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about three reasons having a native

speaker partner can improve your

language fluency first knowing a native

speaker helps you better understand the

culture knowing a native speaker gets

you connected with the culture in ways

that no lessons or textbooks ever could

native speakers are better informed

about the latest slang expressions and

know interesting places to eat and hang

out having a friend or partner who is a

native speaker can dramatically improve

your understanding of the language in

addition to language you can learn about

cultural practices gestures and

relationships second having a native

speaker partner increases your exposure

to the language practice makes perfect

is a well-known expression that is

certainly true for language learning

when you have a friend romantic partner

or study buddy you speak to them through

text messages phone calls and basic

interaction these are all opportunities

for you to practice the language making

an effort to practice will help your

vocabulary quickly expand beyond simple

greetings flirtatious words and basic

comments to deeper more meaningful

conversations third a supportive partner

is the best study aid you can find we

all make mistakes especially when trying

to learn a new language but if you have

a supportive partner they can gently

point out your mistakes and help you

find better ways to express yourself and

if your native speaker study partner is

also your romantic partner your

motivation will likely be even higher

than someone who does not have a

romantic relationship with a native

speaker now let’s look at three ways our

language learning program helps you

learn even faster if you have a native

speaker partner first all resources and

materials are available in English and

in your target language studying with a

partner is special because it’s an

opportunity for both of you to learn a

new language that’s why every single

lesson transcript vocabulary list and

resource on our website is available in

English and in your target language you

can learn from each other second lessons

are designed to help you understand and

engage with culture on our website our

focus is to help our students learn

practical vocabulary and phrases that

are actually used in everyday

conversation

this means that from your very first

lesson you can start applying what you

learn immediately so if you want to go

out to a restaurant play games or attend

a social function with your partner

you’ll have the vocabulary and phrases

necessary to have a great time

third access to special resources

dedicated to romantic phrases if your

study partner is your romantic partner

we have resources to help you

communicate your feelings correctly our

language learning program has special

sections and tools to teach you love

words phrases and cultural insights of

course

please remember that simply being in a

relationship is no substitute for

studying communication is key to every

relationship whether romantic or not if

you fail to continue expanding your

vocabulary and you stop learning the

language on your own your relationships

may suffer or fizzle out without

question spending time with native

speakers can help you dramatically

improve your language proficiency but

this is no replacement for focus

studying it’s essential to help

facilitate better communication and

master the language learning to carry a

conversation is vital to mastery of any

language even beginners can quickly

learn conversational language well

enough to carry on real conversations

with native speakers of course beginners

won’t be able to carry a conversation

the same way they could in their native

language but just knowing a few tips

like which questions to ask to keep a

conversation going are all you need to

speak and interact with real native

speakers before we get to specific

suggestions let’s first take a closer

look at how having real conversations in

your target language is so vital to your

mastery of the language communicating

with other people is the very point of

language and conversation comes easily

in our native tongue for beginners or

anyone learning a new language

conversations aren’t easy at all and

even simple greetings can be

intimidating and awkward nothing kills a

conversation faster than long periods of

awkward silence so you need practice and

specific strategies to avoid them

when you know what to say to keep a

conversation going

communication becomes much easier and

you make a better impression on your

listener nothing will help you learn to

speak a language faster and truly master

the language than having real

conversations with native speakers

conversations quickly expose you to

slang cultural expressions and

vocabulary that force you to absorb and

assimilate information faster than any

educational setting and that’s a great

thing but how can you possibly have real

conversations with real people if you’re

just starting out here are three proven

methods that even beginners can quickly

use to learn conversational language to

make a great impression and avoid

awkward silences first ask questions to

keep a conversation going for beginners

and even more advanced speakers the key

is to ask questions to keep a

conversation going of course they can’t

be just random questions or else you may

confuse the listener but by memorizing a

few key questions and the appropriate

time to use them you can easily carry a

conversation with minimal vocabulary or

experience and remember the more

conversations you have the quicker you

will learn and master the language

second learn core vocabulary terms as

quickly as possible you don’t need to

memorize thousands of words to learn

conversational language in fact with

just a couple hundred words you could

have a very basic conversation and by

learning maybe 1,000 to 2,000 words you

could carry a conversation with a native

speaker about current events order in

restaurants and even get directions to

help you get started with this check out

our 2,000 common words also known as our

core list these 2,000 words are all you

need to learn to speak fluently and

carry a conversation with a native

speaker third study video or audio

lessons that you can play and replay

again and again if you want to know how

to carry on a conversation then you need

exposure to native speakers and the more

the better

studying video or audio lessons is ideal

because they provide contextualized

learning in your native language and you

can play them again and again until you

achieve mastery

our instructors have created more than

2,500 video and audio lessons that you

can play over and over and the best part

is they don’t just teach you vocabulary

and grammar they are designed to help

you learn to speak and teach you

practical everyday topics like shopping

ordering and more although it may seem

intimidating for a beginner the truth is

that it’s very easy to learn

conversational language just learn a few

core vocabulary terms in which questions

to ask to keep a conversation going our

language learning program has the

world’s largest online collection of

video and audio lessons by real

instructors plus tons of advanced tools

to help you learn to speak and carry on

a conversation quickly just a little

practice and exposure to real

conversations or lessons is all it

really takes being able to speak freely

with native speakers is an amazing

ability in itself but being able to

speak freely to a whole new group of

people opens you up to possible new

relationships most people don’t realize

that spending the time to build

relationships in a foreign language can

actually help you improve your language

skills dramatically in this video we

look at how making relationships in a

foreign language can help you learn the

language faster the benefits of having

friends and partners who speak a foreign

language first its motivational one of

the greatest struggles for anyone

learning a second language is motivation

nine times out of ten learners start out

their language learning journey with

loads of enthusiasm only to see it

gradually wane over time try as they may

it’s difficult to maintain the spark

they once shared with their new language

so why not borrow energy from a

different part of your life when you

make relationships with people in your

target language all the excitement of a

new relationship carries directly over

into your learning suddenly you have a

very rewarding reason to improve your

skills and keep practicing as your

partner or your friends get involved you

will also have the advantage of a

constant source of support and

encouragement second it makes language

learning practical studying vocabulary

and grammar is a vital part of language

learning whether you use a podcast

textbook app or find yourself in a

classroom

however as great as studying is a

language really only starts to come

alive once you start using it in

everyday life there’s a huge difference

between a scripted conversation in a

lesson plan and a real-life conversation

with a native speaker building

relationships with native speakers will

give you the chance to talk in your

target language often furthermore it

will be in a way that feels natural

you’ll learn the words in the context

which is hugely important third it’s fun

one of the greatest benefits is that it

allows you to practice without having it

feel like practice oftentimes you’ll

find yourself so wrapped up in the

conversation that you forget you’re

using a foreign language this takes a

lot of the pressure off and helps you

focus on communication over trying to

speak absolutely perfectly you also get

to learn about a whole new culture from

your partner or friends so you’re not

only learning language skills but also

about the cultures that surround your

target language the risks of having

friends and partners who speak a foreign

language first it’s easy to miss

communicate when it comes to

relationships humans can easily

misunderstand each other so it can be

hard when building relationships in your

target language when you or your

partner’s lack of ability in each

other’s respective native tongue can

lead to miscommunications that would

otherwise be avoidable depending on the

language you’re speaking

a simple mistranslation or mispronounced

word can drastically change the meaning

of a sentence as long as you can afford

each other some extra patience and the

benefit of the doubt

then you should be able to overcome this

pitfall second your language skills

could suffer if your relationships don’t

work out if all your language practice

is wrapped up in one person and your

relationship with that person doesn’t

work out then your language learning

could take a big hit so it’s best not to

put all your hopes for language growth

on one area relationship or otherwise

you don’t want to risk losing motivation

so try to find it in many different

areas an idea for building relationships

in a foreign language make games out of

getting to know one another

sometimes opening up in any new

friendship or partnership can be hard

add in the added struggle of a new

language and it can feel impossible to

share your true feelings with others so

instead of trying to take first

interactions so seriously and talking

about the usual things like the weather

or work try to ask new interesting

questions try to figure out what the

other person’s hobbies are without

asking directly or what kind of job they

have this will give you a chance to

stretch your language skills in a new

way and you’ll probably get some funny

answers out of it too being comfortable

being silly or making language mistakes

is a great way to bond with someone even

if you’ve just met relationships in a

foreign language have a lot more

benefits to offer than drawbacks don’t

be scared to open up to people and make

mistakes when you start out learning a

foreign language everything is exciting

you pick up new words and basic phrases

fairly quickly the first time you say a

greeting or answer the question how are

you you might even get a little thrill

speaking fluently doesn’t feel that far

off and at this point it really does

seem like language learning isn’t all

that difficult but after a week or two

things begin to change

after a few weeks of study you start to

hit walls as you’re faced with strange

grammar vocabulary and pronunciation

everything about learning a new language

seemed promising and hopeful before but

now you start to realize how difficult

it’s going to be speaking the language

now feels like a long far-off goal that

you may or may not achieve one day but

don’t let the innocence of being an

absolute beginner or the disillusionment

of being an experienced learner

discourage you from learning speaking a

new language may not be as far off as

you thought in this video we’ll look at

three tips to help you practice your

speaking skills no matter what level

you’re at number one practice with

native speakers practicing with native

speakers is by far one of the most

effective things you can do to improve

your speaking abilities think of

speaking a foreign language as riding a

bike after a certain point you can’t

read or theorize about how to do it you

have to actually do it if you can

practice speaking with native speakers

who correct you and give good feedback

then you’ll be well on your way to

proving your speaking but where can you

find native speakers to practice with if

you live in or near a major city there’s

a good chance there are some native

speakers there you might even get lucky

and discover an entire community do a

little research into the demographics of

your city or simply keep your eyes open

the next time you go through town you

can also attend a language exchange or

cultural event meetup is a site for

local enthusiasts groups and there are

usually some language speaking clubs or

cultural clubs there if you’re unable to

find native speakers where you live then

jump online and find them there there

are a lot of free online exchanges that

allow you to connect with other language

learners from all over the globe via

text audio or video chat look for a

speaker who is learning your native

language you can spend an hour or so

helping each other in your respective

target languages this is a highly

practical and helpful way to learn it’s

also a great way to learn more directly

about the culture you’re studying in a

real way number two devote some time to

learning pronunciation pronunciation

often isn’t the first skill people think

of working on when learning a foreign

language but that doesn’t mean that it

isn’t important truth be told you don’t

absolutely need a great accent to speak

or understand every language however a

decent accent can vastly improve your

listening and speaking abilities in ways

you might not expect being able to

pronounce words and sounds makes it a

lot easier for you to remember and

understand new words simply by hearing

them if you can physically make a sound

with your mouth then you can mentally

remember it once you have a good accent

the new language won’t sound as foreign

as it once did and you’ll be able to

understand rapid speech as well as pick

up the definition of new words based on

their conversational context but how can

you improve your accent if you’re

serious about developing your accent

then you’ll want to dissect the

languages sound system into its

individual parts first by letters then

individual words followed by whole

phrases start doing some mild research

on the phonetics of your target language

you don’t have to get too technical here

just try to get an idea of some of the

main differences between it and your

native language

find out where native speakers usually

put their tongue while saying certain

sounds or pay attention to the shape of

their mouths when they speak is it open

or closed these subtle differences are

what really help you improve once you

get the letters down start listening to

native audio and compare your

pronunciation to the native speakers our

language learning programs playback

feature is a great way to accomplish

this take a phrase from a lesson and

start by practicing the individual words

playing the audio back at a slower speed

and then again at a regular speed after

comparing your speech to the audio

combine the words to make complete

phrases imitating the intonation of the

native speakers this precise method of

pronunciation practice is one of the

most efficient and effective ways to

learn pronunciation number three imitate

don’t just repeat anytime you speak do

your best to imitate the native speakers

you’ve heard and practice with match the

way their intonation rises and falls pay

attention to their word order it’s even

a good idea to match some of their body

language this degree of imitation will

probably feel weird at first but it

reinforces fluency in the language and

breaks you out of the parrot trap where

you simply learn and speak through rote

memorization or repetition this is a

common problem that’s often cited with

other less effective language learning

methods speaking a language is like

playing music or dancing you don’t want

to just know it you want to live in the

moment and feel it as you use it you

don’t sit and think of what you’re going

to say in your native language before

you say it why would you expect to do

the same in a new one don’t let ruffled

expectations make you think that

speaking a new language is impossible

yes it’s difficult but it probably isn’t

as difficult as you think it is with a

little determination and some faithful

practice you might be surprised how

quick and how far you can progress use

these tips to better practice the

language and see real results in your

speaking abilities for some learning a

new language seems to come naturally for

others the entire process feels more

like a tooth and nails

however if you’ve had a negative

experience learning a new language at

one point in time don’t let that

discourage you from trying again the

truth is that learning any language is

never easy but it’s definitely possible

sometimes the difference between success

and failure has less to do with your

abilities or talents and a lot more to

do with the way you look at things in

this video we’re going to look at how to

avoid five serious mistakes made by new

language learners number one listen

before you speak being slow to speak and

quick to listen is good life advice

whether or not you’re learning a foreign

language effective listening is

essential to communication as a beginner

there is a tendency to concentrate so

much on what you’re going to say and how

you’re going to say it that you can

completely miss the meaning or heart of

what the other person is trying to

communicate not only will this impair

your ability to listen in your target

language it will also stall what little

conversation you had going remember the

conversations are a two-way street if

you’re speaking more than listening then

you actually have more of a monologue on

your hands than a dialogue the inputs of

language learning listening and reading

are just as important as the outputs

speaking and writing for a beginner

inputs are even more crucial as they are

the main way you acquire new vocabulary

we even go so far to say that for new

students the best method for learning

involves more listening than it does

speaking though that may change with

higher proficiency levels number two

don’t be embarrassed when you do speak

people’s next mistake usually comes from

the other side of the spectrum where new

learners are too scared or embarrassed

to contribute to a conversation the fear

of making mistakes in embarrassing

yourself

can paralyze your language learning it’s

vital to remember that everyone makes

mistakes even native speakers had to

find their way through the language when

they were children making mistakes while

learning a new language is inevitable

but it’s also a good thing the faster

you make mistakes the quicker you can

correct them and move on with your

learning so instead of being afraid to

make mistakes try looking at them as

steps towards

progress in reality that’s what they

really are number three don’t fixate on

minor issues if taken in all at once a

new language can feel overwhelming to

learn it’s so easy to get discouraged by

all your little mistakes and

conversational mishaps and you lose

sight of the progress you’re making in

addition to mistakes you’ll also come

across plateaus where you study and

practice consistently but don’t see any

results for a significant amount of time

but whether you face errors or plateaus

remember that these things are minor

obstacles on the road to fluency the

most important thing is not to give up

stick with it if you stay persistent

your mistakes will be corrected and your

abilities will improve but if you slow

down or throw in the towel completely

then you’ll either subvert your progress

or mix it all together so remember that

as long as you’re still studying and

learning the language you can’t lose it

might feel like you’re losing the battle

for language learning for a little while

but hang in there a practical way to

help you stay motivated is to make small

weekly goals

research shows that goal-setting has a

significant impact on learning try

picking one aspect of grammar or a

collection of new words or phrases to

study for the next seven days at the end

of the week check your progress and

measure your success setting little

benchmarks like this will give you a

rightful sense of accomplishment number

four remember that immersion isn’t

magical a lot of people think that by

moving to a foreign country they will

learn the language by osmosis but

whether you learn abroad or at home you

still need to study and practice the

language living in a new country gives

you way more opportunities to do this

than staying at home but if you don’t

consciously take advantage of these

opportunities while living abroad it

won’t benefit your language learning if

you’re an expat living in a foreign

country there’s a natural inclination to

hang out around other expats learning a

language and living in a foreign culture

is hard and uncomfortable for better or

worse we’re often drawn to the easier

road if you made the decision to study

abroad then you want to hang out with

native speaking people as much as

possible

you have the rest of your life to be

with people who speak your language

this doesn’t mean ignore your expat

friends just be sure that you’re giving

proper attention to your language

learning languages are better lived than

they are learned number five be

open-minded languages are better lived

than they are learned when learning a

new language your brain will want to

conform the new grammar and vocabulary

to your native language norms and

grammar rules ignore your brain on this

one at first you might feel completely

wrong saying a sentence that is in fact

correct after a certain point in

language learning there is a switch that

goes off when your brain finally

realizes that you’re not speaking your

native language but a new one altogether

this could take a while though

especially if this is your first time

learning a new language until then do

what you know is correct even if it

feels a bit weird when you say it the

same goes for culture just as you want

to be open to the differences in the

language don’t forget to be open to the

differences in the culture - hopefully

this video helped you shift your

thinking and approach language learning

in a way that will help you become

fluent faster and that you’ll learn to

enjoy the journey towards fluency and

savour the language for its own sake

that’s probably the biggest language

learning secret there is most people who

learn a foreign language learn it so

that they can one day have real-life

conversations with native speakers when

you start out learning and crack open

your first textbook

or listen to your first podcast having a

real conversation can feel like a

fantasy when everything about a language

feels new it can be overwhelming but

this couldn’t be further from the truth

while it does take a significant amount

of time and effort to become fluent

having a conversation might not be as

far off as you think in this video we’ll

look at three ways you can boost your

conversational skills and start talking

to native speakers number one find

native speakers and practice with them

it’s unlikely you live near a big group

of native speakers to practice with if

you happen to be in a major or

international city your chances may be

better check and see if your city has a

general language exchange chances are

there could be a native speaker there

who is also trying to learn another

language

practicing in person with a native

speaker is probably the most interesting

option for honing your speaking skills

but if you can’t find anyone where you

live the next best option is to look

online luckily for language learners the

past 10 years or so have seen an

explosion and online language exchange

sites on these web sites you can search

for someone who is a native speaker of

your target language and is also

learning your native language the idea

behind a language exchange is that you

communicate with them via video or text

Jeff and half of the time they help you

practice your target language and for

the other half you help them practice

theirs practicing via an online language

exchange is a highly effective way to

practice your conversational skills

number two work on pronunciation

pronunciation is often an overlooked

skill when it comes to learning a

foreign language most people think of a

good foreign accent as a luxury rather

than a necessity but what most people

don’t talk about is how having a good

accent boosts your listening and

comprehension skills if you can hear a

sound from a foreign language and know

how to make it yourself then you’re more

likely to understand native speakers

when they talk at normal speed and

you’re also more likely to remember any

new words or phrases you come across

having a good accent means that the

language no longer sounds foreign

instead it sounds familiar maybe even

natural so how do you go about

perfecting your accent the best way is

to break down the language into its

individual sounds make note of any

sounds that are the same or similar to

your native language and of those that

are different of the sounds that are

different spend your time practicing the

ones that you find the hardest to say

correctly after you’re comfortable with

the individual sounds you can start

linking together words and phrases this

is where accent practice starts to get

really fun and interesting get your

hands on some native speaker audio from

a TV show song or podcast play the audio

back and listen closely a few times take

note of how words blend together in

speech then do your best to imitate what

you hear trying to match the speakers

emphasis and intonation

our language learning programs playback

feature is perfect for this record

yourself and compare it to the original

recording rinse and repeat until you’re

comfortable with the audio selection and

then move on to something more difficult

this is how you can break through the

accent barrier and really start to make

the language your own number three learn

phrases not just individual words

learning grammar and individual words is

great but it’s not the only approach you

should take if you want to speak

fluently in addition to your regular

grammar and vocabulary try learning

whole phrases even if you aren’t totally

sure how they work grammatically learn

phrases that are specific to your needs

it’s a good idea to learn phrases that

are grouped around a certain setting or

subject such as simple greetings or

introductions questions for getting to

know someone or traveling comfortably

you can even learn filler phrases which

you can use so that you have something

to say when well you don’t know what to

say

learning phrases like this will help you

become conversational faster you may not

understand what you’re saying literally

but as long as you know the general

meaning behind the phrase and know when

to use it you’ll be able to talk like a

native eventually your knowledge of

grammar and vocabulary should catch up

with the phrases you know learning a new

language should feel like an adventure

there will be plateaus and periods in

your learning where it feels like you’re

hitting a wall

but being able to speak with native

speakers and have real conversations

will help you combat language fatigue

after all talking to someone face to

face in a foreign language is one of the

main reasons we start learning in the

first place

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