6 keynotes to a wholesome life
hi everybody my name is binafsa sunawala
i am an actress and a host also a
traveler and a reader which could be one
of the few reasons why i think i might
have learned a few things here and there
that i’m going to share with you all
today
now this is going to be a very simple
yet a very meaningful talk
and i sincerely hope that i can share
and impart
all that i know and all that i have
learned
about
trying to achieve a good life and having
a good life
now wherever you’re watching this from i
want you all to close your eyes for 15
seconds
and think of all the things that you’re
blessed with do this as sincerely as
possible i will do it along with you
okay
our time starts now
how good did that feel
for those of you that managed to do it
sincerely i’m sure that felt very good
because that is the power and that is a
magic of gratitude
there are so many things to be thankful
for
it is said and experienced by many
that she or he
that feels gratitude for everything that
she or he has
will receive more
have you ever noticed yourself
constantly complaining about a certain
something
and that same thing tends to keep on
getting worse
now try feeling gratitude for it
try thinking of all the good things
about that very thing
for example let’s take your job let’s
say for example you’re frustrated with
your job you can’t stop picking on all
the bad things about your job
now start thinking about all the good
things
think about how much money it brings you
if you are able to feed your family with
that money that is a brilliant thing
think about all the good things about
your job instead of complaining and see
how it changes for you and i’m sure it
will if you feel true gratitude for it
as i mentioned before there are so many
things to be grateful for
you could be grateful for a loved one
you could be grateful for a good job
remember to be grateful for the water
you drink for the food on your table
you know i’ve been reading this book
magic by rhonda byrne
and in that book
the author quotes newton where he says
i am looking at the solar system
and i see the earth at the perfect
distance from the sun
to receive the proper amounts of heat
and light
this did not happen by chance
this is what he said that is so
wonderful
now think
to go to think about that
let me explain some more things the
author also goes on to tell us in the
book about how we’re all protected by
this protective atmosphere beyond which
there is no air or oxygen
about the fact that trees give off
oxygen so that the air is continually
replenished
about the fact that if we were to be
placed anywhere else in the galaxy apart
from the earth then we’d all be
devastated by cosmic radiation
now these are all facts but how often in
our day do we think of it
months might pass and we might never
have even given a thought to it
for some of you who have that’s a
brilliant thing
feel gratitude before you sleep and feel
gratitude every day that you open your
eyes and wake up to a beautiful new day
that brings us to the end of our first
note on how to achieve a good life which
is gratitude
moving on to our next note i’m going to
explain this with an example
from my own life
there was this day i was feeling very
overwhelmed i felt very heavy on my
emotions i felt very angry very hot
i was in pain
but i had to be somewhere i had
somewhere to be so i got into a cap and
i couldn’t hold back my tears because i
was very overwhelmed i was feeling
extremely emotional
so i couldn’t hold back my tears and i
started crying i started sobbing
so my cab driver heard me and he looked
behind
he looked at me and he said
in hindi he asked me
madame
which means madame why are you crying
please don’t cry
now he said such a simple statement but
he said it with so much kindness without
expecting absolutely anything in return
he said that with so much kindness love
care and compassion
but for a minute there i just forgot all
about my pain and and my my suffering
and i and i and i
lightened up i completely
um got humble all over again
and i my heart was filled with love and
positivity
and this is just one of the examples
that goes on to prove that kindness will
always be bigger than any kind of hate
sorrow anger pain kindness and love is
the biggest of all
that was really a wonderful day for me
to realize something beautiful
moving on to my next note now this is a
combination of good thoughts good words
and good deals
now i’m a zoroastrian and in
zoroastrianism we are taught to believe
in good thoughts good words and good
deeds as i am sure every other religion
teaches as well
wake up
and remember that today i am going to
say nothing negative i am going to fill
my mind with good thoughts i am going to
say only good things and i am going to
do only good deeds
and this is definitely a win-win because
not only is it a beautiful thing a
beautiful thing to do to change the
world because it always starts with
yourself but it also is
something that will make you feel so
light and so amazing within you
it really really is beautiful how simple
and wonderful these things are
moving on to my next note
purpose and passion
direct your life towards a purpose
remember
that every human being has a true
passion and a true purpose direct your
life towards a purpose
remember to master and develop the
skills for that purpose and feel as much
passion as you can
every human being has his true passion
and purpose deep within himself or
herself and if you really look within
you will find it
converse with yourself be kind to
yourself
make mistakes but explore what makes you
happy and you will find it
that brings me to my next note which is
about
persistence
now all of us
have laid out um a set of goals to
achieve we all want to achieve certain
goals and we always think oh if this
just goal if this goal i achieve i’m
just it’s everything is great
but only some of us might have realized
that
we’re actually looking to be persistence
because the goal
or
we’re actually looking to be persistent
sorry because the goal is actually the
destination is actually for but a second
but what we’re really looking to do
is we want to go on our journey to
fulfill that goal we want to go on our
journey to achieve that goal and once
that goal is done we feel happy we feel
overjoyed but we’re on to our next
because human beings are seekers we want
to seek and seek we have a thirst for
search and every time one goal ends
human beings are out on their journey to
achieve their next because all they’re
looking for is to be persistent and to
be on their journey continuously and
that truly is a wonderful quality that
human beings have so keep at it
our next note
is about
learning
now learning is a very powerful thing
because and by power i do not mean you
meet up with a bunch of your friends and
you’re discussing about how amazing your
iq or your gk is
in this context
learning is that which makes you
powerful because every failure and every
time you are not okay or every time that
you are upset you are learning
and you are learning and you are
learning until you get stronger
wiser and more dependent on your inner
strength and wisdom and less dependent
on outer situations events for people
for your happiness
so that in mind you you will learn if
you just remember to learn instead of
always sulking and you will get stronger
so remember that these are the real
lessons that life teaches us the
learnings that life teaches us
and hence we learn
our next note is a very interesting one
believing in the power of your own mind
now when i realized this in my own life
it was one of the most beautiful things
that ever happened to me
because how wonderful it is
to be the guide of your own life
how wonderful it is to realize that all
your happiness peace success
failure relationships
lies right here
take care of your mind
guide it the right way
keep it away from the things that
unnecessarily disturb and disrupt its
peace
fill it with positivity and good
thoughts
strengthen it during the tough times and
keep it humble
in the good
tune it how you want to towards
happiness peace success prosperity and
all that it is that you desire
remember
that you cannot let anybody else or any
other situation control your mind you
have got to keep the control within you
and if you really believe in the power
of your own mind
you’re going to know that it is your
mind it belongs to you
you are the master of it and that at the
end of the day it will always always
listen to its master
how wonderful it is these are just
simple lessons
but i’m sure they’re going to be really
helpful if you really apply them
our next note on how to achieve a good
life
is happiness
you need to find happiness everywhere
you go make it a point because to be
happy and to be smiling can unknowingly
really improve your day
now some would say or think that um how
can i be happy on days where i feel
slightly low
on those days an easy and quick solution
to being happy is to be grateful
think of your blessings count your
blessings and while you’re counting your
blessings i’m sure it is very difficult
to not feel a certain amount of
happiness so remember to count your
blessings and believe that you have to
be happy find it look for it and make
sure that you’re happy
our next note um
is about peace
now peace our physical body needs
nourishment
so does our mind
you feed yourself
you feed yourselves to be fit to be
healthy
but what about the mind
you have to feed your mind as well you
have to nourish your mind you have to
feed it with all the things that benefit
it
you have to remember that feeling
peaceful is the most
fulfilling feeling in the entire world
so make sure that you find your peace
our next note on how to achieve a good
life is discipline
now discipline is the one thing that
binds all of that that i’ve mentioned
before
discipline is something without which
your life is but happening and you have
no control over it
and then you might complain and you
might think oh things are not going my
way but how will they if you are not
disciplined enough
for any career any work that you do you
obviously need to be extremely
disciplined in order to be successful
but not just that you need to be
disciplined in your life as well
all that i have mentioned before this is
not let’s face it it it is not a piece
of cake
it’s not always going to be easy to um
wake up and say all the good things it’s
not always easy to um always um
say the best things about people or
about situations
you might sometimes really quarrel with
your mind while you’re trying to tame it
and you might also forget to say thank
you before you’re having your meal
but all you have to do is set out
certain values certain guidelines and
certain rules be strict with your
discipline and remember that discipline
is very important for your career but it
is also very important in order to
achieve
a good life be strict with your values
and make sure that they enrich your life
and that they’re good for your life and
each day that passes by
so this was the last note on how to
achieve a good life
and of course i am not the queen of
everything you know i have myself
experienced these things tried to bring
gratitude or thankfulness in my life
tried to believe in the power of my mind
remember to be peaceful and happy and
strive for it i’ve tried all these
things i’ve practiced all these things
and it’s been difficult to do some days
but you practice and you practice and
that’s the fun of it because when you
achieve it it feels absolutely wonderful
and to end this talk i’d just like to
say that uh all that has helped me i
really hope that i could um share all of
this with you and that it helps you too
in your life
and also i really hope for all of you
that you all are so blessed
to wake up every morning to wake up to a
new day to wake up to new wonderful
hours to make your life a wonderfully
good life
thank you so much