Whos life would you swap with

so the big question is this the big

idea is this if you’re to swap your life

with someone else’s life who would you

choose

i’ll just hold the concept just hold the

moment now i know initially you’re

thinking

there’s no way you do that ed there’s no

way i’m going to do that you’re going to

reject the initial thought

however the actual element that defines

whether you’re going to answer this

question

is one critical ingredient that

critical ingredient actually defines

your whole life

okay so the question is if you’re gonna

swap your life with someone else’s life

whose do you choose depends on one

ingredient that one ingredient

is this how you feel in the moment

because here’s the deal right if you’re

feeling amazing right you’re having an

amazing life

everything’s going well your

relationship’s going

you’re feeling great your business is

growing you’re gonna stick

i get it but here’s the deal if things

aren’t

going well and they’re not going great

they’re not going

as you imagined like just imagine you

wake up one day you’re not having the

the purpose that you really want you’re

not having the meaning that you really

want

and instantly you can swap to be in

oprah shoes

you know walking out with your own show

with that sort of level of impact

that sort of difference that you could

make

at a scale and instantly your problems

are resolved right

imagine right your business isn’t going

the way you want it all right your

career isn’t going the way you want it

your income isn’t

you know what it what you really want it

to be and you’re not going to pay the

bills

instantly you could swap to being mark

zuckerberg

imagine that i mean walking in his shoes

to have the control to own the largest

social media empire in the world today

what would you do with that sort of

power what would you do with the control

what would you do with the cash

you’d probably buy yourself a pretty

something

right okay maybe you’re not into

facebook maybe

swap to jeff bezos and you can walk

around with that power

owning amazon one of the first trillion

dollar businesses the world’s

ever gonna see instantly your problems

are resolved

maybe you’re lacking some self-worth

right maybe you’re lonely

maybe you’re missing someone and you’re

not connected and

bang instantly you can walk on stage and

you could be

justin bieber come on selena gomez

all right hundreds of thousands of

people saying i love you

i love you adoring you at that sort of

level

and instantly your problems are all

resolved

maybe you’re suffering a bit of weight

loss issues your diet’s not going quite

well

you’re scrolling down instagram and you

see that instant pretty picture

right the perfect abs the perfect legs

the perfect face

and you think bang for a moment you can

just have that body what would you do

with that body

and don’t tell me you haven’t done this

you’re having some relationship

connection problems

it’s not as good as it used to be and

then you look down on that social media

feed and you see that gorgeous girl

or guy whatever you’re into and for a

moment you go

could i have that person and bang your

problems are resolved

maybe you’re not into any of that you

say ed that’s not my bag

i don’t relate to any of those people

okay i hear you but here’s another thing

i know that you’ve been inspired by

someone i know that you’ve been

inspired by someone when you were

younger maybe you had a hero or heroine

all right and could you imagine in your

darkest times when your problems were at

the worst you could swap your life with

theirs

for mine it was the great tony robbins

imagine being tony robbins i remember

when i first

started growing my coaching consultancy

business my first live event super

excited

one person turned up one tony’s got

thousands of people at his event i

remember my first live webinar

one person turned up and left halfway

and i remember thinking my life would be

so much easier

if i was the amazing tony robbins

now you still might be thinking i’m

never going to swap my life but the

truth is this happens every single day

every single day millions of people

billions of people

will look at other people’s lives and

compare them to theirs

by looking through social media they

will compare their self-worth

with other people’s pictures with other

people’s highlights

with other people’s results and here are

the true stats the true stats of

comparison

are only getting worse this is actually

within the fabric

of society today there are more young

people that will compare themselves to

others

than ever before one in four people

according to mind who manage the big

charity for mental health say one in

four people will suffer from a massive

mental health problem today

over 1.5 million people per year

increase every single year will kill

themselves according to the global

society of health because of comparison

on social media

so whether we like it or not this is

here

and it’s here to state let me tell you

about my first ever client my first ever

client was a young boy

compared himself to everyone didn’t like

where he was in the world

didn’t like his place was always last at

class

never finished first and constantly was

reminding

constant reminder of the fact that he

was less than on a daily basis

tough days at school tough days at home

had a lot of conflict with his dad

one day he decided to end it he’d had

enough

he decided life just wasn’t worth living

anymore and so he ran to a railway

station nearby

as he was getting prepared to jump in

front of the train that was going to

take him out

as he was leaving the platform moments

before

something magical happened

i don’t know if you’ve ever had that

right where that feeling where you’re

just

not good enough i don’t know if you’ve

had that maybe you haven’t had that to

that extremity

but i know that there’s a moment where

you felt not good enough

in some shape or form and the truth is

we live in a world today

where we’re so used to seeing highlights

filtered pictures

perfect results and we forget about the

journey we forget about the problems

think about it we forget about the fact

that oprah had to go through all of

those things to be where she is today

we forget about the fact that oprah was

impregnated by a family member had a

still birth we forget about the racial

torment that she had to go through we

forget about the journey

because we get forced to look at the

highlights

we forget about mark zuckerberg and jeff

bezos is going through the anxiety and

the stress

all right we forget about the law cases

we forget about the anxiety that

the jeff would have gone through and

amazon almost didn’t make it through we

don’t see

the abuse on a daily basis it what it

must be like for justin bieber on a

daily basis

right for selena gomez the online

bullying that must be sent to them on a

daily basis

we don’t see the years and years of them

playing their music

over and over again when no one cared

and no one shared their music we don’t

see them living a

you know a scared life worried about

whether

the paparazzi are going to actually

unveil some information about their

private life

we don’t see that and that’s the problem

and so we live in a society when it’s

not cool to talk about

problems and the truth is

life is just one massive problem

it is what it is life is a journey

going from problem to problem to problem

the meaning of life

is to actually give your life meaning as

you go through the journey of life

solving these problems every

entrepreneur knows that

if you want to become a successful

entrepreneur all you need to do

is solve at five figures the problem to

six figures

from six figures to seven figures

there’s another problem

you resolve it quicker and faster you go

through to eight figures and nine

figures

you can solve those problems at scale

you have a super successful business

and although that sounds morbid to think

of life as just problems it is what it

is it’s been proven

those that say it is what it is

get access to the most beautiful emotion

the beautiful emotion of accepting

accepting

it is what it is the quicker you go

through the problem

the easier your life is the cooler your

life is

the calmer your life is the truth is

right

you and i are not getting out of this

bad boy called life alive you know that

right

no one’s hacked that one yet like we’re

gonna die and the fact that we’re going

to die

is a good thing because it means that we

can stop worrying

about everyone else we can stop worrying

about if anyone

likes your stuff on social media or not

whether you have subscribers or not

it doesn’t matter because when you die

no one’s going to remember you for how

much money you earn

how big your house was or how amazing

your car was

or how many people subscribed to your

youtube channel or not

all of the all that you’re going to be

remembered for is the love that you gave

and then that’s it and so therefore the

quicker we can get to that the easier

your

your life will become and so therefore

the truth is as soon as you can really

live with the fact that your problems

are there as gifts think of this like

this

imagine a movie right without any

challenges it’s not much of a movie

imagine the titanic without hitting the

iceberg it just doesn’t make sense

and so therefore actually we need that

iceberg

because you like the hero in every movie

the bigger the hero the bigger the

challenge is

the bigger the problem and so you can

only be successful

doing this comparing yourself to

yourself

and that’s it i’m successful i have a

successful business

i’m happy i’m fulfilled but am i

i’m only successful if i compare myself

to where i’ve been

all right i used to be a massive failure

i now have an eight-figure coaching

consultancy business

it’s not hard to improve on that but if

i compare myself to myself

then i can be happy and successful i

have thousands of clients

all over the world i’ve helped thousands

of people create an online coaching

consultancy business

so that they can make a massive

difference to other people

i’m fulfilled if i compare myself to

where i’ve been

i couldn’t look after myself now i can

help other people make a massive

difference

and so all you have to do is focus on

one door open that door take the step

one step

and one percent and if you focus on one

percent for the rest of your life

you’ll be good to go because in a year

if you just did one percent

every single day you’d be 38 times

better

at the end of the year just like

a musician there is no rush

you just have to enjoy the notes you

just have to enjoy the journey

let me leave you with this my

first client was at the moment of

jumping out

was about to let go wanted to eradicate

his life didn’t think he was good enough

and just at the last moment

something magical happened two hands

on his shoulders pulled back and he got

a

second chance at life he had a second

chance

to create a new path a second chance

what would you do with a second chance

would you

stop worrying about things that don’t

matter

would you stop worrying about everyone

else and just focus on opening up one

door

taking one step and one percent

hey just a heads up he’s actually here

i brought him with me would you like to

say hello

would you like me to bring him up he’s

he’s actually he’s

he’s actually in the back i brought him

here with me

he’s here he’s always here

he’s here right here wherever you go

in life you will take yourself with you

my first client is myself your

first client is yourself

here’s what i got for you you don’t need

to swap your life with anyone’s life

you don’t need to worry about your

problems you just need to focus

moving further forward one door

one step one percent

you are individual you’re unique there’s

no one like you

you to me are someone very special

i was able to turn my massive big

problem

into my biggest gift and i know you too

can change your massive problem into

your biggest gift too

thank you