Everything you think you know about addiction is wrong Johann Hari

One of my earliest memories

is of trying to wake up
one of my relatives and not being able to.

And I was just a little kid,
so I didn’t really understand why,

but as I got older,

I realized we had
drug addiction in my family,

including later cocaine addiction.

I’d been thinking about it a lot lately,
partly because it’s now exactly 100 years

since drugs were first banned
in the United States and Britain,

and we then imposed that
on the rest of the world.

It’s a century since we made
this really fateful decision

to take addicts and punish them
and make them suffer,

because we believed that would deter them;
it would give them an incentive to stop.

And a few years ago, I was looking at
some of the addicts in my life who I love,

and trying to figure out
if there was some way to help them.

And I realized there were loads
of incredibly basic questions

I just didn’t know the answer to,

like, what really causes addiction?

Why do we carry on with this approach
that doesn’t seem to be working,

and is there a better way out there
that we could try instead?

So I read loads of stuff about it,

and I couldn’t really find
the answers I was looking for,

so I thought, okay, I’ll go and sit
with different people around the world

who lived this and studied this

and talk to them and see
if I could learn from them.

And I didn’t realize I would end up
going over 30,000 miles at the start,

but I ended up going and meeting
loads of different people,

from a transgender crack dealer
in Brownsville, Brooklyn,

to a scientist who spends a lot of time
feeding hallucinogens to mongooses

to see if they like them –

it turns out they do, but only
in very specific circumstances –

to the only country that’s ever
decriminalized all drugs,

from cannabis to crack, Portugal.

And the thing I realized
that really blew my mind is,

almost everything we think
we know about addiction is wrong,

and if we start to absorb
the new evidence about addiction,

I think we’re going to have to change
a lot more than our drug policies.

But let’s start with what we think
we know, what I thought I knew.

Let’s think about this middle row here.

Imagine all of you, for 20 days now, went
off and used heroin three times a day.

Some of you look a little more
enthusiastic than others at this prospect.

(Laughter)

Don’t worry,
it’s just a thought experiment.

Imagine you did that, right?

What would happen?

Now, we have a story about what would
happen that we’ve been told for a century.

We think, because there are
chemical hooks in heroin,

as you took it for a while,

your body would become
dependent on those hooks,

you’d start to physically need them,

and at the end of those 20 days,
you’d all be heroin addicts. Right?

That’s what I thought.

First thing that alerted me to the fact
that something’s not right with this story

is when it was explained to me.

If I step out of this TED Talk today
and I get hit by a car and I break my hip,

I’ll be taken to hospital
and I’ll be given loads of diamorphine.

Diamorphine is heroin.

It’s actually much better heroin
than you’re going to buy on the streets,

because the stuff you buy
from a drug dealer is contaminated.

Actually, very little of it is heroin,

whereas the stuff you get
from the doctor is medically pure.

And you’ll be given it for quite
a long period of time.

There are loads of people in this room,

you may not realize it,
you’ve taken quite a lot of heroin.

And anyone who is watching this
anywhere in the world, this is happening.

And if what we believe
about addiction is right –

those people are exposed
to all those chemical hooks –

What should happen?
They should become addicts.

This has been studied really carefully.

It doesn’t happen; you will have noticed
if your grandmother had a hip replacement,

she didn’t come out as a junkie.
(Laughter)

And when I learned this,
it seemed so weird to me,

so contrary to everything I’d been told,
everything I thought I knew,

I just thought it couldn’t be right,
until I met a man called Bruce Alexander.

He’s a professor
of psychology in Vancouver

who carried out an incredible experiment

I think really helps us
to understand this issue.

Professor Alexander explained to me,

the idea of addiction we’ve all
got in our heads, that story,

comes partly from a series of experiments

that were done earlier
in the 20th century.

They’re really simple.

You can do them tonight at home
if you feel a little sadistic.

You get a rat and you put it in a cage,
and you give it two water bottles:

One is just water, and the other is water
laced with either heroin or cocaine.

If you do that, the rat will almost always
prefer the drug water

and almost always
kill itself quite quickly.

So there you go, right?
That’s how we think it works.

In the ’70s, Professor Alexander comes
along and he looks at this experiment

and he noticed something.

He said ah, we’re putting
the rat in an empty cage.

It’s got nothing to do
except use these drugs.

Let’s try something different.

So Professor Alexander built a cage
that he called “Rat Park,”

which is basically heaven for rats.

They’ve got loads of cheese,
they’ve got loads of colored balls,

they’ve got loads of tunnels.

Crucially, they’ve got loads of friends.
They can have loads of sex.

And they’ve got both the water bottles,
the normal water and the drugged water.

But here’s the fascinating thing:

In Rat Park, they don’t
like the drug water.

They almost never use it.

None of them ever use it compulsively.

None of them ever overdose.

You go from almost 100 percent overdose
when they’re isolated

to zero percent overdose when they
have happy and connected lives.

Now, when he first saw this,
Professor Alexander thought,

maybe this is just a thing about rats,
they’re quite different to us.

Maybe not as different as we’d like,
but, you know –

But fortunately, there was
a human experiment

into the exact same principle happening
at the exact same time.

It was called the Vietnam War.

In Vietnam, 20 percent of all American
troops were using loads of heroin,

and if you look at the news
reports from the time,

they were really worried, because
they thought, my God, we’re going to have

hundreds of thousands of junkies
on the streets of the United States

when the war ends; it made total sense.

Now, those soldiers who were using
loads of heroin were followed home.

The Archives of General Psychiatry
did a really detailed study,

and what happened to them?

It turns out they didn’t go to rehab.
They didn’t go into withdrawal.

Ninety-five percent of them just stopped.

Now, if you believe the story
about chemical hooks,

that makes absolutely no sense,
but Professor Alexander began to think

there might be a different
story about addiction.

He said, what if addiction isn’t
about your chemical hooks?

What if addiction is about your cage?

What if addiction is an adaptation
to your environment?

Looking at this,

there was another professor
called Peter Cohen in the Netherlands

who said, maybe we shouldn’t
even call it addiction.

Maybe we should call it bonding.

Human beings have a natural
and innate need to bond,

and when we’re happy and healthy,
we’ll bond and connect with each other,

but if you can’t do that,

because you’re traumatized or isolated
or beaten down by life,

you will bond with something
that will give you some sense of relief.

Now, that might be gambling,
that might be pornography,

that might be cocaine,
that might be cannabis,

but you will bond and connect
with something because that’s our nature.

That’s what we want as human beings.

And at first, I found this quite
a difficult thing to get my head around,

but one way that helped me
to think about it is,

I can see, I’ve got over by my seat
a bottle of water, right?

I’m looking at lots of you, and lots
of you have bottles of water with you.

Forget the drugs. Forget the drug war.

Totally legally, all of those bottles
of water could be bottles of vodka, right?

We could all be getting drunk –
I might after this – (Laughter) –

but we’re not.

Now, because you’ve been able to afford
the approximately gazillion pounds

that it costs to get into a TED Talk,
I’m guessing you guys could afford

to be drinking vodka
for the next six months.

You wouldn’t end up homeless.

You’re not going to do that,
and the reason you’re not going to do that

is not because anyone’s stopping you.

It’s because you’ve got
bonds and connections

that you want to be present for.

You’ve got work you love.
You’ve got people you love.

You’ve got healthy relationships.

And a core part of addiction,

I came to think, and I believe
the evidence suggests,

is about not being able to bear
to be present in your life.

Now, this has really
significant implications.

The most obvious implications
are for the War on Drugs.

In Arizona, I went out
with a group of women

who were made to wear t-shirts
saying, “I was a drug addict,”

and go out on chain gangs and dig graves
while members of the public jeer at them,

and when those women get out of prison,
they’re going to have criminal records

that mean they’ll never work
in the legal economy again.

Now, that’s a very extreme example,
obviously, in the case of the chain gang,

but actually almost
everywhere in the world

we treat addicts to some degree like that.

We punish them. We shame them.
We give them criminal records.

We put barriers between them reconnecting.

There was a doctor in Canada,
Dr. Gabor Maté, an amazing man,

who said to me, if you wanted to design
a system that would make addiction worse,

you would design that system.

Now, there’s a place that decided
to do the exact opposite,

and I went there to see how it worked.

In the year 2000, Portugal had
one of the worst drug problems in Europe.

One percent of the population was addicted
to heroin, which is kind of mind-blowing,

and every year, they tried
the American way more and more.

They punished people and stigmatized them
and shamed them more,

and every year, the problem got worse.

And one day, the Prime Minister and
the leader of the opposition got together,

and basically said, look, we can’t go on

with a country where we’re having
ever more people becoming heroin addicts.

Let’s set up a panel
of scientists and doctors

to figure out what would
genuinely solve the problem.

And they set up a panel led by
an amazing man called Dr. João Goulão,

to look at all this new evidence,

and they came back and they said,

“Decriminalize all drugs
from cannabis to crack, but” –

and this is the crucial next step –

“take all the money we used to spend
on cutting addicts off,

on disconnecting them,

and spend it instead
on reconnecting them with society.”

And that’s not really what we think of
as drug treatment

in the United States and Britain.

So they do do residential rehab,

they do psychological therapy,
that does have some value.

But the biggest thing they did
was the complete opposite of what we do:

a massive program
of job creation for addicts,

and microloans for addicts
to set up small businesses.

So say you used to be a mechanic.

When you’re ready, they’ll go
to a garage, and they’ll say,

if you employ this guy for a year,
we’ll pay half his wages.

The goal was to make sure
that every addict in Portugal

had something to get out
of bed for in the morning.

And when I went and met the addicts
in Portugal,

what they said is,
as they rediscovered purpose,

they rediscovered bonds
and relationships with the wider society.

It’ll be 15 years this year
since that experiment began,

and the results are in:

injecting drug use is down in Portugal,

according to the British
Journal of Criminology,

by 50 percent, five-zero percent.

Overdose is massively down,
HIV is massively down among addicts.

Addiction in every study
is significantly down.

One of the ways you know it’s worked
so well is that almost nobody in Portugal

wants to go back to the old system.

Now, that’s the political implications.

I actually think there’s a layer
of implications

to all this research below that.

We live in a culture where people
feel really increasingly vulnerable

to all sorts of addictions,
whether it’s to their smartphones

or to shopping or to eating.

Before these talks began –
you guys know this –

we were told we weren’t allowed
to have our smartphones on,

and I have to say, a lot of you
looked an awful lot like

addicts who were told their dealer
was going to be unavailable

for the next couple of hours. (Laughter)

A lot of us feel like that,
and it might sound weird to say,

I’ve been talking about how disconnection
is a major driver of addiction

and weird to say it’s growing,

because you think we’re the most connected
society that’s ever been, surely.

But I increasingly began to think
that the connections we have

or think we have, are like a kind
of parody of human connection.

If you have a crisis in your life,
you’ll notice something.

It won’t be your Twitter followers
who come to sit with you.

It won’t be your Facebook friends
who help you turn it round.

It’ll be your flesh and blood friends
who you have deep and nuanced

and textured, face-to-face
relationships with,

and there’s a study I learned about from
Bill McKibben, the environmental writer,

that I think tells us a lot about this.

It looked at the number of close friends
the average American believes

they can call on in a crisis.

That number has been declining
steadily since the 1950s.

The amount of floor space
an individual has in their home

has been steadily increasing,

and I think that’s like a metaphor

for the choice we’ve made as a culture.

We’ve traded floorspace for friends,
we’ve traded stuff for connections,

and the result is we are one of the
loneliest societies there has ever been.

And Bruce Alexander, the guy who did
the Rat Park experiment, says,

we talk all the time in addiction
about individual recovery,

and it’s right to talk about that,

but we need to talk much more
about social recovery.

Something’s gone wrong with us,
not just with individuals but as a group,

and we’ve created a society where,
for a lot of us,

life looks a whole lot more
like that isolated cage

and a whole lot less like Rat Park.

If I’m honest, this isn’t
why I went into it.

I didn’t go in to the discover
the political stuff, the social stuff.

I wanted to know how to help
the people I love.

And when I came back from this
long journey and I’d learned all this,

I looked at the addicts in my life,

and if you’re really candid,
it’s hard loving an addict,

and there’s going to be lots of people
who know in this room.

You are angry a lot of the time,

and I think one of the reasons
why this debate is so charged

is because it runs through the heart
of each of us, right?

Everyone has a bit of them
that looks at an addict and thinks,

I wish someone would just stop you.

And the kind of scripts we’re told for how
to deal with the addicts in our lives

is typified by, I think,

the reality show “Intervention,”
if you guys have ever seen it.

I think everything in our lives
is defined by reality TV,

but that’s another TED Talk.

If you’ve ever seen
the show “Intervention,”

it’s a pretty simple premise.

Get an addict, all the people
in their life, gather them together,

confront them with what they’re doing,
and they say, if you don’t shape up,

we’re going to cut you off.

So what they do is they take
the connection to the addict,

and they threaten it,
they make it contingent

on the addict behaving the way they want.

And I began to think, I began to see
why that approach doesn’t work,

and I began to think that’s almost like
the importing of the logic of the Drug War

into our private lives.

So I was thinking,
how could I be Portuguese?

And what I’ve tried to do now,
and I can’t tell you I do it consistently

and I can’t tell you it’s easy,

is to say to the addicts in my life

that I want to deepen
the connection with them,

to say to them, I love you
whether you’re using or you’re not.

I love you, whatever state you’re in,

and if you need me,
I’ll come and sit with you

because I love you and I don’t
want you to be alone

or to feel alone.

And I think the core of that message –

you’re not alone, we love you –

has to be at every level
of how we respond to addicts,

socially, politically and individually.

For 100 years now, we’ve been singing
war songs about addicts.

I think all along we should have been
singing love songs to them,

because the opposite of addiction
is not sobriety.

The opposite of addiction is connection.

Thank you.

(Applause)

我最早的记忆之一

是试图叫醒
我的一位亲戚,却无法。

而且我还是个小孩,
所以我真的不明白为什么,

但是随着年龄的增长,

我意识到我们的
家人吸毒成瘾,

包括后来的可卡因成瘾。

我最近一直在思考这个问题,
部分原因是

距离美国和英国首次禁止毒品已经整整 100 年,

然后我们将其
强加于世界其他地区。

一个世纪以来,我们做出了
这个

决定吸毒成瘾者并惩罚他们
并让他们受苦的决定,

因为我们相信这会阻止他们;
这将激励他们停下来。

几年前,我正在研究
我生活中我所爱的一些瘾君子,

并试图弄清楚
是否有什么方法可以帮助他们。

我意识到有
很多令人难以置信的基本问题

我只是不知道答案,

比如,真正导致成瘾的原因是什么?

为什么我们要继续采用
这种似乎行不通的方法

,是否有更好的方法
可以替代?

所以我读了很多关于它的东西,但

我真的找不到
我正在寻找的答案,

所以我想,好吧,我会去和
世界各地不同的人坐在一起,

他们生活在这里,研究过这个,

并与
看看我能不能向他们学习。

而且我一开始并没有意识到我最终
会跑超过 30,000 英里,

但最终我遇到
了很多不同的人,


布鲁克林布朗斯维尔的变性

贩子到花费大量时间喂食的科学家
迷幻剂给猫

鼬看它们是否喜欢它们 -

事实证明他们喜欢,但仅限
于非常特定的情况

  • 唯一一个曾经
    将所有毒品合法化的国家,

从大麻到快克,葡萄牙。


意识到真正让我大吃一惊的是,

几乎我们认为
我们所知道的关于成瘾的所有事情都是错误的

,如果我们开始吸收
关于成瘾的新证据,

我认为我们将不得不做出更多的改变,而
不是我们的 药品政策。

但让我们从我们认为
我们知道的,我认为我知道的开始。

让我们在这里考虑一下这个中间行。

想象一下你们所有人,20 天以来,
每天 3 次吸食海洛因。

对于这个前景,你们中的一些人看起来
比其他人更热情一些。

(笑声)

别担心,
这只是一个思想实验。

想象一下,你做到了,对吧?

会发生什么?

现在,我们有一个关于会发生什么的故事
,我们已经被告知了一个世纪。

我们认为,因为
海洛因中有化学钩子,

当你服用一段时间后,

你的身体会变得
依赖这些钩子,

你会开始身体上需要它们

,在这 20 天结束时,
你都会 成为海洛因成瘾者。 对?

我也这么想。

让我
意识到这个故事

有问题的第一件事是当它向我解释时。

如果我今天走出这个 TED 演讲
,被车撞了,我的臀部骨折了,

我会被送往医院
,我会得到大量的二吗啡。

二吗啡是海洛因。

它实际上
比你在街上买的海洛因好得多,

因为你
从毒贩那里买的东西被污染了。

实际上,其中很少是海洛因,

而您从医生那里得到的东西
是医学上纯的。

你会得到它
很长一段时间。

这个房间里有很多人,

你可能没有意识到,
你吸了很多海洛因。

任何在世界任何地方观看这一切的人
,都在发生这种情况。

如果我们
对成瘾的看法是正确的——

那些人接触
到了所有的化学钩子——

会发生什么?
他们应该成为瘾君子。

这已经被非常仔细地研究过。

它不会发生; 您会注意到,
如果您的祖母进行了髋关节置换手术,

她并没有成为瘾君子。
(笑声

) 当我得知这一点时,我
觉得很奇怪,

与我被告知的一切相反,
我以为我知道的一切,

我只是觉得这不可能,
直到我遇到了一个叫布鲁斯亚历山大的人 .


是温哥华的一位心理学教授,

他进行了一项令人难以置信的实验,

我认为这确实有助于
我们理解这个问题。

亚历山大教授向我解释说,我们脑海中

的成瘾概念
,这个故事,

部分来自

于 20 世纪早期进行的一系列实验。

它们真的很简单。

如果你觉得有点虐待狂,你可以在今晚在家做。

你把一只老鼠放在笼子里,
然后给它两个水瓶:

一个只是水,另一个是
掺有海洛因或可卡因的水。

如果你这样做,老鼠几乎总是
更喜欢药物水,

而且几乎总是
很快地自杀。

所以你去了,对吧?
这就是我们认为它的工作原理。

在 70 年代,亚历山大教授出现
了,他看着这个实验

,他注意到了一些事情。

他说啊,我们
把老鼠关在空笼子里。

除了使用这些药物之外,没有什么可做的。

让我们尝试一些不同的东西。

所以亚历山大教授建造了一个笼子
,他称之为“老鼠公园”

,基本上是老鼠的天堂。

他们有很多奶酪,
他们有很多彩球,

他们有很多隧道。

至关重要的是,他们有很多朋友。
他们可以有很多性行为。

他们有水瓶
,普通水和加药水。

但有趣的是:

在老鼠公园,他们不
喜欢毒水。

他们几乎从不使用它。

他们都没有强迫性地使用它。

他们都没有过量服用。 当他们被隔离时,

你会从几乎 100% 的过量服药


他们过着幸福和相互联系的生活时的零过量服药。

现在,当他第一次看到这个时,
亚历山大教授想,

也许这只是关于老鼠的事情,
它们与我们完全不同。

也许没有我们想的那么不同,
但是,你知道——

但幸运的是,有
一个人类实验

在完全相同的时间发生了完全相同的原理。

它被称为越南战争。

在越南,20% 的
美军都在使用大量海洛因

,如果你看看当时的新闻
报道,

他们真的很担心,因为
他们认为,天哪,我们将

有数十万瘾君子

战争结束时在美国街头; 这完全有道理。

现在,那些
吸食大量海洛因的士兵被跟踪回家了。

普通精神病学档案
做了一个非常详细的研究

,他们发生了什么?

事实证明他们没有去康复中心。
他们没有退出。

百分之九十五的人刚刚停下来。

现在,如果你相信
关于化学钩子的故事,

那绝对没有意义,
但亚历山大教授开始认为

可能有一个
关于成瘾的不同故事。

他说,如果上瘾
与你的化学钩子无关怎么办?

如果上瘾是关于你的笼子怎么办?

如果成瘾是
对环境的一种适应呢?

看到这里

,荷兰的另一位教授
彼得·科恩(Peter Cohen

)说,也许我们甚至不应该
称之为成瘾。

也许我们应该称之为结合。

人类有一种
与生俱来的联系需求

,当我们快乐和健康时,
我们会建立联系并相互联系,

但如果你做不到,

因为你受到了创伤、孤立
或殴打 生活中,

你会与
一些能让你感到解脱的东西联系在一起。

现在,这可能是赌博
,可能是色情

,可能是可卡因
,可能是大麻,

但你会
与某些东西联系和联系,因为这是我们的天性。

这就是我们作为人类想要的。

起初,我发现这是
一件很难理解的事情,

但帮助
我思考的一个方法是,

我可以看到,我已经在座位上
喝了一瓶水,对吧?

我看着你们中的很多人,你们中的
很多人都带着瓶装水。

忘记药物。 忘记毒品战争。

完全合法地,所有这些
瓶装水都可能是伏特加瓶,对吧?

我们都可能喝醉了——
我可能会在这之后——(笑声)——

但我们没有。

现在,因为你已经能够负担得起
参加 TED 演讲所需的大约数亿英镑


我猜你们可以负担

未来六个月的伏特加。

你不会最终无家可归。

你不会那样做
,你不会那样做的

原因不是因为有人阻止你。

这是因为你

有你想要存在的纽带和联系。

你有你喜欢的工作。
你有你爱的人。

你有健康的人际关系。

上瘾的核心部分,

我开始认为,我
相信证据表明,

是关于无法
忍受出现在你的生活中。

现在,这具有非常
重要的意义。

最明显的影响
是对毒品战争的影响。

在亚利桑那州,我

一群穿着 T 恤的女人出去
说:“我是个吸毒者”

,然后
在公众嘲笑她们的

时候加入连锁团伙和挖坟墓,当那些 妇女出狱后,
她们将有犯罪记录

,这意味着她们将永远不会
再在合法经济中工作。

现在,这是一个非常极端的例子,
显然,在连锁帮派的情况下,

但实际上
在世界上几乎所有地方,我们都在

某种程度上这样对待吸毒者。

我们惩罚他们。 我们让他们感到羞耻。
我们给他们犯罪记录。

我们在他们重新连接之间设置了障碍。

加拿大有一位医生,
Gabor Maté 博士,他是个了不起的人,

他对我说,如果你想设计
一个让成瘾更严重的系统,

你就会设计那个系统。

现在,有一个地方
决定完全相反

,我去那里看看它是如何工作的。

2000 年,葡萄牙
是欧洲毒品问题最严重的国家之一。

百分之一的人
对海洛因上瘾,这有点令人兴奋,

而且每年,他们
越来越多地尝试美国的方式。

他们惩罚人们,污名化他们
,更加羞辱他们

,而且问题每年都在恶化。

有一天,首相
和反对党领袖聚在一起

,基本上说,看,我们不能继续

在一个
越来越多的人成为海洛因成瘾者的国家。

让我们成立一个
由科学家和医生组成的小组,

以找出
真正解决问题的方法。

他们成立了一个小组,由
一位名叫 João Goulão 博士的了不起的人领导

,研究所有这些新证据

,他们回来后说,

“将所有毒品
从大麻到快克都合法化,但是”

——这就是 关键的下一步——

“把我们过去用来
切断吸毒者的所有钱

,用来切断他们的联系,

而不是把它
花在让他们与社会重新联系上。” 在美国

和英国,这并不是我们真正认为
的药物治疗

所以他们做住宅康复,

他们做心理治疗,
这确实有一些价值。

但他们所做的最大
的事情与我们所做的完全相反:

为吸毒者创造就业机会的大规模计划,

以及为
吸毒者建立小企业的小额贷款。

所以说你曾经是一名机械师。

当你准备好时,他们会
去车库,他们会说,

如果你雇用这个人一年,
我们将支付他一半的工资。

目标是
确保葡萄牙的每个瘾君子早上

都有起床的东西

当我去葡萄牙遇见上瘾
者时,

他们说的是,
当他们重新发现目标时,

他们重新发现
了与更广泛社会的联系和关系。

今年已经有 15 年了,
该实验开始了

,结果是:根据英国犯罪学杂志的报道

,葡萄牙的注射吸毒人数下降

了 50%,5% 为零。

过量服用大量减少,
艾滋病毒在吸毒者中大量减少。

每项研究的成瘾性
都显着下降。

您知道它
运作良好的一种方式是,葡萄牙几乎没有人

愿意回到旧系统。

现在,这就是政治影响。

实际上,我认为

所有这些研究都有一层含义。

我们生活在一种文化中,人们
感到越来越容易

受到各种成瘾的影响,
无论是对智能手机

、购物还是饮食。

在这些谈话开始之前——
你们知道这一点——

我们被告知我们不允许
打开智能手机

,我不得不说,你们中的很多人
看起来非常像

被告知他们的经销商会吸毒的瘾君子

在接下来的几个小时内无法使用。 (笑声

)我们很多人都有这样的感觉,
说起来可能听起来很奇怪,

我一直在谈论断开连接
是成瘾的主要驱动力,

而说它正在增长很奇怪,

因为你认为我们是联系最紧密的
社会 肯定是这样的。

但我越来越多地开始认为

,我们拥有或认为拥有的联系就像是
对人类联系的一种模仿。

如果你的生活中有危机,
你会注意到一些事情。

与您坐在一起的不会是您的 Twitter 关注
者。

帮助您扭转局面的不会是您的 Facebook
朋友。


你有深厚、微妙

和有质感的面对面
关系的将是你的骨肉朋友

,我从
环境作家比尔·麦基本那里了解到的一项研究

,我认为它告诉了我们很多关于这方面的信息 .

它考察
了普通美国人认为

他们可以在危机中求助的密友数量。

自 1950 年代以来,这一数字一直在稳步下降。

个人在家中拥有的建筑面积一直在

稳步增加

,我认为这就像

我们作为一种文化所做的选择的隐喻。

我们用空间换朋友,用
东西换人脉

,结果我们是
有史以来最孤独的社会之一。

做老鼠公园实验的布鲁斯亚历山大说,

我们一直在
谈论个人康复成瘾

,谈论这个是正确的,

但我们需要更多地
谈论社会康复。

我们出了问题,
不仅仅是个人,而是作为一个群体

,我们创造了一个社会,
对我们中的很多人来说,

生活看起来
更像是那个孤立的笼子

,而不是像老鼠公园。

老实说,这不是
我参与其中的原因。

我没有去
发现政治的东西,社会的东西。

我想知道如何帮助
我爱的人。

当我从这
漫长的旅程中回来,我学到了这一切,

我看着我生活中的瘾君子

,如果你真的坦率,
爱一个瘾君子是很难

的,会有很多
人知道 在这个房间里。

你很多时候都很生气

,我认为
这场辩论如此激烈的原因之一

是因为它贯穿
了我们每个人的内心,对吧?

每个人都有一些
人看着上瘾者并想,

我希望有人能阻止你。

我认为,如果你们看过真人秀节目“干预”,我们被告知
如何处理生活中的瘾君子的那种剧本

我认为我们生活中的一切
都是由真人秀定义的,

但那是另一个 TED 演讲。

如果你
看过“干预”节目,

这是一个非常简单的前提。


他们生活中的所有人上瘾,将他们聚集在一起,

面对他们正在做的事情
,他们说,如果你不适应,

我们会切断你的联系。

所以他们所做的就是
把与瘾君子的联系联系起来,

并威胁它,
他们让它

取决于瘾君子的行为方式。

我开始思考,我开始明白
为什么这种方法行不通

,我开始认为这几乎就像
将毒品战争的逻辑

引入我们的私人生活一样。

所以我在想,
我怎么可能是葡萄牙人?

而我现在尝试做的
,我不能告诉你我一直在做

,我不能告诉你这很容易,

就是对我生活中的瘾君子

说,我想
加深与他们的联系,

对他们说,我爱你,
无论你是否正在使用。

我爱你,无论你处于什么状态

,如果你需要我,
我会来和你坐在一起,

因为我爱你,我
不想让你孤独

或感到孤独。

我认为这个信息的核心——

你并不孤单,我们爱你——

必须体现在
我们如何应对成瘾者的各个层面,包括

社会、政治和个人。

100 年来,我们一直在唱
关于吸毒者的战争歌曲。

我想一直以来我们都应该
为他们唱情歌,

因为上瘾的反面
不是清醒。

成瘾的反面是联系。

谢谢你。

(掌声)