How I Visualised My Dreams Into Reality
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growing up
i was always a visual person i grew up
with
a visual learning style this meant that
i preferred
seeing something on a chalkboard rather
than the teacher saying it with their
words
and i preferred reading something from a
book rather than listening to it
and i’ve also read that visual learners
amongst other things are known to be one
very quiet and shy two we love to
scribble and draw when bored
and three we love to make lists and
plans for the future
now growing up i would say i was all of
the above i was
so quiet and shy i actually loved going
to school and was a good student but
i had a hard time speaking up in class
and i especially
hated public speaking so something that
i’m doing right now speaking in front of
a
large group of people that was not my
thing at all i
hated all that attention on me and i
would be so
nervous and i would forget everything
that i was about to say and i would just
embarrass myself in front of everybody
now i
also really loved to sketch and draw
i especially loved fashion design and i
would do this every single day
i was obsessed with fashion i would take
home all of the fashion magazines and i
would look
at all the beautiful models and photo
shoots and it would transport me
to a completely different world and
completely different reality
now on to the third point love making
lists and plans for the future
i actually didn’t write down what i
wanted to be when i grew up but i
would draw what i wanted to be when i
grew up and i would call this
my dream board i want to talk
specifically about a dream board that i
made when i was 16 years old
but before that what exactly is a dream
ward
well a dream board or a vision board is
a collage of images
pictures and affirmations of one’s
dreams and desires designed to serve as
a source of
inspiration and motivation and to use
the law of attraction to attain these
goals
now as a 16 year old girl this is
roughly what i drew
i wanted to work in the fashion industry
i had the words passion for fashion
written on it
and i wanted to have a house of my own
to travel the world and i wanted
to become a tv presenter so i drew
myself
with a microphone now as a 16 year old
girl i never thought in a million years
that any of these things
would come true but i put that photo in
my room and i would look at it on a
regular basis
and looking at these dreams and these
affirmations
on a daily basis it would eventually
change my life because i learned
that change begins with yourself it
begins from within
and when looking trying out for this
dream board
you know there are specific questions to
ask yourself
now beforehand i’d also like to mention
that what i love
about this dream board the notion of it
is that
it begins with you it completely begins
and ends with you not what your parents
want you to do
not what your superiors want you to do
but what you want to do
now these are important questions to ask
yourself and what i asked myself
how do you visualize your life what do
you wish to achieve in life
what inspires you what motivates you
because at the end of the day before we
even begin
to achieve anything in life we must
first
and foremost have the courage to dream
and to visualize it now going back
to the definition of a dream board it
also talks about
the law of attraction i’m a huge
believer
that what we think on a daily basis our
thoughts
what we focus on these are all things
that help us to attain what we want in
life
the ability to attain things based on
what we’re focused on
so in other words if we’re focusing on
the good then positivity will come and
if we focus on the bad the negativity
will come
because the law of attraction is one of
the most powerful laws
in the universe because it is happening
every single day
it’s happening every single second and
it’s happening right now
we are all in control and creating
our realities with each and every single
one
of our thoughts which in other words
either consciously or subconsciously
we are all creating our futures with
each and every single one
of our thoughts now please keep that in
mind
keep in mind the power of visualization
and the power of the law of attraction
now this is what i had in mind when i
was 16 years old
i wanted to work in the tv industry i
wanted to have a house of my own
travel the world and i wanted to work in
the fashion industry
and so i let this vision just guide me
in my life
and in my career and so the next year i
was 17
i went up to my dad and i told him i
want to study
fashion design and at that time fashion
design courses
they didn’t offer a bachelor’s degree
and in my dad’s eye this was a
huge no-no he immediately said no
he said you have two options you either
become a doctor
or or a lawyer and so as you can see he
was a very asian dad very typical right
but i decided to stand up for myself and
i
said no because there was not a single
fiber in my body that wanted
to become a doctor or a lawyer so i
decided to stand my ground
and this affected our relationship uh we
didn’t talk for about a month
and i felt like a complete
disappointment in his eyes
and that didn’t feel great at all but at
the same time
i knew that i didn’t want to give up on
my dream and i didn’t want to give up on
my vision so i decided
to stand firm and miraculously one day
he decided to compromise he said okay
you don’t have to become a lawyer or a
doctor
but you do have to study something that
will give you a bachelor’s degree
and so i said okay i can work with this
and so i decided to study
broadcasting journalism in the hopes
that maybe
one day i would become a writer and work
in the fashion media industry and
hopefully become a tv host like i’ve
always wanted so that’s exactly what i
did
and so i experienced my years of
university and this
is the period of where i truly came out
of my shell
where i changed where i tried new things
i took
a lot of risks and for all of the
university or college students out there
i guess it’s not my number one tip for
you all is just to try
as many things as possible even if you
think you’re not good at
or if it’s not for you or you think
you’re gonna fail just try it
because you never know what you’re gonna
like what you’re gonna dislike and this
is the time for you to just try new
things
and one of the experiences that really
did that for me
was when i tried out from this campus in
my university
so this was basically like a pageant um
except on university style
and at first i didn’t want to try it
at all because i thought it was not for
me it was completely out of my comfort
zone i was completely gonna fail
and just embarrass myself and i
just listed all the things of why i
can’t do it
but fortunately at that time my twin
sister
she was also at the same university and
she forced me to join
she forced me to join and so i did and
that experience really opened my eyes to
what i was capable of
and i thought okay maybe i’m i’m good at
it maybe i do enjoy this kind of things
and that really
had an impact on me and that had a
change in me that led
to other opportunities and by the way i
did win miss
campus which was crazy to me but that
ended up having me to have another
opportunity which was miss indonesia and
i tried that
and i won that in 2014 and i had the
opportunity to
represent indonesia at miss world 2014
in london which was an amazing
experience and again that was
a life-changing experience that i really
realized that i was coming out of my
shell i grew more confident
i had a voice in a platform that i could
use to make a better change
and that led me to another opportunity
i uh that led me to my first
tv hosting job so my tv
hosting audition the first one that i’ve
ever done i
completely failed i bombed it i
went in and i forgot everything that i
was gonna say and basically
again i embarrassed myself and i failed
but
i didn’t let that stop me and i tried
and tried again and i
finally i got my first tv job hosting a
fashion show
yes i was hosting a fashion show and it
was great i learned so much
and it was a great milestone for me and
that led me
to another opportunity so in 2015
my sister elizabeth she also works in
the fashion industry she had a chance to
go to new york fashion week
and at that time the tv network the
media partner was
e news asia for those of you who don’t
know e-news is a network
based in the u.s and they also have one
here in singapore and
basically we grew up watching e-news
right it was our dream network to work
for
but unfortunately at that time they were
not scouting for any new host
so we just had to wait and it was kind
of like a back and forth
of meetings and just a lot of
doubts here and there and but elizabeth
she pitched them the idea
of of working with indonesia for the
first time and having twin hosts
she and i and so we just prayed that
they would be keen on the idea and so
they said okay you should
send in your audition tape and that’s
exactly what we did
and we again we prayed and prayed and
prayed and then finally
we get the call we get the call from the
producer and
said we’re flying you two to singapore
your first job ever is to host singapore
fashion week
for e-news asia and the first person
you’re going to be interviewing
is that iconic fashion designer diane
von furstenberg and our minds were blown
away we could not believe it we were so
excited
we flew to singapore and the rest was
history
now i want to go back and show you guys
my dream board
you remember me i drew myself with a mic
as a tv host but what i didn’t tell you
was that
16 years old i drew the iconic
e news logo and seven years later
that dream came true and we became the
first
e-news asia hosts from indonesia
now afterwards we not only focused on tv
hosting but we also focused on
content creating on instagram and for
our website
and in 2016 we were presented with an
opportunity to write our first book for
agra media
which we took and after two years of
writing
and creating this book and almost
killing each other
many times we published our first book
in 2018
entitled becoming unstoppable and this
was another example for me of how i
could use
my voice and my platform to make a
change in someone’s life
and that’s something that i will never
take for granted
now go looking back at the journey and
what i’ve gone through and all the ups
and downs there was always
one constant in my life which was the
practice
of visualization i’ve always had a dream
board
ever since i was 16 i had one when i was
18
and onwards in high school and
university and up until now
as an adult and i want to share with you
guys my dream board
in 2018. this is what it looked like
as you can see i printed out pictures
from the website and also for magazines
but i want to focus on the upper half of
my dream board
as you can see on the upper left hand
corner there is a woman who is enjoying
a wonderful a beautiful
hot air balloon in cappadocia turkey and
in the middle
there are pictures of liverpool which is
my
favorite football team and dreams of me
going to anfield one day and watching a
game and them winning the trophy
and then on the right hand corner there
is there are the words
buy a home and there are keys
pictures of keys to a house and ever
since then
in 2018 i went to cappadocia and i went
on that amazing hot air balloon ride and
it turned out to be one of the most
amazing
trips of my life last year i ended up
going to anfield for the first time and
watching a liverpool game in person
live with my sister and it was amazing
and after 30 years without winning
the league this year 99.9
they are going to win but yes
are there any liverpool fans out there
yes
for football fans you know what i’m
talking about and then finally
last year after a lot of hard work and
saving up
and praying we bought our first
home now these are all just examples no
matter
how big or or small your dreams are
it doesn’t matter as long as you believe
in it as long as
you believe in yourself and that you
work hard
until that dream becomes a reality
because guess what if you can visualize
yourself
achieving something chances are you will
now if you don’t go home today and make
a dream board of your own i hope that
you at least
take the time to just close your eyes
and to visualize some of those dreams
and
those those goals that you want to
achieve
just imagine it as vividly as possible
with as much
detail as possible and maybe it could be
graduating from your dream college or
getting that dream job that you always
wanted to do
or starting that business venture that
you were always so scared to start
or even just watching your favorite
artist
in concert with a friend or making a
change in someone’s life or helping
a loved one out helping a friend out
whatever that
change it is i wish that you would
visualize it
and to visualize it on a regular basis
until it becomes a reality
now i know that when there’s something
that we really want to achieve or
there’s a dream that we really want to
happen in our lives it’s so
easy to think about all of the ways that
it’s not going to happen or that
we’re not good enough or it’s too big of
a dream
to come true and what tends to happen is
that all of this negative space
it becomes too big that we even fail
even
before we try and that’s one of the
worst things that could happen
so i would love to see you all just
before we even
think of all that negative space how
about
we focus on all of the ways that we’re
going to make that dream
a reality how hard are you going to work
what sacrifices are you willing to make
and what risks are you willing to take
so that at the end of the day
all that positivity will outweigh that
negative space
now when someone tells me be the change
which is today’s wonderful theme
it always reminds me of the notion that
whatever
change we wish to see in this world
it must always always begin with us
because if there’s anything that i’ve
learned in my journey
is that whenever we change
when our perspective changes when our
minds
mindset changes when our vision changes
everything changes our life
changes now i’d like to end this talk
and leave you all with a quote from the
book that
my sister and i wrote becoming
unstoppable and it goes like this
visualize what it is that you want
and then go after it with everything
that you have
because if you can imagine it then you
can envision it
and if you can envision it then you can
create it
and that will lead to you becoming it
thank you
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