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everybody is feeding yourself on

the hysteria and the negativity you

gotta stay in the light

but one of the reasons why i was so

excited is about a wrinkle in time

because the message is that the darkness

is spreading so fast these days you must

become a warrior of the light and the

reason that's so meaningful to me is

because that's how i've led my whole

life

for these times the darkness is there to

show you your light look at what has

happened so if you put the focus on look

at what happened with the darkness that

showed up in parkland and the darkness

that showed up on the streets of

ferguson the darkness that showed up in

many many many many many many homes in

chicago with shootings and uh senseless

murders

it brings out the best in people it

brings out the best and so that's what

it's there we live on a planet where

there is darkness and light

i deeply believe is not that do unto

others as you would have them do unto

you

what you do is already done

that moment in the color purple where

she says everything you ever try to do

to me already done to you so the law the

third law of motion in physics says that

what you're putting out is coming back

all the time regardless of whether you

know it or acknowledge it or not

i say to the my girls

all of the time that your real work

is to figure out

where your power base is

and to work on the alignment of your

personality your gifts that you have to

give with the real reason why you're

here that's that's the number one thing

you have to do is to work on yourself

and to fill your self up

and keep your cup full keep yourself

full now i used to be afraid of that

i used to be afraid particularly from

people who say oh she said she's still

fella hassan

she's so close herself and now i embrace

it

i i consider it a compliment that i am

full

of myself

because you only when you're full

i'm full i'm overflowing my cup runneth

over

i have so much i have so much to offer

and so much to give and i am not afraid

of honoring myself you know it's

miraculous when you think about it

my life is fueled by my being

and the being fuels the doing

so i come from a centered place i come

from a focused place

i come from

compassion

i come from a willingness to understand

and to be understood

and i come from wanting to to connect i

mean the secret of that show for 25

years is that people could see

themselves in me

all over the world they could see

themselves in me and even as i became

more and more financially successful

which was a big surprise to me i was

like oh my god this is so exciting

but what i realized is

through the whole process because i'm

grounded

in my own

self

that

although i could have more shoes

my feet stayed on the ground although i

was wearing better shoes these are kind

of cute today too

so i could keep my feet on the ground

even though i could get more shoes and i

could understand i could understand that

it really was because i was grounded

i've done the

was doing and continue to this day

to do

the consciousness work i work at staying

awake

the reason why i was number one for 25

years

is because i figured out early on

there is no story anybody has ever heard

that somebody else hasn't experienced

nothing

and i also figured out

probably maybe the first or second year

that all pain is the same

that a mother in somalia feels the same

way as a mother in seattle when she

loses her child

and the common denominator in the human

experience

is our emotions and our feelings and the

more vulnerable and open you are willing

to be with your story the more actual

understanding you create with other

people and the more powerful you become

people don't think less of you for

sharing your story they think more of

you for having the courage to share it

what inspired me was an is continues to

be what continues to inspire me

is a

primal and fundamental desire

to fulfill

the highest expression

of myself as a human

i don't want to die

not having

completely

burnt out

every

single possibility of my humanity

i just i just want to when when i leave

this planet i want everybody

did that

used it all up not another thing i could

do there wasn't another person i could

have given of myself to there wasn't

another deed i could have done there

wasn't anything that you just wanted you

want to say i want to fill it up you

want to take this whole human existence

which when you think about it godfrey is

really pretty damn miraculous it is it

is it is when you think about what it

means to be a human being on the planet

earth right now that's pretty awesome

so i just wanna i wanna i wanna take

that to the max i wanna say no need to

come back as a human

the day first day i went to school i was

in a classroom

by the time i was uh

you know six years old didn't go to

school i was six years old because i

lived my grandmother that time sure but

she had taught me how to read read the

bible bible stories

so i went into the classroom

knowing nicodemus

shadrach meshach and abednego

i could spell all of those words i

thought i was you know i was preaching

to the to my kindergarten teacher

so

she was like who is this girl so

i was never placed in an environment

where i was ever made to feel inferior i

always felt like i'm the smartest kid in

this room

and because i was never placed and never

put in a position where i was made to

feel

less than i didn't grow up feeling less

than you know

and the rest as they say is history and

the rest they say is history and it's

all about what you believe you know i

say this to

uh when i do something on my network now

call life class

the fundamental

key to success is what you believe

is true for yourself not what you want

not what you desire is what do you

believe

you know you can say i want to i want to

be the most successful person in the

world but if you believe that there's a

glass ceiling and you're going to have a

hard time kicking through that glass

ceiling

you will be defined by the glass ceiling

and

the great beauty and gift of my life is

that i was never defined by the box that

other people tried to put me in

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the energy of your intention

is what determines your life

most people don't think about their

intention they just think about what

they want to do

most people don't think about why they

want to do it

but what's going to come back to you the

energy that's going to come back to you

is the real why of why you did it

what drives you to keep working so hard

you could you know you and i are in the

60s category and so when you're in your

60s you know you've lived more than

you're going to live yeah realistically

so when you realize you've lived more

than you're going to live you can say

why not relax a little bit why not just

ease up why have you decided to even

work harder than you did before

because i think david that everybody you

know the thing that works for me

all these years whether it was the

magazine or

which i still have or whether it was the

show i could i understood that there's a

common denominator in the human

experience and i want the same thing you

want which is the same thing you want

and you want what we all want is to be

able to live out

the truest

highest expression of ourselves as a

human being

that doesn't end until you take your

last breath what is the truest

highest

vision that you hold for yourself no

matter where you are in your life

there's always the next level there's

always the next level to the last breath

so i feel that i always knew that i

would get be done with the show when i

felt like oh i've said as much as i

could say here

on this platform and then how will i be

used if there were if there were a theme

song to my life amazing grace would be

one of them

so i feel that until you have used your

value as a human being you're not done

my biggest frustration is not just with

young women my biggest frustration is

also with young men young people who

think

that and i have a lot of this with my

girls in college

they think

that success

is supposed to happen like that

yeah they think

that there isn't a process to it

they think that they're supposed to come

out of college and have their brand

and um

i recognize now that i am a brand but i

was resistant to being called a brand

for many years because i was like i'm a

brand i'm not a brand i'm a person but

how i got to be a brand was not trying

to be a brand how i got to be a brand

was every day

making choices that felt like this is

the right move now that's the right move

and now that's the next right move the

next right move and so my frustration

with young women and young men is that

they think it's supposed to happen like

this and they don't understand that

there's a process

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i always understood that there really

was no difference between me and the

audience

at times i might have had better shoes

but at the core

the core

of of what really matters

that we are the same and you know how i

know that because

all of us are seeking the same thing

you're here at this fabulous school

and will go out into the world and each

pursue based upon what you believe your

talents are

what your skills are maybe your gifts

are

but you're seeking the same thing

everybody wants to fulfill

the highest

truest

expression

of yourself

as a human being that's what you're

looking for

the highest

truest

expression of yourself as a human being

and because i understand that i

understand that if you're working in a

bakery

and that's where you want to be

and that may be that that may be what

you've always wanted to do is to bake

pies for people or bake cakes for people

or to offer your gift then then that's

that's for you and there's no difference

between you and me except that's how

that's your platform that's your show

every day so my understanding of that

has allowed me to you know everyone to

reach everyone and and there's no way

that you wouldn't because that's that's

what i truly feel the way through the

challenge

is to get still

and ask yourself what is the next right

move

not think about oh i got all of this

stuff what is the next right move and

then from that space make the next right

move and the next right move and not to

be overwhelmed by it because you know

your life is bigger than that one moment

you know you're not defined by what

somebody says is a failure for you

because failure is just there to point

you in a different direction

if i leave you with nothing else it's

just know this for sure

there is not one

thing

that has ever happened to you

not one experience

not one encounter not one crisis not one

joyful thing that hasn't

happened

just to make you better and help you

rise

every single thing you're calling in

whether you know it or not when you

figure out that you are calling it in

when you actually start meditating or

praying or doing or having a spiritual

practice which is the number one thing

you need if you want to be successful in

the world you need something that gives

back and nourishes you

regardless of what you call that you

need to you need to fill your cup so

that you can be so full your cup runneth

over and you have enough to give to

other people if you don't fill your cup

you end up dried up

you end up tired exhausted and don't

have enough to give to other people you

end up resentful every time somebody

asks you because your cup is empty and

now they want some of yours

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so your number one job your number one

job is to fill

your cup and make yourself whole

so for me the foundational base of

empowerment of entrepreneurship

of any kind of engagement the

foundational base of my success

of my well-being my wholeness my

everything

is knowing who i am and where i come

from

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in my living room right now

is a painting that i've owned now for 30

years

you can google it

it's called to the highest bidder

and it's at the center of my house

and it's at the center of my house

because it actually is symbolic of the

foundation of not the house but the

foundation for my life the painting is

by harry rosalind who was a genre

painter painter in the

early 20th late 19th century

and the painting is over six feet tall

and it shows a slave woman

on the auction block

holding her daughter's hand

and i cannot come in the door my front

door or i cannot leave without passing

that painting i am reminded of where i

come from every day of my life and i am

reminded because i never want to forget

it

and in my library

i have a framed list of enslaved

african-american people remember i

showed you

who were held in bondage on various

plantations

listed in the ledgers alongside

the cows

and the horses

and the buggies

and the other property and i pass this

list every day

and often i stop in front of it and just

speak their names

out loud and their ages

jonas

11 years old 500

sarah

41 years old

900

elizabeth

57

eight hundred dollars

and i force myself to consider

the absurdity and the obscenity

of prices being affixed to each one

should they be placed up for sale

and i sometimes just pause before them

with a prayer

particularly before i have to make a big

decision about

one of my companies or

whether i move forward or whether i stay

still

it reminds me speaking those names out

loud

not only of where i've come from

but how far

i have to go

because of them

and it reminds me that i am never alone

it reminds me of what i've come through

to get through

i say to the my girls

all of the time that your real work

is to figure out where your power base

is

and to work on the alignment of your

personality your gifts that you have to

give with the real reason why you're

here that's that's the number one thing

you have to do

is to work on yourself and to fill your

self

up

and keep your cup full keep yourself

full now i used to be afraid of that

i used to be afraid particularly from

people who say oh she said she's still

fella

she's so close herself and now

i embrace it

i i consider it a compliment that i am

full of myself

because you only when you're full i'm

full i'm overflowing my cup run is over

i have so much i have so much to offer

and so much to give and i am not afraid

of honoring myself you know it's

miraculous when you think about it

everybody has a different talent

and the reason we're all so messed up is

because you're looking at everybody

else's talent

and wishing you had some of their talent

all the energy that you spend thinking

about wishing about being jealous of

envious of anybody else is energy that

you're not only putting out is going to

come back to you negatively but you're

taking that away from you

all your energy should be forced on what

do i have to offer what do i have to

give how can i be used in service

because dr king's message of not

everybody can be famous but everybody

can be great because greatness is

determined by service and there is not a

job in here that you can do that you

don't switch the paradigm to service and

not make that job more fulfilling i

don't care what the job is if you say

i'm a singer i'm a dancer i'm an artist

i'm a teacher i'm a nurse i'm a doctor

i'm a janitor i'm a i'm a clerk

if you say if i look at this from how do

i use this in service to something

bigger than myself

it no longer becomes a job it becomes an

offering to the world

the first law is

the third law of motion in physics which

says for every action there's an equal

and opposite reaction and we showed that

very beautifully in the color purple

when messily says to mister everything

you even try to do to me is already done

to you

that is not just a rhetorical saying

that is law that is newton's third law

of motion

in physics which says everything that

goes out

is coming back it's just like everything

that goes up is coming down may take a

long time to come down it's coming down

everything that goes out is coming back

it's coming back so

to answer the power of manifestation and

meditation what meditation does is sync

you up with the source

what meditation does is allows you to

literally tap into the power that

created you so that you are in alignment

with that

and so when you carry that out into the

world everything that you do

comes from the center of that alignment

that's coming from the source that we

call god we call divine energy divine

intelligence whatever name you want to

give it we call life when you are synced

up with life

life just gives to you

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the number one lesson i could offer you

where your work is concerned is this

become so skilled

so vigilant so flat out fantastic

at what you do

that your talent cannot be dismissed

you know when i was a kid i thought i

was going to uh

be a social worker or be a teacher or

somehow be in an environment where i

would be connected and speaking to

people to honor that calling i had no

idea that god could dream this big dream

of

a television life for myself but

everybody has a calling

and your real job in life is to figure

out as soon as possible what that is

who you were meant to be

and begin to honor that in the best way

possible for yourself we have seen over

the years on the oprah show so many

people who've been able to rise to

success in their life and only able to

rise to success because they answered

the call lots of people think that it's

about being famous or about being known

or about doing big big incredible things

what you're going to hear today and see

through the stories

is that

sometimes the calling is

right in your own neighborhood sometimes

the calling is

something that

was just a whisper to you and when you

begin to honor that whisper

and to follow that

you end up being the best that you could

be

i actually thought at the time

that being thin

uh

made me better

uh my identification with form my

uh

wanting so

desperately to be in a size 10 gene was

so prominent

identifying with that that shortly after

this i gained five pounds

and i was invited to a party at the time

by don johnson remember dreamy dawn

johnson i was invited to a holiday party

and i did not go to that party because i

thought the five pounds

made me too fat

not good enough to be a don johnson's

party sounds kind of sick now i know

but that's what the ego does it is uh

it's just it is sick it's wily it's

cunning it's deceptive it's an imposter

imposing on the real you

making you often think that you're

something that you're not

you're not the shape of your body

you're not your status

you're not your position in life you're

not the car you drive no matter how

fancy it is you're not

your house or your square footage for

all of you watching right now here's

another way to better understand ego

what i'm talking about eckhart taught me

this everybody try this from home where

or wherever you are right now close your

eyes

and

notice what you're thinking

notice your thoughts

now

who is thinking those thoughts

can you notice that there is a space

where you are observing the thoughts

and where you are aware of the thoughts

that you were observing

eckhart says you are that awareness

disguised as a person

and when i got that

i understood the difference between my

true self

and my ego self

over the years we've heard invaluable

information

that in a moment of danger could be

life-saving

nothing i heard made a greater

impression on me than back in 1991 i

think we were beginning our fifth season

and a man named sanford strong came on

and shared this never forgot it rule

number one

and frankly it's probably in my opinion

the most important

never

allow them

to take you somewhere else

never

if everyone in this room and everyone

watching this program has never drawn

the line

and made a decision

on crime protection

you better make it when they decide to

move you from crime scene number one to

crime scene number two because the crime

scene number two it's going to be

isolated you won't choose it you'll be

the focus of the crime

i think what was so

interesting about that piece of advice

is at the time that we all heard that

we had been trained as women people

especially to believe that you just do

whatever they say whatever they say go

along with it and what's important for

those of you who are watching right now

and

those of you who are on the internet

with us right now to know is that it's

all about using your gut in the moment

and people who've survived horrific

circumstances talk about listening to

that intuition and every move being made

calculated on listening to what your gut

says

what the experts now say is do not allow

yourself to be taken to the second

location because anybody who is trying

to harm you

wants to get you to an isolated place

where they can do that without other

people seeing or knowing it so in that

moment of making the decision oh you're

going to shoot me if you're going to

shoot me

you have to shoot me now

rather than shoot me in isolation where

nobody can see you whenever somebody has

said something that made the little

hairs on my arms or neck stand up i know

that if that's happening to me that's

also happening to somebody else too

the way to make movies is to do stuff

that you love because you know for 25

years i worked on the oprah show

and

uh steven will tell you that there were

nights that i came home and i almost you

know it's hard to even like take off my

clothes because i knew i was going to be

getting up four hours later but i never

really felt exhausted

like depl never i felt exhausted but i

never felt depleted so do the work that

comes straight from

the soul of you from your background

from stories that you've grown up with

from stories that bring you passion from

stories that you uh not just yearn to

tell

but that if you don't tell them they

won't get told and when you when you are

operating you know the single the single

greatest uh

wisdom i think i've ever received other

than when people show who they are is

that

the key to fulfillment success

happiness

contentment in life

is when you align

your personality

with what your soul actually came to do

i believe everybody has a soul and has

you know their own personal

spiritual energy so when you can use

your personality to serve whatever that

thing is

you can't help but be successful so if

you do films that come from the interior

of your soul you do work you do art that

comes from the interior of you

it you cannot miss

it's only when you're doing stuff that

you think might make money you think it

may be

a

hit or you think it may

uh bring you some level of attention or

success that isn't what does it i would

have to say that all of the great

wonderful experiences of my life that

have brought me to this moment have come

from working from the interior of myself

and so that's why it feels so authentic

because it

it actually is

so when you do that you'll win

and everybody has a different talent

and the reason we're all so messed up is

because you're looking at everybody

else's talent

and wishing you had some of their talent

all the energy that you spend thinking

about wishing about being jealous of

envious of anybody else is energy that

you're not only putting out is going to

come back to you negatively but you're

taking that away from you

all your energy should be forced on what

do i have to offer what do i have to

give how can i be used in service

because dr king's message of not

everybody can be famous but everybody

can be great because greatness is

determined by service and there is not a

job in here that you can do that you

don't switch the paradigm to service

and not make that job more fulfilling i

don't care what the job is if you say

i'm a singer i'm a dancer i'm an artist

i'm a teacher i'm a nurse i'm a doctor

i'm a janitor i'm a i'm a clerk about if

you say if i look at this from how do i

use this in service to something bigger

than myself

it no longer becomes a job it becomes an

offering to the world i first started

making money and it was you know my

salary

or my earnings

were

published all over the place i mean the

first year i was like really did i make

that much money oh my god

it was very difficult for me to figure

out where my boundaries were

because i'd grown up poor and didn't

have anything

so it's easy when you don't have

anything and people ask you for money

and they say i need 500 you say i don't

have it because i'm just trying to get

my rent paid

it's harder when your

multi-billion dollar salary is now in

the paper and you get a lot of friends

and cousins you didn't have before

so how do you set

boundaries for yourself i was having

trouble setting boundaries myself for

myself for even strangers people would

just show up at my door in chicago and

say oh bro i left my husband please help

me

and i would because

she knows i have it

so what i learned was is that

oh the reason why people keep showing up

is because my intention is to make them

think that i'm such a nice person

that

you can ask me for anything

you can get me to do anything i'm going

to say yes i'm going to say yes so when

stevie called me this time i thought i'd

try out my first no on stevie let's

start big

he wanted me to donate some money to a

charity and i didn't want to donate to

the charity

because

i have my own charities and i care about

a lot of people but the the problem is

when you you have money everybody thinks

you just want to give to everything so

every letter i ever get starts with we

know you love the children

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yes i do love the children but somebody

else is going to have to help the

children

so i said to stevie uh i said to stevie

no

um

as a person who has that disease to

please i was waiting for him then just

to say

i will never speak to you again

i will never call you i will never sing

a song for you

and he didn't he just said okay

okay

okay it's okay he said okay check you

later

and

what i learned from that is

many times you will have angst and worry

about things

and

put yourself in a state like someone

said this morning because their phone

went off they were mortified over a

phone i said really

you will put yourself in a state when

the other person really isn't even

thinking about you

so

learning that i could specifically

determine for myself what the boundaries

were for me

what i wanted to do

give my money give my time give of my

service to who i wanted to give it to

when i did that i get to make that

decision and just because you get a

hundred requests a week doesn't mean you

have to try to fulfill all of that just

because you have all of these demands on

your time and on you doesn't mean that

you

have to say yes you get to decide

because you're the master of your fate

the captain of your soul as william

ernest henley said in invictus and

understanding that really changed the

meaning of my life in that i was not

no longer driven by what

other people wanted me to do

but took charge of my own destiny making

choices based upon what do i feel

is the next right move for me

there was one woman out of all the

celebrities out of all of the

famous non-famous infamous people one

woman

from

who is she her name is tarai trent

listen to the story

i'm going to try to shorten it for you

guys okay tara right trent born and

raised in a village in zimbabwe 11 years

old she's doing her brother's homework

she wants to go to school her father

says no you're a girl you have to

educate the boyfriend yes that's right

that's right the boy has to go to school

you can't go to school so she starts

doing her brother's homework

she does his brother's homework he goes

to school he gets all a's on his

homework yet he doesn't know the answer

to the question the teacher comes to the

village to say what is going on here

this boy doesn't know the answers but

his homework's perfect she finds out

that tarai his younger sister is doing

his homework she begs the father to let

terrorize go to school the father says

no she can't go to school finally he

marries her off she marries at 11 and a

half years old she gets married she has

three children by the time she's 18

years old a woman comes to the village

from an ngo heifer international and

asks what are your dreams this is going

to make me cry finally

ask her what are your dreams

this child has never thought about what

her dreams were she says write down your

dreams she writes down her dreams on a

piece of paper and she folds them in a

tin can and she buries them under a rock

the first dream was to be able to go to

the school and go to a school in the

united states of america

and get a college degree she ends up

through some miracle of the ngo going to

the united states she gets a college

degree wow yes she gets a four-year

degree in three years terrorized trent

she goes back to the rock in zimbabwe

she writes her next goal on the piece of

paper she buries it under the rock she

writes i want to get a master's degree

she goes back to uni and said she gets a

master's degree by this time she now has

five children she's married to a man who

still beats her incredible

she goes back united states she gets her

master's degree after the master's

degree she goes back to the rock in

zimbabwe she writes down her final goal

is to get a doctorate degree and last

year she became dr tararai trent where

did you find it where did i find it um

i found

her

in the in the nicholas kristoff's book

called

uh

something the sky underneath the sky or

the sky and nico i found her in nicholas

christoph's book

and i was reading the story

i had nicholas kristoff on the show

nicholas kristoff the famous new york

times writer

and

she wasn't there she wasn't a part of

the ch i'm reading the story i can't

believe this book the story of this

woman as i'm reading the story

so when we go to do the show

the producers have nicholas kristoff on

they bring on other guests but this

woman isn't there i go how could you not

have her there so we tape another show

with nicholas kristoff we go back and go

fine we're going to find that woman

terror right trend this time by this

time she's living in the united states

we followed her back to zimbabwe to the

rock

we pulled the tin can from underneath

the rock

and that is my favorite guest of all

time and the worst

um

i don't have a worst i don't have a

worse but the reason why she and as i

said this on my show the reason why tara

rai trent is my favorite guest of all

time is because she represents in that

one story of the little girl in a

village in zimbabwe who had a dream

and the heart and depth and discipline

to pursue it she represents everything i

tried to say in every show in 25 years

she literally through her life story

sums up the message that i was trying to

give to every single one of my viewers

you can

you can

keep trying

don't give up you have to believe you

have to believe

over the years the century so many

teachers and poets and songwriters have

talked about the significance of knowing

yourself i know we've all heard to thine

own self be true shakespeare or

learning to love yourself is the

greatest love of all whitney houston

what i know for sure is

that in all the talk about loving

yourself you can't begin to love

yourself or even be true to yourself

unless you know

who

you are

separate from your ego

so think about this for a moment you're

at home listening watching me and taking

in the thoughts that i'm sharing right

now

and

there is an inner space that allows you

to perceive these thoughts

little not even a space i'm just using

the word space because there is no other

word there is

the

ability to perceive what i'm saying

and be aware of what i'm saying

that is where the true you abides in

that awareness in the very center of

yourself

and when you stray from that center you

get lost

and you make mistakes

i learned this the hard way your ego

takes over

everybody has an ego i used to think the

ego showed itself through um

someone being arrogant or

stuck up or haughty

or the who does she think she is

printing down a red carpet kind of thing

well

i'm in show business in the business of

showing myself

so i'm aware that there's a lot of

egotism involved in this business and i

always thought that i

had my ego in check until i realized

that it's not just the obvious it's not

always acting out or showing off

in 2008

i chose eckhart tolle's book a new earth

for my book club and this book will

change the way

you view your life and the people around

you and your world chapters three and

four literally changed the way i saw

myself and my ego

it changed for me what ego meant

and totally says that's any

identification with form

meaning any identification identifying

with something that is not the center of

yourself that is possessions material

things cars

titles social status or in my case

identifying with the deep desire to be

thin

you will find true success and happiness

if you have only one goal there really

is only one and that is this

fulfill

the highest

most truthful

expression

of yourself

as a human being

you want to max out your humanity

by using your energy to lift yourself up

your family and the people around you

theologian howard thurman said it best

he said don't ask yourself what the

world needs

ask yourself what makes you come alive

and then go do that

because what the world needs is people

who have come alive

the world needs

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people like michael stahlzenberg from

fort lauderdale when michael was just

eight years old michael nearly died from

a bacterial infection that cost him both

of his hands and both of his feet

and in an instant this vibrant little

boy became a quadruple amputee

and his life

was changed forever

but in losing who he once was

michael discovered who he wanted to be

he refused to sit in that wheelchair all

day and feel sorry for himself so with

prosthetics he learned to walk

and run and play again

he joined his middle school lacrosse

team and last month when he learned that

so many victims of the boston marathon

bombing would become new amputees

michael decided to banish that darkness

with light

michael and his brother harris created

mikeysrun.com

to raise one million dollars for other

amputees

by the time harris runs the 2014 boston

marathon

more than a thousand miles away from

here

these two young brothers

are bringing people together to support

this boston community the way their

community came together to support

michael

and when this 13 year old man was asked

about his fellow amputees he said this

first they will be sad

they're losing something

they will never get back

and that's scary

i was scared

but they'll be

okay they just don't know that yet

we might not always know it

we might not always see it or hear it

on the news

or even feel it in our daily lives but i

have faith

that

no matter what

class of 2013

you will be okay

and you will make sure our country is

okay

i have faith because of that

nine-year-old girl who went out and

collected the change

i have faith because of david and

francine wheeler i have faith because of

michael and harris stolzenberg and i

have faith because of you the network of

angels sitting here today one of them

khadijah williams who came to harvard

four years ago

khadijah had attended 12 schools in 12

years

living out of garbage bags amongst pimps

and prostitutes and drug dealers

homeless

going into department stores walmart in

the morning to bathe herself so that she

wouldn't smell in front of her

classmates

and today she graduates as a member of

the harvard class

of 2013. nobody's journey is seamless or

smooth we all stumble we all have

setbacks if things go wrong you hit a

dead end as you will

it's just life's way of saying

time to change course

so ask every failure this is what i do

every failure every crisis every

difficult time i say what is this here

to teach me

and as soon as you get the lesson

you get to move on

if you really get the lesson you pass

and you don't have to repeat the class

if you don't get the lesson it shows up

wearing another pair of pants

or skirt

to give you some remedial work

and what i found is that difficulties

come when you don't pay attention to

life's whisper

because life always whispers to you

first first and if you ignore the

whisper sooner or later you'll get a

scream

whatever you resist persists but if you

ask the right question not why is this

happening but what is this here to teach

me what is this here to teach me it puts

you in the place and space to get the

lesson you need my friend cartoli

uh who's written this wonderful book

uh called a new earth

that's all about letting the awareness

of who you are stimulate everything that

you do he puts it like this he says

don't react against a bad situation

merge with that situation instead and

the solution will arise from the

challenge

because surrendering yourself doesn't

mean giving up it means acting with

responsibility

okay

many of you know that as president

hennessey said i started this school

in africa

and

i founded the school where i'm trying to

give south african girls a shot at a

future like yours stanford

and i spent five years making sure that

school would be as beautiful as the

students

i wanted every girl to feel her worth

reflected in her surroundings so i

checked every blueprint

i picked every pillow

i was looking at the grout in between

the bricks i knew every thread count of

the sheets i chose every girl from the

villages from nine provinces and yet

last fall i was faced with a crisis i'd

never anticipated i was told that one of

the dorm matrons was suspected of sexual

abuse

well that was as you can imagine

devastating news

first i cried actually i sobbed for

about a half an hour

and then i said let's get to it

that's all you get is a half an hour

you need to focus on the now

what you need to do now so i contacted a

child trauma specialist i put together a

team of investigators i made sure the

girls had counseling and support and

gail and i got on a plane and flew to

south africa and the whole time i kept

asking that question

what is this here to teach me

and as difficult as that experience has

been

i got a lot of lessons

i understand now the mistakes i made

because i

had been paying attention to all of the

wrong things

i built that school from the outside in

when what really mattered was the inside

out

so it's a lesson that applies to all of

our lives as a whole what matters most

is what's inside what matters most is

the sense of

integrity of quality and beauty i got

that lesson and what i know is is that

the girls came away with something too

they've emerged from this more resilient

and knowing that their voices

have power

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there's a bigger dream waiting for you

just waiting

for you

to step into it

to step into it your life is big

your life is huge and we spend so much

time

wanting to be in somebody else's life

and you don't get honored

you don't get revered you don't get

celebrating wanting what somebody else

has

[Music]

because

that which created you divine

intelligence that dreamed you from

before your ancestors ever knew

they would become

your ancestors that which dream the seed

of you

wants you to know how special how

wondrous how mysterious how complex how

glorious how phenomenal you are

and you get no credit

messing in somebody else's territory

[Music]

or trying to have

power

over something you have no control

another one of my favorite teachings is

the wizard of oz

when the wicked which is the west says

go away from here because you don't have

any power here you have no power in any

territory other than your

own oh but you are the master of that

you get to be the master of your own

fate you get to be the captain of your

own soul and if you just manage that

if you just took care of your territory

all the glorious glorious glorious

wondrous

wondrous opportunities and possibilities

that are waiting for you so the question

is what are you resisting

what are you pushing against

what are you not allowing what are you

blocking because you have this idea of

who and what you're supposed to be

instead of

leaning into the dream that's already

been created and waiting for you it's

waiting for you and the second i mean it

doesn't it's an instant thing it's a

shift in the way you see yourself and

the power from which you have come

[Music]

practicing gratitude it is my single

most

important life practice i'd have to say

and i know with thanksgiving coming many

people think about being thankful

there's lots to talk about

thanksgiving and blessings but

that's kind of like going to church on

just christmas and easter it counts but

it's not consistent because for me

gratitude is something that

is necessary and should be practiced

every day because making space for

appreciating what you have

opens you up for a happier more

fulfilled existence i guarantee while

ensuring that those blessings just keep

flowing this is the truth it's a law

what you focus on in your life expands

so focusing on what you're grateful for

increases positive vibrations and

feelings of joy just one good feeling

builds on another good feeling and

another and if you actively appreciate

all that you have in life no matter how

small it is what you

notice is that you end up having more

and when you hone in on what you don't

have you never have enough so being

grateful i've learned allows us to fill

in the cracks and crevices between what

we desire and what we already have with

positivity so we can pave the way for

grace

to show up and lead to an even better

life so how do you make gratitude a

habit for me

the first thing i do in the morning is i

read some sort of spiritual

enlightenment that allows me to start

the day with a positive frame of mind

that will only

help usher in even more positive energy

and for me that is the daily word which

is christian based or the book of psalms

also christian mark nepo's book of

awakening is just spiritual no religion

with a daily meditation

and rumi or mary oliver there's

something called bowl of sake that i

love too it's a spiritual sufi teachings

that you can download for free into your

inbox but the greatest thing that i've

ever done

is having a gratitude journal so i

started one over 20 years ago and every

day for years now i write down five

things that i am grateful for i believe

you gotta write them down because there

is power power power in the written word

and it can be anything big or small some

days those things will come easy

you know a chat with a close friend or

taking a walk in the crisp fall air

having a loved one cook you at dinner or

bring you a

cup of tea some days it might be

difficult to even think of anything

and that's completely normal and when

things don't easily come to mind

go back to your breath

because if you breathe in you ought to

be grateful

know that you have that and simply

opening your eyes in the morning and

having that breath is a gift

but every day i consistently write down

five things that i'm grateful for

sometimes it's more than five but if i

can't get to five i just go breath

breath breath

gratitude is a posture

of your heart

a choice and a privilege so i hope that

you'll make the choice to initiate a

daily gratitude practice if you haven't

already i've been saying it for years

because this i know for sure sure

appreciating noting the delights that

show up in your life

will ensure more goodness is coming your

way

after a year like nobody has ever

experienced i believe that the best

thing we can collectively do is to take

care of our individual cells now i know

that might sound oversimplified and even

selfish to some people but this is what

i know for sure that you have to feed

yourself with love and loving thoughts

in order to show up

more fortified and complete

to give other people your love we hear

about self-care so much these days but

what does it really mean well for me

it's about engaging in practices that

fill you up in every way that means

eating foods that are both enjoyable and

nourishing giving your body the gift of

some form of movement every day

and surrounding yourself with people

whose energy uplifts you this is so

important

also creating space in your day or at

least just give yourself at least a

minimum of five minutes of stillness

that alone time is so crucial when you

can distance yourself from the voices of

the world

so you can hear your own voice loud and

clear that's why

i have dedicated sundays as my time for

recalibration and renewal

so sometimes it's just a simple walk in

nature

or

just sitting out in the backyard

all of it that alone time helps me

re-center refuel me for whatever the

coming week is and however that shows up

for you that's what you need to do for

you i love how glennon doyle put it in

her book love warrior she said i have

met myself

and i'm going to care for her fiercely

so i know we have to be reminded as

women people to continuously make

ourselves a priority because when you

truly value yourself the world reflects

that worth back to you nobody needs to

be reminded of the importance of

self-care though more than mothers

so we all know that back in normal times

before there was a pandemic moms had so

much on their plates

managing the needs of children and

spouses and households and in-laws and

that's why i have so much respect for

people who do it well

and now the pandemic has taken its toll

from juggling increased child care

demands to mental health ramifications

to economic strain from the more than

you know five million jobs of women were

lost since february of 2020.

so we know mothers are carrying a heavy

load on their shoulders

and that's just another indication that

self-focus

on yourself is so important

is there someone you need to forgive

it's one of the most difficult

principles of life to practice but it

can also be one of the most rewarding

it's one of the grandest gifts you can

give to yourself

you forgive

and you become relieved of the heavy

burden

of resentment that you've been carrying

that's weighing you down you become

lighter literally and things in your

life begin to fall into place

so as someone who has experienced abuse

during childhood i know very well

that the struggle to forgive the people

in your life who have hurt you

is is real and it's painful

but know this it's not about condoning

whatever it is that person did to

mistreat you

it is about allowing what they did to

affect how you live your life now

dr joel jampolsky put it to me this way

years ago on the oprah show was a big

aha aha moment that i've accepted now as

spiritual law when he said forgiveness

is giving up the hope that the past

could have been any different i repeat

that forgiveness is giving up the hope

that what would a quarter could have

should have happened in fact

it did not happen it's accepting the

reality of what did happen

and moving on

this truth has been fundamental in

allowing me to live my best life it was

transformative you have to come to the

realization that what might have been

is not what is

easy to hear i know

and harder to do

you gotta sit with the hurt

feel it

it's uncomfortable

but when you can rise up and just really

meet that pain face to face and then let

it flow through you

only then can you let it go and step out

of the hurt of your history into the

possibility of the present

i've carried this lesson from iyanla

vanzant with me for some time i remember

years ago on the show she said you can

accept or reject the way you are treated

by other people but until you heal the

wounds of your past you will continue to

bleed you can bandage the bleeding with

food with alcohol with drugs with work

with cigarettes with sex she said but

eventually

it's gonna ooze through and stain your

life

you must find the strength to open up

the wounds stick your hands inside pull

out the core of the pain that is holding

you in your past the memories and make

peace with them so here's the formula

accept what has happened forgive others

forgive yourself accept the now

that is the recipe to begin healing and

give up the hope that the past could

have been anything other than what it

actually was

whatever happened

helped to make you you

my hope is that you find the courage to

relinquish all your grudges because

what i do know for sure is that on the

other side of forgiveness

is

freedom the freedom to live the life for

which you were intended and the one you

actually deserve

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there are so many feelings that we've

all experienced over the past year and a

half

as a collective

so we're all in it together i know we've

heard that before a lot of people don't

believe it but we're in it together

feeling the same things whether we agree

on what we're feeling or not and one of

the abiding feelings i know

is the sense of uncertainty not knowing

for sure what is next so

our lives have been shaken up and

shifted to say the least which has made

a lot of us uncertain of what is on the

horizon when will we go back to the

office full time what is that going to

require me how long will we be wearing

masks how long will we be fighting about

masks when will all of this be over and

it it really is completely natural to

not have all of the answers so one thing

i do know for sure is that we all have

to let go

of

knowing

of having complete control

and being able to ready ourselves to

navigate waves of change as they come

but how do we do that

anxiety comes when we live in the

unpredictable nuances of the future all

the what-ifs you know i remember when i

was on trial back in 1998 for

disparaging a burger and had to sit in a

courtroom for six weeks in amarillo

thank you very much and in the beginning

of that trial i had so much anxiety

learning to stay focused on just that

day and not the multiple days ahead is

what actually kept me sane

so i think we all must practice becoming

more comfortable stepping into the

unknown and when those uncertain

overwhelmed

feelings creep in you need to make an

effort to stay in the present moment and

just be still

and breathe

and say to yourself i am here now and

right now everything is okay all is well

i'll be well

and there's nothing i cannot handle so

take some time to be quiet enough to

listen to your internal gps your truer

self and let the clamor of the world

dissipate listen to the whispers as i

like to say and then let

that guide you sometimes just the fear

of uncertainty can stop us from taking

the next step toward a breakthrough but

we cannot let uncertainty

just fester and morph then into doubt

doubt that your fortitude that your

determination that your values won't

have your back as you navigate whatever

is coming next now they've been there

for you in the past they're there for

you now and they will be by your side as

time goes on so look at where you've

come from how far you've journeyed to

get to the you that you are now

and you're still adapting evolving to an

ever better

version of yourself hopefully that's

what we're all trying to do

who you are

and what you believe in can remain

steadfast and rooted enough to take on

uncertainty

there is so

much going on in the world right now

mass mandates are changing all over the

country as vaccination rates are

going up travel is coming back a return

to working in the office may be in the

foreseeable future for a lot of you and

as we look to this next chapter after

such a long and challenging stretch i

think it's time for us all to think

about refreshing ourselves in a way that

allows us to keep what matters most turn

over what we're ready to let go of and

make room for the new

in our world

in our lives so i don't know about you

all but i am forever changed by all of

these months away from the bustle of the

world and i will forever more carefully

choose what has to have my attention and

what does not because i've learned a lot

of things do not so when we hit that

little refresh button on our computers

or phones it updates everything so

quickly and just like that so simple

sometimes it's even automated so there's

not even anything thinking about it

a refresh though in real life

as we know takes effort it takes time

takes patience so be kind to yourself

during these days check in be still

until you can hear and feel the answers

you need for moving forward

and always feel blessed

that we survived a pandemic

and we have another chance

to get things right

in our daily lives

and i would say

that the best way to begin to figure out

who

you are really meant to be

is to ask the universe

god that question

god how can i be used in service to

myself first and how can i then use that

service to serve the world

use your life to serve the world and you

will find that it also serves you

one of the biggest mistakes people make

is thinking that they have to get paid a

lot of money or even get paid at all for

their calling

you are here to honor your calling

whether you're paid for it or not if you

can get paid for it that makes life

exponentially better

but if you are not paid for it that is

also really just fine because honoring

the calling feeds everything else you do

in your life

letting go of energy that's clouding

your vision and holding you back it's a

life practice that i learned long ago

that has freed me

so many ways it's a fact that holding

grudges against somebody who's done you

wrong or

replaying revisiting hurtful situations

in your head over and over only weighs

you down and prevents you from being who

you're meant to be

right now because you're still

energetically holding on to the past the

energy that you put into constantly

rewinding to the resentment why did they

do that why did they say that to me i

didn't deserve to be treated that way

all of that only keeps you stuck

it will never change what happened you

gotta press stop

and reject the urge to keep replaying

so that you can then fast forward into

the now for yourself you know

a lot of people think

that holding on to things that

disempowered them

is going to somehow magically turn it

around

as i said in my message a couple weeks

ago about forgiveness

you have to release the notion give up

the hope that the past could have been

any different and you also must release

the idea that people would do what you

might do in any given instance this is a

big one i had to learn and relearn

before i actually got it expecting

people to do what you would do in a

situation only leads to your

disappointment

not theirs they're going on with their

life

so let people be who they are and either

you accept it or you don't

not doing that keeps you stuck in a

circumstance that actually costs you

time costs you energy and i can

guarantee that oftentimes the person on

the other side of the bitterness you're

holding on to they're not even thinking

about you

in fact they probably have just moved on

they certainly aren't obsessing the way

you are think of it like letting go of

any bad habit that just doesn't serve

your well-being

not an easy task

taking the road to a more enlightened

healthy existence never is so

this is what i want to ask you to ask

yourself

why

am i holding on to this

how is this serving me

and really think about the answer

maybe it makes you feel validated maybe

it makes you feel righteous

or maybe

taking on the pain is your way of

recognizing the injustice so that even

though it won't be made right

it can at least not be forgotten

then i ask you

again ask yourself

do you want to be right

or do you want peace

this was huge for me the unfortunate

fact is that having both may not be

possible and also you may never get your

moment of righteousness so why wait for

it choose peace

what i know for sure

is that in this world time is a moving

on and it's our most valuable commodity

you can never get it back

so staying in that loop playing it over

and over in your head of hurt only

amplifies your pain let it go exhale

make room in your heart for something

that is uplifting

surround yourself with people who want

the best for you you have the ability to

shift the dna of your spirit and control

how you perceive life so why not lighten

your load and let it go

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knowing when you know better you do

better we're ready to move on to what i

think is another powerful lesson that i

started to get when i was a really young

girl having been raised by my

grandmother and then at six years old

being separated from my grandmother

being moved to milwaukee and suddenly in

a foreign environment for myself i

remember walking into that new space and

recognizing that

in many ways i was alone which is a

terrible feeling if you're six years old

but i have always had the deep

understanding for myself

that if anything was going to move

forward in my life that i was going to

have to be responsible for making that

happen

and

i know that to be true now and can

articulate it as you are responsible

for your

life and if you're sitting around

waiting on somebody to save you to fix

you to even help you

you are wasting your time because only

you have the power to take

responsibility to move your life forward

and the sooner you get that the sooner

your life gets into gear this is what i

know from doing 25 years and thousands

and thousands of interviews on the oprah

show

it does not matter where you come from

i have seen people come out of the

desert walk across the desert being born

in the most dire circumstances doesn't

matter what your mama did whether she

did or had a phd or no d

what matters is now this moment and your

willingness to see this moment for what

it is accept it

forgive the past take responsibility

and move forward

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[Music]

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每个人都

在歇斯底里和消极情绪中养活自己，你

必须待在光明中，

但我如此兴奋的原因之一

是时间的皱纹，

因为信息是

这些天黑暗蔓延得如此之快，你必须

成为光明的战士，

对我来说如此有意义的原因是

因为这就是我一生

中这些时候的方式黑暗在那里向

你展示你的光看发生了什么

所以如果你把注意力放在看

在帕克兰出现的黑暗

和出现在弗格森

街道上

的黑暗发生了什么，

在芝加哥许多许多许多许多家庭中出现的黑暗

伴随着枪击和呃毫无意义的

谋杀，

它带出了人们最好的一面 它

带来了最好的东西，所以

这就是我们生活在一个

有黑暗和光明的

星球上的东西

在紫色的那一刻，

她说你曾经试图

对我做的一切都已经对你做了，所以

物理学中的第三运动定律说，

无论你是否

知道或

承认与否 为什么你在

这里，这就是

你要做的第一件事就是努力工作

，充实自己

，保持你的杯子满满，现在让你自己

充满我曾经害怕

我曾经特别害怕

别人 谁说，哦，她说她还是

哈桑小伙子，

她和自己很亲近，现在我拥抱

它

，我认为这是一种恭维，我

充满

了自己，

因为只有当你吃饱时，

我才会吃饱，我的杯子溢出来

了

我 有很多我有很多事情要做 呃

，有这么多要付出，我

不怕尊重自己，你知道这很

神奇，当你想到它时，

我的生命由我的存在推动，

而存在推动这样做，

所以我来自一个集中的地方我

来自一个专注的地方

我 来自

同情

我来自理解

和被理解

的意愿 我来自想要联系 我的

意思是这个节目 25 年的秘密是

全世界的人们都可以

在我身上看到自己 他们可以在我身上看到自己 即使我在经济上

越来越成功

，这对我来说是一个很大的惊喜

更多的鞋子

我的脚留在地上，虽然

我穿了更好的鞋子，这些

今天也很可爱，

所以

即使我可以买更多的鞋子，我

也可以把脚放在地上，我可以理解我可以理解

它重新 盟友是因为我脚踏实地，

我已经完成了

正在做的事情，并一直持续到

今天做

我努力保持清醒的意识工作我

25年来一直排名第一的原因

是因为我很早就

发现没有任何人的故事 曾经听说

过别人什么都没经历过

，我也

可能在第一年或第二年

发现所有的痛苦都是一样

的，索马里

的母亲和西雅图的母亲

失去孩子

时的感受一样 人类

经验的共同点

是我们的情感和感受，

你越是愿意接受你的故事，你越是脆弱和开放，你

与他人建立的真正理解

就越多，你变得越强大，

人们不会因为你而轻视你

分享你的故事，他们更看重

你有勇气分享它

是什么启发了我是一个继续

是什么继续激励我

是一个

原始的和根本的愿望

来

实现高

作为人类的自我表达

我不想死没有

完全

烧毁

我人性的每一种可能性

我只是我只想当我离开

这个星球时我希望每个人

都这样做了

没有其他人我可以

把自己交给我没有

其他行为我可以做

没有什么你只想说你

想说我想填满你

想拿走这一切 人类的存在

，当你想到它时，戈弗雷

真的非常神奇

到了最大我想说没有必要

以人类的身份回来

第一天我上学的第一天我

在教室

里的时候我是呃

你知道六岁没

上学我六岁 因为

那段时间我确实活在我的祖母

身上，但她有 教我如何阅读

圣经故事，

所以我走进教室

知道 nicodemus

shadrach meshach 和 abednego

我可以拼出所有这些单词

这个女孩，所以

我从来没有被放在

一个让我感到自卑

的环境中 我长大后并没有感觉

比你知道的要少

，其余的正如他们所说的那样

是历史，其余的都是历史，而这

一切都是关于你相信你知道的

，

当我在我的网络上做某事时我会这么说，现在

打电话 人生课

成功的根本关键是你相信什么

对你自己是真实的不是你想要

什么不是你想要什么是你

相信

你知道你可以说我想要我想

成为世界上最成功的人

但如果你 相信 这是一个

玻璃天花板，你将

很难踢过那个玻璃

天花板 把我放在

[音乐]

你的意图的能量

决定了你的生活

大多数人不考虑他们的

意图 他们只考虑

他们想做什么

大多数人不考虑他们为什么

要这样做

但是会发生什么 回到你身边 将回到你身边的

能量

是你为什么这样做的真正原因 是

什么驱使你继续努力工作，

你知道你和我

属于 60 年代的人，所以当你在 你

60 多岁了

，你知道你活得比你想活的多

，是的

你决定

比以前更努力地工作，

因为我认为 大卫，你

知道这些年来对我有用的东西，

无论是

杂志

还是我仍然拥有的东西，或者是

节目，我能理解人类经历中有一个

共同点

，我想要同样的东西你

你想要的

和你想要的

东西是一样的

无论你在生活中的哪个阶段，你都会为自己坚持下去，

总会有下一个层次，最后一口气总会有下一个层次，

所以我觉得我一直都知道，

当我觉得哦，我已经完成了这个节目时

我

在这个平台上说了这么多，然后

如果有我生命中的主题

曲，我将如何使用我将是

其中之一，

所以我觉得直到你用你

作为一个人的价值 是你

没有完成 我最大的挫败感不仅仅是

年轻女性 我最大的挫败感

也来自年轻男性

没有一个过程，

他们认为他们应该

从大学毕业并拥有自己的品牌

，嗯，

我现在认识到我是一个品牌，但多年来

我一直拒绝被称为品牌

，因为我喜欢 我是一个

品牌 我不是一个品牌 我是一个人 但

我如何成为一个品牌 不是

试图成为一个品牌 我如何成为一个

品牌 每天都

在做出感觉这

是正确的选择 现在行动，这是正确的行动

，现在这是下一个正确的行动，

下一个正确的行动，所以我

对年轻女性和年轻男性的失望是，

他们认为应该这样发生

，他们不明白

有一个过程

[音乐]

我一直都明白

真的没有区别 我和观众之间的关系

有时我可能有更好的鞋子，

但

真正重要的核心

是我们是一样的，你知道我

是怎么知道的，

因为我们都在寻求同样的东西

你在这里 在这所神话般的学校

，将走向世界，每一个

追求都基于你相信你的

才能

就是你的技能，也许你的天赋

是，

但你正在寻找同样的东西，

每个人都想要

实现自己作为一个

最真实的

表达

人类这就是你正在

寻找

的最

真实

的自我表达

，因为我明白我

明白，如果你在面包店工作

，那就是你想去的地方

，可能就是那个地方

你一直想做的就是

为人们烤馅饼或为人们烤蛋糕

或提供你的礼物然后

那是给你的，

你和我之间没有区别，只是

这就是你的平台 那是你每天的节目，

所以我对这一点的理解

让我知道每个人都能

接触到每个人，而且

你不可能不知道，因为这

就是我真正感受到的通过挑战的方式

就是保持静止

并问自己什么 是下一步正确的

举动

不要考虑哦，我得到了所有这些

东西下一步是什么，

然后从那个空间做出下一步正确的

举动和下一步正确的举动，不要

被它淹没，因为你知道

你的生活更大 比那一刻

你知道你不是由

某人所说的对你来说是失败的，

因为失败只是在那里为

你指明不同的方向

如果我一无所有

曾经发生在你身上的事情

没有一次经历

没有一次遭遇没有一次危机没有一件

快乐的事情没有

发生

只是为了让你变得更好并帮助你提升

你所呼唤的每一

件事无论你是否知道 t 当你

发现你正在召唤它时，

当你真正开始冥想、

祈祷、做或进行灵性

练习时，

如果你想在世界上取得成功，

这是你需要的第一件事，你需要一些

回馈和滋养的东西 你

不管你叫什么你

需要你需要填满你的杯子，

这样你就可以装满你的杯子

溢出来你有足够的东西给

别人如果你不填满你的杯子

你最终会干涸

你 最终累得筋疲力尽，

没有足够的东西给

别人，每次有人

问你时你都会怨恨，因为你的杯子是空的，

现在他们想要你的一些

[音乐]

所以你的第一工作就是你的第一

工作 填满

你的杯子，让自己变得完整，

所以对我来说

，任何形式的参与的创业赋权的

基础是我成功

的基础我的幸福我的完整我的

一切

都知道我是谁，我来自哪里

[掌声]

现在在我的客厅里

是一幅我已经拥有了 30 年的画，

你可以用谷歌搜索它，

它被称为最高出价者

，它在我家的中心

，它在我家的中心，

因为它实际上 象征

着不是房子的

地基，而是我生命的基础 这幅画是

19 世纪 20 世纪初的一位风俗画家 harry rosalind

画的，这幅画超过六英尺高，描绘的

是一名奴隶

妇女 拍卖区

握着她女儿的手

，我不能进门，我的

前门，或者我不能不经过

那幅画

就离开 我的图书馆

我有一个被奴役的非裔美国人的框架清单

记得我

向你展示了被

奴役的人

在分类帐中列出的各种种植园中，旁边

是奶牛

、马

、马车

和其他财产 我

每天都通过这份名单

，经常在它面前停下

来，大声说出他们的名字和他们的年龄

乔纳斯

11 岁 500

莎拉

41 岁

900

伊丽莎白

57

800 美元

，我强迫自己

考虑一下荒谬和 如果将它们挂牌出售，

每个产品都会贴上淫秽的价格，

有时我只是在他们面前停下

来祈祷，

特别是在我必须

对我的一家公司做出重大决定之前，或者

我是否继续前进，或者我是否保持

不动

它 提醒我大声说出这些名字，

不仅是我来自哪里，

而且

因为它们

，我必须走多远，它提醒我，我从来不是一个人，

它提醒我我所经历的一切

我说 一直对我的

女孩们说，你真正的工作

是弄清楚你的权力基础在哪里，

并努力使你的

个性与你必须

给予的礼物与你在这里的真正原因保持一致

，那就是麻木 呃，

你必须做的一件事

就是锻炼自己，充实自己

，让你的杯子充满，让自己

充满现在我曾经害怕

我曾经害怕的

人，特别是那些说哦，她说她仍然是

家伙

她与自己如此亲密，现在

我拥抱它我

认为这是一种恭维，我

充满了自己，

因为只有当你充满时，我才会

充满我已经溢出我的杯子运行结束了

我有这么多我有这么多要 提供

和付出很多，我

不怕尊重自己，你知道这很

神奇，当你想到它时，

每个人都有不同的天赋

，我们都这么搞砸的原因是

因为你在看

其他人的天赋

并希望 你有他们的一些天赋

你花在

想着希望嫉妒

嫉妒别人的所有精力是你所释放的能量

不仅会

消极地回到你身上，而且你正在

把它从你身上夺走

你所有的精力都应该放在

我必须提供什么 我必须提供什么 我

如何在服务中使用，

因为金博士的信息不是

每个人都可以成名，但每个人

都可以伟大，因为伟大

由服务决定，这里没有

工作 你可以做到你

不会将范式转换为服务，

也不会让工作更充实我

不在乎工作是什么如果你说

我是歌手我是舞者我是艺术家

我' 我是老师 我是护士 我是医生

我是门卫

更长的时间成为一份工作它成为

向世界提供

的第一定律

是物理学中的第三运动定律它

说对于每个动作都有一个相等

和相反的反应我们

在紫色中展示了非常漂亮的颜色

甚至试图对我做的事情都已经

对你做

这不仅仅是一个修辞上的说法

那是法律是ne wton 物理学中的第三

运动定律说所有

出去的东西

都会回来就像

所有上升的东西都会下降一样可能需要

很长时间才能下降它正在下降

所有出去的东西都会回来

它会回来

所以回答 显化和冥想的力量

冥想所做的就是让你与源头同步 冥想所做的是让你

从字面上挖掘创造你的力量，

这样你就可以与之对齐

，所以当你把它带到

世界上时 你所做的

来自

那个来自我们称之为上帝的源头的对齐的中心，

我们称之为神圣的能量，神圣的

智慧，无论你想给它起什么名字，

当你与生命同步时，我们称之为生命，

生命只是给你

[音乐]

就你的工作而言，我能给你的第一课

是，它

变得如此熟练、

如此警惕、如此出色

地完成了你所做的事情

，以至于你的才能不能被忽视

你知道吗，当我还是个孩子的时候，我以为

我会

成为一名社会工作者或一名教师，或者

以某种方式处于一个

我可以与人们联系并与

人们交谈以尊重这个使命的环境中我不

知道上帝会梦想

我自己的电视生活的伟大梦想，但

每个人都有一个使命

，你生活中的真正工作是

尽快弄清楚你应该成为什么样的人，

并开始以最好的

方式为你自己实现这一点，我们

多年来在奥普拉节目中看到了这么多

能够

在生活中取得成功的人，他们

之所以能够取得成功，是因为他们接听

了电话，很多人认为

这与出名或出名

或 关于做令人难以置信的大事

，你今天要听到并

看穿这些故事的

是，

有时呼唤

就在你自己的社区，

有时呼唤

只是对你的耳语，当你

开始 也不是那种窃窃私语

和跟随

你最终成为最好的你的

想法，我当时实际上

认为瘦，

嗯，

让我变得更好，

嗯，我对形式的认同，我，

嗯，

如此

迫切地想要成为一个 10 码的基因是

如此突出

不久之后，

我体重增加了 5 磅

，当时我被唐·约翰逊邀请参加一个聚会，

记得梦幻黎明

约翰逊我被邀请参加一个假日聚会

，但我没有去那个聚会，因为我

认为这五磅

赚了 我太胖了，

不足以成为唐·约翰逊的

派对，现在我知道这听起来有点恶心，

但这就是自我所做的，呃，

它只是它病了它很狡猾它很

狡猾它很欺骗它是一个冒名顶替者，

强加于真实的你

，经常让你 认为你

不是你的东西 不是

你的房子或广场

为你们现在正在观看的所有人重新录像 这是

另一种更好地理解自我的方法

我在说什么 eckhart 教我

这个每个人都在家中尝试这个

你现在在哪里或任何地方 闭上眼睛

，

注意你在想什么

注意你的

现在

谁在想那些想法

你能注意到有一个空间

在那里你正在观察这些想法

并且你

意识到你正在观察的想法

eckhart 说你是

伪装成一个人

的意识当我明白时

我明白了 多年来，我的

真实自我

和自我自我之间的差异

我们听到了宝贵的

信息

，在危险的时刻可能会

挽救生命

我听到的没有什么

比 1991 年给我留下的印象更深我

认为我们开始了我们的第五次 赛季

，一个名叫 sanford strong 的人出现

并分享了这个永远不会忘记它的

规则第一

，坦率地说，在我看来，这可能

是最重要的，

永远不要

让

他们接受

如果这个房间里的每个人和

观看这个节目的每个人都没有

划清界限

并

就犯罪

保护做出决定，

那么你永远不会在其他地方

第二，它会被

孤立，你不会选择它，你会

成为犯罪的

焦点 相信你只是按照

他们所说的去做，无论他们说什么

，

对你们这些现在正在观看的人

以及

那些现在和我们一起在互联网

上的人来说，重要的是要知道，这一切都是为了

使用你的 当下的直觉

和在可怕的情况下幸存下来的人

谈论倾听

这种直觉，每一步都是

在倾听你的直觉

说的

话而计算出来的，专家们现在说的是不要 允许

自己被带到第二个

位置，因为任何

试图伤害你的人

都想把你带到一个孤立的地方

，在那里他们可以在没有其他

人看到或知道的情况下这样做，所以在

做出决定的那一刻，哦，你

要走了 要射我，如果你要

射我，

你必须现在就射我，

而不是孤立地射我，

当有人

说什么让

我手臂或脖子上的小毛竖起来时，没人能看到你我

知道如果那是 发生在我身上的

事情也发生在其他人

身上制作电影的方式就是做

你喜欢的事情因为你知道

我在奥普拉秀上工作了 25 年

，

嗯，史蒂文会告诉你，有些

晚上我回家了，我 几乎你

知道连脱

衣服都很难，因为我知道我要在

四个小时后起床，但我从来没有

像 depl 那样真正感到筋疲力尽，但我

从来没有感到筋疲力尽

直接来自

你的灵魂 来自你的背景

来自你成长

的故事 给你带来激情的

故事 来自你不仅渴望

讲述，

而且如果你不告诉他们，他们

就不会被告知的故事 当你

在做手术的时候，你知道

我认为我所接受过的最伟大的智慧，

除了当人们展示他们是谁

时

灵魂真的来了

你的灵魂的内部 你做的工作 你做的艺术

来自你的内心

它你不能错过

它只有当你在做

你认为可能赚钱的事情时 你认为它

可能是

成功的或者你认为它

可能是 ng你一定程度的关注或

成功不是

什么 感觉如此真实，

因为

它实际上就是

这样，当你这样做时，你就会赢

，每个人都有不同的天赋

，而我们都这么搞砸的原因是

因为你在看

其他人的天赋，

并希望你有一些天赋 他们的才能

你花在

想嫉妒

嫉妒别人上的所有精力都是你所释放的能量，

这些能量不仅会

负面地回到你身上，而且你正在

把它从你身上夺走，你

所有的能量应该 被迫

接受我必须提供什么

在这里你可以做的工作 你

不会将范式转换为

服务 不会让工作更充实 我

不在乎工作是什么 如果你说

我是歌手 我是舞者 我是 艺术家

我是老师 我是护士 我是医生

我是门卫

比我自己，

它不再成为一份工作，它成为

向世界提供的

东西 钱哦，天哪，

我很难

弄清楚我的界限在哪里，

因为我从小就很穷，

一无所有，

所以当你一无所有，人们向你要钱时，这很容易

，他们说我 需要500，你说我

没有，因为我只是想

付

房租 你有很多

以前没有的朋友和堂兄弟，

所以你如何

为自己设定界限

我丈夫请帮助

我

，我会的，因为

她知道我有，

所以我学到的是

哦，人们不断出现的原因

是因为我的目的是让他们

认为我是一个很好的人

，

你可以问

我什么都可以，你可以让我做任何事

捐一些钱给

慈善机构，我不想

捐给慈善机构，

因为

我有自己的慈善机构，我

关心很多人，但问题是

当你有钱时，每个人都认为

你只想给一切 所以

我收到的每封信都以我们

知道你爱 孩子们

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是的，我确实爱孩子们，但

其他人将不得不帮助

孩子们，

所以我对 stevie 说，嗯，我对 stevie 说，

嗯，

作为一个患有这种疾病的人，

我正在等他，然后只是

说

我永远不会再和你说话

我永远不会打电话给你我永远不会

为你

唱歌他没有他只是说好吧

好吧

好吧没关系他说好吧稍后检查

你我从中学到了

很多次 你会对事情感到焦虑和担心

，

让自己处于今天早上某人所说的状态，

因为他们的电话

没电了

关于你的

学习，我可以明确

地为自己确定

界限对我

来说我想做什么

给我的钱给我的时间给我的

服务给我想给谁

当我这样做的时候我可以做出那个

决定 只是因为 y 你每周收到

一百个请求并不意味着你

必须尝试满足所有

这些要求，因为你对

你的时间和你有所有这些要求并不意味着

你

必须说是的，你必须做出决定，

因为你 '是你命运的主人，

你灵魂的船长，正如威廉·

欧内斯特·亨利在 invictus 和理解中所说的那样，

这真的改变

了我生活的意义，因为我

不再被

其他人想让我做的事情所驱使，

而是负责我的 自己的命运

根据我的感受做出选择

对我来说下一个正确的举动

是所有

名人中的一个女人所有

著名的非名人臭名昭著的人中的一个

女人

她的名字是谁她的名字是 tarai trent

听 故事

我会尽量缩短给

你们看 好吧 tara right

trent 在津巴布韦的一个村庄出生和长大 11

岁 她正在做她哥哥的作业

她想上学 她父亲

说不 你是女孩 你 必须

教育男朋友y 是的

是的 是的 男孩必须上学

你不能上学 所以她开始

做她哥哥的作业

她做他哥哥的作业 他去上学 他的家庭作业

得了全是

但他不知道答案

老师来

村里说这里发生了什么事

这个男孩不知道答案但

他的作业很完美她

发现tarai他的妹妹正在做

他的作业她求父亲让

terrorize去上学 父亲

说不 她不能上学 最后他

娶了她 她 11

岁半结婚 她结婚

18 岁时有了三个孩子

一个妇女

从一个非政府组织国际小母牛来到村里

问你的梦想是什么 这

会让我哭 最后

问她你的梦想是什么

这个孩子从来没有想过

她的梦想是什么 她说 写下你的

梦想 她在一张纸上写下她的梦想

她跟着 把它们放在一个

锡罐里，然后她把它们埋在一块石头

下 第一个梦想是能够

去学校，去美利坚合众国的一所学校

并获得大学学位，她最终

通过了非政府组织的一些奇迹

去美国她获得了大学

学位哇是的她

在三年内获得了四年制学位

吓坏了特伦特她回到津巴布韦的岩石

她将下一个目标写在一张

纸上她把它埋在她写的岩石下

我想获得硕士学位

她回到大学并说她现在获得了

硕士学位 她现在有

五个孩子 她嫁给了一个

仍然击败她的男人 难以置信

她回到美国 她在

硕士学位后获得了硕士学位

学位她回到津巴布韦的岩石

她写下她的最终目标

是获得博士学位，

去年她成为了 tararai trent 博士，

你在哪里找到的，我在哪里找到的，嗯，

我

在 nicholas kristoff 的书中找到了她

叫

呃

某事天空下的天空

或天空和尼科我在尼古拉斯克里斯托夫的书中找到了她

，我正在阅读这个故事

我在节目中有

尼古拉斯克里斯托夫著名的

纽约时报作家

尼古拉斯克里斯托夫她不在那里她不在 t 的一部分

我正在阅读这个故事我无法

相信这本书这个女人的故事，

因为我正在阅读这个故事

所以当我们去做节目时

，制片人有尼古拉斯克里斯托夫

他们带来了其他客人 但是这个

女人不在那里我怎么能

没有她所以我们

与尼古拉斯克里斯托夫一起录制另一个节目我们回去并

很好我们会发现这个女人

这次恐怖的正确趋势到这个

时候她生活在 美国

我们跟着她回到津巴布韦 到

岩石

我们从岩石下面拉出锡罐

这是我最喜欢的客人

，也是最糟糕的

嗯，

我没有最糟糕的，我没有

更糟糕的，但原因 为什么她和

我在我的节目中这么说的原因 tara

rai trent 是我一直以来最喜欢的客人

，因为她代表了津巴布韦一个村庄里的

一个小女孩的故事，

她有一个梦想

，有追求它的心、深度和

纪律，她代表了我

在每一个故事中试图说的一切 在 25 年的节目中，

她通过她的生活故事从字面上

总结了我试图向

我的每一位观众传达的信息，

你可以

继续努力

，不要放弃，你必须相信，多年来你

必须相信

一个世纪以来，许多

教师、诗人和词曲作者都

谈到了了解

自己的

重要性 在所有关于爱自己的谈话中

，除非您知道自己与自我分离的人，否则您无法开始爱自己，甚至无法做真实的自己

，

因此请考虑一下您

在家中聆听的声音 吸引我并吸收

我现在正在分享的想法，

并且

有一个内部空间可以让

您几乎感知这些想法

甚至没有空间我只是使用

空间这个词因为没有其他

词有

能力 感知我在说什么，

并意识到我在说什么

，这就是真正的你在你自己

的中心的那个意识中

，当你偏离那个中心时，你

会迷失

，你会犯错误，

我学到了这一点 你的自我很难

接管

每个人都有一个自我我曾经认为

自我通过呃

某人傲慢或

自大或傲慢

或她认为她正在

打印红地毯之类的东西

来展示自己 展示自己的业务，

所以我知道

这个业务涉及很多自负，我

一直认为我

已经控制了我的自我，直到我

意识到这不仅仅是显而易见的，它并不

总是表现出来或炫耀

在 20 08

我为我的读书俱乐部选择了 eckhart tolle 的书 a new earth

这本书将

改变

你看待你的生活、你周围的

人和你的世界的方式第三章和

第四章从字面上改变了我看待

自己和自我的方式

它改变了我 自我的意思是什么

，完全说这是

对形式的任何认同，

意味着任何

对不是你自己中心的东西的认同，

它是财产，物质的

东西，汽车，

头衔，社会地位，或者在我的情况下，

认同对瘦的深切渴望，

你会找到真正的成功

如果你只有一个目标，那就真的只有一个目标

，那就是

实现

你

作为一个

人的最高最真实的表达

你

神学家霍华德瑟曼说得最好

他说不要问自己这个

世界需要

什么问问自己是什么让你活

过来然后去做

因为世界需要的是

活过来

的人 世界需要

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[音乐

] 像迈克尔·斯塔尔森伯格这样来自

劳德代尔堡的人，当时迈克尔只有

8 岁，迈克尔几乎

死于细菌感染，导致他失去

了双手 他的

脚一瞬间，这个充满活力的小

男孩变成了一个四肢截肢者

，他的

生活永远改变了，

但在失去曾经的他之后，

迈克尔发现了他想成为的人，

他拒绝整天坐在轮椅上

，为自己感到难过，所以 有了

假肢，他学会了走路

、跑步和再次玩耍，

他加入了他的中学曲棍球

队，上个月，当他

得知波士顿马拉松

爆炸案的许多受害者将成为新的截肢者时，

迈克尔决定用光明驱散黑暗

，

迈克尔和他的兄弟哈里斯 创建

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为其他截肢者筹集 100 万美元，

以帮助哈里斯在 2014 年波士顿

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这两个年轻的兄弟

正在将人们聚集在一起支持

这个波士顿社区就像他们的

社区团结起来支持

迈克尔当这个 13 岁的男人

被问及他的截肢同伴时，他

首先说他们会很难过

他们 失去一些

他们永远不会回来的东西

，这很可怕，

我很害怕，

但他们会

没事

的 我们的日常生活，但

我相信

无论

2013 年的哪一班

你都会没事

，你会确保我们的国家

没事

我有信心，因为那个

9 岁的女孩出去

收集零钱

我有信心，因为 David 和

francine Wheeler 我有信心，因为

michael 和 harris stolzenberg，我

有信心，因为你

今天坐在这里的天使网络其中一个是

khadijah williams，四年前来到哈佛

khadijah 在 在 12 年里照料过 12 所学校，

靠垃圾袋生活，在皮条客、

妓女

和毒贩中无家可归

2013 届哈佛毕业生。没有人的旅程是无缝的或

一帆风顺的 我们都会跌跌撞撞 我们都会

遇到挫折 如果出现问题，你会随心所欲地走到

死胡同

这只是生活中的说法 是

时候改变方向了

所以问每一次失败这就是我所做的

每一次失败每一次危机每一次

困难的时候我说这是

要教给

我什么一旦你得到教训

你就可以继续前进

如果你真的得到了教训你就

通过了如果你不学习你就不必重复这

门课 没有得到教训，

穿着另一条裤子

或裙子

来给你一些补救工作

，我发现

当你不注意生活的耳语时，困难就来了，

因为生活总是对你耳语

首先，如果你

迟早忽略耳语，你会得到

尖叫，

无论你坚持什么，但如果你

问正确的问题，不是为什么会

发生这种情况，而是这是在

这里教我什么是在这里教我

你在这个地方和空间

上学你需要我的朋友cartoli

呃他写了这本很棒的书

呃叫做一个新

地球这就是让对

你是谁的意识激发

你所做的一切他这样说他说

不要 不要对糟糕的情况做出反应

，而是与那种情况合并，

解决方案将来自

挑战，

因为投降并不

意味着放弃它意味着负责任地行事，

好吧

，你们中的许多人都知道，正如

亨尼西总统所说，我在非洲创办了这所学校

，

我创办了这所学校，我试图

让南非女孩有机会看到像你们斯坦福大学这样的

未来

，我花了五年时间确保

这所学校和 stu 一样美丽

凹痕

我希望每个女孩都能

在周围环境中感受到她的价值 所以我

检查了每一个蓝图

我挑选了每个枕头

我看着砖块之间的灌浆

我知道床单的每一个线程

数 我选择了

来自九个省的村庄的每个女孩 然而，

去年秋天，我面临着一场

我从未预料到的危机，有人告诉我，

一名宿舍管理员涉嫌性

虐待，这就像你可以想象的

毁灭性消息一样，

我首先哭了，实际上我抽泣了

大约半个小时

然后我说让我们开始吧

，你得到的只是半小时，

你需要专注于现在

你现在需要做的事情所以我联系了一位

儿童创伤专家我组建了一个

调查小组我确保

女孩们有 咨询、支持和

盖尔，我登上飞机飞往

南非，一直以来我一直在

问这个问题

，这里能教给我什么

，尽管经历如此艰难，但

我得到了很多教训，

我不知道 现在了解我所犯的错误，

因为我

一直在关注

我从外部建立这所学校的所有错误的事情，而

真正重要的是由内

而外，

所以这是一个适用于

我们整个生活的教训 最重要的

是内在最重要的

是质量和美感的完整性我得到

了教训，我所知道的

是女孩们也得到了一些东西，

她们已经摆脱了这种更有弹性的东西，

并且知道她们的声音

有力量

[ 音乐]

有一个更大的梦想在等着你

只等

你

踏进

它 踏进它 你的生活很伟大

你的生活很伟大 我们花了这么多

时间

想进入别人的生活

而你却得不到

尊重 不要受到尊敬，你不会

庆祝想要别人

拥有的

[音乐]，

因为

那创造了你神圣的

智慧，

在你的祖先知道

他们会成为

你的祖先之前梦想着你 哪个梦想 你的种子

想让你知道 多么特别 多么

奇妙 多么神秘 多么复杂 多么

光荣 多么非凡 你

在别人的领地里搞乱

[音乐]

或试图对

你无法控制的事情拥有权力

我最喜欢的教义

是绿野仙踪，

当西方的邪恶说

离开这里，因为你

在这里没有任何权力，

除了你自己的领土外，你在任何领土上都没有权力

哦，但你是那个你的主人

成为自己命运的主人，

成为自己灵魂的船长

，如果你能做到这一点，

如果你照顾好自己的领土，

所有光荣的光荣

奇妙的机会和

可能性都在等着你，所以 问题

是你在抵制

什么 你在推动

什么 你不允许什么 你在

阻止什么 因为你

知道你应该成为谁和什么

而不是

倾向于我 进入已经创造的梦想

，等待着你，它在

等待着你，第二个我的意思是，

这不是一瞬间的事情，而是

你看待自己的方式和

你所来自的力量的转变

[音乐]

练习感恩 这是我

一生中最重要的一次实践，我不得不说

，我知道随着感恩节的到来，很多

人都会想到感恩

有很多关于

感恩节和祝福的话题，

但这有点

像圣诞节和复活节去教堂，这很重要，但是

这是不一致的，因为对我

来说，感恩

是必要的，应该每天练习，

因为为

欣赏你所拥有的东西

腾出空间，我保证让你拥有更快乐、更

充实的存在，同时

确保这些祝福不断

涌现，这是事实 一条法则

，你在生活中所

关注的事情会扩大，所以专注于你所感激的事情会

增加积极的振动和

快乐的感觉，这只是一个好处 感觉

建立在另一种美好感觉和

另一种感觉的基础上，如果你积极地欣赏

生活中的一切，无论

它有多小，你会

注意到你最终会拥有更多，

而当你磨练你没有的东西时，

你永远不会拥有 够了，所以

感激我已经学会了让我们用积极的态度来填补

我们渴望的东西和我们已经拥有的东西之间的裂缝和缝隙，

这样我们就可以为

恩典

的出现铺平道路，过上更美好的

生活所以你怎么样 让感恩成为

我

的习惯 早上我做的第一件事就是

阅读某种精神

启蒙，让我

以积极的心态开始新的一天，

这只会

有助于带来更多的积极能量

，对我来说就是 基督教的日常词汇

或诗篇

也是基督教马克尼波的

觉醒之书只是精神上没有

宗教每天冥想

和鲁米或玛丽奥利弗有

一种叫做一碗清酒的东西我也

喜欢它是

您可以免费下载到您的

收件箱中的精神苏菲教义，但我做过的最伟大的事情

是拥有一本感恩日记，所以我

在 20 多年前开始写一篇感恩日记

，多年来我每天都写下

我感激的五件事 因为我相信

你必须把它们写下来，因为

书面文字中有力量力量力量

，它可以是任何大小的

东西，有些日子这些事情会变得容易，

你知道与亲密的朋友聊天或

在凉爽的秋天空气中散步

有一个爱人在晚餐时为你做饭或

给你端一

杯茶，有时甚至可能都

很难想到任何事情

，这是完全正常的，当

事情不容易浮现在脑海中时，

回到你的呼吸，

因为如果你吸气 你

应该感激

知道你拥有它，

早上睁开眼睛

呼吸是一种礼物，

但每天我都会不断写下

五件让我感激的事情，

有时会超过五件，但 如果我

不能达到五，我就去呼吸

呼吸呼吸

感谢

是你内心

的一种姿态，一种选择和一种特权，所以我希望

你能做出选择，

如果你还没有开始每天的感恩练习，

我' 多年来一直这么说，

因为我肯定知道，

欣赏

你生活中出现的快乐

将确保一年后会有更多的美好出现

，就像没有人

经历过的那样，我相信

我们能集体做的最好的事情就是

现在要照顾我们的各个细胞，我知道

这对某些人来说可能听起来过于简单甚至

自私，但这是

我确定的，你必须

用爱和爱的思想养活自己

，才能表现得

更加坚强和

完整 其他人你的爱我们

这些天听到很多关于自我保健的

事情，但这对我来说真正意味着什么？

它是关于参与让

你以各种方式充实你的实践，这意味着

吃的食物既令人愉快又

滋养 每天给你的身体某种形式的运动的礼物，让你

周围有

能量提升你的人，这也很

重要，

在你的一天中创造空间，或者

至少给自己

至少五分钟的

静止时间 当

您可以远离世界的声音时，

这非常重要，

这样您就可以大声而清晰地听到自己的声音

这就是为什么

我将星期天专门用作

重新校准和更新的时间，

所以有时这只是在大自然中简单的散步

或

只是坐在外面 在后院的

所有这一切，独自一人的时间帮助我

重新集中精力，为

接下来的一周加油，然而，这

对你来说是你需要为你做的，

我喜欢格伦农·多伊尔在

她的书中所说的爱战士她 说我

遇到了自己

，我会非常关心她，

所以我知道作为女性，我们必须被

提醒不断把

自己放在首位，因为当你

真正重视自己的时候 世界反映

了对你的价值 没有人

需要提醒自我保健的重要性，

尽管比母亲更重要，

所以我们都知道，在

大流行之前的正常时期，

妈妈们在

管理孩子的需求方面有很多事情要做 以及

配偶、家庭和姻亲，

这就是为什么我非常尊重

那些做得很好的人

，现在这种流行病已经造成了损失，

从增加的儿童保育

需求到心理健康的影响，

再到来自比你知道的更多的经济压力

五

自 2020 年 2 月以来，数以百万计的女性失去了工作。

所以我们知道，母亲

肩上的担子很重

，这只是另一个迹象，表明

自我

关注自己是如此重要，

是否有人需要原谅，

这是最困难的事情之一

实践的生活原则，但它

也可能是最

有价值的之一 它是你可以给自己的最伟大的礼物之一

你原谅

你，你就会摆脱

你一直背负着沉重的怨恨负担，这让你感到

沮丧，你真的变得

轻松了，你

生活中的事情开始落到实处，

所以作为一个在童年时期经历过虐待的人，

我非常清楚

要原谅你身边的人的斗争

伤害过你的生活

是真实的，很痛苦，

但要知道，这不是宽恕

那个人

虐待你的行为，

而是让他们的所作所为

影响你的生活现在

乔尔·詹波尔斯基博士告诉我这个

多年前在奥普拉节目中是一个重大的

啊哈啊哈时刻，

当他说宽恕

正在放弃希望过去

可能会有所不同时，我现在已经接受了它作为精神法则我再说一遍

宽恕是放弃

希望 四分之一本来

应该发生的，事实上

它没有发生它正在接受已经发生

的事情的现实，

并且继续

这个事实是

让我过上最好的生活的基础 这是

变革性的，你必须

意识到，可能

的事情并不

容易听到，我知道

，做起来

更难 面对面，然后

让它流过你，

只有这样你才能放手，走出

你历史的伤害，进入现在的

可能性，

我从 iyanla vanzant 那里学到的教训已经

有一段时间了，我记得

几年前 在节目中，她说你可以

接受或拒绝别人对待你的方式，

但在你治愈

过去的伤口之前，你会继续

流血，你可以用食物包扎出血

用酒精 用药物 用工作

用香烟 做爱 她 说但

最终

它会渗入并玷污你的

生活

你必须找到打开伤口的力量

把你的手伸进里面

拉出束缚你过去的痛苦的核心

回忆并做

豌豆 与他们在一起，所以这是公式

接受发生的事情原谅别人

原谅自己接受现在

是开始治愈的秘诀并

放弃希望过去

可能与

实际不同的

任何事情发生的一切都

有助于使您成为您

我希望你能找到放弃所有怨恨的勇气，

因为我确实知道

宽恕的另一面是

自由

，你可以自由地过你想要的生活，你

真正应得的生活

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在过去的一年

半里，

作为一个集体，我们都经历了太多的感受，

所以我们都在一起，我知道我们

在很多人不相信之前就听说过，

但我们

无论我们是否就自己的感受达成一致，在其中一起感受同样的事情

，

而我所知道的持久

感受之一是不确定感，不

知道接下来会发生什么，所以

我们的生活已经动摇并

转移到说 至少这

让我们很多人不确定即将发生的事情我们

什么时候会全职回到办公室这

需要我多久我们会戴

口罩多久我们会为口罩而斗争多久

这一切都结束了，没有所有答案真的很自然，

所以

我确实知道的一件事是，我们都

必须放弃

对拥有完全控制权的了解，

并能够准备好

驾驭各种浪潮。 改变，

但我们怎么做

当我们生活在

未来不可预测的细微差别中时，焦虑就来

了 你知道的所有假设情况 我记得当我

在 1998 年因

贬低汉堡而不得不坐在

法庭上受审时 在阿马里洛待了六个星期，

非常感谢你，在

试验开始时，我非常焦虑，

学会专注于那

一天，而

不是接下来的几天让我保持清醒，

所以我认为我们都必须练习变得

更加 com 踏入

未知领域，当那些不确定的、

不知所措的

感觉蔓延时，你需要

努力留在当下

，保持静止

，呼吸

，对自己说，我现在在这里，

现在一切都好，一切都好，

我

一切都会好起来的

只是

对不确定性的恐惧会阻止我们

朝着突破迈出下一步，但

我们不能让不

确定性恶化并演变成怀疑，

怀疑你的

毅力，你的价值观不会

在你驾驭任何即将到来的事物时得到你的支持

next now 他们过去一直在

你身边 他们现在在你身边 他们会随着

时间的推移在你身边 所以看看你

从哪里来 你走了多远

找到现在的你，

你仍在适应不断

发展的自我，希望这

是我们所有人都在努力做的事情

现在世界上发生了很多事情，

随着疫苗接种率的上升，全国各地的大规模任务正在发生变化

，旅行正在回归

，

对于你们中的许多人来说，在可预见的未来可能会回到办公室工作，

因为我们 在经历了

如此漫长而充满挑战的

篇章之后，

请看下一章

我们生活中的新世界

，所以我不知道你们

所有人，但我永远改变了

这几个月远离世界的喧嚣

，我将永远更加谨慎地

选择什么必须引起我的注意，

什么是 不是 因为我学到了

很多东西，所以当我们点击

电脑或手机上的那个小刷新按钮时，

它会如此快速地更新所有内容

，就像那样简单，

有时它甚至是自动化的，所以

甚至没有任何

考虑刷新的想法 在现实生活

中，我们知道需要努力，需要时间，

需要耐心，所以

在这些日子里请

善待自己 另一个

在我们的日常生活中把事情做好的机会

，我想说，开始弄清楚你真正应该成为什么样的人

的最好方法

是问宇宙

之神这个问题，

上帝如何首先使用我为自己服务，

然后 那么我如何使用这项

服务来服务世界

用你的生命来服务世界，你

会发现它也为你服务

人们犯的最大错误之一

就是认为他们必须得到报酬

很多钱，甚至因为他们的呼唤而得到报酬，无论你是否得到报酬，

你都在这里兑现你的呼唤

也真的很好，因为

尊重召唤可以满足你在生活中所做的一切

释放

阻碍你的视野和阻碍你的能量 这

是我很久以前学到的一种生活实践，

它让我在很多方面解放了我

这是一个事实，

怀恨在心 反对一个对你不利的人，

或者

一遍又一遍地重温你脑海中的伤害情况只会

让你感到沮丧，并阻止你成为

你现在应该

成为的人，因为你仍然

精力充沛地抓住过去的

能量 不断地

回顾怨恨他们为什么要那样

做他们为什么对我说我

不应该被那样对待

所有这一切只会让你陷入困境

它永远不会改变发生的事情 你

必须按下停止

并拒绝继续重播的冲动，

这样你就可

以为自己快进到现在你

知道很多人

认为坚持那些

剥夺他们权力的东西

会以某种方式神奇地扭转

局面，

正如我在 几周前我

关于宽恕的信息，

你必须释放这个概念，放弃

过去可能会有所不同的希望

，你还必须

释放人们会

在任何特定情况下做你可能做的事情的想法，这是一个

大问题

在我真正明白之前

，我

必须学习和重新学习 你

不这样做会让你陷入一个

实际上花费你

时间花费你精力的环境中，我可以

保证，通常情况下，

你所持有的痛苦的另

一边的人' 甚至没有

想过你

，事实上他们可能刚刚开始

他们当然不会沉迷于

你的想法就像放弃

任何对

你的幸福没有好处的坏习惯

并不是一件容易

的事 通往更加开明的

健康生活的道路从来都不是所以

这就是我想问你

自己

为什么

我坚持

这个如何为我服务

并真正思考答案

也许它让你感到被验证也许

它让你觉得 正义

或

承受痛苦是你

承认不公正的方式，

即使它不会被纠正，

它至少不会被遗忘

然后我再问你

一次问你自己

你想要正确

还是想要和平

这对我来说是巨大的不幸的

事实是，两者兼而有之可能是

不可能的，而且你可能永远不会得到

正义的时刻，所以为什么要等待

它选择和平

我可以肯定的

是，在这个世界上，时间是在

前进，它是 我们最v 有价值的商品，

你永远无法找回它，

所以留在那个循环中一遍

又一遍地在你受伤的头脑中播放它只会

放大你的痛苦让它去呼气

在你的心中腾出空间让你

振奋的

东西与那些

想要最好的人在一起 你有能力

改变你的精神基因，控制

你对生活的看法，所以为什么不减轻

你的负担，让它去

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知道什么时候你知道你

做得更好我们已经准备好继续我的

想法

当我还是一个非常年轻的女孩时，我开始得到另一个强有力的教训，

我被祖母抚养长大

，然后在六岁

时与祖母分开，

搬到密尔沃基，突然

对我自己来说，在一个陌生的环境中，我

记得走进那个 新的空间，并

认识到

在很多方面我都是一个人，

如果你六岁，那感觉很糟糕，

但我一直对自己有深刻的

理解

，如果有什么事情要

发生 在我的生活中，我将

不得不为实现这一目标负责

，

我现在知道这是真的，并且可以

清楚地表达它，因为你

对自己的

生活负责，如果你坐在那里

等待有人拯救你 修理

你，甚至帮助你，

你是在浪费你的时间，因为只有

你有能力承担

责任，推动你的生活向前发展

，你越早得到，

你的生活就越早开始运转，这就是

我从 25 年和数千年的工作中所知道

的 数以千计的奥普拉访谈

节目

不管你来自哪里

我见过人们从

沙漠中走出来 穿越沙漠 出生

在最恶劣的环境中

不管你妈妈做了什么，无论

她是否有博士学位 或者

不重要的是现在这一刻以及你

愿意看到这一刻的真实

情况接受它

原谅过去承担责任

并继续前进

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你