How To Have An Advanced English Conversation Like A Native English Speaker
hey as an english learner your goal is
to speak english fluently right
you want to master english conversation
right
well the only way you can master english
conversation is by knowing the four
parts of an advanced english
conversation and i’m gonna teach you all
four parts
today now if it’s your first time i
wanna introduce myself i’m teacher
tiffany
and my goal is to help one billion
students
around the world just like you finally
speak
english with confidence and that’s
exactly why i created today’s lesson
for you now are you ready to learn well
then
let’s jump right in
all right now there are four parts to a
natural advanced
english conversation let’s look at part
number one
start with small talk now again this is
part one of an advanced
english conversation it is a way for you
to get the conversation
jump started naturally now let me look
at this really quickly
jump started it means to start or
improve something
more quickly by giving it extra help
so basically the way you can understand
or remember this term
is think about when you’re in a
conversation right there’s this awkward
moment
where you don’t know what to do right
you don’t necessarily know how to start
the conversation
you don’t know what to say jumpstarted
means to
get it started very quickly and that’s
the goal
of small talk so what exactly is
small talk here we go polite
conversation
about unimportant or uncontroversial
matters
especially as engaged in on social
occasions so the easiest way for you to
understand small talk is
a period in the conversation at the very
beginning
that is not too deep um but it’s still
interesting but it’s basically focused
on
simple things to talk about that
everyone basically general topics that
everyone can talk about
now there’s a word in the definition
that i want to go over with you really
quickly okay
the word is uncontroversial you see it
uncontroversial now this emphasizes the
point i was making about general topics
uncontroversial refers to not likely to
be
disputed or to cause strife
or quarrel not likely to cause
controversy or
problems so again small talk focuses on
general topics topics that everyone can
basically agree on or
talk about without any issues so
uncontroversial matters or
uncontroversial
topics all right okay now i want us to
look at some more details about small
talk
during this part of the conversation you
want to show
a genuine interest and you also want to
ask
open-ended questions so real quick
when you start a conversation off if you
ask a question and then you’re like
uh-huh
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i don’t look too interested do i right
you want to start off
by being genuine by showing genuine
interest
even during the small talk part now the
next thing is
asking open-ended questions again this
is another detail
that you can understand about small talk
so open-ended questions
basically questions that have no
determined
limit or boundary so for example the
easiest way to understand this
where are you from how was your day
how was work how did you hear about this
event
these are example questions you can use
during the small
talk part of the conversation again
open-ended there can be
many different answers to these
questions right
now i do want you to also remember this
as you’re getting into this part of the
conversation
avoid talking about personal topics
such as beliefs or religion health or
political views
also always practice active
listening now real quick before i go to
active listening i did want to emphasize
something
when you’re starting a conversation off
you don’t want to talk about personal
topics because you’re
trying to keep the conversation
basically light
at the very beginning you kind of want
to have this comfortability that
everyone is experiencing at the
beginning of the conversation
but the moment you get into religion or
political beliefs
suddenly the conversation gets really
deep
but you don’t want to do that at the
beginning of a conversation
now the other thing i said is always
practice active listening
remember earlier i showed you body
language right
using my body language how okay yep
uh-huh
uh-huh i’m not really interested but you
actually
need to be listening actively
during the small talk part of the
conversation so again
active listening means concentrating on
what is being said
rather than just passively hearing the
message
and finally i want you to remember small
talk is a way for you to find
a common point to explore more
remember as you’re jump starting the
conversation
you like i use that right there yeah as
you’re jump starting the conversation
your goal is to connect with the person
you’re speaking with right
you want to see hey wait a minute what
do we have in common
what can we talk about and we’ll both be
interested
this is what the first part of the
conversation is
for so let’s look at an example small
talk conversation here we go
i want to show you an example of small
talk we have two
individuals anna and robert here we go
anna starts hey i’m anna what’s your
name
robert hey anna my name is robert
where are you from notice what’s
happening they’re both
asking open-ended questions right very
light conversation to start if you’re
following right
good then anna answers his question
i’m from california how about yourself
now you’ll see the red i’m gonna come
back and explain the portions that are
bolded
but let’s keep going through this part
of the conversation
robert says really me too i’m
actually from riverside what city did
you live in
anna says what a coincidence i’m from
sacramento
but i have lots of friends from
riverside
robert says that’s awesome man
it really is a small world so you see
the first
part of the conversation again making
small talk
very light-hearted conversation but you
see there’s kind of this connection
being made
right they found this commonality like
oh wait a minute we’re both from
california
this is very interesting now there were
three things that i wanted to dive into
a little bit more to explain to you all
the first thing was anna said how about
yourself
now honestly this is just another way to
ask someone
how about you there are so many ways in
english to ask someone how they’re doing
but this is another example you can say
how about yourself
after you’ve answered a question you
want to throw it back to the person that
you’re talking to you can say
hey how about yourself and that’s
exactly what anna did
now the next thing was what a
coincidence again anna said this and it
means
when two or more similar or related
events
occur at the same time by chance
and without any planning think about it
anna just met robert
but now she’s finding out that robert is
actually from the same state
wow similar wow what a coincidence so
again
pronunciation coincidence
you got it again coincidence
excellent so you see again they’re
making this connection in part one
of an advanced english conversation the
small talk portion
now the last thing is it’s a small
world now this just means sad to show
you’re surprised that people or events
in different places are connected so
again
anna and robert meeting for the first
time they’re in part one of the advanced
english conversation
the small talk part right they’re asking
open-ended questions
and what happened oh my goodness they
found a connection
what a small world anna’s from
california and so
is robert so this is the point of the
first
part of an advanced english conversation
and we see small world is an expression
that you can start using
too so let’s continue let’s go now to
part
number two here we go transition
this is part two of an advanced english
conversation
it is a way for you to smoothly move
to a deeper conversation remember
part one we ended the conversation
between anna and robert where they found
oh my goodness we’re both from
california now there needs to be a
transition from the small talk to
something else
so part number two again the transition
by actively listening during the small
talk part
you will recognize an interesting topic
that you can dive deeper into
you see where we’re going right anna and
robert they realized we’re both from
california
different cities though now you see i
have dive
deeper into what does this actually mean
so dive deeper into means to examine
something in great detail in a short
space of time or to talk about a subject
in a lot
of detail all right so you want to dive
deeper into something to
kind of understand a little bit more
about a certain topic
all right so when you’re in part two
here are some things
to understand the goal is to find
a connection all right next for example
say something related to a person
or group of people next a situation or
experience next a mutual like or dislike
now
since we’re studying together we already
recognized
something that connected anna and robert
we recognized oh my goodness they’re
both from california
but this is part two the transition so
now the transition
has to happen in their conversation now
i do want you to remember some things
here are some good transition statements
for example you mentioned that dot dot
dot what are your thoughts on
dot dot dot next i
also like dot dot dot have you ever
dot dot dot or finally you could say can
you tell me
a bit more about dot dot dot
now again you can literally copy these
sentences and these statements exactly
when you’re in a conversation
and you’re trying to speak like a native
english speaker remember
one of these transition statements to
actually move forward in the
conversation
now let’s see how they did it in their
conversation here we go
again robert and anna
so robert says even though i’m not from
sacramento
i have heard many good things about it i
read an article that said it has been
dubbed
the most hipster city in california
can you tell me a bit more about what
makes sacramento
such a great city you see what he did
there right
he used a transition statement right
they’re both from california
but remember she anna said she’s from
sacramento right
but robert is not he’s from riverside so
robert is like wait a minute
i want to connect i want to go deeper i
need a transition statement
so he says can you tell me a bit
more about and then he says what makes
sacramento such a great city
so now there’s this transition to kind
of a deeper
topic right now how does anna respond
okay
oh before we go to anna there are two
words i want us to look at really
quickly
dubbed now this just means to give an
unofficial name
or nickname to someone or something
for example um a long time ago
maybe it’s been several months actually
several months ago
uh you know you all always comment on
the videos right
one student in the comment section said
teacher
you’re my chocolate teacher so
the student started calling me chocolate
teacher i said okay
i was dubbed or given a nickname by that
student so that’s what the word
dubbed means so again after me dubbed
good job now you’ll also see another
word right here in robert’s answer
he said hipster real quick for
pronunciation
hipster excellent last time
hipster good job now hipster is just
someone
whose fashion choices and music
interests fall outside the main
stream all right so someone who doesn’t
follow the trends they do their own
thing right so robert is saying hey i
heard that sacramento has a lot of
hipsters so now we’re going to see how
anna responds again we’re still in part
two
and it says sure i’m glad you asked
i love sacramento there are so many
things that make it
a great city so we’re seeing now there’s
this
natural transition that is happening
because
robert used one of the transition
statements now
i have a challenge for you as we move
into part number three before we get
there
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dot dot dot what are your thoughts on
dot dot dot
or i also like dot dot dot have you ever
dot
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here we go part number three part number
three of an advanced english
conversation
is the deep conversation part
it is a way for you to connect more
with the other person here we go
this is kind of when you share your
experiences
your interests your feelings or just
thoughts in general with people in order
to
connect with them this is when you
really get into an advanced english
conversation right
you’re getting to the point where now
your ideas
your thoughts your experiences need to
connect with the topic you’re discussing
so let’s see how you can do this
properly and sound like a native english
speaker
here we go ask give
and follow up this is the pattern you’re
going to ask about information for
example use the five w’s who what
when where or why ask for details ask
for reasons
or ask for examples again there’s this
pattern that happens in this part of the
conversation this
back and forth back and forth back and
forth
i like to think of it like a tennis
match you ask a question
then they’re gonna answer you then you
have to
give information so give
information related to the other
person’s response
or answer and again we’re gonna see this
in the conversation between anna and
robert in a few moments
there’s this back and forth and finally
there’s a follow-up so you’re gonna
follow up
with another question again going
back and forth back and forth now
there’s a special situation where you
can discover
information together if something comes
up that you both are interested in
look up something online that is related
to it and relay the new information to
the person you are speaking with
they may also find something as well
this is not mandatory but it is very
common in modern times
for example i’m having a conversation
with someone and we’re talking about
something dealing with sports or
something dealing with art and there’s
something that we both don’t know we’re
like
wait a minute i go on my phone to look
on google and
he or she goes on his or her phone to
look on google we realize something and
then we share it with each other
this does happen very often in
conversations nowadays but it’s not all
the time so
the main thing to remember is ask give
follow-up during the deep conversation
part
so let’s check out anna and robert’s
conversation they’re now
in deep conversation here we go anna
one of my favorite things about
sacramento is its food culture
it is actually known as america’s farm
to fork
capital because the area ships produce
all over the nation and has 40
local farmers markets stocked full
of local fines i love getting food from
the farmer’s market
have you ever been to one robert
continues
yeah they are not as widespread in my
area but we do
have one in my neck of the woods my wife
and i
are actually vegetarian so we try to eat
organic
food as much as possible
most of our organic produce comes from
our local farmers
market anna that’s awesome it seems like
many
more people are starting to get more
health conscious these days
my husband and i are also trying to be
vegetarian
robert i totally agree we have to take
care of our bodies
would you mind if i asked what made you
want to become a vegetarian
now we’re going to pause there but you
see how naturally
the conversation is getting deeper and
deeper
and deeper finding out that they’re both
well they’re vegetarian and they’re
trying to be more like a vegetarian so
the conversation is getting deeper now
in the midst of this conversation again
this
back and forth there were some new words
and expressions so i want to explain
these words and expressions to you here
we go
farmers markets now these are
uh physical retail marketplaces intended
to sell
foods directly by farmers to consumers
this is something that may be common in
your country already
but a lot of times so for example in
america
we just go to the supermarket we buy the
food we take it to the register and we
take it home
but a farmer’s market is literally a
farmer
bringing his or her food to a market and
selling it directly to the consumers
and they are pretty popular because
people want to eat fresh
produce fresh vegetables and fresh
fruits so
a farmer’s market i guess it’s a part of
american culture too
now another one that was in the
conversation is right
here wide spread wide
spread now this just means found or
distributed
over a large area or number
of people now again this is something
that is
very useful this word is very useful so
wide spread
for example uh something that is very
popular very common
music music or for example let’s say
gospel i like gospel music gospel is
widespread like no matter where you go
you can hear someone who’s heard
a gospel song so we say wide spread
now the other one is right here health
conscious
again after me health conscious
good last time health conscious
excellent now health conscious just
means
concerned about how healthy one’s
diet and lifestyle are this is something
very important for you to understand
okay so health conscious i am a very
health
conscious person why i like to eat well
i like to take care of my body and i
always think about what i’m eating so
i’m a very health
conscious person all right so we saw in
the conversation
part number three the deep conversation
part that anna and robert are going back
and forth
they’re getting really deep now they’re
talking about the type of food they eat
talking about where they go to buy their
food all because they had a smooth
transition from part two into this deep
conversation right
now let’s move into part number four
of a natural english conversation an
advanced
natural english conversation this is
the end of the conversation this is the
part where
you are trying to end the conversation
in a natural way
it’s when you wrap up the conversation
by reviewing what you talked about
and keeping the connection going here we
go
summarize thank them and then give
an invitation very important this
pattern is very important for part
number four
summarize thank them and then you give
an invitation let me explain these a
little bit more
so summarize mention two or three of the
main
things that you discussed then you thank
them for taking the time to have a
conversation with you
and finally mention that you would love
to continue the conversation later
now this is something that i’ve
emphasized before the part about
summarizing
you want to make sure that you grasped
all the main points
and that the person you’re speaking with
knows that you were actively
listening and then you’re thanking them
to let them know like hey
i really enjoyed this conversation thank
you so much for taking the time
to speak with me today and giving an
invitation this is something that’s very
interesting
you’re leaving this open door for the
person to come back and have another
conversation with you which is a great
way
to end a conversation now here are some
points that i want you to remember
this point right here when an advanced
english conversation is ended
properly the listener will feel two
things they will feel like you
understood them
and added value to their life
this will lead to more meaningful
conversations
in the future as well now meaningful
just means
having a serious important or useful
quality or
purpose this is something that you want
to happen
when someone speaks with you you want
them to leave thinking
wow that was a great conversation
again it shows that you are fluent it
shows that you’re able to understand to
process
and also to relay and give other
information pieces of information
so it’s very important for you to do
this at the end of the conversation
so let’s see what happened with anna and
robert here we go
robert says anna i really feel like i am
a sacramento expert now
i want to go visit some of the many
farmers markets there one day
thanks so much for telling me about your
city what did he do
he summarized sacramento farmer’s
markets and then he thanked her thank
you so much for telling me about your
city
robert is good y’all robert is real good
now anna says
it was my pleasure robert i was also
happy to finally meet another vegetarian
you see what she’s doing
she’s showing that she was listening as
well summarizing
robert says true hey we should go on a
double date
my wife would enjoy talking with you as
well
anna that’s a great idea i’ll talk to my
husband and we can all meet at the new
restaurant around the corner
robert perfect we’ll talk soon and then
they exchange
numbers so what happened they both
summarized
sacramento farmers markets vegetarian
they both thanked each other like thank
you so much for sharing more about
yourself
more about your city and then they gave
an invitation like hey we should hang
out
you and your husband you and your wife
we should all come out and hang out
together
at this vegetarian restaurant there’s
the connection
they talked about being vegetarian they
talked about farmers markets they talked
about food
this is how you have a natural english
conversation
and an advanced english conversation by
again
understanding these four parts of a
conversation
number one small talk number two the
transition
number three deep conversation and
number four
ending the conversation properly now i
hope you enjoyed today’s lesson
i hope it helps you finally master
english conversation
and speak english with confidence
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but as always remember to speak
english
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you still there you know what time it is
it’s story time
hey i said it story time
all right guys today i have a very funny
story
for you some of you may know this story
but many of you don’t
so today we were talking about
conversation right how to have a good
conversation in english
and you know there’s one topic that has
come up
many times in conversation for my family
so years ago this is a story about my
niece my niece right now is 11 years old
but years ago when she was about i think
almost two years old she was little
right she could talk a little bit though
she was staying at my parents house
right this is when i was in korea
overseas so i heard the story
from them so my mom and dad
my nieces call my dad pop pop
and they call my mom gami all right so
pop-pop and gammy they’ve been dubbed
remember that we learned that today
their nickname so they’ve been dubbed
pop-pop and gammy so again the kids have
always called them pop-up and gaming
now of course my sister and i we call
them something different mommy and daddy
my mom calls my dad something different
and
you know vice versa for my dad and my
mom so anyways
one day my niece was and my nephew at
that time he was he was here
they were sleeping and it was early in
the morning they had just woken up right
so my niece again she was almost two she
was calling my dad she was like pop pop
pop pop now my the kids usually wake up
very happy all of them right so
they’re like they’re on wake up
extremely happy so she woke up she was
like pop pop
pop pop but my dad wasn’t answering so i
think my mom and my dad were just in the
room just talking so they didn’t hear
her
so she kept going pop pop pop pop and he
wouldn’t answer
then there was silence and the next
thing they heard was
earl now let me explain something
my dad’s name is earl but no one calls
him earl
except his family members like from
where he grew up
and my mom everyone else calls him ej
adults call him
ej right he’s uh the third he’s the
second so he’s a junior so
earl jr so everyone else calls him ej
but my mom and then other family members
call him earl
now remember i said my niece was almost
two years old and she was saying pop pop
pop pop and there was a pause and all of
a sudden there was
earl
my parents burst out laughing because my
niece
and her little almost two-year-old mind
said
he’s not answering me when i say pop-pop
but whenever
my gamey says earl he responds
so let me try to say earl
clearly as you know my dad popped up ran
to go get her out of the room but they
were all
laughing my mom was laughing my my dad
was laughing my niece wasn’t laughing
because she didn’t know why it was funny
she was just trying to get his attention
so that has become the topic of so many
conversations
and partly because in our culture we
don’t call adults by their first name
like i don’t call my mom by her first
name or my dad
or their friends like they’re either
aunt or uncle or miss or mister
and again it’s because in our culture
you don’t call someone by their first
name
if they are your like your senior like
aunt uncle
dad or in that age group so to hear an
almost two-year-old
switch it and say you know what you’re
not answering me when i call so i’m
gonna call you your first name because
you’re not listening
so it’s been a running joke again now
she’s 11 years old but it’s a running
joke now
and it’s a topic of many conversations
so
let me know maybe something funny
happened to you when you were younger or
someone in your family let me know in
the comment section
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