Reaching your full potential
[Applause]
top of the morning to every one of you
before starting i would like to ask how
are you
today if you’re feeling good just raise
your hand high
good to know um so many of my friends
and family here probably know me
but for those who don’t i want to
introduce a bit about myself
about five years ago i used to
participate in a
nationalized cooking show master’s chef
union vietnam and i was lucky enough to
get into the top six finalists
and got myself featured on the cover of
a team magazine
here it is and a also a
commercial campaign for a diary company
in vietnam
i many of my friends to family members
to strangers who found me on facebook
congratulated me
saying i should be proud for such
accomplishment during your young age
i was really proud of myself too but
then
people start to joke about it they start
to make memes
out of my pictures and i just remembered
all
the loves and all the can you cook for
me question in such a teasing voice
i was deeply ashamed deeply
and it should have been a prideful
moment of my life
that shall forever be cherished but
instead i saw it like
as if it was a dark chapter of my life
until the very last year in one of my
psychology
lessons which has completely changed my
mindset
it is when i was introduced to the
concept of
compliance compliance is basically
when individuals adjust their behaviors
and opinions
towards their majority in order to gain
acceptance
or avoid any disapproval so this is
caused by normative social influence
where their desire to fit into the group
leads to the pressure of changing your
own
behaviors and opinions this is usually
public but not
private and i realized that i was scared
of being different
as my as not many of my friends are
participating in such events
so i just think that
i once again i want to be like and not
being really cared so i think the best
way is to
compromise with them and that is why i
start to
reject myself i start to
reject all everything i did
and compliance can come in different
forms too
so at the very beginning i asked you a
very simple question and most of you
raise your hand
but how many of you are actually feeling
good maybe you had a bad breakfast
maybe it’s just a bad weather that is
bringing
you down and you still raise your hand
since the person who is sitting next to
you
raised his or her hand and so did most
of the people in this room
it just creates a norm to answer such a
personal
question that way and
compliance can also occurs in our
monogamy patterns when it comes to our
life work and over our existence we put
our brain
on autopilot every day going to work
then head home
make dinner maybe binge a little bit of
netflix before going to bed so you can
repeat their everything the very next
day
and to a certain point of our life we
will all take our loan
to buy a car at home and spend half of
our life
trying to pay off the debts
sure we show our our everyday clothes
and the food we eat are different
but we don’t take small little steps
towards significant life change
to a certain extent compliance has its
own
benefits it’s helped to point out what
behavior is seen as desirable and what
is not
it’s create a safety net of to making
everything easier for everyone
and after all it’s just feel better when
you just fit in somewhere
right but here comes a bad one
i myself as a formation i was so proud
of myself
but then i started to feel ashamed of
myself
and i even refused to believe that i was
participating
in masterchef union of vietnam and i
have lost
my individuality and i believe so do
others
these unwritten rules of society
are restricting us from trying new
things
exploring ourselves and realizing our
full potential
let’s bring in another psychology
concept shall we
the muslim hierarchy of needs so the
muslim hierarchy of needs is a
is basically a theory explaining the
human motivations
in terms of the pursuit of different
levels of needs as you can see there are
five
levels here so we think that we might
have reached
level four which is the self-esteem
level as we are gaining acceptance from
others
but the truth is we are losing
we are we don’t have we don’t accept
ourselves and that’s why we are missing
and unable to reach the top of the
hierarchy
the self-actualization so
self-visualization
is a big state of existence that any
individuals can attain which is
realizing their full potential
we all have an inner drive to achieve
our
full potential but not many of us can do
so
when we are so scared of being ridiculed
and
pressured to fit the perfect image how
can we possibly
try different things in different areas
learning what we are good
and bad at and so realizing our full
potential we are
we are living in such a strange time
where they are good
and bad but there’s also lots of things
in between now if you choose to believe
it or not now is the time for us to
just stop a moment just pause and
rethink the core character of ourselves
this is called we can start small by
seeking for their
values in everything we do
in everything we do
we instead of letting stuff fall into
our life have more control of our
thoughts
stop making actions and act with real
intent there are people who doing just
fine with
nine to five jobs but there are some who
don’t enjoy these routines
it’s fine it’s such a cliche but
it’s the key is just be yourself and
don’t be afraid of being different
this will help to create a new resource
development agenda
where your own distinct internet
capabilities and potential are
efficiently utilized and maximized
thank you so much