Finding Our Positive Self Talk
hello
everyone it is so
great to be here in front of a live
audience it feels so good doesn’t it
thank you i want you
to take a moment and think about
how many times you talk to yourself
in one day
what was the first thing you said to
yourself this morning
before you opened your eyes
i want you to hold on to those words
i talk to myself about a hundred times a
day
and that’s not exaggerating first thing
i said to myself this morning
breathe and then i said
and i realized what was happening
tonight
i said do not trip on stage
if some of you have seen my social media
videos you know exactly where i’m going
with this
i have tripped in front of a live
audience
i have knocked things over
my family can attest to that
and i have stumbled over my words
my words so think about this
our words we get stuck
using negative phrases negative words
all the time
we beat ourselves up
i know we’ve heard this before
i can’t finish my homework there’s not
enough time
i will never meet the right person
i’m always home
and then this one i have gained so much
weight
i do not fit into any of my clothes
we talk about ourselves to ourselves
all the time but it’s when we
turn those negative phrases those
negative
comments into something more positive
i can finish my homework
i will meet someone
i am beautiful
it’s hard it’s very hard i’m not going
to lie to you
but it can be done i’ve had to do it
and when i say it has to become my
morning
my afternoon and my night
that’s what gets me through the day
so yes i talk to myself a lot
i own a women’s clothing store and gift
shop
my vision was to create a comfortable
space
where people would feel confident
walking through the door without any
judgment
we created this personal shopping
experience because that’s what it’s all
about
it’s about the people walking through
the door
it’s not about me
we have these signs all over the walls
so when you walk in you feel our
messages
take your place make your mark and live
your life
we all want to feel our best we want to
laugh
don’t we we want to feel inspired
that’s part of our self-care
this one she’s in the fitting room be
the best version of you
this one beauty does come in all shapes
and sizes
you might get a laugh out of this one
you decide which one you are
and this next one here well this speaks
for itself
i want to tell you a story
there was a woman that walked into the
store
with this little boy she’s walking
around
and i could hear her talking to herself
i can’t wear this this will never fit
so i give her a moment and then i ask
her if there’s something i can help her
with
she smiles and she looks at me and she
says darling everything is beautiful in
here
but i could never wear anything
i’m much too old i’m a grandmother
as she points to the little boy so i
laugh
and i say to her do you have a few
minutes
i said sure i said i’m going to put
something together for you
put it in the fitting room and then you
tell me
how you feel
so she she smiles i bring her over to
the fitting room
about two minutes pass and all of a
sudden
i’m at my desk she opens up those
curtains and she looks at me and she
says
i cannot believe that this fits
the face the smile
she said i can’t tell you the last time
i put on a pair of denim i
smiled i looked at her and then her
little grandson was with her
sitting in the chair and i said but how
do you
feel she said
i feel like a million bucks
true story i replied back to her and i
said
that’s what i wanted to hear
so we had a cute little laugh and i said
i’ll meet you over by the desk
right so she comes over she’s cashing
out
and as she’s leaving
she turns and she looks at me as she’s
walking out the door
said i want to thank you for making me
feel so good
about myself
i will see you next week
i smiled and i said thank you
one week later there we were
coveted
i didn’t want to get out of bed i didn’t
even want to open my eyes
i was depressed
completely defeated
everything i had worked we had worked so
hard for
was falling to pieces
i was numb
there’s no other words but num
all those signs that i hand
picked for the boutique
meant nothing they disappeared
as if they didn’t even exist
that’s when we knew we had
to recreate the store
i knew i had to change my way of
thinking
i had stopped all of the negative
comments all of the negative head
chatter
i had to reinvent myself
talk about a deep conversation
we did it we went online
at that time everything was shop from
home
because that’s what everyone was doing
you’re on your phones you’re on your
computer
i figured it out i had to create a
website
knew nothing about websites
but i had to do it i had to become
focused i had to become determined
and i had to become productive every
single day
we went online social media the facebook
i mean
everyone was shopping from home
instagram personal shopping
virtual shopping who would have thought
we had to do it i knew
it was the survival of our business
that if we didn’t think if i didn’t
think
of something better
i wouldn’t have been able to reopen our
door
i had to do these live videos in front
of a live
audience do you know how hard that is
but it feels good
i want you to go back to those words
that you said to yourself this morning
before you opened your eyes
some of you well maybe you’ll laugh at
what you said
others may have realized that
something has changed
the struggles that we face
the obstacles that are thrown
in front of us the unthinkable
situations they make us tired
very tired but i know
i know it’s an opportunity
to make us stronger
and it makes us stronger and better as
long as we stay committed
and positive
i can i will
end of story thank you
you