How to Date a Native English Speaker Learn English
please don’t forget to like the video
hit the like button on YouTube and on
Facebook it will help other people to
find the video and join us live and see
it later as well so please please please
hit the like button it’s very helpful
okay so all right I see YouTube is up it
looks like Facebook is up now - great I
see Isaac hi
and luan in the facebook chat fantastic
okay I think everything’s up YouTube
chat I see you also Mohamed from Egypt
Fernando yes it is really live right now
Daniel from Brazil Maria from Oregon hi
I grew up in Oregon I’m happy to see you
great alright everybody is here so we’ll
give just a little bit more time for
everyone else to join us so I always
like to do a quick review of last week’s
lesson last week if you joined us we
talked about internet slang we talked
about internet slang with like words
like what did we talk about be right
back and talk to you later and by the
way and so on so I want to show how I
actually use this in my life
today I have usually I have something
from Twitter or Instagram so today I
want to share something that I that I
posted on Instagram last
sad or dead no Friday Friday this
picture look at this yeah so I traveled
I took a trip a long weekend trip to
Bangkok actually but in this caption if
you look very closely here I used the
phrase you can see it barely here BRB
BRB before this little flag so this is
when we studied last week sorry we
studied this last week BRB which means
be right back so this means I’m going
away for a short trip essentially so
this is how I used last week’s topic in
my life I took a trip to Bangkok it was
great it was my first time to Thailand I
got to eat a lot of excellent food and
see some cool stuff for a Bangkok design
week so maybe you use internet slang of
course if you like you can chat you send
some of the internet slang we talked
about last week in to the chats like
last week we talked about oMG oh my god
and that was really good but I had a
couple of questions from you guys that I
want to talk about one of you said your
comment wasn’t Spanish and I know a
little bit of Spanish but I think the
cop the comment was asking about an
emoji an emoticon
so sometimes native speakers use this at
the end of a sentence and the person
asked what does XD mean this actually
the expression it looks like a face so
if you imagine that these are like two
eyes sort of but the person is sort of
squinting it’s like imagine this is a
mouth here but if the person is laughing
really really hard maybe their eyes kind
of become like this this is a terrible
drawing but XD is like someone laughing
their face squinting so that was a
viewer question from last week I hope
that helps I don’t know I’m not a very
good artist so I hope that helps good so
that was one people also asked about the
word triggered triggered what does the
word triggered mean triggered means that
a sensitive topic has activated like
strong emotions so like if I see someone
saying that like pizza is a terrible
food
I might say oh my gosh I’m triggered
like that’s ridiculous that’s a
sensitive topic of course that’s an
extreme example but we use the word
triggered or native speakers use the
word triggered to mean that like their
emotions have been activated about a
sensitive topic okay so that’s just a
couple points from last week good we
have a lot of people in the chats now
fantastic fantastic so if you’re just
joining again today we’re talking about
dating and relationship expression so I
want to begin if you have not liked the
video please make sure to hit the like
button on YouTube and on Facebook it’s
very helpful for us Yeah right here
please like and share if you like - okay
let’s begin though today’s topic today’s
topic so um I want to express yeah this
is our this is our thumbnail for today I
dated English native so maybe these will
help you if you want to you know get a
little bit closer to the to a native
English speaker I don’t know we’ll see
so let’s begin today’s today’s
expressions I’m going to steal the mouse
for just a moment Thank You Kyle okay so
let’s begin I’ve kind of broken I’ve
made today’s lesson into like phases of
like a relationship so for the first
section today I want to talk about
polite ways to ask about another
person’s relationship status a
relationship status so that means how do
you ask another person if they have a
girlfriend or a boyfriend or if they’re
married so I want to talk about this so
if you say do you have a boyfriend or do
you have a girlfriend
just very directly it sounds it’s a
little too much it’s a little too direct
also if you begin your conversation with
that or if you begin like a comment
somewhere with that it sounds too strong
it sounds too much so instead let’s talk
about a better example sentence a better
example question after you have been
talking to this person for some time
maybe after you’ve known
them a little bit you can try this
question this is a little more I think
it’s a higher level question it’s a
little bit better here it’s are you
seeing anyone
are you seeing anyone here I’ve used the
verb see so we use the verb C to mean
dating so not just seeing with your eyes
not just visually seeing but seeing in
this sense in like a dating and
relationship sense it means are you in a
relationship with someone this sentence
means are you dating someone so this is
one that you can use after you’ve had a
conversation with someone for sometime
and you’re interested in that person and
you want to like in a kind of friendly
but polite way ask if they have if
they’re in a relationship Erwin on
Facebook says are you dating with
someone could we ask that or Karen asks
could it be are you dating anyone um you
can say are you dating anyone are you
dating anyone that’s okay
date might sound like a little bit of a
strong word so I think that we tend to
use seeing a little bit more in this
question you can use date you can use
date it’s okay it might sound like like
date date date it’s a little bit of a
stronger word are you seeing anyone is a
little bit more subtle so I would
recommend at least from my point of view
I would recommend seeing instead of
dating okay so this is a nice way to ask
so the other person this is a yes-or-no
question keep in mind are you seeing
anyone if the person says yes they’ll
probably say something like yeah I’ve
been seeing my boyfriend or girlfriend
for six months for example so the
present perfect tense in that case is
the answer I’ve been seeing someone or I
have been with my boyfriend or
girlfriend or husband or wife four and
five years for example so this would be
answered with the present perfect tense
answer in the in the affirmative when
you say yes if however the
answer is no the person would say no I’m
not seeing anyone
and then maybe I’m not seeing anyone
right now I’m not seeing anyone right
now would be good
Jr on YouTube says can I say are you
taken are you taken are you taken is um
I wouldn’t I wouldn’t recommend that I
wouldn’t recommend that because it’s
just a it’s maybe not quite something we
use so much for dating we can kind of
like casually refer to ourselves that
way like sorry I’m taking like as sort
of a joke it sounds a little bit jokey
so if you want to seriously ask about
someone’s relationship status I don’t
recommend thing are you taking okay yeah
so are you seeing anyone cuz ya’ll has
that on YouTube that sounds good okay so
if the answer to this question is no
maybe you can follow up with an
invitation for a date so start thinking
about this start thinking about this
this is the first like chat question for
you guys to send so when you want to
make an invitation for a date try I
would recommend don’t say do you want to
go on a date with me like you can you
can but there may be some little like
more subtle or maybe some more kind of I
don’t know Pleasant or friendly or
casual ways to do them so if it’s sort
of a more casual feeling you can invite
them for a specific kind of small
activity so for example I have some
couple of just sample invitations up
here which we’ll see in just a moment so
to make an invitation to this person you
can like after you say are you seeing
anyone and they say no I’m not then you
can say well do you want to get coffee
sometime or for example do you want to
get dinner tomorrow night or do you want
to get together sometime so these are
maybe a little bit more casual like if
you’ve just met this person someone on
Facebook Jambi says do you want to have
a drink yeah that’s great that’s great
so you can use these like a specific
active
for something to do to suggest to do
with this person so all of these can be
like kind of casual or maybe of like
romantic dates so ask about like a
specific thing you would like to do for
them with that person like if you say do
you want to go on a date with me like
maybe the answer is yes but what’s the
date so I think it’s better to suggest
what specifically do you want to do so
these are a few examples okay
so I hope you’re ready let’s practice so
in the chat please send some of you are
already doing this some of you are
already doing this please send how would
you invite someone on a date what is it
it can be a casual date or a romantic
date whatever
how would you invite someone on a date
you guys are already sending great ones
our Bob on YouTube says do you want to
see with me is that helpful to say ah um
we would say I’ll talk about it a little
bit later but we’ll say um do you want
to be with me do you want to be with me
I’ll talk about that point a little bit
later Mary on Facebook says do you want
to hang out with me some someday or
sometime that’s good like let’s hang out
sometime but to make it clear like give
a clear activity what do you really want
to do with that person I think that’s a
good idea
Erman on facebook says would you like to
grab some coffee nice he’s used grab
coffee so sounds very casual karen says
what about do you want to go out with me
yes that’s very good do you want to go
out with me it sounds a little bit like
a high school expression do you want to
go out with me or you can say do you
want to go out sometime you can say do
you want to go out for coffee with me
that’s also good so go out with me is
good and maybe suggest an activity to do
Wagner Wagner maybe do you want to get
some ice cream okay good that’s kind of
cute uh
Ulysses maybe a Scorza do you want to go
to the movies tomorrow night great very
nice Alberto says I would like to go out
with you good and then maybe give a
suggestion fantastic would you TN says
would you like to go see a movie with me
tonight nice
good good good you guys have nice ones
very nice
invitations Stanley you said could you
please give me some minutes in your
precious time to take a coffee with me
it sounds too formal that sounds a
little to form a good idea but just say
um do you have some time to get a coffee
with me so that sounds like you respect
the other person’s time but would you
have some time to get coffee with me so
try to keep it a little bit casual and
polite you guys have great invitations
very nice and instead of like take a
movie try see a movie do you want to see
a movie or do you want to go to a movie
with me nice ones okay fantastic you
guys have lots of good ideas like if you
have no ideas like check the chat check
the comments because your your
classmates have some really good ones
okay but it’s time to take a break
actually our first break for today so
today we have that uh cheat sheets which
we talked about a lot but today there’s
this perfect one we have a romance and
love cheat sheet so if you are planning
to ask someone on a date maybe this will
be useful for you so you can find this
you can find this for free I think
you’ll see it in just a moment
yay you can find this for free on the
website the link is below the video if
you’re watching on YouTube and the link
is above this video if you’re watching
on Facebook so you can download the love
and romance cheat sheet if you like of
course there are other cheat sheets too
there’s a bunch of information on the
site too but the PD their PDF files you
can download them for free and if you
have an account you can just click the
link and sign in and download them right
away if you don’t have an account you
can make a free account so check that
out there are some nice adjectives on
this sheet I’m looking at it right now
so this like there are some nice
expressions like ways you can uh
adjectives you can use to describe the
other person my favorite though like I
don’t know I like um interesting like if
someone says like you know oh it’s
really interesting talking with you like
I’m like yeah that’s cool
I like that just even
with friends so that’s good and then on
the back you’ll find compliments some
compliments you can give people so very
nice there are some there are some
examples here like will you go out with
me which we’ve talked about today but
there are a couple other points too so
check this out this is free it’s in the
link in the description please check it
out
ok but let’s go on to our next section
also if you are just joining live today
our topic is dating dating so romance
luck we’re talking about dating
expressions so if you haven’t also
please make sure to hit the like button
very helpful for us please hit the like
and share if you like ok let’s go on to
umm let’s assume let’s imagine your date
question you the question you made was
useful and you got a date and you met
this person for coffee or a dinner or
something so how do you explain that you
enjoyed the date how do you say like it
was fun you can say it was fun but if
you want to make it a little bit more
like like you you really you have a
special relationship with that person
there are some other things we can say
so let’s look at some examples of how to
do that
we’ll see it here so to express that you
enjoyed a day these are a few examples
you can use so after your date is done
you can say for example if it’s night I
had a great time tonight or I had a
great time this afternoon is nice or
this one’s good thanks for a nice chat
or today was really fun for example so
these are nice expressions you can use
that aren’t too like strong they aren’t
too direct but they very clearly
communicate like oh I really enjoyed
spending time with you you can use that
expression too I really enjoyed spending
time with you so these are rather casual
maybe like the first time you see you
meet with someone deludes
on youtube says do I need to compliment
when I’m on a date that’s up to you
that’s up to you if you compliment too
much it might sound a bit strange so
just be careful if you just compliment
compliment compliment
I think it’s important to really have
like a good conversation with the person
don’t just compliment them it sounds
kind of strange but like some genuine
compliments are okay but if you want to
have like make a comment that’s less
casual like that’s stronger in terms of
like a romantic nuance there are a
couple of other ones we can use less
casual examples like if you go for a
nice dinner for example I had a really
nice time with you tonight oh it sounds
romantic
or chatting with you was really great so
in these two sentences I’ve used the
word you chatting with you or I had a
really nice time with you tonight so the
focus here is with you I did something
with you that was really nice for me so
if you want to kind of level up the
intensity I guess of your comments you
can try including you like specifically
in your in your compliment here then how
do you explain like I want to see you
again this was really fun I had a great
time what to do so to suggest that you
get together again and actually you can
use this with friends too you can use
these expressions so you can say let’s
do this again
sooo let’s do so let’s do this means
that day’s activities or that evenings
activities so if you go for dinner if
you go for a movie if you go for coffee
let’s do this so this activity again
assume this is a great expression you
can use with your friends also so this
is good in many situations we can also
say I hope we can get together again
soon I hope we can get together again
soon so these are both great expressions
you can use not just for dates but but
you can use them in lots of different
situations so these are nice very nice
suggestions to get together okay then I
think we’re going to move on to the next
point before our next break which is
maybe like if the date went really well
if you if you go on a few dates with
this person and you really really like
that person what do you say like you
to make your relationship official for
example what do you do so alright here
is a couple or here are a couple of
examples you can use so I really enjoy
spending time with you do you want to be
my girlfriend or do you want to be my
boyfriend so these are very clear
statements like I really like you
I want to be in a relationship with you
do you want to be my girlfriend do you
want to be my boyfriend you can use this
this I feel like this sounds a little
bit yeah for younger people a little bit
more for younger people there’s this one
I’m really interested in you can we be
together this also sounds a little bit
casual I feel um I think if you’re
looking for kind of a polite more adult
expression it would be something like
I’m having a really great time with you
you can this this is optional I suppose
like I hope you can communicate this
before this question but the key
question here I would recommend this for
a more like adult expression do you want
to be with me do you want to be with me
so the person says yes or no yes or no
uh on Facebook Jo MP says weird to say
on a first day may be weird to say on a
first date yeah it could be weird to say
on a first date this might be a little
too much for the first day but maybe you
meet someone a few times and you oh I
really like this person like let’s spend
more time together so this is like if
you do this I think I think there’s if
you there’s going to be an expectation
there like this if you ask this question
it’s like there’s an expectation you’re
going to like you know communicate with
that person a lot or you’re going to
meet with that person regularly so keep
in mind that if you like agree to this
like oh I should expect to like
communicate with that person like a lot
or I should expect to see that person
sometimes so keep that in mind before
you ask this question so it sounds a bit
serious
oh okay so yes make sure you have time
and all that good stuff before you ask
one of these so that’s important so you
still have to do
the things you did before asking this
question as well okay so I think we need
to take our second break for now if you
haven’t do make sure to like us and
share us okay great you guys have some
excellent examples and I think yeah so
if you just if you’re just joining or if
you missed it the first time since our
topic today is romance and love and so
on today we have as always the PDF cheat
sheets but just a reminder we have the
romance and love cheat sheet available
and I talked about it before on the back
there are some compliments it’s called
compliments you always want to hear
actually I did a video about this we did
a video about this a couple years ago
but to refresh your mind there are some
compliments here like someone asked do
we need to compliment um you don’t have
to but it could be a good idea like I
love your hairstyle or let’s see you are
amazing for example so if you want some
examples of some kind of basic
compliments you can give people check
this out
where’s that and there’s some a couple
ways to like ask people out like a good
one
do you have time next Saturday for
example that’s a good way to introduce
like a timing for a date so please check
this you can find the link below the
video on YouTube and above the video on
Facebook so please check this out good
this is free this is free so come
download this on our website totally
free so check this out good for this
week I think before Valentine’s Day all
right let’s move on to the last part for
today’s lesson if you’re just joining
yes we are talking about dating
relationships and so on so today I said
I wanted to kind of go through the
different phases of a relationship and
unfortunately one part of that is if the
relationship is not going good like if
things are not so great what do you do
so there’s one expression in English
that’s kind of famous or maybe I should
say infamous infamous mean
famous for a bad reason but there’s one
expression people use sometimes which is
we need to talk this is like a very
scary expression to use like if it’s
used in a in a relationship if it’s used
at work whatever this is a very scary
expression so I don’t recommend using
this in like a relationship if there’s
some kind of problem it’s better to say
like specifically what you would like to
talk about this is very like like if I
heard this expression I think oh no I
did something I don’t know what but the
other person is mad at me like if my
boss said that to me or if my friend
said that to me or whatever I would be
like what happened oh gosh I did
something bad
so this is like I don’t like this phrase
and I don’t think it’s very useful
it doesn’t really communicate very much
it’s just like a suspense phrase that
the speaker uses so I don’t like this
phrase instead specifically say if
there’s something you would like to talk
about use this which you’ll see in just
a moment hey I want to talk to you about
blah blah blah so there’s something
that’s like you know bothering you or
like you want to discuss with the person
you’re in a relationship with for
example you can say hey I want to talk
to you about work lately is everything
okay I don’t see you very often so
making the discussion a little bit more
productive so it’s more efficient I
think to talk specifically about
something or like hey I want to talk to
you about like I don’t know how you
haven’t been very healthy lately for
example so what can you say something
that’s a little bit more specific would
be good here okay then another word to
think about is in like in relationships
if things aren’t going so well maybe you
discover that like there’s you and your
partner but maybe your partner has
decided to see someone else to see
someone else to date to someone else so
without permission so there are many
different styles of relationships but in
any case
where you don’t have permission to see
other people and that person dates other
people that’s called cheating so we use
the same word like to cheat on a test or
like to cheat at sports or something
so to cheat on a partner to cheat on a
partner so if that happens or if
something else happens there are just
too many problems how do you stop the
relationship how do you finish the
relationship here are a few examples of
how to end a relationship if it’s not
going well so here I think we should see
other people I think we should see other
people so here you have the same verb C
which means date so I think we should
date other people other people meaning
not you ah this is this is kind of a
bummer of a phrase right to here like
this is a bummer bummer means like sad
it’s not it’s not like a happy phrase so
this is like a too bad sort of phrase I
think we should see other people this is
a fairly common expression though
another one very strong we’re done we’re
done so the other person is very
probably angry when they say this like
they’re just tired and frustrated it’s
finished so we’re done like we are done
meaning we are finished our connection
is finished that’s the meaning here this
one pretty straightforward I think we
should break up if you use this phrase
well if you use any of these phrases
probably you might need to give an
explanation so just be prepared for that
why if if it’s not mutual you might need
to explain that and then finally this
one I’m leaving you this one sounds very
serious so like if there’s been if there
have been problems in a relationship for
a long time one person decides to just
go away like maybe there maybe it’s a
couple living together and one person
decides to move from the house just I’m
leaving you I’m finished so you can stay
here but I’m leaving you so this is a
very serious phrase - we’re done and I’m
leaving you these two maybe are a little
a little bit softer but there’s really
no easy way to
this I suppose so just just be careful
just be careful and I think it’s good
just to try to communicate your problems
and to try to communicate with the
person you’re in a relationship Taylor
has another good one on YouTube
I don’t think this is working out I
don’t think this is working out nice one
great that’s a very nice one good good
we’re through it’s done that’s another
good one okay so these are some
expressions you can use to end
relationship but I hope I hope you don’t
have to I hope you don’t have to do and
he’s breaking up anytime soon
okay so Matt is the last thing for today
sorry that’s kind of a heavy ending but
I hope instead I hope that you can use
the invitations that we talked about at
the beginning of the lesson you guys had
some really good ways to invite people
on a date so please yeah please
get creative keep thinking about those
like how do you want to ask someone to
join you for a date try that so I hope
that you can think positively about the
next week whether or not you celebrate
Valentine’s Day
I hope these expressions can be useful
for you so but I have to finish up we
are finishing today’s lesson
unfortunately so thank you so much as
always for liking and for sharing the
video and for commenting and for sending
your questions thank you so much for
sending your questions remember you can
send your questions after this is a lot
after the live stream has finished I
checked them after and throughout the
week and then I’ll try to answer them in
next week’s live stream so next week’s
live stream is going to be about gossip
or so or rather how to gossip or how to
kind of share information about other
people or how to talk about like the
activities in your community so it’s
like gossip it has like a negative
nuance sometimes but rather like natural
ways to kind of communicate you know
discussions about people and about like
your workplace maybe so next week we’ll
talk about
gossip so next week’s live is going to
be yes Thursday February what’s the date
next week Thursday February Oh No
there’s no Wednesday February 14th
Wednesday February 14th Thursday it is
February 15th so Wednesday February 14th
9 p.m. Eastern Standard Time that’s New
York City time so please check us at
this time at that time next week 9 p.m.
Eastern Standard Time Wednesday February
14th we’re going to talk about ways to
gossip yeah here it is
how do gossip next week so please join
us there and of course as we talked
about today if you would like to get
this free PDF please check it the link
is below the video on YouTube and above
the video on Facebook this is free
please check it out and there are some
other PDF cheat sheets available there
too all right it’s time to go so good
luck with your invitations sending your
invitations for dates and asking people
on dates I hope it goes well this week
thank you very much for joining thank
you for liking the video sharing the
video enjoy the rest of your day enjoy
the rest of your week and I will see you
again next week thanks bye bye