you ladies are about to receive a piece

of paper that proves to the world you

are now fit to join the ranks of an

elite and tremendously powerful group of

game-changing women the Smith class of

2012

Smith women have transformed cuisine

spearheaded social movements created

great literature and in the case of my

friend Piper class of 92 even gone to

prison but damn it when a Smith he goes

to prison she writes a clever and

compelling book about it just know the

fact that you sit here in a chair

assigned to you with your bright shiny

faces looking gorgeous and your caps and

gowns just know you're welcome you've

actually done far more than I was able

to accomplish back on my college

graduation day back in 1982 as a young

person I was a victim of overwhelming

angst and free-floating anxiety I spent

a great deal of my time running around

like a chicken with its head cut off

this ongoing frenzy caused me to send in

my graduation registration without a

stamp or a return address after my four

mostly unfocused years as a solid C

student at Illinois State University

thank you go big red in the aptly named

Normal Illinois I sat where you now sit

hoping to God my name would be called

and I would receive my diploma I

realized my postal boo boo just as the

envelope left my hand and dropped into

the mailbox and instead of figuring out

a way to remedy this I did what I have

always done when I lacked forethought

and impulse control I crossed my fingers

and I hoped for the best

with my entire family out there in the

audience wearing a cap and gown that I

swiped when no one was looking

sitting in a chair that I was sharing

with my good friend Jeannie Mahoney I

held my breath and prayed to hear my

name they finished with the elves and

were on to the m's when my heart sank as

Jeannie took her diploma from our Dean

she whispered in his ear that my name

had been left out gratefully he called

mine after hers of course he didn't have

a diploma for me but he did shake my

hand and my parents sitting way back had

where were none the wiser now I know

that none of you would have been so

scattered and focused leading up to this

day because you are the Smith College

class of 2012 you are exceptional women

if you were not an exceptional woman you

would not be here today I feel I know

quite a bit about the Smith women

because I married one I know from living

with Laura class of 91 and loving Laura

class of 91 that the experience of

attending this fabulous College is

simply transformative your lives will

take on different paths but you will

always be smythies you are women of

Smith you are fiercely independent

you are wickedly smart trail blazing

blazing overconfident and shockingly

entitled like I told you I live with one

of you

I have no doubt you will continue this

legacy and you will change the world

ladies and we need you too now more than

ever but in this moment young ladies and

ADA Comstock on this most auspicious of

days I want you to take a breath and

reflect don't blow through this day even

if you're overwhelmed with the family or

maybe you're just a little bit drunk

take a breath you have successfully

completed a journey at an exceptional

institution of learning and attention

must be paid I'll tell you if I could do

so much of my life over I would have

taken more moments like this to breathe

I would have spent more time focusing on

what was right in front of me instead of

recoiling from what is because it didn't

look or feel exactly as I imagined it I

wouldn't have been forever trying to

look around the corner to see what's

next what's next I'd have taken in the

beauty of this moment and greeted

everything in my life with a big yes and

which leads me to what I'd like to talk

to you about today and today is all

about you

but just a little bit about me I was

born a red-faced screamin malcontents

with sparkling blue eyes and chubby

cheeks along with this extra helping of

angst

I felt alien in a world and in my own

body as I was sure I should have been a

cowboy I spent most of my youth deeply

disappointed so much of the time because

nothing ever looked or felt the way I

imagined it should I wanted to ride my

bike and have my shirt off all summer

I wanted to play Little League baseball

I didn't want to wear a dress or curl my

hair and I was only happy with a clear

blue sky so you can imagine I'm thrilled

today but I lived in Illinois where

winter goes until May and spring usually

skips us altogether and if a day loomed

cloudy as it usually did in Illinois my

poor mother would fear my lashing out at

the weather for having led

me down I took everything so personally

and I lived my life this way for about

27 years until my life stepped in with a

huge lesson that I was just aware enough

to notice now at the time I fancied

myself a serious actress sketch comedy

was not at all on my radar in fact it

was a bit beneath me and out of left

field

I was hired for the second city and for

those of you who don't know the second

city is a Chicago institution yes the

improvisational breeding ground where

the likes of Tina Fey Amy Poehler Rachel

Dratch any of our Dallas along with some

guys you might recognize it's where they

got their start so there I was a very

tightly wound young woman obsessed with

process and rules fresh out of grad

school I was a classically trained

pain-in-the-ass frankly engaging in

improvisation the creative equivalent of

jumping off a cliff an art where there

are no rules save one and that rule is

called yes and yes and is a vital and

only rule of improvisation it simply

never deny your fellow actor you should

be willing and able to accept whatever

he throws at you use that as your

jumping point and then you heighten or

explore it as we like to call it for

instance if I say to you stick them up

and you say well that's not a gun that

gun that's your finger then we have

nowhere to go I or if I say what a

beautiful day it is today and you say no

it's not we're in the middle of winter

and snowing we have nowhere to go from

there what if I were to say to you

come my darling let's go to bed and you

say you're not my wife and put your

pants back on

now where do we go what do I do with

that

the scene is dead in the water and I'm

literally caught with my pants down well

in order for our scene to go forward we

affirm what the other is saying which is

the yes part of our equation and of

course then we take it and we build it

that's the end part of the equation in

other words in order for our lives to go

forward in order to engage fully in life

we need to be willing and able to accept

what is right in front of us whatever it

is the good the bag the thrilling the

heartbreaking every emotion occurrence

event person place or thing and you will

experience them all that's the yes that

I'm talking about and the acceptance and

the embrace of it with all your heart

doing something with it that is the and

you accept influence and then you exert

influence you can't make a cloudy day a

sunny day but you can't embrace it and

decide it's gonna be a good day after

all I learned through contrast I had one

of my first significant experiences of

no but when I was a freshman in high

school I auditioned for and was cast as

the king in a one-act version of the of

the princess and the pea story called

the ugly duckling this also began a

lifelong pattern a pattern of mine being

cast in roles originally intended for

men I'd known I wanted to be an actress

right out of the chute so I was beside

myself with excitement at the audition I

got huge laughs at the first rehearsal I

didn't get the laughs I didn't get the

love and I quit devastated and so

confused I had no idea what I had just

done my 14 year old self had no idea how

to process it I had walked up to that

which I had ate to do for as long as I

could remember and I don't think I go

too far when I say I came face to face

with my destiny and I walked away from

it and you know why because it didn't

feel like I imagined it should have felt

I didn't get the response ie the big

laugh ie the big love like I expected

there was now a real possibility of

failure and I quit I was at this time

unaware of the concept of yes and

feeling the fear and doing it anyway now

as you travel through life in these many

years ahead I guarantee you that you

will come upon countless times in which

the last thing you're gonna want to say

is yes and you will experience loss

heartache the death of a loved one

you'll probably have to say goodbye to a

lover you'll experience rejection maybe

even have to deal with a bad diagnosis

you'll age and the trick isn't to avoid

these times or pretend they're not

happening you can't but you'll need to

do is step up to them courageously and

embrace them allow these experiences to

permeate your being and you weave them

into the fabric of your life they will

not only strengthen you

but soften you and you will open your

heart to compassion you will not be

powerless in this either if you embrace

what's happening instead of denying it

you can make it your own if life gives

you lemons grab it by the horns and

drive and yes I just mixed three

metaphors remember I was a sieve student

as a younger person full of that anxiety

and fear in desperate pursuit of the

keys to the kingdom let me tell you what

I did right after I walked away from the

ugly duckling my freshman year in high

school I would never let that fear take

me over again at least in the acting

department not that I would never feel

fear again I just plowed through it I

grabbed at almost every opportunity

maybe some I should have left at the

wayside now this is not to suggest that

you should say yes and to every

opportunity presented to you and now I

know what you're thinking Jane what

about doing porno to which I say I am as

surprised as you I was never offered the

opportunity but what I have said yes to

that what if life gives us an

opportunity to rob a bank or a way to

cheat on our taxes or say it offers us

several hours in a row of life with the

kardashians hours that we can never get

back to this I say you can always trust

that when you're coming from your

highest self and from your heart you'll

know when to say yes and or when to

engage in the awesome power of no way

now this yes end way of life may not be

the most natural thing for you Smith

College class of 2012 you are highly

educated you are so schooled in critical

thinking it almost hurts to look at you

the point of your education is to get

you to poke holes in theories to

question to be loath to accept anything

at face value yes and may not roll

trippingly off your tongue and into your

life your job is to honestly discern for

yourself

if you're saying no to an opportunity

out of fear or you're simply exercising

good judgment now for me the hardest

thing to get past was my need to plan

and you might you might understand this

I thought I had to have a plan or a

strategy to get where I wanted to go

from my earliest moments I knew I wanted

to be a performer and actress I had an

driving anxiety filled ambition and

growing up in this concrete jungle of a

suburb just south of Chicago I had no

idea how to get there just show me the

road map I would beg her just please

somebody drop down from the heavens take

my hand and show me the way I was ripe

for a cult so I took to rules and

regulations and parameters and in an

effort to feel safe while I waited for

that clear plan of action I would at

least have the illusion of certainty in

what has always felt to me to be an

unsafe unpredictable and ever-changing

world well it turns out that I just had

to be willing to take chances look at

what's right in front of me and greet

everything with a big yes and and of

course then putting my heart into

everything I do my counsel to you women

of Smith College let life surprise you

don't have a plan plans are for wusses

you know if my life went according to my

plan I would never have the life I have

today now you're obviously very good

planners you wouldn't be here so stop it

stop it now don't deprive yourself of

the exciting journey your life can be

when you relinquish the need to have

goals and a blueprint they don't have

goals

I guess I'm assuming you're all of you

are as terrified as I was of life so you

know that when you feel sick to your

stomach it's a good thing it's signals

opportunity for big growth ahead

something's coming something's good so

don't ignore the nausea step up to it

now at one point in my life I had had a

lean financial year I was in a bunch of

sketch comedy shows and performing it's

a hard-knock life from Annie and my

pantyhose had lost its charm

I was stuck creatively and

professionally and I was in my late 30s

terrified that the parade had passed me

by the thought of writing a show by

myself and for myself began to bubble up

to the surface of my consciousness and

it made me very sick to my stomach so

with the big yes and and hutzpah I

didn't even know I had I created

something where there had once been

nothing and this was for the very first

time in my life on my own nickel I

rented a theater for eight consecutive

Wednesdays

I wrote monologues for characters I had

accessed from the deepest recesses of my

psyche and I created a one-hour romp

which I performed literally stinking of

fear and at moments terrified and others

simply elated I was never more proud of

myself and it blew wide opened the doors

of my self-confidence I emerged in my

humble opinion an artist and a changed

woman

I was now one poised for and deserving

of the next level and I met Christopher

guest's shortly thereafter I was cast in

best-in-show thank you I was 40 years

old but I was finally in the game and I

never could have planned this other

momentous occasions where my dreams were

about to come true and I wanted nothing

more than to flee the scene being

offered the opportunity to host the

Emmys being asked to host us at ernet

live being asked to give the

commencement speech at Smith College

when my insight screamed no I somehow

got my mouth to say yes and now as you

know life is not all about work and the

scariest places to say yes and are also

the most rewarding relationship whoever

you choose ladies your husband your wife

your partner will make you see more

about yourself than any navel-gazing in

solitude could ever reveal and if the

process isn't completely horrifying and

frustrating then you're just not doing

it right

this will be your most vulnerable place

I put it off until I was almost 50 your

partner will inevitably see your soft

underbelly shocking behavior you only

read about will start to become your own

your demon will rise up righteously to

destroy your relationship and the guise

of saving yourself from really seeing

yourself and your partner will say to

you with all the tenderness that

situation allows what

[Laughter]

you want to break up with yourself don't

be afraid of this horrible version of

yourself face it embrace it coddle it

right at a poem maybe it just needs a

hug

shine the light of day on this part of

you unclaimed and unacknowledged it's

got the power and its darkest forces

will have you enslaved accept its

influence mine it for its gold yep

sometimes saying yes and is going to

take everything you've got but the

payoff trusting in love it's just

incredible the day after I met my wife I

met my daughter and I don't really like

kids I'm a dog person

I couldn't have designed a better kid

for me though she's witty she's wise

beyond her eight years she has a huge

heart and such patience with the

frailties of human nature that I don't

mean to make her sound like the Dalai

Lama but she is exceptional exceptional

at one day you will meet your child you

may give birth to her you may adopt her

she may just wander over or maybe she'll

follow you home and we do meet them

because they're born who they are we

don't make them we welcome them nothing

like knowing they're watching you will

make you want to be your best self

Hayden was seven when I met her she's

ten now and eight years we hope to be

dropping her off right here

[Applause]

children also remind us that life is

constantly changing and moving ever

forward it is true it does not stop I

really came to know this as when I

turned 40 years old I am a late bloomer

folks the big 400 was much anticipated

for me I resolved to have a party for

myself and actually mark it celebrate it

say yes and to it so then I turned 40

year old 40 years old one day and you

know what happened I turned 41 and then

you know what happened I turned 42 and

it just kept going on like that the

number just kept going up I was like

wait wait somebody pressed the pause

button I just got used to being 40 and

the time goes faster as you get older

and the world keeps changing so my

advice to you live in the moment stay

fluid roll with those changes life is

just one big extended improvisation

embrace the ever-changing and

ever-evolving world with the best rule

I've ever found yes and accept the world

for what it is and at the same time make

it your own and I especially want you to

make it your own you are a particular

variety of person MS Smithee you have

spent the last four years in an

environment that has encouraged you not

just to be yourself but to be your best

self your strongest self you will have

many opportunities to embrace what the

world has for you and I can't wait to

see the ways in which you say and

remember that Swift that Smith women

entitlement that I spoke of earlier I'm

counting on yours to ferociously guard

the women's healthcare rights our

sisters one for us years ago

[Applause]

I know you women of Smith will greet

that fight with a big yes and and anyone

who tries to take them away from you

with a big no way in conclusion I know

you'll never get your experience here

because you are a part of an incredible

legacy I'll be at a party with my wife

and she'll be meeting one person after

another and if by chance she happens to

fajn upon a fellow smithy both their

eyes light up

they already share a profound connection

they both had a unique and extraordinary

experience and today I become a smithy

[Applause]

that same piece of paper that my wife

and all of you toiled for years to get I

get for a handshake and I am so proud to

be one of you enjoy this day and thank

you so much

[Applause]

[Applause]

you

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你们女士们即将收到

一张纸，向世界证明你们

现在适合加入

精英和非常强大

的改变游戏规则的女性群体的行列

2012 年

史密斯班 史密斯女性改变了美食

引领社会运动创造了

伟大 文学，就我的

朋友派珀 92 年级甚至进了

监狱，但该死的，当史密斯

进监狱时，她写了一本聪明而

引人入胜的书，只

知道你坐在

分配给你的椅子上 你明亮闪亮的

脸看起来很漂亮，你的帽子和

长袍只是知道你很受欢迎你

实际上所做的远远超过了我在 1982 年

大学毕业那天所能完成的工作，

我是压倒性焦虑的受害者

和自由浮动的焦虑我花

了很多时间

像一只被砍头的鸡一样到处乱跑

这种持续的狂热导致我在

没有盖章或退货的情况下发送毕业登记

在我

作为

伊利诺伊州立大学

坚实的 C

学生的四年后，我的地址是我的

地址 我的邮政嘘声就在

信封离开我的手

并掉进邮箱时，

我没有想办法解决这个问题，我做了我

一直在做的事情，当我缺乏远见

和冲动控制时，我交叉手指

，我希望最好

我全家都在

观众席上，戴着帽子和长袍，

当没有人注意时，我偷偷

坐在

我和好朋友珍妮·马奥尼（Jeannie Mahoney）分享的椅子上，

我屏住呼吸，祈祷听到我的

名字

当

珍妮从我们的院长

那里接过她的毕业证书时，我

的心沉

了下去 妈妈为我，但他确实握了我的

手，我的父母坐在后面

，现在没有什么比这更聪明了

是杰出的女性，

如果你不是杰出的女性，你

今天就不会在这里

了

上这所神话般的大学

简直是改变你的生活将

走上不同的道路但你将

永远是

史密斯你是史密斯的女性你非常独立

你是邪恶的聪明开拓者

过度自信和令人震惊的

权利就像我告诉你的那样我和你们中的一个人住在一起

我毫不怀疑您将继续这一

遗产，您将改变世界

女士们，我们现在也比

以往任何时候都更需要您，但在这一刻，年轻女士们和

ADA Comstock 最吉祥的

日子我要你喘口气

反思这一天不要吹过

即使你对家人感到不知所措

或者你只是有点

醉了喘口气你已经成功地

完成了一个旅程 必须给予特殊

的学习机构和

关注 我会告诉你如果我能

完成我生命中的

大部分时间 我会花更多这样的时间来呼吸 我会花更多时间

专注于我面前的事情

我不会因为它的

外观或感觉与我想象的完全

不一样而退缩

我生命中的每一件事都用一个大大的“是”

来表达我

今天想和你谈谈的事情，今天是

关于你的，

但只是关于我的一点点我

生来就红着脸尖叫着

不满，蓝眼睛闪闪发光 和胖乎乎的

脸颊 焦虑的额外帮助

我在一个世界和我自己的身体里感到陌生，

因为我确信我应该成为一名

牛仔 我大部分时间都在我的青春中度过了

如此多的时间，因为

没有任何东西看起来或感觉像我

想象的那样 我应该

整个夏天都想骑自行车脱掉衬衫吗？

我想打小联盟棒球

我不想穿裙子或

卷发，我只对晴朗的蓝天感到满意，

所以你可以想象我

我今天很兴奋，但我住在伊利诺伊州，那里的

冬天一直持续到五月，春天通常会

完全跳过我们，如果有一天

像伊利诺伊州通常那样阴天，我

可怜的母亲会害怕我因为把我弄

下来而大发雷霆我把一切都拿走了 所以就个人而言

，我以这种方式生活了大约

27 年，直到我的生活介入了一个

巨大的教训，

当我幻想自己时，我刚刚意识到足以注意到

一部严肃的女演员素描喜剧

根本不在我的雷达上 事实上

它有点好 我和左外野

我被聘为第二个城市和

你们这些不知道第二个

城市是芝加哥机构的人是的

即兴滋生

地蒂娜·菲艾米·波勒雷切尔·

德拉奇等我们达拉斯的任何一个 和一些人一起，

你可能会认出这是他们开始的地方，

所以我是一个

伤痕累累的年轻女子，痴迷于

刚从研究生院毕业的过程和规则

创造性相当于

跳下悬崖一门没有规则的艺术，

只有一个规则，该规则被

称为“是”和“是”，是即兴创作的重要且

唯一的规则，它

永远不会否认你的演员同伴，你

应该愿意并且能够接受

他的任何东西 向你投掷，用它作为你的

跳跃点，然后你提高或

探索它，我们喜欢这样称呼它，

例如，如果我对你说把它们粘起来

，你说那不是枪 那

枪是你的手指 那么我们

无处可去我或者如果我说今天是多么

美好的一天，你说不，

这不是我们在冬天

和下雪我们无处可去

如果我对你说

来 亲爱的，我们上床睡觉，你

说你不是我的妻子，现在又穿上你的

裤子

我们去哪里我该怎么办

，场景已经死在水里，我

真的被我的裤子困住了

为了让我们的场景向前发展，我们

肯定对方所说的，这

是我们等式的“是”部分，

当然然后我们接受它并构建它

，这是等式的结束部分，

换句话说，为了我们的生活 继续

前进 为了充分参与生活

我们需要愿意并能够接受

摆在我们面前的一切 无论它是好东西

包 惊心动魄

令人心碎 每一个情绪发生的

事件 人的地方或事物，你都会

体验到它们 这就是我所说的“是”

和“接受”和“

T” 他全心全意地拥抱它，

用它做某事，然后

你接受影响，然后你施加

影响你不能把阴天变成

晴天，但你不能接受它并

决定这将是美好的一天

毕竟，我通过对比了解到

，我第一次重要的经历是

不，但是当我还是高中一年级的时候，

我试镜并被选为

公主和豌豆故事的单幕版本的国王

丑小鸭 这也开始了我的

一生 在第一次排练时我

没有得到笑声我没有得到

爱我放弃了沮丧和

困惑我不知道我刚刚

做了什么我14岁的自己不知道

如何处理它我走了

只要我吃的东西

可以记得，

当我说我

面对我的命运并离开

它时，我认为我并没有走得太远，你知道为什么，因为它

感觉不像我想象的那样它应该感觉

我没有 得到回应，即

大笑，即大爱，就像我预期的那样

，现在确实有

失败的可能性，我退出了我此时

没有意识到“是”的概念，

感到恐惧并在您穿越生活时无论如何现在都这样做

在

未来的这些年里，我向你保证，你

会遇到无数次

，你最不想说的

就是“是”，你会经历失落

心痛，亲人的去世，

你可能不得不说再见 一个

你会经历拒绝的情人

甚至可能不得不处理一个

你会变老的错误诊断，诀窍不是避免

这些时间或假装它们没有

发生你不能，但你需要

做的是 勇敢地接受他们并

拥抱他们，让这些经历

渗透到你的 存在，你将它们

编织到你的生活中，它们

不仅会加强你

，还会软化你，你会敞开

心扉去同情你

，如果你拥抱

正在发生的事情而不是否认它，

你也不会无能为力，你可以让它成为你的 拥有如果生活给

你柠檬，抓住它的角和

驱动器，是的，我只是混合了三个

隐喻记得我是一个筛子学生，

作为一个年轻人，

在绝望地追求王国的

钥匙时充满了焦虑和恐惧让我告诉你什么

我在高中一年级离开丑小鸭之后就这样做了

我永远不会让这种恐惧

再次占据我至少在表演

系不是我永远不会再感到

恐惧我只是克服了它我

几乎抓住了 每一个机会，

也许我应该把一些机会留在

路边现在这并不是说

你应该说是，对每一个

提供给你的机会，现在我

知道你在想什么，简该

怎么办 色情片，我说我

和你一样惊讶我从来没有得到

机会，但我说的是

，如果生活给了我们一个

抢劫银行的机会，或者一个骗税的方法，

或者说它为我们提供了

几个 与卡戴珊一起生活的

几个小时，我们永远无法

回到这一点

现在参与到绝无可能的强大力量中，

这种最终的生活方式

对你来说可能不是最自然的事情 史密斯

学院 2012 年的学生 你

受过高等教育 你在批判性思维方面受过如此教育

你的教育是让

你在理论中戳洞

质疑 不愿接受

任何表面上的东西

出于恐惧或你的机会 '

现在对我来说只是在进行良好的判断，最难

克服的事情是我需要计划

，你可能会理解这一点

我知道我

想成为一名表演者和演员 我有一个

充满驾驶焦虑的野心并且

在芝加哥南部郊区的这个混凝土丛林中长大

我不

知道如何到达那里 告诉我

路线图我会求她

有人从天上掉下来，

握住我的手，向我展示我已经

成熟了，可以接受邪教，所以我接受了规则、

规定和参数，

努力在等待

我至少会有的明确行动计划时感到安全

在

我一直觉得是一个

不安全的、不可预测的和不断变化的

世界中的确定性幻觉结果证明我

只需要愿意冒险

看看我面前的事情并

用一个大大的肯定来迎接一切 和和

当然，然后全身心投入

我所做的一切我

对史密斯学院的女性的忠告让生活惊喜你

没有计划计划是为

你知道的，如果我的生活按照我的

计划进行，我将永远不会有今天的生活

现在你显然是非常优秀的

计划者你不会在这里所以停下来

停下它现在不要剥夺自己

的激动人心的旅程

当你放弃需要有

目标和蓝图他们没有

目标时你的生活可以是

我想我假设你们所有人

都像我一样害怕生活所以你

知道当你感到恶心时

这是一件好事它预示着

未来大增长的机会

有些事情即将到来有些事情是好的所以

不要 忽略

我生命中的某个时刻的恶心感我的

财务状况

不佳 创造性地和

专业地，我在 我 30 多岁的时候

害怕游行已经

通过了我自己写一个节目的想法，

并且我自己开始

冒出我的意识表面，

这让我非常恶心，所以

有了大大的 yes 和 hutzpah 我

我什至不知道我创造了

一些曾经

一无所有的东西，这是

我有生以来第一次用自己的镍币我

连续八个星期租了一个剧院

我为我从最深处接触过的角色写了独白

我的

心灵深处和我创造了一个一小时的嬉戏

，我表现得像字面上的

恐惧，有时害怕而其他人

只是高兴我从来没有为自己感到骄傲

，它吹开了

我的自信之门我出现在我的

拙见 一个艺术家和一个改变了的

女人

我现在已经做好准备并

值得进入下一个层次 不久之后我遇到了克里斯托弗的

客人 我被选为

最佳表演 谢谢我 40

岁但我很 最后在游戏中，我

从来没有计划过其他

重要的时刻，我的梦想

即将成真，我

只想逃离现场被

提供主持艾美奖的机会

被要求在 ernet live 主持我们

被要求

在史密斯学院发表毕业典礼演讲

时，我的洞察力尖叫着不，我不知何故

让我的嘴说是，现在你

知道生活不仅仅是工作，

最可怕的地方是说是的，

也是最有价值的关系无论

你选择女士们 你的丈夫 你的妻子

你的伴侣会让你看到更多

关于你自己的事情，而不是任何在孤独中凝视你的肚脐

所揭示的，如果这个

过程不是完全可怕和

令人沮丧的，那么你只是

做得不对，

这将是你最脆弱的地方

我把它推迟到我快 50 岁了 你的

伴侣将不可避免地看到你的

软肋 令人震惊的行为 你

只读到过 将开始成为你自己

你的恶魔会崛起 理所当然地

破坏你们的关系，

伪装成让自己无法真正看到

自己，你的伴侣会

用所有的温柔对你说，

情况允许

你想和自己分手 [笑声] 不要

害怕这个可怕的版本

面对你自己 面对它 拥抱

它 在一首诗中溺爱它 也许它只需要一个

拥抱

将阳光照耀在

你无人认领和未被承认的这部分 它

拥有力量 它最黑暗的力量

会让你被奴役 接受它的

影响 为它而开采它 金 是的，

有时会说是的，会

拿走你所拥有的一切，但

相信爱情的回报

真是不可思议，在我遇到我妻子的第二天我

遇到了我的女儿，我真的不喜欢

孩子我是一个爱狗的人

我 不可能为我设计一个更好的孩子

，尽管她很机智，她的智慧

超过了八岁

喇嘛，但她

在某一天是非凡的，你会遇见你的孩子，你

可能会生下她，你可能会收养她，

她可能只是徘徊，或者她会

跟着你回家，我们确实会见他们，

因为他们生来就是他们 我们

不让他们成为我们欢迎他们，

就像知道他们在看你

会让你想成为最好的自己

海登七岁我遇到她时她已经

十岁了八年我们希望

把她送到这里

[掌声 ]

孩子们还提醒我们，生活在

不断变化，不断

前进，这是真的，它不会停止我

真的开始知道这一点，因为当我

40 岁时，我是一个大器晚成的

人，大 400

对我来说是非常期待的 我解决了 为自己举办一个派对

并真正标记它庆祝它

说是并接受它所以我

40岁有一天40岁你

知道发生了什么我41岁然后

你知道发生了什么我42岁

它只是保持 就这样继续下去，

数字只是ke pt 上升 我就像

等待 等待有人按下暂停

按钮 我刚习惯了 40 岁，

随着年龄的增长，时间过得更快

，世界也在不断变化，所以我

给你的建议是活在当下，

随着这些变化保持流畅的生活

只是一个大的即兴创作

用我发现的最好的规则拥抱不断变化和不断发展的世界

是的，接受世界

的本来面目，同时

让它成为你自己的，我特别希望你

做出 它是你自己的 你是一个特殊

的人 MS Smithee

在过去的四年里，

你在一个鼓励你不

只是做你自己，而是做最好的自己的环境中度过

你最强大的自我 你将有

很多机会去拥抱这个

世界 已经为你准备好了，我迫不及待地想

看看你所说的方式，并

记住我之前提到的史密斯妇女权利的斯威夫特，我

指望你来凶猛地

保护妇女的医疗保健权利，我们的

姐妹们 多年前的我们

[掌声]

我知道你们史密斯的女性会

以一个很大的肯定来迎接这场战斗，而

任何试图从你身边夺走她们的人都会

以一个很大的否定来结束我知道

你永远不会在这里得到你的经验

因为你是一个令人难以置信的遗产的一部分

我会和我的妻子参加一个聚会

，她会一个接一个地见面

，如果碰巧她

碰巧看到一个铁匠铺，他们的

眼睛都亮了，

他们已经分享了一个 深刻的联系，

他们都有独特而非凡的

经历，今天我成为了铁匠

[掌声]

我的妻子

和你们所有人辛辛苦苦多年才得到的那张纸，我

握手，我很自豪能

成为其中的一员 你们享受这一天，非常感谢

你们

[掌声]

[掌声]

你