Change the question What do you want to be when you grow up

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what do you want to be

when you grow up a question that most of

us

are asked multiple times throughout our

lives

but how do we answer the question notice

the question itself

is not what do you want to do but what

do you want to be

and that question implies that we

integrate

a part of ourselves into our work

now that makes sense because on average

a person spends over 100

000 hours of their lifetime working

therefore that quality of our work

experience

has a direct impact on the quality of

our over

lying life experience now that makes it

a little bit disheartening to hear the

fact that

70 percent of people are not engaged

in their work according to the gallup

organization

this is actually the case worldwide

and not only that 70 percent of people

are not

engaged in their work but many of them

are also unsatisfied and unfulfilled

with the work that they’re doing now i

personally feel

very lucky to have found a career path

that aligns with my strengths

and my talents but i can personally

relate

to having experienced that overwhelming

sense of

dissatisfaction with my own work

i can think about one of the times that

i was at my absolute lowest

it was a friday afternoon at five

o’clock and i was walking out of work

so relieved to be heading into the

weekend i walked through the parking lot

got in my car and started driving before

i had even completely

exited the parking lot i was hit with an

overwhelming amount of dread

just knowing that i would have to drive

back into that parking lot

and go into work on monday morning

i absolutely hated

my job i remember asking myself how did

i let this happen

how did i get here now as i mentioned

a lot has changed since then for the

last decade i’ve been teaching

and coaching helping others to develop a

career path

that they love i’m a master certified

executive coach

and a business professor so what changed

what shifted specifically

what i changed was my own career

narrative or my career script

instead of focusing on what i thought i

wanted to be

when i grew up i started focusing on

what my values were what was most

important to me

and the impact that i wanted to make

what if we all shifted our mindset

and instead of focusing on trying to fit

ourselves

into a career or into a job

we found a path that fit us

this takes a very radical perspective

shift

in how we think about work and how we

think about

doing those things that matter to us the

most

now in doing this research i’ve come

across a number of quotes

that have had a big impact on me but one

stands out specifically

and this is a quote by ralph waldo

emerson

the quote is do not go where the path

may lead

go instead where there is no path

and leave a trail now as it turns out

he was on to something with this making

your own path

and leaving a trail

according to dell technologies and the

institute for the future

up to 85 percent of jobs

that will exist just 10 years from now

have never

even been invented yet now that’s a

pretty big challenge for all of us

trying to prepare for a job

that might not even exist yet

for a college student who’s entering

into a four-year degree program

it might not even be possible for them

to enter into that program and acquire

every single skill that the industry is

going to need by the time they graduate

just four years later

another example how many students back

in 2017

started down a path that would fully

prepare them to become

blockchain engineers yet between 2017

and 2020 the demand for blockchain

engineers grew by over 400 percent

according to hired a company that

sources and recruits

technology candidates so hopefully we’re

getting at the why here why this is so

important but let’s shift gears and talk

about the how

what can we actually do with this

information

specifically we can focus on becoming

lifelong learners and developing

a consistent and disciplined practice

of assessing our vocation and our values

now unfortunately you can’t just program

a computer

or take an assessment to give you the

answer to this important question

or use that very famous harry potter

sorting hat

although that would be pretty cool

instead we need to do this important

internal work

we need to assess our passions and then

we need to design

a path that meets our needs on multiple

levels allowing us to each create

our own career script

now this narrative or this script is

uniquely

personal to each one of us but it’s so

important that we learn

to not just follow it to the letter

like any creative process or drafting

process

it’s going to be a little bit messy so

we need to embrace that messiness

we need to own it and we need to

especially make sure that we never

let someone else write it for us

when we do this work and we take this

ownership

we become authentic career leaders

in our own lives and becoming an

authentic career leader in your own life

this puts you in the driver’s seat of

your career

by assessing your strengths and your

passions

and designing and creating a career path

that fits into your life in a meaningful

way

so let’s break down vocation and values

the first step in this very important

process

is to think about a vocation

instead of a job a vocation

is an answer to a call from beyond

ourselves

it’s an invitation to use our talents

and to use our gifts

to make the world a better place and we

do this through our service

through our creativity and through our

leadership

the second step in this important

process is to assess

our values now fulfillment in work

comes when those work and life values

that are most

important to us are met through our work

so it’s critical that the organizations

we

choose to work for share at least

the most important of those values

otherwise what we end up experiencing

is that internal sense of conflict and

turmoil

and general feeling that we just cannot

be ourselves

when we’re at work so what are values

simply values are the things that we

each find to be

the most valuable or desirable

and they form the basis for how we make

decisions

about what we’re willing to do or not do

and each of us has our own unique system

of these values

and it forms the lens that we look

through to determine how we feel about

our work

and how we feel about the impact that

that work has

on society so all right

i know that this takes reflection

this takes time but i found that there

are three

questions we can ask ourselves to

determine if we’re living our vocation

and our values question number one

does your work help you to feel more

alive

question number two does your work allow

you to create

value for yourself and for other people

and question number three are you doing

the things

that matter to you if you can answer yes

to these three questions and

make a living congratulations you have

hit the career jackpot

because jobs and work they’re going to

continue to evolve

the speed of change is only accelerating

so we need to look at learning as a

lifelong

process not just something that happens

between that age of 5

and 22 we need to create

and embrace every opportunity we can for

project

based learning and training that helps

us to develop

new skills reskilling and upskilling

that we’re hearing

so much about right now it’s not

just about developing the latest high

tech skills

it’s all about becoming multi-faceted

and multi-dimensional and it’s just as

important

to focus on acquiring those

interpersonal skills

those skills that will help you to

weather whatever changes or shifts

end up coming your way as you think

about the future

think about how can you become a better

collaborator

a critical thinker a stronger

communicator

and a powerful positive leader this

mindset

is all about continuous learning

it’s all about adopting that beginner’s

mind

in a beginner’s mind that’s being open

and

eager to learn new skills no matter

what your current level of expertise is

this is very well becoming our new

norm earned you norm of being open open

to new jobs

open to new industries and open to new

learning opportunities

so let’s change the question instead of

asking

what do you want to be when you grow up

let’s ask what mark do you want to leave

what impact do you want to have what

challenges

do you want to solve and how do you want

to live your vocation

through your values