THE REAL EDUCATION
well that was amazing exquisite
introduction for me well myself alina
and i’m a grade 10 student let’s begin
how are you all i think you’re okay with
everything and it’s been a while since
we all you know mutually interacted than
in school right what gender do you
consider as the most smartest or the
intelligent one do you have an answer if
it’s a specific gender answer don’t tell
me because i don’t want it no that
answer is not taken here that is invalid
well when people ask me this question
i’d be like yeah i have an answer i give
them my weirdly ambiguous answer and
they’d be like my answer is dumb like
literally straight into my face your
answer is dumb because they want a
specific gender as as the smartest or
intelligent one well my answer is this
well intelligence is not based on gender
or race or religion or anything like
that or not even age intelligence is
based on the way you think the way you
act how quickly you make your choices
the way you you know solves a problem
the way you find solutions is what
matters and that makes you intelligent
and there are like more than seven
different types of intelligence right
linguistic numerical etc so when you fit
into any of these categories you are
intelligent and no one is born into this
world as dumb we’re all intelligent in
our own ways so in school we had this
opportunity as we like we have many
questions around we’ll pick a random
question and then a random kid will come
up and then they’ll ask the question and
then we’ll give answer it within one
minute it was my turn me being all
nervous and
having sweaty and hands i walked up
there and my question was what was the
biggest lie you’ve believed in when you
were young and what am i supposed to say
in one minute so i cooked up a story
within seconds i told him when i was
young i refused to eat my greens so my
parents told me that a ghost will hone
me forever which was nothing matters
like it was so such a lie my parents
never said that and i never will believe
as a kid in the in ghosts because i
think it was stupid well when when in
real life when i refuse to eat greens my
parents feel that they’ll cut up on my
tummy and fill with greens which is
creepier than ever so i i told that lie
i went back my hands were sweaty i wiped
my hands and sat there i have an answer
for this like i have an empowering
answer for this question my actual
answer for this question was when i was
young again we all believe in lies when
we’re young right mostly and we believe
in in the impossible when we’re young
mostly when we’re young some some people
like me still believe in the impossible
even now when i was young my mom told me
that because i’m a woman i can do
whatever i wanted to i can be whoever i
want to be i can conquer the world if i
wanted to well that’s not the case what
i experienced when i got out to the
world when there’s a quote when your
life is on fire you think the entire
world is on fire i thought the entire
world is equal i can do what i want to
be i can’t even be the biggest leader in
the world etc i started socializing and
i came to know that because i’m a woman
i have restrictions i have limits in my
life and i can’t conquer the world
conquering i mean like do what i want in
this world okay not being hitler or
anything else i can’t have my own
choices i shouldn’t stick with my
opinions i shouldn’t raise my voice i
shouldn’t have opinions because to have
opinions means you have to raise your
voice well because i’m a woman i
shouldn’t these are stereotypes and i
shouldn’t settle down for stereotypes
right but no matter how much you try to
not to care there is a limit for it to
act like you don’t care or to get into
that position where you nothing matters
being a teenager it all drained me up i
told my mom why did you told me that you
know it’s why did you tell me this thing
it wasn’t true it was untrue well it’s
not untrue it can still happen but we
have limits and barriers again this is a
vision given from the beginning of time
by many leaders even by men even men
need equal rights and everything we all
started fighting for this but it’s still
not happening equal and female rights
women’s right is still being a little
impossible because we’re putting
barriers for ourselves letting ourself
out is the best thing to do again i am
like called as the feminist oh i said
the f word i’m sorry the feminist of the
school they call me the feminist i don’t
know why they call me that and they
don’t call it as a proud leeway they
don’t say it with pride oh she’s a
feminist she says like they all say like
that you know i don’t know what made
them think i’m a feminist and feminism
or fem being a feminist isn’t a bad
thing as emma watson said feminism isn’t
a bad word feminism is wanting equality
and wanting equal rights and wanting
equal salary as male counterparts get
this is what equal rights is anyone who
wants equality and equal rights are or
is a feminist but mostly women are being
suppressed with all the stereotypes so
they are you know the starting of the
word female mixed up with feminism and
they cooked up that word so in school
some people just asked me told me you
know not asking they just straight up to
my face said that oh women are so dumb i
was like what
women are dumb come on i’m standing
right here and you’re telling me women
are dumb yes i’m using women even though
i’m a teenage girl to see ourselves as
women is more empowering than calling us
girls because people they say boys will
be boys but yeah we should be women and
boys should be men or man so i was like
no we’re not dumb come on we’re not dumb
how can we be dumb we’re humans we have
brain we can’t think we can do whatever
we want to they’re like no they’re so
emotional they’re so fixated on love i
was like i am just 15 and you’re telling
me that i’m fixated on love and emotions
no women are not emotional some of us
are and some of us are not and i have to
tell you that there is a bit of humanity
left because some of us are emotional so
the world is a bit humane because some
of us are emotional and emotions you
know if you don’t have any emotions and
feelings you must be a robot or
something i don’t know i don’t think
there is someone without emotions will
live in this world
but like you know like this or call
themselves as humans so i told women are
not that emotional or we’re not fixated
on loves love or we’re not dumb we have
great minds and we have great voices and
we have ideas that should be you know
portrayed and conveyed to the society
then the next thing came i think my
friend who said this is around here and
i literally took this as a joke but
still i have to clear the perspective
right now so my friend told me oh if
women are so smart why are there only
lesser ceos or business women or
business women oh my god
i don’t have an answer for this i mean
why are there only lesser business women
or lesser ceos as women right so it’s
like
yeah then i got an answer by thinking i
was like yeah the reason for this is
because women are born into a
stereotypical world where their ideas
their voice even by birth is suppressed
for example in a hypothetical situation
a girl is born father is like oh my
goodness within 20 years i have to make
gold for her marriage even though you
don’t even know if she’ll live for 20
years let her live okay then
she’ll show her interest in business for
example you know then they’d be like
don’t do business because it’s men’s
career
business is not men’s career if you have
that idea no no if you think like that
there’s something really wrong with you
so anyone can do business actually and
business is good and empowering more
than that if this girl in hyper in this
hypothetical situation had that interest
in business she’ll be growing up they
will be suppressing her it’s men’s
business and if she retaliate then she
is like the bad girl or the black sheep
of the entire family which you shouldn’t
care you can be the black ship like
being the black sheep is actually cool
you know you can at least have your own
choices then at the age of 18 or 20
she’ll be married and if that’s a toxic
person then her education is done
only within age of 18 what are you just
passed out of high school and you’re
just married then she has to take care
of his family and she has she shouldn’t
have any opinions to have opinions is a
sin literally it’s a sin okay don’t have
opinions
so i was like so the
the girl or the woman with dreams of
business is now suppressed with her
so-called loved ones as her husband her
her husband’s family and her
her own family her wings have been
chopped off by her so-called loved ones
so do you see the conundrum here of a
woman being a ceo because it’s hard
nowadays and nowadays you know
this isn’t the case like what i was told
when i was young was because i’m a woman
i can do anything but that’s not how we
raise our daughters right in typically
in most of the brown households they say
because you’re a woman go straight to
the kitchen go practice how to make
chores and
practice your household chores so that
in 20 or 25 years you will be ready for
to be a good housewife or homemaker
that’s how you train your children
great education all of you know and i’ve
literally seen they’re educating their
daughter for
med school like you go for medical you
know
go for it and like on and they will
never allow them her to work because
it’s just a title for her wedding
invitation card
just yeah doctor so and so
married to this person and never allowed
to work they should actually write that
on our invitation card
so this is what
women are born into so act as real
education what should we teach our
children at first starting from
talking and teaching them about the
differences in gender
yes we are different biologically male
female excess chromosome xy chromosome
yes in that way but teaching them about
sexuality and gender matters
how about the lgbtq community plus
community you know you should teach your
children about them too because they are
they are part of our community
discriminating people on the basis of
their gender
sexuality race
religion come on you gotta grow up
because it’s been hundreds and thousands
of fear years we’ve been fighting for
this look a person will fight for uh
women’s right and then they’d be like uh
i don’t like gay people i don’t know
you’re literally homophobic that’s it
nothing else homophobia and transphobia
is a trend now and you shouldn’t
normalize it because they’re human
beings and we shouldn’t need a
discrimination on the basis of sexuality
come on how many times should i tell you
this so this is the world life is cruel
of course indeed it’s cruel it’s like
goblet of fire for you for me it’s
goblet of fire because the fourth book
oh my goodness
of harry potter it’s just like
it’s just explains my entire life
because especially in teenage you have
mental stress and everything and then
you have to cope up with all of this and
then there are stereotypes coming like
i’m just walking like that and then like
stereotypes just pushes me over i’d be
like dead
literally stereotypes can kill me
talking about gender equality starting
from teaching your children about
different genders well teaching them
about gender equality starts from
teaching them about differences in
gender and then gender equality starting
from giving actual chores household
shores both your sons and daughters and
so on and in households i see even in
right now they do women cooks the food
in the house and the man eats first see
i work hard i wake up early in the
morning if i’m grown i wake up early in
the morning i cook the food i prepare
all the meals then the guys in the house
come around and eat everything
i won’t get anything i mean i’m a human
being i want to eat i worked hard for
this why can’t i eat first and the men
in the house can eat why can’t they cook
in the first place when i asked this to
my mother my mother was like it’s just
some traditional things they do
this culture
respecting men i was like where is my
respect where is the respect that they
should give me
okay i didn’t cook these food this is
just an exit example for instance i’m
telling you so this is what is happening
you know when you question something
these days you are the black sheep and i
hate it because i have many questions
and when i ask uh
wrong way wrong path you see moshir’s
daughter nah don’t don’t go to her oh my
goodness she she talk about things that
is so sinful she talk about women’s
rights oh my goodness
they literally say that so when i was
coming here
i told they asked me you had you’re
going for public speaking today right i
was like yeah yeah i am
what is your topic i was like it’s about
real education mainly focusing about
equality and women’s rights they were
like what
you can’t talk about that that’s
controversial yes my talk is
controversial and this is my opinions
and you have i’m not telling you to take
all of it i don’t care even if you take
it or accept it because i don’t need
your acceptance to live or to deliberate
to say or talk about my ideas and
opinions so they were like
don’t go there and
talk about your
feminist i was like this is not
feminist this is normal things
ideas they have been portraying in our
textbooks women’s right is wanted it is
essential for us and women’s right is
something we all need not only women’s
for every gender we need that
so i was like okay thank you for this
you told me not to i’m going to do that
like it’s an urge to do right like when
someone told you can do it you should
show them that you can i forgot all my
points so i was like what should i talk
now
so i just got in here and i talked about
many things and my ideas and you all see
me as a 15 year old blabbing things that
everybody have told
right all the way
till now we all send our children
to schools right wow do you think that
really helps yes socializing everything
else but the textbooks have you ever
read the textbooks they give they talk
about india is a secular country next
day in newspaper two people died and on
the basis of religion people are
fighting secular country yeah
i doubt that
and then they talk about racism is
abolished well
i can’t see racism being fully gone
still racism is there and
even i’ve experienced races in my own
even in family oh one of my cousin
gave birth to a beautiful child
my father was like uh is that baby
healthy they were like yes society
aunties came in the best of all oh my
goodness power
they’re coming in i think the child is
bitter to the darker side from her
father’s if you married someone with
your skin color maybe they will be like
in the same skin color you know i don’t
even know who these aunties are i think
they’re my father’s father’s you know
uncles daughters
someone i don’t know why their opinions
actually matters but then they talk
about
skin color of a newborn right after its
birth we just we’re so happy we were
about to celebrate the
success of the pregnancy but then they
were like skin color matters skin color
never matters what matters is how how
powerful the attitude of a certain kid
is and nothing else why are you so
fixated on that and why can’t you focus
on how
each person
is about their attitude in life we are
alone not only alone but we’re lonely
loneliness is inevitable at the end of
the day we are alone and this this is
what we have to realize loneliness is
inevitable and what we can do is accept
each other and be with everyone you
don’t need a willing in your story if
you will be the villain of the villain
in your story so you don’t need a person
or someone you don’t need to villainize
an actual person to be main character of
your story you know
to be a hero you don’t need a villain in
my story
my willing is my darkest desires my
darkest emotions my anger and everything
is my willing so if you consider and see
this world in that way then everything
will be easier and start accepting
yourself to accept each other
first you have to accept yourself so
these are stereotypes they have been
here for a long time living among us
growing more powerful than anyone than a
individual leader these are stereotypes
that has to be crushed within ourselves
we have to take the step and crush him
because darling this is our business