now around the country today at colleges

high schools middle schools commencement

speakers are standing before impatient

graduates and they are almost always

saying the same things they will say

that today is a commencement exercise it

is a beginning not an end you should

look forward and I think that is true

enough however I think if you're going

to look forward to figure out where

you're going it's good to know where

it's been and to look back as well and I

think if you look back to your first

afternoon here at cardigan perhaps

you'll recall that you were lonely

perhaps you will recall that you were a

little scared a little anxious and now

look at you you are surrounded by

friends that you call brothers and you

are confident and facing the next step

in your education it is worth trying to

think why that is so and when you do I

think you may appreciate that it was

because of the support of your

classmates in the classroom on the

athletic field and in the dorms and as

far as the confidence goes I think you

will appreciate that it is not because

you succeeded at everything you did but

because with the help of your friends

you are not afraid to fail and if you

did fail you got up and tried again and

if you failed again you got up and try

it again

and if you failed again it might be time

to think about doing something else

it was not just success but not being

afraid to fail that brought you to this

point now the commencement speakers will

typically also wish you good luck and

extend good wishes to you I will not do

that and I'll tell you why from time to

time in the years to come

I hope you will be treated unfairly so

that you will come to know the value of

justice I hope that you will suffer

betrayal because that will teach you the

importance of loyalty sorry to say but I

hope you will be lonely from time to

time so that you don't take friends for

granted I wish you bad luck again from

time to time so that you will be

conscious of the role of chance in life

and understand that your success is not

completely deserved and that the failure

of others is not completely deserved

either and when you lose as you will

from time to time I hope every now and

then your opponent will bloat over your

failure it is a way for you to

understand the importance of

sportsmanship I hope you'll be ignored

so you know the importance of listening

to others and I hope you will have just

enough pain to learn compassion whether

I wish these things or not they're going

to happen and whether you you benefit

from them or not will depend upon your

ability to see the message in your

misfortunes now commencement speakers

are also expected to give some advice

they give grand advice and they give

some useful tips

the most common grand advice they give

is for you to be yourself it is an odd

piece of advice to give people dressed

identically

what you should and should be yourself

but you should understand what that

means unless you are perfect it does not

mean don't make any changes this certain

sense you should not be yourself you

should try to become something better

people say be yourself because they want

you to resist the impulse to conform to

what others want you to be but you can't

be yourself if you don't learn who you

are and you can't learn who you are

unless you think about it the Greek

philosopher Socrates said the unexamined

life is not worth living and while just

do it may be a good model for some

things it's not a good model when it's

trying to figure out how to live your

life that is before you and one

important clue to living a good life is

to not to try to live the good life the

best way to lose the values that are

central to who you are is frankly not to

think about them at all so that's the

deep advice now some tips as you get

ready to go to your new school over the

last couple of years I've gotten to know

many of you young men pretty well and I

know you are good guys but you are also

privileged young men and if you weren't

privileged when you came here you're

privileged now because you have been

here my advice is don't act like it when

you get to your new school walk up and

introduce yourself to the person who is

raking the leaves shoveling the snow or

emptying the trash learn their name and

call them by their name during your time

at the school another piece of advice

when you pass by people you don't

recognize on the walks smile look them

in the eye and say hello the worst thing

that will happen is that you will become

known and is the young man who smiles

and says hello

and that is not a bad thing to start

with you've been in a school with just

voice most of you will be going to a

school with girls I have no advice for

you

the last bit of advice I'll give you is

very simple but I think it could make a

big difference in your life once a week

you should write a note to someone not

an email a note on a piece of paper it

will take you exactly ten minutes talk

to an adult let them tell you what a

stamp is and you can put the stamp on

the envelope again ten minutes once a

week I will help you right now

I will dictate to you the first note you

should write it will say dear fill in

the name of the teacher at cardigan

Mountain School say I have started at

this new school we are reading blank in

English football or soccer practice is

hard but I'm enjoying it

thank you for teaching me put it in an

envelope put a stamp on it and send it

it will mean a great deal to people who

for reasons most of us cannot

contemplate have dedicated themselves to

teaching middle school boys as I said

that will take you exactly ten minutes a

week by the end of the school year you

will have sent notes to forty people

forty people will feel a little more

special because you did and they will

think you are very special because of

what you did now what else is going to

carry that dividend during your time at

school

enough advice I would like to end by

reading some important lyrics I cited

the Greek philosopher Socrates earlier

these lyrics are from the great American

philosopher Bob Dylan

they're almost fifty years old he wrote

them for his son Jesse who he was

missing while he was on tour they list

the hopes that a parent might have for a

son and for a daughter

there are also good goals for a son and

a daughter the wishes are beautiful

they're timeless they're universal

they're good and true except for one

it is the wish that gives the song its

title and its refrain that wish is a

parent's lament it's not a good wish so

these are the lyrics from Forever Young

by Bob Dylan may God bless you and keep

you always may your wishes all come true

may you always do for others and let

others do for you may you build a ladder

to the Stars and climb on every rung and

may you stay forever young may you grow

up to be righteous may you grow up to be

true may you always know the truth and

see the light surrounding you may you

always be courageous stand upright and

be strong and may you stay forever young

may your hands always be busy may your

feet always be Swift now you have a

strong foundation when the winds of

changes shift may your heart always be

joyful may your song always be sung and

may you stay forever young thank you

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现在全国各地今天在大学

高中中学毕业典礼

演讲者站在不耐烦的

毕业生面前他们几乎总是

说同样的话他们会

说今天是毕业典礼这

是一个开始而不是结束你应该

期待我认为 确实

如此，但是我认为如果您

希望弄清楚自己

要去哪里，那么最好知道

它去过哪里并回顾一下，我

认为如果您回顾一下

在开衫的第一个下午 也许

你会记得你很孤独

也许你会记得你

有点害怕有点焦虑现在

看着你你周围

都是你称之为兄弟的朋友你

很自信并且面对

你的教育的下一步它是 值得尝试

思考为什么会这样，当你这样做时，我

想你可能会感激那是

因为你的

同学在运动场和宿舍的课堂上的支持

就信心而言，我想你

会明白这不是因为

你所做的一切都成功了，而是

因为在你朋友的帮助下，

你不怕失败，如果你

失败了，你会站起来再试一次，

如果 你又失败了，你站

起来再试一次

，如果你再次失败，可能是

时候考虑

做点别的事情了

祝你好运，

祝你好运我不会那样做

，我会告诉你

为什么在未来的岁月里

我希望你会受到不公平的对待，

这样你就会知道正义的价值

我希望 说你会遭受

背叛 因为那会

教会你忠诚的

重要性 你会

意识到机会在生活中的作用

，明白你的成功不是

完全应得的

，别人的失败也不是完全应得的

，当你输

了时，我

希望你的对手时不时地膨胀 对于你的

失败，这是你

理解体育精神的重要性的一种方式

我希望你会被忽视，

这样你就会知道倾听别人的重要性

，我希望你有

足够的痛苦来学习同情，不管

我是否愿意这些事情 它们

将会发生，您是否从中

受益取决于

您在不幸中看到信息的能力

他们给出

的重要建议是让你做你自己 这是一个

奇怪的建议给穿着

相同的人

你应该和应该做你自己，

但你应该明白 w 这

意味着除非你是完美的 这并不

意味着不要做出任何改变 这种特定的

意义 你不应该做你自己 你

应该努力成为更好的

人 人们说做你自己 因为他们希望

你抵制顺从

别人想要的冲动 你要成为，但

如果你不知道自己是谁，你就无法成为你自己

，除非你仔细思考，否则你无法学习自己是谁

，希腊

哲学家苏格拉底说，未经审视的

生活不值得过，而只是

去做 可能是某些

事情的好模型 当它试图弄清楚如何过你面前的生活时，它不是一个好模型，而过上好

生活的

一个重要线索

是不要试图以最好的方式过好生活

坦率地说，失去对你来说至关重要的价值观，就是根本不去

想它们，所以这是

现在的深刻建议

你们中的许多年轻人都很好 我

知道你们是好人，但你们也是有

特权的年轻人，如果

你来这里时没有特权，那么

现在你有特权，因为你

来过这里我的建议是，当你到新学校时不要表现得像这样

走上去，

向正在

扫树叶、铲雪或

倒垃圾

的人介绍自己

散步的微笑看着他们

的眼睛打招呼 最糟糕的

事情是你会

出名并且是一个微笑和打招呼的年轻人

，从你上学开始这并不是一件坏事

你们大多数人都会

和女孩一起去学校我对你没有任何

建议我给你的最后一点建议

很简单，但我认为它可以对

你的生活产生很大的影响每周一次

你应该 给某人写便条

不是电子邮件 e 在一张

纸上 整整十分钟 与

大人交谈 让他们告诉你

邮票是什么 你可以再把邮票贴

在信封上 每周一次 十分钟

我现在就帮你

我会口授 你应该写的第一个便条

会写亲爱的填写

卡迪根山学校老师的名字

说我已经在

这所新学校开始我们正在阅读

英语足球的空白或足球练习

很难但我很享受

谢谢 因为教我把它放在

信封里贴上邮票然后寄出去，

这对那些

由于我们大多数人无法想象的原因而

像我说的那样致力于教中学男孩的人来说意义重大

，这将花费你整整十分钟

到学年结束的一个星期，你

将给 40 个人

发信 在你上学的时候，请提供

足够的建议，我想通过

阅读一些重要的歌词来结束，我之前引用

了希腊哲学家苏格拉底

这些歌词来自伟大的美国

哲学家鲍勃·迪伦，

他们已经快 50 岁了，他

为他的儿子杰西写的

他在巡回演出时失踪了 他们列出

了父母可能对

儿子和女儿的希望

对于儿子和女儿也有很好的目标

希望是美好的

他们是永恒的 他们是普遍的

他们是 好的和真实的除了一个

它是给

歌曲标题的愿望和它的副歌愿望是

父母的哀叹这不是一个好的愿望所以

这些是鲍勃迪伦的永远年轻的歌词

愿上帝保佑你并让

你永远 愿你的心愿都成真

愿你永远为人做事，让

别人为你做事愿你搭起

通往星空的梯子，爬上每一级

愿你永远年轻愿你

长大成为正义愿你长大成为

真的 愿你永远知道真相

看到周围的光芒 愿你

永远勇敢 站

起来坚强 愿你永远年轻

愿你的手永远忙碌 愿你的

脚永远敏捷 现在你有

坚实的基础 顺风顺水

变化的变化愿你的心永远

快乐愿你的歌永远被唱

愿你永远年轻谢谢你