Be Bold Live Your Dream Life
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it all started with
do you want to join this with me this
referred to a business competition
and who was this guy well
let’s name him dee dee was the guy who
liked me in high school
always sneaking burgers below my table
whenever i said i was hungry
needless to say i said okay because
having a boyfriend in high school was a
cool thing
also i thought over the next four weeks
dee and i spent a lot of time together
making friendship bracelets and coasters
and after the challenge i fell in love
not with him but of the idea of creating
something
and seeing somebody’s face light up as a
result of their creation
it was at that moment that i realized
that i had a passion for business
in the next few years i created many
multi-million dollar businesses
i wish in the next few years i
practically did nothing
when i was in school i was always
looking forward to the next exam
having to study for it prep for it and
after the exams
when it was time for a break i thought
to myself hey
i deserve to break i worked so hard for
exams
and before i knew it the break was over
and it was back to exam season again
very often later becomes never
and my later happened five years later
at the age of 19 when i was immersed in
the world of startup yet again
when i interned in three different
startups after my junior college
just as i was about to start something
of my own
time was up i received a letter of offer
from my dream university singapore
management university
to enroll it was it was a
no-brainer right a lot of people before
us have walked this path
go to uni get a job and get married
before 30.
everyone else was doing the same thing
but just as i was about to accept the
letter of offer
something my god was telling me that i
had to reconsider my decision
and the next few days was spent making
one of the toughest decisions of my 19
years of life
whether to take a leap of faith and take
a gap year to chase my dreams
or to just go off the floor i decided to
ask some of my close friends what i
thought about it
and they said please don’t be crazy
they said please it’s not so easy he
said please wait until after university
this was some of the exact words that my
closest friends said to me
i was crushed when i told my traditional
asian parents about my dilemma
they were so taken aback that they said
they will cut me off financially
because they wanted me to be responsible
for my own choices
it was at that moment that i felt so
alone
if i went to school everything will be
fine
but i know that i’ll be living with
other what-ifs
for the rest of my life but if i took
the gap year
i’ll be all alone in the world of
uncertainty
but i needed to do something for myself
and i decided to take a leap of faith
and take the gap year
and pursue entrepreneurship full-time
and today
the boat company is valued at 2.5
million dollars
where we ship to over 26 countries and
work with some of the biggest guys in
the industry
such as fitness first and if someone
were to ask me what’s my secret formula
i would say it’s something that all of
us are born with
something called boldness and today
i’ll be sharing with you what being
bought why being bought is so important
and the four simple steps that can
enable anybody to live their dream life
with the boat system
according to gallup’s research of 155
countries
only 15 of employees in the workplace
are engaged
this means that majority of us are just
doing the bare minimum
just to get through the day and that is
a huge concern
because we spend more than half of our
lives working
one reason for the disengagement may be
because we’ve been silencing our inner
voice
we all have this inner voice inside of
us telling us that we can be better
and we are made for something more but
the thing is to listen to the inner
voice requires us to be out of
our comfort zone it requires us to
challenge the status quo
why rock the boat when everything is
going okay
in her book top five regrets of the
dying a palliativeness went a survey
hundreds of dying patients with only 12
weeks left of their lives
on what is the top regrets and the most
common of them
i wish i had lived a life true to myself
how many of us are living a life that a
young us would have thought of
how how many of us would have thought
the youngest will be proud of the person
that we are today
you might be thinking maybe i’m too
young to do this i’m too inexperienced
or i’m too old it’s too late for me to
start
well let’s start with the dream life
that you have originated off
maybe is to start a youtube career and
if everyone will take out their phones
right now
and google the youngest youtuber or if
you feel you’re too old
to google the oldest youtuber you’d be
shocked at the results
because what i found is that one of the
youngest youtuber is actually ryan koji
who is only 10 years old this year and
the surprising thing is
ryan was actually the highest paid
youtuber last year
when he was only 9 years old by
reviewing toys on youtube
and if you feel you’re too old well take
a look at hamako
mori who is actually a 91 year old gamer
who has messed half a million following
for video game skills
still think you’re too young or too old
so what’s the bose system about
the boat system starts with this thing
called beliefs and beliefs are facts
about ourselves and the world that we
believe
to be true often without question and
beliefs are super important
because they’re the ones that governs
our thoughts vision affects how we feel
which then affects the things that we do
and with every action
it produces an outcome and the outcome
becomes our life
so if we want to lead the dream life we
must first change the beliefs that we
have about ourselves
to know how to change them we need to
understand how they are formed in the
first place
we can think of beliefs as a scorecard
so with every time we experience
something whether it’s
firsthand whether it’s through hearing
it from a trusted friend
or whether it’s just looking it up on
the internet we actually score a point
towards that belief
and over time as more and more points
are scored towards that belief
we would then our brain would then
believe that is the way and our actions
would soon follow
but the scary thing is beliefs can
sometimes be wrong
so for instance what’s the first answer
that comes to your mind when i say
what color are trees most of us would
say green
but the thing is there are also yellow
trees like the yellow wood
there also red trees like the maple tree
but because we have
so many instances where we see green
trees we automatically think that trees
are green so this shows that our beliefs
may not be accurate all the time
one belief that a person a young
entrepreneur might have is that they
need a lot of capital to start
but the thing is it depends on the kind
of business that the person is studying
if it’s to start an investment firm of
course you need a lot of capital
but if it is to start an internet
business where
the cost can be as low as just a hosting
fee
the capital that you need is very very
different
so we need to start questioning our
beliefs now that we have the right
beliefs the next step of the boat system
is to overcome obstacles as if anything
worthwhile pursuing in life
obstacles are bound to happen and one of
the biggest and most common obstacles
is fear and there are three kinds of
fears
fear failure fear of uncertainty
and fear of rejection for me i had all
three
so with different people they have
different ways of responding to fear
for me psychology is quite
catastrophizing
for me i call it freaking out where i
think of the worst-case scenario
and then the worst case scenario of the
worst and then the worst case scenario
afterwards
and it goes on so to deal with it i came
across this quote
that asks what is the worst thing that
happened
and i started reflecting that was when i
thought of
naming my fear so the worst thing that
could happen in my gap year
was that i waste one year of my life and
i lose my life savings
and then i started questioning those
fears would i want to waste one year of
my life
or would i want to waste the next 50
years of my life
always thinking about the what-if it
seems like a fair trade-off
one year for 50 years of my life i don’t
think you’ll be wasted
and at that point of time i didn’t have
a lot of money
probably just a thousand dollars in
savings and i asked myself
but i earned a thousand dollars in my
lifetime the answer was yes
i would earn that amount at least i hope
so
so you can see that the fears that we
have in our brains are often imaginary
and
once we start naming our fears it
doesn’t become that scary anymore
the next step in the boat system is to
use leverage
leverage means to get maximum
performance from just a small
action and there are two kinds of
leverages
internal and external ones internal
leverages that we can use
include habit building so habits are
things are actions that we do
often without even thinking about it
like breathing and walking
because we do them every single day so
as a starting point
think about your dream life and the
person you want to be what habits does
he or she have
for instance when i first started the
business
i was obsessed with shark tank because i
wanted to see
how it was to create a product and bring
it to market and what were the points
that people mentioned
so i started watching shopping every
single day and that became my habit
to watch at least one episode of
shopping every single day
you can have the best belief system you
can overcome all the obstacles
and even leverage all you want but
whether you achieve your dream life
depends on the last factor
and that’s actually doing it ask
yourself
are you interested to achieve your dream
life are you committed to achieve your
dream life
if you are interested you’ll do whatever
is convenient
but if you’re committed you do whatever
it takes
for me it was never the right time i had
to deal with exams
i had to take a break i had to do this i
had to then
but looking back did i really do
whatever it took
to start my business i don’t think so
sometimes in life we start slow and
that’s okay
but the next most important question is
are you
going to start today let’s all be bored
and live our dream lives thank you