from

california

this is very interesting now there were

three things that i wanted to dive into

a little bit more to explain to you all

the first thing was anna said how about

yourself

now honestly this is just another way to

ask someone

how about you there are so many ways in

english to ask someone how they’re doing

but this is another example you can say

how about yourself

after you’ve answered a question you

want to throw it back to the person that

you’re talking to you can say

hey how about yourself and that’s

exactly what anna did

now the next thing was what a

coincidence again anna said this and it

means

when two or more similar or related

events

occur at the same time by chance

and without any planning think about it

anna just met robert

but now she’s finding out that robert is

actually from the same state

wow similar wow what a coincidence so

again

pronunciation coincidence

you got it again coincidence

excellent so you see again they’re

making this connection in part one

of an advanced english conversation the

small talk portion

now the last thing is it’s a small

world now this just means sad to show

you’re surprised that people or events

in different places are connected so

again

anna and robert meeting for the first

time they’re in part one of the advanced

english conversation

the small talk part right they’re asking

open-ended questions

and what happened oh my goodness they

found a connection

what a small world anna’s from

california and so

is robert so this is the point of the

first

part of an advanced english conversation

and we see small world is an expression

that you can start using

too so let’s continue let’s go now to

part

number two here we go transition

this is part two of an advanced english

conversation

it is a way for you to smoothly move

to a deeper conversation remember

part one we ended the conversation

between anna and robert where they found

oh my goodness we’re both from

california now there needs to be a

transition from the small talk to

something else

so part number two again the transition

by actively listening during the small

talk part

you will recognize an interesting topic

that you can dive deeper into

you see where we’re going right anna and

robert they realized we’re both from

california

different cities though now you see i

have dive

deeper into what does this actually mean

so dive deeper into means to examine

something in great detail in a short

space of time or to talk about a subject

in a lot

of detail all right so you want to dive

deeper into something to

kind of understand a little bit more

about a certain topic

all right so when you’re in part two

here are some things

to understand the goal is to find

a connection all right next for example

say something related to a person

or group of people next a situation or

experience next a mutual like or dislike

now

since we’re studying together we already

recognized

something that connected anna and robert

we recognized oh my goodness they’re

both from california

but this is part two the transition so

now the transition

has to happen in their conversation now

i do want you to remember some things

here are some good transition statements

for example you mentioned that dot dot

dot what are your thoughts on

dot dot dot next i

also like dot dot dot have you ever

dot dot dot or finally you could say can

you tell me

a bit more about dot dot dot

now again you can literally copy these

sentences and these statements exactly

when you’re in a conversation

and you’re trying to speak like a native

english speaker remember

one of these transition statements to

actually move forward in the

conversation

now let’s see how they did it in their

conversation here we go

again robert and anna

so robert says even though i’m not from

sacramento

i have heard many good things about it i

read an article that said it has been

dubbed

the most hipster city in california

can you tell me a bit more about what

makes sacramento

such a great city you see what he did

there right

he used a transition statement right

they’re both from california

but remember she anna said she’s from

sacramento right

but robert is not he’s from riverside so

robert is like wait a minute

i want to connect i want to go deeper i

need a transition statement

so he says can you tell me a bit

more about and then he says what makes

sacramento such a great city

so now there’s this transition to kind

of a deeper

topic right now how does anna respond

okay

oh before we go to anna there are two

words i want us to look at really

quickly

dubbed now this just means to give an

unofficial name

or nickname to someone or something

for example um a long time ago

maybe it’s been several months actually

several months ago

uh you know you all always comment on

the videos right

one student in the comment section said

teacher

you’re my chocolate teacher so

the student started calling me chocolate

teacher i said okay

i was dubbed or given a nickname by that

student so that’s what the word

dubbed means so again after me dubbed

good job now you’ll also see another

word right here in robert’s answer

he said hipster real quick for

pronunciation

hipster excellent last time

hipster good job now hipster is just

someone

whose fashion choices and music

interests fall outside the main

stream all right so someone who doesn’t

follow the trends they do their own

thing right so robert is saying hey i

heard that sacramento has a lot of

hipsters so now we’re going to see how

anna responds again we’re still in part

two

and it says sure i’m glad you asked

i love sacramento there are so many

things that make it

a great city so we’re seeing now there’s

this

natural transition that is happening

because

robert used one of the transition

statements now

i have a challenge for you as we move

into part number three before we get

there

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dot dot dot

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dot

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part number three again cambly thank you

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here we go part number three part number

three of an advanced english

conversation

is the deep conversation part

it is a way for you to connect more

with the other person here we go

this is kind of when you share your

experiences

your interests your feelings or just

thoughts in general with people in order

to

connect with them this is when you

really get into an advanced english

conversation right

you’re getting to the point where now

your ideas

your thoughts your experiences need to

connect with the topic you’re discussing

so let’s see how you can do this

properly and sound like a native english

speaker

here we go ask give

and follow up this is the pattern you’re

going to ask about information for

example use the five w’s who what

when where or why ask for details ask

for reasons

or ask for examples again there’s this

pattern that happens in this part of the

conversation this

back and forth back and forth back and

forth

i like to think of it like a tennis

match you ask a question

then they’re gonna answer you then you

have to

give information so give

information related to the other

person’s response

or answer and again we’re gonna see this

in the conversation between anna and

robert in a few moments

there’s this back and forth and finally

there’s a follow-up so you’re gonna

follow up

with another question again going

back and forth back and forth now

there’s a special situation where you

can discover

information together if something comes

up that you both are interested in

look up something online that is related

to it and relay the new information to

the person you are speaking with

they may also find something as well

this is not mandatory but it is very

common in modern times

for example i’m having a conversation

with someone and we’re talking about

something dealing with sports or

something dealing with art and there’s

something that we both don’t know we’re

like

wait a minute i go on my phone to look

on google and

he or she goes on his or her phone to

look on google we realize something and

then we share it with each other

this does happen very often in

conversations nowadays but it’s not all

the time so

the main thing to remember is ask give

follow-up during the deep conversation

part

so let’s check out anna and robert’s

conversation they’re now

in deep conversation here we go anna

one of my favorite things about

sacramento is its food culture

it is actually known as america’s farm

to fork

capital because the area ships produce

all over the nation and has 40

local farmers markets stocked full

of local fines i love getting food from

the farmer’s market

have you ever been to one robert

continues

yeah they are not as widespread in my

area but we do

have one in my neck of the woods my wife

and i

are actually vegetarian so we try to eat

organic

food as much as possible

most of our organic produce comes from

our local farmers

market anna that’s awesome it seems like

many

more people are starting to get more

health conscious these days

my husband and i are also trying to be

vegetarian

robert i totally agree we have to take

care of our bodies

would you mind if i asked what made you

want to become a vegetarian

now we’re going to pause there but you

see how naturally

the conversation is getting deeper and

deeper

and deeper finding out that they’re both

well they’re vegetarian and they’re

trying to be more like a vegetarian so

the conversation is getting deeper now

in the midst of this conversation again

this

back and forth there were some new words

and expressions so i want to explain

these words and expressions to you here

we go

farmers markets now these are

uh physical retail marketplaces intended

to sell

foods directly by farmers to consumers

this is something that may be common in

your country already

but a lot of times so for example in

america

we just go to the supermarket we buy the

food we take it to the register and we

take it home

but a farmer’s market is literally a

farmer

bringing his or her food to a market and

selling it directly to the consumers

and they are pretty popular because

people want to eat fresh

produce fresh vegetables and fresh

fruits so

a farmer’s market i guess it’s a part of

american culture too

now another one that was in the

conversation is right

here wide spread wide

spread now this just means found or

distributed

over a large area or number

of people now again this is something

that is

very useful this word is very useful so

wide spread

for example uh something that is very

popular very common

music music or for example let’s say

gospel i like gospel music gospel is

widespread like no matter where you go

you can hear someone who’s heard

a gospel song so we say wide spread

now the other one is right here health

conscious

again after me health conscious

good last time health conscious

excellent now health conscious just

means

concerned about how healthy one’s

diet and lifestyle are this is something

very important for you to understand

okay so health conscious i am a very

health

conscious person why i like to eat well

i like to take care of my body and i

always think about what i’m eating so

i’m a very health

conscious person all right so we saw in

the conversation

part number three the deep conversation

part that anna and robert are going back

and forth

they’re getting really deep now they’re

talking about the type of food they eat

talking about where they go to buy their

food all because they had a smooth

transition from part two into this deep

conversation right

now let’s move into part number four

of a natural english conversation an

advanced

natural english conversation this is

the end of the conversation this is the

part where

you are trying to end the conversation

in a natural way

it’s when you wrap up the conversation

by reviewing what you talked about

and keeping the connection going here we

go

summarize thank them and then give

an invitation very important this

pattern is very important for part

number four

summarize thank them and then you give

an invitation let me explain these a

little bit more

so summarize mention two or three of the

main

things that you discussed then you thank

them for taking the time to have a

conversation with you

and finally mention that you would love

to continue the conversation later

now this is something that i’ve

emphasized before the part about

summarizing

you want to make sure that you grasped

all the main points

and that the person you’re speaking with

knows that you were actively

listening and then you’re thanking them

to let them know like hey

i really enjoyed this conversation thank

you so much for taking the time

to speak with me today and giving an

invitation this is something that’s very

interesting

you’re leaving this open door for the

person to come back and have another

conversation with you which is a great

way

to end a conversation now here are some

points that i want you to remember

this point right here when an advanced

english conversation is ended

properly the listener will feel two

things they will feel like you

understood them

and added value to their life

this will lead to more meaningful

conversations

in the future as well now meaningful

just means

having a serious important or useful

quality or

purpose this is something that you want

to happen

when someone speaks with you you want

them to leave thinking

wow that was a great conversation

again it shows that you are fluent it

shows that you’re able to understand to

process

and also to relay and give other

information pieces of information

so it’s very important for you to do

this at the end of the conversation

so let’s see what happened with anna and

robert here we go

robert says anna i really feel like i am

a sacramento expert now

i want to go visit some of the many

farmers markets there one day

thanks so much for telling me about your

city what did he do

he summarized sacramento farmer’s

markets and then he thanked her thank

you so much for telling me about your

city

robert is good y’all robert is real good

now anna says

it was my pleasure robert i was also

happy to finally meet another vegetarian

you see what she’s doing

she’s showing that she was listening as

well summarizing

robert says true hey we should go on a

double date

my wife would enjoy talking with you as

well

anna that’s a great idea i’ll talk to my

husband and we can all meet at the new

restaurant around the corner

robert perfect we’ll talk soon and then

they exchange

numbers so what happened they both

summarized

sacramento farmers markets vegetarian

they both thanked each other like thank

you so much for sharing more about

yourself

more about your city and then they gave

an invitation like hey we should hang

out

you and your husband you and your wife

we should all come out and hang out

together

at this vegetarian restaurant there’s

the connection

they talked about being vegetarian they

talked about farmers markets they talked

about food

this is how you have a natural english

conversation

and an advanced english conversation by

again

understanding these four parts of a

conversation

number one small talk number two the

transition

number three deep conversation and

number four

ending the conversation properly now i

hope you enjoyed today’s lesson

i hope it helps you finally master

english conversation

and speak english with confidence

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but as always remember to speak

english

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you still there you know what time it is

it’s story time

hey i said it story time

all right guys today i have a very funny

story

for you some of you may know this story

but many of you don’t

so today we were talking about

conversation right how to have a good

conversation in english

and you know there’s one topic that has

come up

many times in conversation for my family

so years ago this is a story about my

niece my niece right now is 11 years old

but years ago when she was about i think

almost two years old she was little

right she could talk a little bit though

she was staying at my parents house

right this is when i was in korea

overseas so i heard the story

from them so my mom and dad

my nieces call my dad pop pop

and they call my mom gami all right so

pop-pop and gammy they’ve been dubbed

remember that we learned that today

their nickname so they’ve been dubbed

pop-pop and gammy so again the kids have

always called them pop-up and gaming

now of course my sister and i we call

them something different mommy and daddy

my mom calls my dad something different

and

you know vice versa for my dad and my

mom so anyways

one day my niece was and my nephew at

that time he was he was here

they were sleeping and it was early in

the morning they had just woken up right

so my niece again she was almost two she

was calling my dad she was like pop pop

pop pop now my the kids usually wake up

very happy all of them right so

they’re like they’re on wake up

extremely happy so she woke up she was

like pop pop

pop pop but my dad wasn’t answering so i

think my mom and my dad were just in the

room just talking so they didn’t hear

her

so she kept going pop pop pop pop and he

wouldn’t answer

then there was silence and the next

thing they heard was

earl now let me explain something

my dad’s name is earl but no one calls

him earl

except his family members like from

where he grew up

and my mom everyone else calls him ej

adults call him

ej right he’s uh the third he’s the

second so he’s a junior so

earl jr so everyone else calls him ej

but my mom and then other family members

call him earl

now remember i said my niece was almost

two years old and she was saying pop pop

pop pop and there was a pause and all of

a sudden there was

earl

my parents burst out laughing because my

niece

and her little almost two-year-old mind

said

he’s not answering me when i say pop-pop

but whenever

my gamey says earl he responds

so let me try to say earl

clearly as you know my dad popped up ran

to go get her out of the room but they

were all

laughing my mom was laughing my my dad

was laughing my niece wasn’t laughing

because she didn’t know why it was funny

she was just trying to get his attention

so that has become the topic of so many

conversations

and partly because in our culture we

don’t call adults by their first name

like i don’t call my mom by her first

name or my dad

or their friends like they’re either

aunt or uncle or miss or mister

and again it’s because in our culture

you don’t call someone by their first

name

if they are your like your senior like

aunt uncle

dad or in that age group so to hear an

almost two-year-old

switch it and say you know what you’re

not answering me when i call so i’m

gonna call you your first name because

you’re not listening

so it’s been a running joke again now

she’s 11 years old but it’s a running

joke now

and it’s a topic of many conversations

so

let me know maybe something funny

happened to you when you were younger or

someone in your family let me know in

the comment section

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