DONT SAY Im Fine Thank You And You
fun fact when I was in university I used
to talk in my sleep I’ll tell you more
about that at the end I’m teacher
Tiffany let’s jump right in all right
has anyone ever asked you this question
how are you
I’m quite sure they have and maybe your
answer was I’m fine thank you
and you stop saying this answer now I
know you’re probably shocked because a
lot of you learned this in books in your
English classes you learn to say I’m
fine thank you and you but in actuality
native English speakers don’t speak like
this so today I’m gonna teach you two
different ways to properly respond to
how are you now let’s jump right into my
screen here we go so there are two
different ways now the first way is give
a response that also includes a basic
question used by native English speakers
and the second way is to give a response
that also includes a connection question
used by native English speakers
so what we’re gonna do for today’s
lesson is we’re gonna look at these two
categories and I’m literally going to
give you natural ways of responding
based on these two categories so let’s
go to the first category remember giving
your response plus a basic question so
here we go alright now the first example
we have is this one and I have happy
answer + basic question now very quickly
when I say happy answer it means my
response is based on my feeling ok so
here we go I can say I’m doing great
things how about you so again first we
have how about you this is a way you can
respond with the basic question and
instead of saying and you you can say
how about you all right now next let’s
see let’s say for example you just want
to give a normal response I’m pretty
good thanks what’s new with you
alright so in English when we say what’s
new with you we are basically asking the
person what’s going on in your life is
there anything new or anything exciting
happening in your life and in English we
say what’s new with you all right so you
can use that one now let’s go to the
next example here we go the next one is
when you’re busy you can say I’ve been a
bit busy but okay now really quickly
guys I said I’ve been a bit busy so we
use a bit in front of busy to kind of
emphasize that yeah we’ve been a little
bit more busy than usual
you see I even added a bit right there
so you can start using that so again my
answer because I’m busy is I’ve been a
bit busy but okay now we have to figure
out how to ask them another question
right so again this is what I said how
have things been with you again how have
things been with you
so for pronunciation after me how have
things been with you great job this is
another natural way of asking a
follow-up question okay so next example
here we go you have a learning a lot in
this lesson now let’s say you’re
stressed so you can say things have been
a bit rough lately but they’re getting
better now let’s pause again when we say
a bit rough in English that’s another
way of expressing that we’re going
through a difficult time something that
is not easy to go through but English we
say a bit rough okay a bit rough now my
follow-up question
the person I’m talking to is here we go
how have you been one more time how have
you been now guys remember as you’re
watching this lesson you don’t have to
worry because all of the information is
in the free PDF and the link is in the
description you can always download the
free pdf that goes along with this
lesson okay all right let’s go back now
the question we’re gonna ask is again
how have you been
alright how have you been so next we
have satisfied and surplus a basic
question I can say never been better so
you can say that as well now never been
better is used when everything is going
great even the look of my face you can
see that Wow teacher Tiffany looks happy
no stress everything’s good hey never
been better
all right okay so now let’s see the
question we would ask them we can say
what about you again what about you
three simple words what about you hey me
man I have never been better
what about you so even when I use it
toward you you can feel oh wow teacher
Tiffany really wants to know how I’ve
been right okay now let’s jump to the
second category okay remember the second
category involves asking a connection
question so let me explain what that is
okay alright so moving on to the next
category with the connection question
again the happy answer we said I’m doing
great things now we have a connection
question I heard that you now the
underlined portion is the portion you
were gonna change I said got a new job
how’s that going alright guys so again
as we’re moving forward in this section
when you see the underlined portion
that’s the portion that you want to
change so for me I’m connecting with the
person I’m talking to I said hey I heard
that you got a new job how’s that going
I’m connecting my question to something
that I already know about this person
that’s another important aspect of
improving your English because it shows
that you’re thinking before you speak
make sense all right now let’s go to the
next example remember these patterns are
all in the PDF so don’t worry okay all
right so now let’s say we’re wanting to
give a normal answer again I’m pretty
good thanks
now here’s the connection question I saw
your Facebook post about your business
what’s the update all right so again
guys I saw something connected to the
person that I’m speaking to and I chose
to say hey I saw your Facebook post
about your business what’s the update I
want to know more information about
something that I saw that is going on in
the person’s life that’s what you want
to do so you can say I saw dot dot dot
what’s the update so you can use the
same pattern again you’re gonna sound
more natural and more like a native
English speaker when you use these
responses to how are you instead of just
saying I’m fine thank you and you you
don’t want to sound like a robot you
want to sound more natural okay so let’s
keep going here we go all right now our
next one is the busy answer again we
said I’ve been a bit busy but okay now
we say I remember that you said you were
also working on some things any update
all right so now again the underlined
portion remember I said also working on
some things so the portion the pattern
you want to memorize is I remember that
you said you were and then put something
there so think about a conversation you
had with this person ah I remember that
you said you were trying to get a new
job any update so again the person
listening will really want to respond to
you and a
appreciate the fact that you’re
connecting with them again showing your
English fluency is improving alright so
next example here we go now for the next
one we have the stressed answer so
things have been a bit rough lately but
they’re getting better now
I know your mom had some good news
recently how is she so I have the now in
parentheses because you don’t have to
say that but you can so with this one
it’s very important that you think of
some information that has happened to
this person or something that you know
is going on in their life right so you
say I know you were trying to get a
plane ticket to Paris how is that going
you see I thought about what this person
told me or what they were doing and I
connected it to my question for them
okay so again you can use that pattern
and it will change the pattern will stay
the same but the information will change
depending on who you’re speaking to
again very important when it comes to
showing your fluency okay all right now
remember one more here we go so the next
one again is the satisfied answer hey
I’ve never been better you are also
looking quite happy any special reason
alright so I like this one because
you’re not just focusing on yourself you
say hey I’ve never been better but hey
you know what you are also looking very
good any special reason or you are also
looking amazing any special reason so
you see remember English conversation is
all about this going back and forth back
and forth so this person gave me a
compliment
then while they asked me how are you and
I said yeah I’m good I am amazing I’ve
never been better so I’m happy but I
also want to know and one ask the person
I’m talking to hey why are you happy
what makes you so happy using this
pattern again you are also looking dot
dot dot
any special reason so again let’s look
at real quick again one more time you
are also looking quite happy any special
reason
alright so guys again we looked at two
different categories one where we gave a
response and a basic question and the
second one gave in response and we added
a connection question guys this is
really how you begin to answer the
question how are you more naturally and
more like a native English speaker I
really hope you guys enjoyed this lesson
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you still there I didn’t forget so
here’s the story one day my best friend
came to my room when I was in university
and she said hey TIFF how are you tips
my nickname I said I’m good how are you
she said do you remember anything from
last night I said no I slept really well
last night how about you she said oh I
slept good but before I went to bed I
had a conversation with you I said you
didn’t die I clearly remember going to
sleep before you last night our rooms
were across from each other at our dorm
and she said no no I called you last
night at 11:30 p.m.
she said not only did I call you but a
group of our friends called you I said
huh
she said yeah we called you at 11:30 and
had a full conversation and I told them
that you talk in your sleep I was blown
away she told me that they called me on
the phone they asked me questions I gave
them answers and then I said all right
guys have a good night talk to you later
and I didn’t remember anything so we had
a good laugh and she told me TIFF you
have to be careful because you don’t
know what you say when you’re asleep so
that’s something funny about me guys the
fact that you probably didn’t know that
I talked in my sleep when I was in
university and I still may talk in my
sleep but I’ll never know I’ll see you
guys next week