sometimes it's not about what decision

you make just make one and commit to it

i think there's actually more value to

unpacking that

than even i'm giving it credit for

because we

you res your a versus b what do i do

what do i do what do i do what i do what

and as you know boom that window of

opportunity shuts

or you sit there and what i do i'm not

sure i'm going to do this what do this a

day goes by a week goes by a month goes

by

that girl that guy they're gone they

moved to another town that job opening

went to someone else that purchased

the now what i do what do i do what i do

a year goes by i got friends

that decades gone by

a lifetime's going by because they're

still away in these two things and

i think a lot of times it's like

just choose one and jump

the repercussions aren't near as bad as

we think they are even if you choose the

wrong one if we commit to one of the

choices if it's the wrong one it will

reveal itself to be the wrong one more

quickly and clearly

if we jump and don't just dangle our toe

in it if we give it justice going i'm

going to try and make this work i'm

going wholehearted

it'll reveal itself to be the right or

wrong choice if it's the right one if

it's a 50 50 chance bam i'm so damn glad

i jumped and took the opportunity when

it came i hit i hit the gap i took it if

it's the wrong one we're like oh whoa

this is not this is not right well now

we found out quickly enough to pull the

parachute and abort and back out or we

jump in hard enough something brand new

reveals itself because the options are

compounding with whatever choice we make

make one and find out and

what's the big deal that's another

percent what's the big deal if it's a

wrong choice

we got more time than we think time is

on our side more than we give it credit

for

what's the big deal that people go well

i don't want to do it because i want to

waste that time in my life i don't know

that's the wrong thing and you end up

saying that for weeks months years

decades

when you look up you're like going oh

i'm still measuring which one i should

do and now i'm in my 40s now i'm in my

50s now i'm in my sick

whoa just try it

it's the worst it can happen it's the

wrong decision so what reset come on

back i at least i found out

so i think it's i think that's a good

one for us all to remember we're going

through this rodeo of life sometimes

it's not really

which decision

that's most important

and

dissecting them into

limbo

just

or dissecting them into immobility

dissecting them into paralysis just pick

one

go

try one try it out what's the worst

thing you order the wrong thing on the

menu damn it i knew i should order that

other thing well now you know so next

time you come back now you you

eliminated one now you know what to

order

and in my own life and around my own

family we laugh at our warts we bring

them up we shine lights on them

where we don't get

we've been taught don't get embarrassed

about your screw-ups let's shine a light

on them

laugh out and move right on and carry on

that's part of who we are actually

preferably and i don't think that's just

for say me and my immediate family who i

was around i think that's for for most

of us i think that's a good thing for us

all to learn those things we cover up

society tells us to cover up so much

whatever they are whether they're warts

or demons or whatever they're gonna come

out and be revealed

sometime in the future so why not just

uncover it and go

here it is here's who i am i'm doing the

best i can i screwed up i failed over

here i tried this one but it didn't work

out uh my bogey sorry um whatever those

things are live a little more

transparently

and again in this if we do that

individually we're also more

forgiving and resilient and pe with with

ourselves and others we take we start

taking more responsibility because we're

not

fearful

of the failure maybe we we start to have

more generosity uh which all those

things lead to more freedom i do believe

and that's not just for me i think that

is for

all of us so the characters though if

you look at the last 12 years of work

who've i played

very

men on an island

men who had their own personal

sort of ethos of how they were going

through the word they weren't

characters that were following the

matters and graces of the of the the

mean of the times they were on the

outskirts they're a bit outsiders

i love their independence i left their

self-sufficient i love their will to

survive i love their will to uh um

there's certain inherent sense of

optimism of i'm going to make this work

i'll die for it well if you can find a

character if i can find a character

that's like no i'm what i want i'll i'm

willing to die for whoa that's power

now boy if we can find that kind of

thing in life

those non-negotiable things we're like

non-negotiable

now

if we're on page 62 and i'm fighting the

non-negotiable and i'm gonna i'm gonna

die for it i'm well there we go i'm out

i make it to page 62. that's as far as

movie goes with me you know what i mean

or

how do i overcome that

i like finding characters that that run

into great resistance for which to have

the opportunity to overcome

um

i look for that

in my own life

sometimes i think we have to i know i do

have to create resistance maybe where

there's not resistance because i'm

looking around going kind of skating on

easy street right now

well sometimes when things are going

right and the breeze is at your back

enjoy it

because the uphill is coming but other

times you look and go

feeling the breeze behind my back i'm

only catching all green lights in my

life now because i'm really not taking

risks well maybe that's the time to go i

got to create some resistance i got to

reframe i got i got to make it a little

bit more difficult on myself so i can

dig deeper and figure something out

about what i want to do that's going to

be the right kind of risk or going to

make me feel more alive or turn me on

what did you uncover in your previous

journals where younger matthew is your

hero today

something you had to relearn again like

i already knew that when i was 14 and

i'm learning it again at 50.

there are things that i pulled off

got away with in my youth

that i still wake up

having nightmares

with today

but i only wake up have a night where's

with them today because now i know

better

and if i didn't know

then what i knew now

i'm i'm afraid i would have been able to

pull a lot of those things off the

ignorance is blistering there were

things i pulled off because my my

ignorance that i look back i'm like

going

dude you are so lucky how did you you

almost got killed

how did the percentage of you making out

of that situation alive if you went back

today are so low and we're so low then

because of your ignorance because of

your singular belief and that you could

pull this off without and and you didn't

you didn't get nervous at the situation

where most people would get nervous or

you went with the flow or you pulled the

bruce lee sensei time you know um

at the right moment to get out of the

jam

i try to keep as my friend

mark says

and the hero that i have back then is

keep the beginner's mind

because it's great to have knowledge

it's great to have context

at the same time we see it with kids our

kids all the time

their lack of context their lack of not

just to blatantly go do it because it's

just i didn't even think why think about

it don't need to explain it just do it i

don't know i ate the cake because i

wanted it but sweet it's right there

it's eat it

something beautiful about that

more than something beautiful about

there's something inherently uh

true about that that that as we grow

older we should not

put away is going to oh that's just you

oh that's that's just back when you're

you that's just the thrill of you no we

could still have those things and that's

going with full intuition and saying

like i'm don't give a damn about the

consequences let me bring this up

because i do think there is a

i found a consistency in people in the

youth year revolutionary right

30s you start to go some of that stuff

mom and dad taught me what was right

started taking a little responsibility

40 she kind of customized him yeah you

know what maybe i'm becoming a parent

maybe i'm saying yep yep yep i see how i

work in the world i'm responsible for

others and myself

somewhere in the 60s

it seems like a lot of people go back to

being the revolutionary

i don't know if it's the fact that you

go oh

subconsciously i'm on the back end of my

life so

what the hell's it all matter and why do

i give a damn about concert so that

beginner's mind which my mother has and

i find that a lot of people start to get

it as they get older in age

maybe after their kids are out of the

house or after they're like what does it

matter

you know what i'm just going to do my

own thing i'm about to die or something

maybe that's mine i don't know but

there's a call back there's a book and

it seems to me that a lot of life

bookends that people start off as that

revolutionary beginner's mind

get conscious get aware take

responsibilities

create their life and then all of a

sudden the the end go back to

what's it all matter let's rock i don't

care the consequences

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有时，这与您做出的决定无关，

只是做出一个决定并承诺

我做我做什么

，正如你所知道的那样，

机会之窗关闭了，

或者你坐在那里，我在做什么我

不确定我会做这件事

一天过去一周过去一个月

那个女孩 那个人 他们走了 他们

搬到了另一个城镇 职位空缺

去别人那里买

了 现在 我做什么 我做什么 我做什么

一年过去了 我有几十年过去

的朋友 因为他们

仍然在这两件事上遥遥无期，而且

我认为很多时候就像

只是选择一件然后

跳起来，

即使你选择了

错误的一件，如果我们承诺一件，后果也没有我们想象的那么糟糕

如果它是错误的选择，它会

更快地发现自己是错误的

很明显，

如果我们跳起来，不只是把脚趾伸进

去，如果我们给予正义，我

会努力完成这项工作，我

会全心全意，

它会表明自己是正确或

错误的选择 如果

它是一个 50 50 的机会 bam 我非常高兴

我跳了起来并抓住了机会

我击中了我击中了差距 如果它是错误的我抓住了它

我们就像哦哇哦

这不是这 现在不太好，

我们发现足够快，可以拉下

降落伞并中止并退出，或者我们

跳得足够猛，一些全新的东西会

暴露出来，因为这些选项

与我们做出的任何选择相结合，

并找出有

什么大不了的 另一个

百分比 如果这是一个

错误的选择，

那有什么大不了 我们得到的时间比我们认为

的更多

在我的生活中浪费时间我不知道

那是错误的事情而你最终

说这几周几个月几年

几十年

当你抬头时你就像去哦

我还在衡量我应

该做什么现在我已经 40 多岁现在我已经

50 多岁现在我生病了

哇 试试吧，

这是最坏的情况，这是

错误的决定，所以重置会

回来我至少我发现了，

所以我认为这是一个很好的

选择，让我们所有人记住我们

有时会经历这场人生的牛仔竞技表演

这并不是

最重要的决定，只是将

它们分解成

地狱

或将它们分解成无法动弹 将

它们分解成瘫痪 随便挑

一个

去

尝试一个 试试看 最糟糕的事情是什么

你点错了

菜单 该死的，我知道我应该 订购

其他东西现在你知道了所以

下次你回来现在你

消除了一个现在你知道该

订购什么在我自己的生活和我自己的

家人周围我们嘲笑我们的疣我们把

它们带出来我们照亮它们

在哪里 我们不明白

我们被教导 不要 为你的错误感到

尴尬让我们

对他们

大笑，然后继续前进

，这是我们实际上更喜欢的人的一部分

，我不认为这只是

为了说我和

我身边的直系亲属

我认为这对我们大多数人来说都是一件好事，我认为这对我们所有人来说都是一件好事，

了解那些我们掩盖

社会告诉我们要掩盖太多的

东西，无论它们是疣

还是恶魔，或者它们会出来

将来某个时候会被揭露，所以为什么不直接

揭开它然后去

这里它就是我是

谁 抱歉，无论这些

事情是什么，生活都会更加

透明

，如果我们单独这样做，

我们也会更加

宽容和有弹性，并且与

自己和他人相处我们开始

承担更多责任，因为我们

不

害怕 失败也许我们开始哈

更多的慷慨，嗯，所有这些

都会带来更多的自由，我确实相信

，这不仅仅是为了我，我认为这

是为了

我们所有人，所以如果

你看看过去 12 年的工作

，我扮演的角色

非常

男人 在岛上，

男人们有自己的个人

气质，他们是如何

经历这个词

的 有点局外人

我喜欢他们的独立我离开了他们

的自给自足我喜欢他们的

生存意愿我喜欢他们的意愿嗯嗯

有某种内在的

乐观感我会做好这项工作

如果可以的话我会为它而死

如果我能找到一个角色，如果我能找到一个角色

，不，我就是我想要的，我

愿意为哇哇现在的力量而死，

男孩如果我们能

在生活中找到那种事情

那些不可谈判的事情我们'

如果我们在第 62 页并且我正在与

非 -negotiable and I'm going I'm going to

die for it 我很好，我们走了

我喜欢找到

遇到巨大阻力的角色，以便

有机会克服，

嗯，

我

在自己的生活中寻找，

有时我想我们必须知道我确实

必须创造阻力，也许在

没有阻力的地方，因为我 我

环顾四周，现在在轻松的街道上滑冰，

有时事情进展

顺利，微风在你背后，

享受它，

因为上坡即将来临，但其他

时候你四处走走，

感受背后的微风，我

只是 现在抓住我

生活中的所有绿灯，因为我真的没有

很好地冒险也许是时候该走

了

深入挖掘并弄清楚

我想要什么 o 这样做会

是一种正确的冒险，或者

让我感觉更有活力，或者让我

了解你在以前的日记中发现了什么

，年轻的马修是你

今天的英雄，

你必须重新学习的东西，就像

我已经知道的那样，当 我 14 岁，

我 50 岁时又开始学习了。

有些事情

我在年轻时就摆脱了

，今天我仍然会做噩梦，

但我今天醒来时只有一个晚上

和他们在一起，因为现在我 知道

得更好

，如果我当时不

知道我现在知道的，

我担心我本来可以

摆脱很多这些

无知的

东西，我已经完成了一些事情，因为我的

无知我 回首过去

，

伙计，你真幸运，你

怎么差点被杀

因为

你独特的信念，你可以

在没有和你没有的情况下做到这一点，你没有

在大多数人会紧张的情况下感到紧张，或者

你顺其自然，或者你拉了

李小龙老师，你知道

在正确的时刻离开

正如我的朋友马克所说，我试图保持的果酱以及

我当时拥有的英雄是

保持初学者的头脑，

因为拥有知识真是太好

了 缺乏背景他们缺乏

不仅仅是公然去做，因为这

只是我什至没有想到为什么要考虑

它不需要解释它只是去做我

不知道我吃蛋糕是因为我

想要它但是 甜的 它就在那儿

它吃它

一些美丽的东西

比一些美丽

的东西 有一些内在的 呃

真实的 那个随着

年龄的增长我们不

应该放弃 哦 那就是你

你就是那种快感 你不，我们

仍然可以拥有这些东西，这

是完全凭直觉说的，

就像我不在乎

后果让我提出这个问题，

因为我确实认为

人工智能在青年年发现了人们的一致性

革命性的权利

30 多岁你开始去做一些

爸爸妈妈教我的东西 什么是正确的

开始承担一点责任

40 她有点定制他是的你

知道什么也许我正在成为

父母也许我在说是的是的我 看看

我在这个世界上是如何工作的 我对

他人和我自己负责

在 60 年代的某个地方

似乎很多人都

回到了革命者

我不知道这是不是你去的事实

哦

潜意识里我在 我

生命

的后半部分，这到底是怎么回事，

我为什么要在乎音乐会，所以

我母亲有这种初学者的想法，

我发现很多人

随着年龄的增长而开始得到它，

也许是在 他们的孩子不

在家或在 你就像这有什么

关系

你知道我要做我

自己的事我快死了或者是什么

也许那是我的我不知道但

有一个回电有一本书

在我看来 很多生活的书

挡是人们开始的，因为那个

革命性的初学者的头脑

变得有意识，意识到承担

责任，

创造他们的生活，然后

突然结束，回到

最重要的事情，让我们摇滚吧，我

不在乎后果

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