DONT SAY Im Fine Thank You And You

fun fact when I was in university I used

to talk in my sleep I’ll tell you more

about that at the end I’m teacher

Tiffany let’s jump right in all right

has anyone ever asked you this question

how are you

I’m quite sure they have and maybe your

answer was I’m fine thank you

and you stop saying this answer now I

know you’re probably shocked because a

lot of you learned this in books in your

English classes you learn to say I’m

fine thank you and you but in actuality

native English speakers don’t speak like

this so today I’m gonna teach you two

different ways to properly respond to

how are you now let’s jump right into my

screen here we go so there are two

different ways now the first way is give

a response that also includes a basic

question used by native English speakers

and the second way is to give a response

that also includes a connection question

used by native English speakers

so what we’re gonna do for today’s

lesson is we’re gonna look at these two

categories and I’m literally going to

give you natural ways of responding

based on these two categories so let’s

go to the first category remember giving

your response plus a basic question so

here we go alright now the first example

we have is this one and I have happy

answer + basic question now very quickly

when I say happy answer it means my

response is based on my feeling ok so

here we go I can say I’m doing great

things how about you so again first we

have how about you this is a way you can

respond with the basic question and

instead of saying and you you can say

how about you all right now next let’s

see let’s say for example you just want

to give a normal response I’m pretty

good thanks what’s new with you

alright so in English when we say what’s

new with you we are basically asking the

person what’s going on in your life is

there anything new or anything exciting

happening in your life and in English we

say what’s new with you all right so you

can use that one now let’s go to the

next example here we go the next one is

when you’re busy you can say I’ve been a

bit busy but okay now really quickly

guys I said I’ve been a bit busy so we

use a bit in front of busy to kind of

emphasize that yeah we’ve been a little

bit more busy than usual

you see I even added a bit right there

so you can start using that so again my

answer because I’m busy is I’ve been a

bit busy but okay now we have to figure

out how to ask them another question

right so again this is what I said how

have things been with you again how have

things been with you

so for pronunciation after me how have

things been with you great job this is

another natural way of asking a

follow-up question okay so next example

here we go you have a learning a lot in

this lesson now let’s say you’re

stressed so you can say things have been

a bit rough lately but they’re getting

better now let’s pause again when we say

a bit rough in English that’s another

way of expressing that we’re going

through a difficult time something that

is not easy to go through but English we

say a bit rough okay a bit rough now my

follow-up question

the person I’m talking to is here we go

how have you been one more time how have

you been now guys remember as you’re

watching this lesson you don’t have to

worry because all of the information is

in the free PDF and the link is in the

description you can always download the

free pdf that goes along with this

lesson okay all right let’s go back now

the question we’re gonna ask is again

how have you been

alright how have you been so next we

have satisfied and surplus a basic

question I can say never been better so

you can say that as well now never been

better is used when everything is going

great even the look of my face you can

see that Wow teacher Tiffany looks happy

no stress everything’s good hey never

been better

all right okay so now let’s see the

question we would ask them we can say

what about you again what about you

three simple words what about you hey me

man I have never been better

what about you so even when I use it

toward you you can feel oh wow teacher

Tiffany really wants to know how I’ve

been right okay now let’s jump to the

second category okay remember the second

category involves asking a connection

question so let me explain what that is

okay alright so moving on to the next

category with the connection question

again the happy answer we said I’m doing

great things now we have a connection

question I heard that you now the

underlined portion is the portion you

were gonna change I said got a new job

how’s that going alright guys so again

as we’re moving forward in this section

when you see the underlined portion

that’s the portion that you want to

change so for me I’m connecting with the

person I’m talking to I said hey I heard

that you got a new job how’s that going

I’m connecting my question to something

that I already know about this person

that’s another important aspect of

improving your English because it shows

that you’re thinking before you speak

make sense all right now let’s go to the

next example remember these patterns are

all in the PDF so don’t worry okay all

right so now let’s say we’re wanting to

give a normal answer again I’m pretty

good thanks

now here’s the connection question I saw

your Facebook post about your business

what’s the update all right so again

guys I saw something connected to the

person that I’m speaking to and I chose

to say hey I saw your Facebook post

about your business what’s the update I

want to know more information about

something that I saw that is going on in

the person’s life that’s what you want

to do so you can say I saw dot dot dot

what’s the update so you can use the

same pattern again you’re gonna sound

more natural and more like a native

English speaker when you use these

responses to how are you instead of just

saying I’m fine thank you and you you

don’t want to sound like a robot you

want to sound more natural okay so let’s

keep going here we go all right now our

next one is the busy answer again we

said I’ve been a bit busy but okay now

we say I remember that you said you were

also working on some things any update

all right so now again the underlined

portion remember I said also working on

some things so the portion the pattern

you want to memorize is I remember that

you said you were and then put something

there so think about a conversation you

had with this person ah I remember that

you said you were trying to get a new

job any update so again the person

listening will really want to respond to

you and a

appreciate the fact that you’re

connecting with them again showing your

English fluency is improving alright so

next example here we go now for the next

one we have the stressed answer so

things have been a bit rough lately but

they’re getting better now

I know your mom had some good news

recently how is she so I have the now in

parentheses because you don’t have to

say that but you can so with this one

it’s very important that you think of

some information that has happened to

this person or something that you know

is going on in their life right so you

say I know you were trying to get a

plane ticket to Paris how is that going

you see I thought about what this person

told me or what they were doing and I

connected it to my question for them

okay so again you can use that pattern

and it will change the pattern will stay

the same but the information will change

depending on who you’re speaking to

again very important when it comes to

showing your fluency okay all right now

remember one more here we go so the next

one again is the satisfied answer hey

I’ve never been better you are also

looking quite happy any special reason

alright so I like this one because

you’re not just focusing on yourself you

say hey I’ve never been better but hey

you know what you are also looking very

good any special reason or you are also

looking amazing any special reason so

you see remember English conversation is

all about this going back and forth back

and forth so this person gave me a

compliment

then while they asked me how are you and

I said yeah I’m good I am amazing I’ve

never been better so I’m happy but I

also want to know and one ask the person

I’m talking to hey why are you happy

what makes you so happy using this

pattern again you are also looking dot

dot dot

any special reason so again let’s look

at real quick again one more time you

are also looking quite happy any special

reason

alright so guys again we looked at two

different categories one where we gave a

response and a basic question and the

second one gave in response and we added

a connection question guys this is

really how you begin to answer the

question how are you more naturally and

more like a native English speaker I

really hope you guys enjoyed this lesson

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you still there I didn’t forget so

here’s the story one day my best friend

came to my room when I was in university

and she said hey TIFF how are you tips

my nickname I said I’m good how are you

she said do you remember anything from

last night I said no I slept really well

last night how about you she said oh I

slept good but before I went to bed I

had a conversation with you I said you

didn’t die I clearly remember going to

sleep before you last night our rooms

were across from each other at our dorm

and she said no no I called you last

night at 11:30 p.m.

she said not only did I call you but a

group of our friends called you I said

huh

she said yeah we called you at 11:30 and

had a full conversation and I told them

that you talk in your sleep I was blown

away she told me that they called me on

the phone they asked me questions I gave

them answers and then I said all right

guys have a good night talk to you later

and I didn’t remember anything so we had

a good laugh and she told me TIFF you

have to be careful because you don’t

know what you say when you’re asleep so

that’s something funny about me guys the

fact that you probably didn’t know that

I talked in my sleep when I was in

university and I still may talk in my

sleep but I’ll never know I’ll see you

guys next week