Can Fear Be Your Best Friend
can fear be your best friend
i chose not to be a victim to my
circumstances
i was homeless loveless and penniless i
was rock bottom in life
concrete driveways were my bed all i had
was my dreams i would dream all day and
all night my dreams were polar opposite
to my reality
imagine a life where you couldn’t dream
no escaping
no hope
awful right
but you would agree this isn’t normal
but it was for me
i chose not to be a victim i chose to
love unconditionally i chose to be happy
happy as i could be i chose to forgive
i chose to fight for a better life
today 150 million people are homeless
with about 1.6 billion of the population
lacking adequate housing to which
equates to 20 percent of the world’s
population
sad
i felt sad reading this
i ask what are we doing as a humanity to
change this statistic
suggest we could do more
i know what that 20 feels i was part of
that 20
hence feeling qualified to mention all
of this
no roof over their head
no ability to hope dream love or fight
for a better life like i did
every day i believed hoping for a new
opportunity
a clean slate
thinking more intelligently than ever
before
can i share a secret code with you but
first bear with me for a minute
i have a funny story to share with you a
few years ago my eldest step-daughter
wanted the top of the range audi that
came out
it was so out of her price range when i
saw her i asked her what she was doing
to get this dream car she replied
thinking about it
i suggested let’s make your new dream
out of your screenshot
so you can look at it each day you can
feel it you can dream it and guess what
she now drives her audi it’s that simple
manifest what you want in your life
visualize it take the necessary actions
and never stop dreaming
how the hell can fear be your best
friend ridiculous right
hopefully by the end of this talk you’ve
learned something really special so what
does fear even mean
what does fear mean to you
official definition is an unpleasant
emotion caused by the threat of danger
pain or harm
however i experienced all these when i
was homeless
penniless
and loveless
when concrete driveways were my bed
for many years i was all of the above
but i never stop dreaming big
so in 2021 fear means
f
e
a
r
f is for faith
is for education
a is for action and r is for resilience
let’s start with faith
faith in the universe it will deliver
seek and you will find believe with your
heart and your soul that nothing else
matters
dream it think it
and become it
can a coffee drinker bring out a tea to
saturate the world
yes she can
trust the process a beautiful journey
not so ridiculous right
why i love my life with nothing but love
and faith
fear became love for me
e is for education knowledge breeds
confidence
in this crazy world of new digital media
putting new skill sets into practice
forced at 53 years old to embrace this
digital age
you know once i feared technology it was
my biggest weakness not anymore
as of july 2021 zoom reported a total of
504
900 customers it’s
base grew by 470.33
i was one of them
turning on zoom is now like turning on
my tv
zoom is my new best friend
action
the last six letters
in the law of attraction
action my life for me
one tiny step
one at a time
giving away the drugs and the booze
gave me the confidence to shine
nothing happens with no action
never give up
just turn up
the secret code was actioning life for
me lastly r is for resilience
the definition
the ability to bounce back in today’s
world
we all bounce back through adversity
decisions equals your destiny don’t fear
fear and this is how
this happened when i was around 8 years
old some 45 years ago and while you were
all sleeping in your warm safe beds i
was lying outside in the dead of the
night looking for concrete
driveways to use as my bed
it was such a big responsibility keeping
myself safe i used to tremble and shake
i couldn’t stop the uncontrollable
tremors in my little body i was so
scared of the dark and what was out
there under me and around me
i was so cold i felt like i was living
and breathing your worst nightmare
thinking and asking myself was this ever
gonna end it was freezing
i used to press myself up against this
wall sometimes hiding into the tiniest
ball hoping no one could see or find me
in my pink little nighty and bare skinny
legs i was so alone so lost
you know
that just felt like it was just
yesterday
i was always panicking my heart used to
bang against my chest it was so loud
it felt so loud i used to hold my breath
for ages because i thought my breathing
would make me be found
this negative abuse
the emotional physical torture i had in
day in day out made me into the
strongest version of myself
i know i’m not a loser
i know i’m not a failure i had no
friends but that didn’t matter
i was broken and shattered in many
pieces
but i was resilient
i was strong
i had fight
get out of my way
my way or the highway
this lifestyle drove me to be the best
version of myself
i am a homeless person who became a
millionaire i challenged life i walked
through that door
you say no well in my survival language
that means yes not today but maybe
tomorrow i will and never give up
i may have been damaged and sentenced to
a life of unhappiness
but that experience
created a strong fearless and resilient
whole human being
one to leave her mark and footprint on
earth i have withstood adversity
in its evil form
if you want it bad enough
you turn up
you show up don’t take the easy lane in
life
don’t be a victim to your life
walk your truth be remarkable be
repairable
use fear to fuel your life like i did
because when you look at life this way
you can now see how fear became
my best friend
so i’d like to ask you a question
are you living the life you love
if not why not you can make fear your
best friend