Love Wisdom and Courage
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do you know
that’s the longest journey that we will
ever take
in our life it’s just almost 46
centimeters too long
it’s a distance between our head to our
heart
and it’s a precise love and wisdom to
transform our knowledge and belief into
actions
that have the capacity to change not
only our life
but also those around us but that
process
cannot start or even complete without
courage
so let’s start with a simple question
when was the last time to say i love you
to your friends
and when was the last time to say it to
your family members
i was born and raised in a regular
nuclear family
my mom is a dedicated woman she was an
italian dogson market
she didn’t have a store for herself but
two very heavy plastic bags
on her bow hands filled with all kind of
pads
wash clothes carried around the market
i spent most of my childhood with my mom
so somehow
i felt like she was carrying her family
in those two bags
my uncle was just a while away from my
eight years ago his wife was diagnosed
with
colorectal cancer at the age of 44.
and it has gone almost everywhere inside
her body
and after the operation she had to carry
an ostomy bag
right here my mom decided to quit her
job
at as a retailer to take care of her
i didn’t visit her before i thought my
mom had done enough already
the hospital sang her bags a couple of
times
and believe me there was lots of time
that she’s just about to give up
but then she got back and continued the
treatment
the one who was giving her so much
strength was her studying april child
who was expected to be back in spring
one day she couldn’t go popping the dice
my mom
asked me to come over and have the hand
i didn’t know what to do
so i just wrapped her so much for half
an hour and it came up
with colorectal cancer it was such
a release
so she leaned toward me so i moved
closer
enough to show her tear as she asked me
if
i could come whenever i have free time
as a company and as a friend
it surprised me the bit but i barely
knew her
and as ignorance as i was at that time
that sentence
somehow felt like a turning point to me
so i did until one day while i was
wrapping hose too much
and the ostomy bag somehow leaked
and the smell came from it was so
overwhelming
and it crossed my life
i stood up when my mom was cleaning her
i looked back
and i saw the slight smile on her face
and she asked me if the smell was too
strong
i didn’t reply and i left
i told my mom that i was too busy with
my school
what i didn’t tell her was that i was
disgusted with that smell
and with her situation i know that i
should not have
but i came up with all sorts of reason
why i could not come
one day when i was having breakfast my
mom came back home and she said that
she was a bit weaker that day because
her breath
was so strange that moment i felt like
something wasn’t right i felt like she
needed me
and i wanted to come and i
was about to get up and come to a place
but i didn’t i told my mom that i was i
would be there by 12
after my i finish my homework
but she couldn’t make it into 12 and she
couldn’t make it
until spring
i never thought that i could or could
share this experiment to anyone else
especially in a talk like this
but believe me the cost we may have to
pay for not having enough courage and
let opportunity pass by
is probably the worst we could not blame
anyone else
and it could be terribly hard to let go
there was so many chances and
opportunity that i could have taken
to take care of or just to be there when
people when they needed me the most
but i didn’t i was
foreign and it was my first lesson of
courage
so it’s a car in latin
that means heart in english
so being courageous is not only about
taking risks to be fearless to be tough
but also to take action upon a heart’s
decision to allow yourself to be
soft be kind and caring
even though you’re terrified terribly
terrified
you used to do the right things anyway
so i have a question for you do you have
any letters that finally turned into
levels
love is just not enough
this may turn into regrets without
courage
there is one saying that have been have
read and been told
many times you need to love yourself
before you love anyone else
this may sound a bit old and so common
that it probably has
had become a cliche to some of us but
what i
am about to share might give you another
aspect to look at this court
when i was 19 i was lost and misled
like most of the dead in our teens i
knew that i was
looking for something i didn’t know what
it was specifically
so i just kept looking out for it
until one late night there was so many
things in my mind
things like university social
responsibility
family expectations and so on
i remember and i remember it vividly and
i saw myself
sitting on my bed and listened to my
surroundings quietly
the idea of meditations just came up in
my mind
so i followed that voice crossed my legs
and started meditation for the first
time in my life
i have never felt my body so vivid and
connected before
it’s amazing to know that modern half of
our body is created by non-human parts
which are bacteria viruses fungi etc
they have so many functions for example
they protect our skin
from invasion by harmful organisms
and there are a thousand of skin cells
die on our skin every minute
billions trillions of them are working
in harmony with each other to support
our survival
they are all essential to our health
even the smallest ones
but have we ever taken time to build
them and
before going to sleep have you ever
taken time
to say thank you to a heart the organ
that never stops eating
never takes rat even when you are
sleeping
it was non-stop until a loud breath
so in that moment
that realization was so profounding to
me
it wasn’t something i invented or
discovered i am not a scientist not a
physicist
and definitely not a chemist but that
feeling in that moment
just so profoundly so my heart taught me
the lesson of love that i don’t forget
so self-love
is not only the stage where we could
accept ourselves as who we were
and are to be aware of our valuable
respect
to take care of physical health but also
to transfer ourselves deep deep down
from the within
it sounds like there are lots of things
that we have to work on already
but let’s start it simple with a
conversation to ourselves
tonight before going to sleep sleep
please take five minutes to truly listen
and communicate to your body
both human and non-human parts
how are they how do they feel encourage
them
but the hearts never stop beating for
the lungs
up and down with us for the legs that
carry
for everything from the smallest
to the most visible one
two years ago with the help of waterwise
vietnam
my team and i founded an environmental
club named lab average
which means green steps in english we
were working on the eco project
ecobrick project for over a year and it
lasted for two seasons
i came to the club of course for the
love for environment
but after handing over the club i have
found myself
in a different aspect of understanding
what enviro love environment could also
mean
and what roles wisdom by place
in our life in such a likely way
that is truly eye-opening to me
we are human when we put ourselves
animal implants in the same picture
which is environment
we don’t seem to relate it just like
human and non-human parts in our body
scientifically proved it only takes
92 elements to make up all lives on
earth
so in other words the elements that we
find in nature
in plants and animals that happen to
exist
and work in inside of it as well
only when escaping my heart skip a bit
that i know that i’m in love only when
it feels so heavy that we know we are in
pain
the hearts come first before the brain
we feel it
before we even know it
and now let’s say the environment seems
to be the big body
in which we are the human parts
that should live and work in harmony
with other species
which are non-human one as well because
of any impact that we make
it counts if love
is so great how do we know
whether we are misled or going on the
right track
this is when wisdom does is wrong
love itself is not wrong and wisdom
is the power to discriminate between
what is right
and what is wrong to keep an open mind
to not only think outside the box
but also to listen and observe outside
the box
at first i thought that reading many
books in different genres
going to events watching documentary
movies
are the shortest ways to achieve it
however we might have mistaken the idea
of wisdom
for knowledge knowledge is when we know
how to use the gun and wisdom to know
when to put the trigger as jimmy hendrix
says
knowledge speaks wisdom listens
by observing and listening i have felt
there is a great love within me
and i have found as we how we are all
connected not only to each other
with the nature surrounding us this
practice
changed everything i have known before
so my heart taught me that i feel love
before i even know it and wisdom
is like a wake-up call for that feeling
listen deeper observe riser
and everything is different however
achieving true love wisdom in courage
doesn’t seem like a real destination but
rather an ongoing process
the vast oceans of knowledge and wisdom
is unmeasurable and describable and yes
not yet discovered we make mistake
we do but poor listening observing and
keep an open mind
are ways to develop it
if ignorance and discrimination
hold the power to damage our world
the love we still encourage hold the
power to heal it
if you want to learn something new to
change ourselves for the better
your mind is filled with judgment and
already existing personal perspective
that is like a cup that filled with tea
empty the cup
emptying your mind eliminating our
judgment and personal perspective
and ignorance is when we truly listen
we are all responsible and have the
capacity to make change
and heal not only us but others
and the world we are living in
so pack up your courage
and get ready for the greatest greatest
journey that you will ever take in your
life
the journey from your heart to your
heart and a journey of love
wisdom and courage thank you