Microaggressions What they are and how to stop them

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how y’all doing

i’m ryan watson davis and today i’m

going to be talking to you guys about

microaggressions so raise your hand if

you even know what a microaggression is

if you don’t you’re ignorant but no

offense

let me explain if you

don’t know any information that was

never given to you

you’re ignorant that’s okay you can be

ignorant now when you get information

and now you reject it

now you stupid

so today i’m going to absolve

your ignorance of microaggressions

microaggressions are a one-sided

behavior or

statement that may seem harmless but

really discriminates

against a marginalized group for example

um somebody may say hey

you’re pretty for a black girl not to

boost myself but i’m

i think i’m pretty regardless like

i don’t have to be a certain race in

order to be pretty

i can just be pretty or if someone says

oh you’re doing that that’s so gay

that discriminates against the lgbt

lgbtqia community

that may or may that definitely may hurt

their feelings

so in order to stop those you just need

to

criticize you need to evaluate and you

need to acknowledge

criticize what the microaggression

was really intended to mean was it

intended to hurt your feelings

was it set out of ignorance

you never know not until you ask that’s

why you also need to evaluate

your microaggression might hurt someone

else so if someone does

say that hey this hurt my feelings

evaluate that your feelings are hurt

that you did might you did hurt

someone’s feelings

so also acknowledge acknowledge that

i hurt someone’s feelings if someone

tells you that they

got their feelings hurt by something

like of what you said

their feelings are valid don’t get

defensive

don’t get angry just acknowledge that

you hurt someone’s feelings and then

say i’m sorry let me try that again

i’m just curious about abc and d

and then i’ll tell you about def

simple so

another thing that is very important

about microaggressions microaggressions

would be the bystander

effect does anyone know the bystander

effect if you’re familiar

shoot your hand up right quick okay

well just in case you’re ignorant

the bystander effect is when you observe

things going on

but you don’t actively participate

for example if someone said you might be

a little cuter if you lost a little

weight

now if you hear it

and you just standing there and you just

looking at him

you’re a bystander now sorry to say

you are a bystander but a strong

link in the chain of diversity is allies

if you hear something that is out of

pocket or that might hurt someone else’s

feelings

speak up say some i know it’s scary

i really do know but imagine how scared

the person is who is receiving

the microaggression imagine how they’re

feeling

what are they supposed to say what are

they supposed to do

if it was set out of ignorance do they

know that it was offensive

if it was said with ill intention

how will you know ask

stand up for each other we

all we got so we really just need to

work together

get rid of these microaggressions if you

do have a true question

just ask rather than trying to give a

backhanded compliment

or accidentally hurting someone else’s

feelings

but if you do three things just

criticize

evaluate and acknowledge

and we’ll all be unified

no matter how diverse we are thank you

for coming to my ted talk

thank you