I Saved a Life with Boredom
i saved a life
i saved a life with boredom
whose how this is what i want
not to talk to you but rather chat with
you about today
i was sitting on a table eating lunch
with my family
we were eating matchboos particularly
and there were three generations on that
table i started by asking my parents
did you guys feel bored in the past
was life as boring as it as it is now
and they said no not really
we have things to do we had
responsibilities we had people around
we had everything and then i asked the
younger two generations an answer i got
is
we’re bored because we’re doing the same
thing again and again and again
routine i asked the youngest
and they told me we feel bored because
we don’t have anybody to chat with or we
feel bored
when we don’t have somebody to play with
and i’ve realized that the difference
between
the newer and the older generation is
that we have technology
in our life and that technology took us
away from people and more with ourselves
and that’s the time we realized that
boredom actually exists and we can
pinpoint it
and our parents were not able this is
why when you go to say
you’re bored to your parents sometimes
they just don’t
get it and they told they tell you
you’re lazy you’re not enough
so we cannot blame them really
we’re different they had boredom
they did not recognize it
and the result we got programmed that
boredom is not good
so let me explain to you why boredom
exists
why do we have to go through boredom
through a philosophy
called unity of opposite which obviously
you don’t need to know
so let’s go to the content of this
theory
obviously now you can see my nephews and
nieces
and please don’t judge me but they want
to be here
one reason is because i cannot afford a
professional photographer
and number two they told me if this is
going to be on youtube
and you will be famous then we want to
be famous too
so that’s the result so point number one
of this
theory is the existence of a thing
requires the existence of an opposite
and the perception of a thing
requires the perception of an opposite
to make it clear in order to have light
we have dark and because one day we saw
what
light is we understand what darkness is
same goes with up and down we have up
because we have down and down wouldn’t
exist if we don’t have up
cold hot rich poor
boredom and interest as well
imagine those opposites as a team
and those teams are playing the tug of
war
game again you can see
my nephews fighting for my youngest
nephew
if we imagine those opposites
as two teams trying to winning
a title or a trophy
and these two opposites were exactly
equal the result will be stasis
they will be exactly balanced no
movement
absolutely and nobody will win
and this is what i want you to imagine
with boardman interest
boredom is a team and interest is
another team and they’re
fighting only when one of them
moves and become bigger or the other one
becomes
smaller the systems moves
and one will win that fighting between
boredom and interest creates
movement movements towards the better
and how because one day we have
experienced
what boredom feels like that unpleasant
sensation
and the other day we feel like we enjoy
our time
it’s fun it’s great
when we feel interested
we always want to stay interested
and when we feel bored we always want to
stay away from it and go towards
interest
this fight between the opposites
interest and boredom will create
momentum one because one day you felt
you’re interested and the other day you
felt that you’re bored
and you taste the feelings of both you
know how it feels to feel bored and you
know how it feels to feel interested
so you will always work towards being
interested
whenever you feel interested you will
hang on into it
and you don’t want to be back to that
unpleasant
state of boredom
i made these two equations how can
boredom
equals procrastination but at the same
time boredom equals
motivation and it happens
based on your behavior if you behaved
positively
towards boredom you will get motivation
however if you behaved negatively
towards boredom
you will get procrastination and
what i mean by behaving behaving
negatively
is that for example when you’re bored
you go through youtube you look at
random things and you might end up
actually watching how to make japanese
bread
in japanese you might end up watching a
guy
eating a mcdonald’s meal in 10 seconds
you name it so how can you behave
positively towards boredom
according to dr aaron westgate
a psychologist from the university of
florida she suggested that there are two
main factors that
play equal roles in boring us
the first is having no meaning and the
second
is a break in attention aka distractions
if the activity you’re trying to
complete me means absolutely nothing for
you
then the way you act with it is simply
leave it this is like you’re invited to
a movie that you hate but
all of your friends are going you just
simply
shouldn’t go you shouldn’t waste your
time if the activity you’re trying to
complete
is something important is something
that you want you should
try different techniques one of them
is change the way you’re doing it for
example
you’re a student bored of reading books
maybe it’s time
to start watching videos about the topic
sometimes the issue is about the
environment you used to enjoy it
but the environment got too routine
to you got too boring for you maybe the
new manager is not treating you well
at this time you need to change the
environment
sometimes we feel bored because
the project or what we have to do is too
big
at that time you should actually break
it into more smaller pieces
and try to do something every day a big
one that people sometimes miss
is that they get bored because they are
tired some people just don’t get enough
sleep
and finally remove any distractions
around you if you have a big project
maybe go to a hotel spend some time
alone
and finally if the activity you’re
trying to complete
means nothing but it’s something that
you must do
you just simply do it without
overthinking it
so we come to realize okay that
that’s it boredom is good
or boredom is bad so let’s talk
psychology
it depends actually it depends on the
context
according to dr tilberg essentially
being bored that experience of boredom
make us realize that there are more
valuable things
to us and that’s very important for us
to change behavior and break the
monotony
break the monotony means that you’re not
like everybody
else you’re not a copy based you are
somebody who’s original
you’re somebody who’s very individual
but when boredom hits you the time you
have
a dull side activity perhaps boredom is
not very helpful
what i’m trying to say today is that
boredom is more than productivity issue
boredom is much deeper it’s about
life it’s about desires it’s about your
journey to look for what represents
you so what is it about
during this technological era the first
thing we think about
when we feel bored is how can we get rid
of it as fast as possible
so we go and watch a movie
turn on a song or play a video game
and we engage in it and we feel happy
and not bored anymore but what happens
at the moment everything
is done the movie stops the song stops
you’re back you’re back not even to
point zero but
even worse you’re back with more boredom
that is not going with the same amount
of stimuli
continuing to look for different more
powerful stimuli
will eventually backfires because it’s
like addiction
with time you will develop something
called tolerance
and the distractions you used to use are
not going to work anymore
on the contrary instead of looking for
different stimuli we should embrace the
idea of
lack of stimuli because it’s only when
we’re alone
and quiet we can connect with our
feelings
and understands our needs and that’s
the best weapon you can arm yourself
with to go
out there and connect with the world so
think about it like a wake-up call
essentially that unpleasant experience
of boredom
make us realize that there are more
important matters to us
and push us to engage
with activities that are more meaningful
for
us and that’s for me doesn’t sounds like
boredom it sounds like hope
we always tell ourselves i wish i get a
sign i wish i knew this before
well here you go boredom is
the sign that your unconscious use to
tell you
listen pahera you
you you there’s something wrong please
go and fix it
so when boredom hits you what i want you
to do
is take a deep breath and tell yourself
with the voice of lucifer morningstar
what do you truly desire
as long as your desires go along your
principles your beliefs your morals
you should listen to them you should go
and discover and experience them
categorize them
understand them and that will make you
just a tiny bit
closer to your purpose the voice of
boredom will never shut up
however it will stay quiet i’ll tell you
the ugly truth
that nobody will
you can never get rid of boredom it’s
impossible to get rid of boredom
however you definitely can adapt to it
live with it and feel comfortable
before this gets too boring
back to the question i’ve asked who i
saved give it a guess
me i saved me
thank you