How The Human Connection Improves Healthcare

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i wanted to be a doctor since i was six

years old

the human body fascinated me i watched

in awe

on tv and in the movies as doctors

performed these life-saving procedures

i entered medical school with a deep

desire to learn everything that i could

about the science of medicine

and how the human body worked but then

something happened to me

that made me realize that health care

was really broken

and gave me a new perspective on what

medicine was really about

it was the summer of 1996 i was just

completing my training

when i received a late evening phone

call from a desperate physician

to pick up an extremely sick newborn you

see the baby had a condition and his

only chance of survival

was to be placed on a heart lung bypass

machine immediately

when the team and i arrived we found a

critically ill baby

desperately clinging to life the parents

gave their son a quick kiss on the cheek

and off we went into the ambulance

lights and sirens blasting

by everyone’s estimate there wasn’t much

time

the ventilator was struggling to keep

the blood oxygenation levels up

and despite everything that we can do

the blood pressure and heart rate

continuously dropped

by the time we got back to my hospital

we were in full resuscitation mode

including cpr

but sadly time ran out and the baby died

it wasn’t much after that that the

charred nurse informed me that the

father had followed the ambulance and

was anxiously waiting for me in the

waiting room

completely unaware that his son had just

died

now the senior physician in charge that

night

was someone that i greatly admired let’s

for the sake of confidentiality call him

dr cunningham tim as everyone knew him

was the smartest kindest and most

compassionate doctor i had ever known

the kind of doctor that i wanted to be

like someday

i saw that tragedy that night as an

opportunity to learn a life lesson

you see although i was very confident in

my clinical abilities as a doctor

the thought of telling someone tragic

news still scared me to death

i mean how do you tell somebody that

their baby died

i thought who better to learn from than

dr cunningham

so together tim and i walked down the

hallway towards the waiting room we

opened up the door to find a father who

was frantically pacing back

and forth and then what happened next

was and still is decades later

inexplicable to me this kind

compassionate doctor that i had grown to

admire

simply blurted out my name’s dr

cunningham

your baby died

well the father he went crazy i remember

he punched a hole in the wall he knocked

the table lamp

over and he made a scream and a sound

that i had never heard before

after a few moments of discussion and

what seemed like hours of crying i took

the father to see his son

i spent a few minutes with him and then

i left him alone

when i walked back out into the hallway

dr cunningham was waiting for me

he grabbed me by my shoulders and he

pulled me in really close

and i can see that there were tears in

his eyes

and he said to me in this quivering firm

voice

do you see what i just did don’t ever

do that and he turned around walked down

the hallway onto the fire escape and

spent the next 20 minutes crying

you see i realized that night medicine’s

not about science or technology

medicine’s not just about how smart or

skilled you are as a physician

it’s not even about how kind you are as

a person

at its core medicine is about that human

to human interaction between a patient

and a doctor it’s about the ability to

convey your compassion

regardless of whether you’re delivering

tragic news or you’re meeting a patient

for the first time

but somehow we got away from that in the

united states alone we spend trillions

of dollars each year on health care and

the costs are steadily increasing

advances in medicine have led to

state-of-the-art diagnostic tools

and life-saving procedures and drugs

that were unimaginable just a few

decades ago

yet studies still show that a

significant number of patients

are still unhappy with their medical

provider

in a recent internet survey that we

performed

71 of patients who responded stated that

they often felt a lack of compassion

from their doctor

73 percent stated that they frequently

left the hospital

or doctor’s office feeling rushed and

without all their questions being

answered

and an amazing 39 percent stated that

they had such a bad interaction

that it led them to change providers

the system’s just not working medicine

has become more and more about increased

documentation electronic medical records

and maximized efficiency doctors and

nurses

are being asked to do more and more work

in less and less time

professional burnout among doctors and

nurses is at an

all-time high and did you know

that doctors now have the highest rate

of suicide of any profession

this has unknowingly and unwillingly

caused us to become task oriented

instead of what we should be

patient oriented the good news is

that together you and i we can begin to

fix health care right now

not by spending loads of money but by

simply getting back

to what really matters did you know that

a patient

who feels a connection with their doctor

even if they met them for the first time

is more likely to take their medicine

more likely to follow up and yes have

better treatment outcomes

that’s why a medical provider’s ability

to communicate and build trust

is more important than ever so as a

doctor

how do i begin to build that trust well

it starts off by first

being a relatable person and a doctor

second

you know my mother used to say to me all

the time she used to say anthony

it’s hard to fire your best friend no

matter how successful i became she’d

constantly remind me she’d say

don’t forget it’s hard to fire your best

friend

i used to think why is my mother always

so afraid i’m going to get fired

it wasn’t until much later that i

realized what she was saying

in her own way my mother was telling me

to be nice to everyone

but more importantly she was telling me

to get to know everyone

not just on a professional basis but on

a personal level as well

it’s so important for doctors and nurses

to take just a few minutes to get to

know their patients each and every time

and build rapport

because once rapport is built trust will

follow

systems they’re designed for the masses

but medicine only works when doctors can

treat patients

as people one at a time

good health care starts and ends with

good communication

so if you’re a doctor and you’re feeling

rushed maybe becoming task oriented just

stop

recognize it sit down put your laptop

aside and just

get to know your patient imagine that

you’re the patient

put yourself in their shoes and your

natural compassion will just flow

because

once you can connect as two relatable

people

or as my mother would say as best

friends

that’s where medicine works its best

now you might be asking what can i do as

a patient to make sure i get the very

best health care

well the most important thing is to know

that your health care is more important

than any system you control your

healthcare because you

can control the conversation it’s okay

to expect that personal connection

with every doctor or nurse that you meet

even if you met them for the first time

so here’s the secret

next time you go to the doctor or the

hospital unless it’s an emergency

don’t talk medicine share something

personal first

if your doctor seems preoccupied or

rushed

that’s okay ask them how their day’s

going

tell them about a recent vacation you

went on and asked them if they’ve had a

recent one

ask them if they saw the game yesterday

i’ll be willing to bet that if you do

that

you’ll see your doctor relax perhaps

even smile

once you can connect and build that

commonality

the conversation will go so much better

we have a choice we can continue on this

path

to impersonal health care or we can get

back to what really matters

a trusting relationship between two

relatable people with one goal in mind

your health thank you