5 Things You Must Stop Saying English With Tiffani

hey in today’s lesson I’m gonna teach

you the five things you must stop saying

but at the end of the lesson I’m gonna

tell you the story about when I got

kidnapped don’t miss it I’m teacher

Tiffany let’s jump right in alright

number one you need to stop saying I

can’t speak English well I have so many

students that say this on a regular

basis and I’ve had so many students in

the past that said I can’t speak English

well but you see there’s something about

this statement that is dangerous you see

what you’re actually saying is I don’t

have confidence in my ability to speak

English so I don’t want you to expect me

to do well now here are the reasons why

it’s so dangerous the person listening

to you will expect you to make mistakes

that’s right the moment you say I can’t

speak English well the person listening

to you will say ah okay well you are

gonna make mistakes and that’s not what

you want them to think now the other

reason why this is dangerous is because

you will immediately feel like a

beginner remember the words you use have

an effect on you immediately and the

final reason why this statement is so

dangerous is your confidence level will

continue to decrease so again this

statement of I can’t speak English well

needs to leave your brain you need to

stop saying this statement and instead

here is the solution don’t say this at

all instead when someone asks you a

question simply start speaking that’s

right just start speaking remember that

it’s okay to make a mistake the fact

that you try to speak in a language that

is not your first language will impress

them this is the main idea the

fact that you are learning a language

that is not your mother tongue is

amazing so don’t start off your your

ideas or your conversation by saying I’m

not good I can’t speak English well no

just go for it and start speaking don’t

be afraid of mistakes all right now

number two the second thing you must

stop saying is I know my pronunciation

is bad you’ve probably said this before

right I know my pronunciation is bad and

then you keep talking but let me tell

you what that means you’re basically

saying I sound horrible when I speak and

people probably can’t understand me now

this is something that has a really

detrimental or a bad effect on you now

real quick you notice that my voice

sounds a little bit different today you

can tell right I’m okay

but it’s early in the morning so my

voice really hasn’t turned on just yet

but I’m totally okay all right

so talking about your pronunciation

don’t say I know my pronunciation is bad

three reasons here we go it will be

harder for you to correct your

pronunciation mistakes next your brain

will adapt to your idea and it will be

hard for you to improve if you keep

saying oh I know my pronunciation is bad

your brain will say oh okay so let’s not

make an effort to even improve your

pronunciation all right the final reason

why this is dangerous is the person

listening to you will automatically what

assume that they won’t understand you

and this is not what you want again by

putting this statement out there in the

beginning by saying I know my

pronunciation is bad everyone listening

to you will say ah yeah his or her

pronunciation is probably going to be

bad and you don’t want them to think

that so here’s the solution instead of

saying this you need to say I want to

sound like a native

English speaker that’s right instead of

saying my pronunciation is bad don’t

acknowledge your weakness by repeating

it over and over again instead

acknowledge your goal keep saying your

goal I want to sound like a native

English speaker I will eventually sound

like a native English speaker there are

power in your words not just well there

is power in your words all right there’s

power in saying those words all right

now let’s go on to number three the

third thing you must stop saying all

right here we go

the third thing is I don’t know enough

vocabulary now I hear this all the time

even from my advanced english-speaking

students our teacher I just don’t know

enough English vocabulary but let me

tell you what you’re actually saying

when you say this I can’t express myself

using the English vocabulary that I know

you’re basically inhibiting yourself or

stopping yourself from being able to use

what you do now now here are the three

reasons why this is so dangerous

you won’t use the English vocabulary you

actually do know next the person

listening will automatically think that

you are a beginner and finally you will

remain frustrated because there are too

many words to learn in English listen

I’m going to tell you the truth as an

American as a native English speaker

even I learn new English words all the

time and I speak English fluently it’s

my native language but you know what

even yesterday I was listening to a

podcast episode with the pastor that I

really like and the pastor is super

intelligent and whenever he speaks he

uses very very difficult vocabulary

words and sometimes I have to look them

up I am an American but I don’t get

frustrated because there’s always

something new to learn so the same is

true for you realize that you’re not

gonna learn every single word but you

know a lot already

and use the words that you do know but

there is a solution that I want you to

file okay here’s a solution instead you

should learn three new English words a

day and then use those words to express

yourself throughout the day notice I

said learn the words and immediately use

them throughout the day that’s very

important this will build your English

vocabulary and give you confidence in

your ability to use what you learn it’s

so important to use what you learn

alright now let’s go on to number four

the fourth thing you must never say you

must stop saying when you’re trying to

speak English number four this person is

better than me now I put a space there

because you probably have a certain

person in mind maybe it’s Brandon maybe

it’s Rafael maybe it’s Susan there’s

someone that you see on a regular basis

or that you’ve seen maybe in an English

class and you say ah man fred is better

than me

Wow shell is better than me or you say

these individuals names now this is what

you’re actually saying I will never be

as good as the person’s name so I should

stop trying that’s the danger you’re

really saying I’m not as good as them so

why should I try I should just give up

now there are three reasons why this is

so dangerous and why you should stop

saying this you will focus on others

instead of looking at your own

improvements next you will feel

discouraged and frustrated and remember

a few weeks back we talked about this

frustration that you experienced as an

English Learner

and I totally understand because I also

felt frustrated many times when I was

studying Korean now the other reason is

you will get frustrated when you make

mistakes you see you have to be gentle

with yourself as a learner you’re

learning English as a student you are

going to make mistakes but if you are

calm

certainly focused on what Sally or Sam

or someone else is doing and their

abilities when you make mistakes you’ll

just get more frustrated instead of

understanding that mistakes are part of

the process so here’s the solution the

solution is instead you should write

down three things you admire about the

person’s speaking ability that’s right

there are gonna be individuals who you

admire you admire their ability to speak

in English eloquently well write three

things you admire about them now the

next thing is figure out a study plan

that will help you improve your skills

in the same areas so for example if you

admire Johnny’s ability to express

himself using advanced English

vocabulary words okay find a book on

advanced English vocabulary or if you

admire Sally’s ability to give three

reasons whenever she speaks her ability

to organize her thoughts well focus on

how to organize your thoughts finding a

plan to do that all right now finally

you need to follow your new study plan

and practice all right now number five

is very important you need to stop

saying I will never speak English

fluently now last week you know we had

our English fluency marathon we loved it

it was great we spent so much time

together and I taught you how to speak

English fluently I gave you the

five-step plan here’s the thing though

in the midst of our English fluency

marathon many people said I will never

be fluent or they sent me emails saying

it’s impossible to be fluent teacher

we’re not native English speakers and as

an English teacher I really felt sad

because I have seen students begin to

speak English fluently by following a

certain plan and their confidence

improved so this is why I want to tell

you stop saying that because what you’re

actually saying is this right here I am

not smart enough to speak English and

that right there is not true you are

very intelligent you’re learning another

language you are already amazing now

there are three reasons why I don’t want

you to say this anymore all right first

you will never recognize your own

improvements if you say this next you

won’t apply techniques that will help

you become fluent in English for example

during the English fluency marathon I

gave you all the five simple steps that

will help you to be fluent in English

but I still got messages from other

students saying I don’t know teacher is

it really possible they enjoyed the

classes but they still doubted their

ability to speak English fluently they

felt like they weren’t smart enough and

I to let them know hey I guarantee if

you follow this plan you will speak

English fluently I believed in their

abilities more than they did so that’s

why it’s so important for you to stop

saying this and the other reason is you

will continue to feel discouraged and

frustrated now don’t worry I have a

solution here’s the solution instead say

I am not fluent yet but I will be in the

future come on now you’re not fluent yet

but you will be in the future I want you

to start saying that remind yourself hey

I’m not fluent right now but that butt

is the key I will be fluent in the

future and then your brain will go into

overdrive you’ll start to put all of

your energies and energy and effort into

really learning English and improving

your English skills remember what you

say will affect you in ways that you

never realized so I want you to remember

to stop saying these five things you can

accomplish all of your goals in English

now I do want to remind you all that

there is a part two as always I

interviewed my friend Johnny he’s

another ESL teacher and he is living in

South Korea I really enjoyed talking to

him

and we discuss even more things that you

as a student should stop saying things

that are actually hurting you and

inhibiting you from speaking English

fluently so again if you’re already a

member of my Academy all you have to do

is click the link in the description and

you can watch it right now I also

include the audio file that you can

download if you’re not one of my

students if you’re not in my Academy all

you have to do is go to this link right

here let’s jump right in comm sign up

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you can watch part two of my

conversation with Johnny and learn so

many other things you need to stop

saying so that you can improve your

English well I hope you enjoyed today’s

lesson these five things that you need

to stop saying right now so that you can

improve your English now I’m gonna talk

to you next week but as always remember

to speak English you know what time it

is and it’s been a while it’s story time

hey I said a story time my voice came

back a little bit alright so I promised

you guys at the beginning of the lesson

that I tell you about the time I got

kidnapped so when I was in college when

I was in university I actually worked

very hard I told you all in a previous

story time that my parents greatest

parents ever they sacrificed a lot for

my sister and I so when I enrolled in

university I got a scholarship but their

scholarship was partial so there was an

amount of money that I had to pay and I

told my parents don’t worry you won’t

have to pay anything you’ve done your

job I’ll work a few jobs and I’ll pay

the rest of my tuition of course they

were excited so thus began my journey of

working and studying when I was in

university now my first job when I was

on campus in my freshman year

I was about 17 years old no no it was my

sophomore year my second year in

university I was 18 years old 18 between

18 and 19 years old and we I went to an

Adventist College I went to a private

university right private Christian

University and they had a program where

during our Spring Break was a spring

break yep during the spring break we

could go canvassing now canvassing that

just meant that we would go door-to-door

selling books so for example this is my

notebook but imagine this is a book

talking about the love of Jesus the love

of Christ and explaining how to

understand the Bible we had tons of

books and we would go door-to-door and

sell the books right so it was a great

program and what would happen is we’d

sell the books and we’d get a percentage

of the profit whatever the book sale was

we get a percentage and I used that

money to help pay for my tuition so

that’s the back story right that’s the

background of the story now during this

spring break we call it a campaign a

large group of us went together alright

so there were about whew let’s say there

are about 15 of us there were I think

seven females and seven males and then

we had our leaders right so maybe there

was 16 of us because 7 student male

students 7 female students and then our

leaders were it was a female and a male

as well so there were 16 of us all

together um roughly so anyways now again

I was about 18 or 19 years old we were

all pretty young you know you’re in

college you’re young you love life right

but we were all interested in making

money and working hard for God so now

the Peete the individuals that were over

us they were so let’s say we were 18 or

19 they were only about 21 or 22

they weren’t that much older than us but

they were our leaders so we took was it

there were two vans so you know two two

vans and we drove from my University it

may have been maybe about six or seven

hours maybe to our location

and we stayed at a lady’s house and for

a seven day period every day from

morning

to the evening we’d go out and we’d

knock on doors it was hard work but

again we developed a really good work

ethic because if you want to make money

you need to put the work the effort into

it and work hard so anyway so we’re

knocking on doors every day and what

normally would happen is uh each day the

guy and the female well actually I’ll

tell you their names the guy’s name was

Estes Estes and you ever see this I

never forget your brother Estes was one

of the leaders and Tiffany yes her name

was Tiffany right we the same name

her name was Tiffany she was the other

leader and they were about again two or

three years older than all of us so each

day we would go out and we go knocking

door-to-door

and they Estes would take one van and

Tiffany would take one van so on this

particular day they decided to let all

of the females go with Tiffany and all

the males went with Estes no problem so

we’re out we spent all day you know

working hard and we had kind of

walkie-talkies so throughout the day

Tiffany and Estes would talk to each

other and also a student’s us we had our

walkie-talkies to let them know like hey

I sold a few books I need kind of more

books so they’d come and drop off more

books so on this particular day we had

sold our books and we were back in the

van now Tiffany had all of us Tiffany

the leader had gathered all the females

and we were sitting in our van and Estes

had all the males all the male students

and they were in his van and we just

happened to be just Tiffany in our group

just happened to be sitting in a parking

lot because we were waiting for the boys

esses said hey we’re on our way don’t

worry we’re coming so we were sitting in

our van it was a dark parking lot but

this was years ago so we didn’t feel

unsafe or anything there was a safe area

so the girls were just sitting in there

you know as ladies do just talking

yappin just chatting and the doors were

unlocked but we weren’t thinking

anything about the doors because we were

fine so we’re sitting in the in the van

and all of a sudden a van pulled up

speeding like boom right beside us so it

caught us off guard and it pulled up

very quickly and a guy jumped out of the

car

the guy jumped out of the car ran to the

driver’s seat where Tiffany was sitting

open her door pulled her out and then he

got in and shut the door put it in drive

and he drove off and it happened so fast

now again there’s seven other female

students sitting in the van as this is

happening he’s in the path he’s in the

driver’s seat puts it in Drive and he

pulls off so we’re sitting there what is

going on then the driver as he’s pulling

off starts laughing so when I oh my

goodness and turns around and says hello

ladies it was Estes he had literally the

guys had come up with this plan to

kidnap the girls so Estes jumped in our

band kidnapped us and left Tiffany with

the other male students man he was

rolling as he was driving just laughing

so I got kidnapped by her while I was

trying to do work for God so we have

always laughed about that situation I

mean that seven-day period was so much

fun that was just one thing that

happened when he kidnapped us but we had

water fights we played basketball

together and we worked hard but that

situation taught me something about

being a leader and also about working

hard but also playing hard you know

sometimes in life you know we have to

work hard we have to put in a lot of

effort but it’s also good to enjoy life

to laugh sometimes and to enjoy what

you’re doing so I always try to with my

students you know you guys aren’t

physically in class with me but you’ll

notice I always try to make something

enjoyable have a good time because you

can enjoy yourself and work hard so I

always remember that situation and I

always remember you know what in the

future whenever I work with young people

or other individuals who are learning

from me I want to make sure that I

intertwine or include some fun things

some fun events kind of like this story

time I started story time months ago but

I only started it because you guys

started enjoying it so much so I said

you know what I can teach them but then

we can also have a good

time together so I hope you guys enjoyed

that story time of me getting kidnapped

but not really alright guys I will talk

to you next week have an awesome week

and I’ll see you next time