FQ The New EQ
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i was lucky to be alive with all the
travels i did in my parents car
i always thought i was safe when i was
in my parents family car when i grew up
in france
my dad always drove carefully no chance
of having a speeding ticket
or tire squealing on a tight corner he
always chose a car with high safety
features
rather for his fancy accessories as i
was born in france
which might explain the accident i have
always felt safe in the family renu or
peugeot
but then when i heard recently that
nearly 50 percent of women have more
chance to suffer severe injuries and car
crashes than men
this makes me wonder makes me upset
actually and makes me wonder
why this unfairness in a different
country
and eager to want to be part of the
change safety features
are designed for men do we as women even
know this
divorce men who design them even know
this
i’m sure those men who design for safety
features
love their daughters and wives or
partner and want them safe
but have not even thought their needs
were different from women
it’s so ingrained in our dna and mindset
that we don’t even think about
questioning it even us women or
young girls think think about the
position of the head the body weight the
height the hips
how we as a woman sit in the car
look at me do i look big all those
dummies used to simulate car crashes are
designed for men’s height
of 177 meters and at weighting at least
77 kilos
with a statue that’s bigger than most of
the woman
how can an airbag designed for men save
a female driver or passenger
i report then that i was lucky not to
have been involved in a serious car
crash
i would not have any chance really as
women
we are nearly 20 more chance to die in a
car crash because we are forgotten
in the safety equation example continues
that we are living in the word design
for men
i’m not even talking about women’s
rights in less fortunate countries or
pay gaps
in even civilized countries in a less
dramatic aspect
our workplace is not designed for women
the average temperature of our office is
five degrees celsius too
cold for women which impacts on women’s
productivity
as we are not working in a comfortable
environment
how many of us need to have jumpers or
scarf with us at work
do you know that women are more likely
to own an iphone than men
still they are designed for man’s hand
woman’s hand side is smaller than men’s
and the phone is not so comfortable for
us for example
it’s harder to type with our thumb which
can’t reach the whole keypad
if held in one hand safety armor for the
police of the army
or astronaut suits are designed for men
and not
women moreover girls or women are less
present
in children’s books wonder why we don’t
exist
in real life our word is designed by
men for men despite the fact that 50
of the population is female when we talk
about amazing people who hold strong
views about
gender equality we think about malala
ruth bader ginsburg michelle obama
melinda gates
would it be more meaningful and
impactful if men also can’t stand up
and be known for their fight to have
women in a gender parity equation
we need to stop and think and rethink
carrion said thinking is difficult
that’s why
most people judge it’s easy to judge
it’s more difficult to understand we
would need compassion
courage honesty and emotional wisdom
why are we taking the easiest way
even when we say that we are very
open-minded and not prejudiced
these bias still appear i shared one day
to a business concert part
about a new concept which i believe can
revolutionize the word
no not an invention not something which
can save the world of wars or conflict
but a new way of thinking that can help
at least
50 percent of people to embrace how they
want to be
i say the launch f q
not f i said it slowly
fq is the new feature for the new decade
we need to embrace and practice fq my
friend almost choked of laughter while
eating vietnamese for soup
i think he heard something else my
perceived root net in using the word
fq could not come out from my mouth
fq is the new eq of the 2020s
it sounds provocative it is it is
because it’s a mindset shift
it stands for feminine caution if the
word is roughly
50 50 men and women we need to move
forward
from a male design word to a more
holistic way to embrace the woman’s
wisdom this has remained silent
in so many ways this way we can have
more collaboration and broader views of
what we respect means
and what intelligence means for
thousands of years we have lived in an
mq word where the agenda has mostly been
set by men
mq a masculine cautioned
focusing on competition overconfidence
drive ambition
power aggressivity and self-promotion
research show there are a lot of
positive leadership traits
that men can learn from women or focus
on self-awareness
rather than self-belief motivation for
transformation
putting others ahead of yourself
empathizing rather than commending
empowering others stronger humility and
compassion
this is fq the opportunity to tap into
trades that women tend to excel in
men can do this and when they do they
provide room for women to influence
their agenda
more effectively than quotas and
positive discrimination
don’t get me wrong i am not going to
talk about toxic masculinity
it’s 20 20 now and we need to add more
dimensions to the other kind of
intelligence
fq feminine caution no it’s not
something for women or for men
specifically it’s not a caution to be
more female
it’s not about renouncing your manhood
either
it’s about embracing perspective in a
more holistic way
and elevating the gender debate beyond
quotas and positive discrimination
moving from mq masculine caution to
fq feminine caution is an opportunity
for men
to be more attuned to women’s
aspirations and struggles
it’s an opportunity to learn about
women’s strengths and leadership traits
is about
humbly recognizing and embracing other
ways of thinking
it’s not a gender parity or gender
biased debate
it’s a subtle mindset shift to work and
live more collaboratively
with more respect and empathy if we have
more fq
the gender discussion should be history
we should not even have that discussion
really
we need to have more fq in our workplace
education institution
home so to have access to more holistic
and agile mindsets
i was motivated to work on a more
complete framework
which can help my two uni age daughters
to move to a more equal compassionate
and understanding
working environment where they will be
respected for their brains
and contribution rather than for their
appearances
as jacinda ardern the prime minister of
new zealand said i can be compassionate
and strong this is the word i like to
see our children aspiring towards
we need a shift of mindset and we think
of our beliefs
even if we think we are already
open-minded
the framework i will share with you will
help us to move forward
today’s millennials and gmz women are
the daughters of granddaughters of women
who took lead roles in their workplaces
young women and young men see women in
position of power
that previous generation never saw it’s
less about women
versus men and more about changing our
mindset and perceptions
women rate higher than their male
counterparts in 17 out of 21 leadership
skills
including courage drive and
collaboration
women have greater sense of intensity
thanks to deeper self-awareness
and sense of purpose according to
research
female leaders are doing a better job
than men have been honest
ethical developing obvious and better at
standing up for what they believe in and
inspiring others to do the same
obviously those two north american
political leaders
don’t represent all political leaders a
pity weary
and then we have all the famous people
who also show
fq from authenticity to compassion to
emotional courage
and is fq just for men
no not at all we also have inspiring
women who are reminding us to never
forget
how we can contribute to a better world
it all starts with a mindset a belief
that rooted standard
can be challenged and changed it’s about
understanding oneself first
and then obvious showing compassion
standing up for what you believe is
right
choosing not to remain silent and
compliant and influencing others
positively a long time ago when i did my
mba in california
one of my male peers said that he would
not
marry a clever woman and is too much
trouble
that stays with me for years this is
authenticity
true but lacking of courage compassion
and emotional intelligence
and it can be done also through
community the barcelona school
removed 200 sexist children books from
its library
other schools are following now the harm
to girls is obvious they learn that they
are not really meant to take up space in
the world
that their voices don’t matter as much
they are coached
to expect little how to practice fq for
the new decade
what is fq fq
is awareness of the feminine aspect of
the authenticity intelligence
courage intelligence compassion
intelligence
and emotional intelligence the common
factor for demonstrating fq through
authenticity
courage compassion and emotional
intelligence is
awareness step one
awareness we need to be aware of the
need to challenge our own belief
habits and add value to our daughters
wives granddaughters partner more of his
lives
we cannot be father husband grandparents
partner manager
board member or ceo and thinking this is
good enough
for them it’s about doing more to be
more
and be better for ourselves and for
others
we need to be self-aware so that we can
initiate change
for our community that we are part of
the change
we are catalysts for change at work at
board level home
schools step 2
authentic intelligence we need to find
authentic being
and adjust our expectation we need to
move away from pr image and woman quota
on board
or company at any level women have a
greater sense of authenticity
thanks to deeper self-awareness and
sense of purpose
according to a paper by conferring on
women in leadership
it’s about walking the talk showing our
heart to embrace diversity and inclusion
it’s more than a number to suit a
priest’s diversity requirement
it’s not about numbers it’s not about
seeing women as a threat
but seeing women’s valuable
contributions
it’s about a mindset shift at home and
at work
it’s about being proud of understanding
that we have done our best to reach out
promote respect and embrace a new fq
mindset first step
courage intelligence no one is a
superhero
we all fear when we are not sure where
we are
presenting or debating a new idea or
when we’re standing up for what we
believe in
what should we be improving what should
be challenged
it’s not because it is that it should be
we cannot be bulletproof but
we can draw on courage to embrace our
purpose
we accept and acknowledge that we can
show up
and be who we want to become and accept
that
fear can lead to change as brennan brown
said
we dare to lead it takes courage because
we need to face deception
disappointment arguments fix mindset we
need to
show courage to show up share our
vulnerability to connect
and trust at a deeper level
fourth step is compassionate
intelligence
we need to create some space inside
ourselves and tune in with
an outside environment taking action to
help others to feel fulfilled
if we think that someone or if a gender
is a threat maybe we might like to work
on our self-esteem
as a first step we need to show empathy
to tap into emotions that always are
feeling act with compassion and show
that we care
we need to create space inwards for
connection and self-connection
and when we practice gratitude
mindfulness kindness we are allowing
others to be
who they are we foster a stronger sense
of belonging and inclusion
the meaning of goal is to focus towards
a better future
for our female colleagues managers staff
sisters mothers and daughters
last step is emotional intelligence
eq emotions drive people
it’s more productive to be driven by
passion dedication purpose
than being repressed by low empowerment
unfulfilled potential and a sense of
unfairness
we need to know who we are how our
emotions affect us
and how to connect emotionally with
others
when was the last time you connected
deeply with someone
when was the last time you inspired your
colleagues at work
because you feel what they feel
a strong sense of empathy towards the
female gender
is an asset for board or any type of
position
in the workplace we need to allow some
emotional space
to embrace different ways of leading we
need to want
to establish deep relationship with the
people we work with
we need to relate honest the wisdom of
each emotion we all feel
and when we connect with our family
members or colleagues
we need to know their triggers the
drivers
everything starts with self-awareness
we can learn a lot from female leaders
especially now for copied 19 leading
with empathy and compassion
wholeheartedly has been shown to work
better than traditional male policies
where people are considered as resources
to use and command
remember how women leaders led lately
for coverage
authenticity compassion courage
and emotional intelligence
we need to have the courage to stop and
notice how women lead
and learn from them
we also need to take risk do the right
thing
even if we are afraid or even if we have
to create a new path
or ask questions disrupting the status
quo
getting out of our comfort zones we need
to step
into challenges to realize our purpose
we are writing the future of the current
and next generation for our daughters
wives friends colleagues fq is
measurable
and trainable there are no excuses not
to move forward
as angela davis said once i’m no longer
accepting the things i cannot change
i’m changing the things i cannot accept
i want a word for my two daughters at
work where there is
fq more authenticity courage compassion
and more wisdom
in using our emotions i want them to be
safe in
any car it should be designed for
everyone
i invite you to join me in this quest
thank you