A Bike Ride Into Leadership...Across Chicago

hi there

and welcome to my work from home space

and my living space

uh tonight i want to talk to you about

effective communication

in short i’m going to give you three

principles of effective communication

and tell you a story from my own life

that illustrates this

before that i’m going to try to reach

through the virtual environment

and make this a little bit more engaging

so i want you to think of an instance

where you were a ineffective

communicator

where you didn’t get your message across

it wasn’t effective your end goal wasn’t

reached there was some sort of

miscommunication

something along those lines

now if you’re anything one like me you

probably want to think of yourself

and have in your mind that you’re a

great communicator

and so your confirmation bias is

probably going to

filter out any stories that run contrary

to that

but try to grab one where you were a

poor communicator

and now choose the opposite of that so

remember a time where you were a great

communicator

where people came up to you afterwards

and said you know what

you you communicated so effectively you

got the message across that’s exactly

what you need to hear

i want you to hold those two as we walk

through

these three three principles here

so you know your abcs i’m gonna give you

your cdas

so the three elements of communication

we’re going to talk about tonight are

audience content and delivery

so as you think about that time where

you’re a great communicator think about

who your audience was

who were you talking to what were their

motivations and look beyond just

the number of uh of head count

or um or what their backgrounds were

and really get a sense for the flavor of

who that person is

were they were they working in a

corporate environment

where your communication needed to be

buttoned up was it on the back of

a tailgate where you could let loose a

little bit

and try to bond over common vernacular

what kind of language were they speaking

do they operate

at a fifth grade reading level an eighth

grade

a high school a college advanced degree

first grade

who are they and what do they want most

importantly

then think about the content what did

you actually communicate

what meat was there was it complex was

it a graph was an analysis

or was it a simple urgent message that

you had to get across

as quickly as possible and lastly the

delivery

this is kind of the the cart that

carries the content

um was it via email was it via zoom

was it in person was it over the phone

and what so beyond just

medium of delivery um how did the had

the delivery

method play into how the content was

received

and how that audience reacted so

uh if you’re unlimited time

now’s a great time to stop the video but

if you have time

i’d love to tell you a story from my own

life that that illustrates these three

so i moved to chicago in 2019

uh sorry 2018 june 2018.

i had never been here before i knew zero

people

and from the first day i showed up i

tried to bust open

chicago’s social communities and tried

to engage with as many folks as i could

and one day i met the fundraiser

person that organized fundraisings for a

large non-profit well maybe a medium

non-profit about 10 million dollars

revenue

um here in the city she came to me and

said

she said james uh here’s our mission

we’d love for you to be on board

um and i was like great how can i help i

just moved to the city

i know a few people this seems like a

great exchange here you introduce me to

some people

uh i get some community um and in return

i’d love to help you fundraise because i

really identify with your cause

and she came to me and said that sounds

great you should do a peer-to-peer

fundraiser

but before i agreed to sign on to that

um

i knew i i needed a reason why i had

done

a lot of fundraising before in the

nonprofit world

but i found myself getting burnt out

unless i had engaged with the nonprofit

in a very real way and had my own

personal story of why i was engaging

so i said hold on uh i want a volunteer

first so i volunteered a little bit

and as i saw the inner workings of the

organization i was blown away

i wanted to get my name behind

this organization and take them to the

next level so

uh i went back to her and said great

let’s do this

and her idea was well you have a

birthday coming up

instead of getting birthday gifts go

ahead and just say

make a donation to us

i want to go bigger i’ve always loved

organizing events and i’ve always hated

asking people for money

so perhaps fundraising isn’t in my

future but

i i was good at asking people for things

or their time because i knew i could

control

how good of a time that they had an

event but i didn’t know

how to ask people for money so instead

of fundraising on my own i instead

decided to host a bike ride across

chicago

we called it bike across chicago it’s

going to be 50 miles it’s going to start

north of the city in evanston and end in

the southernmost neighborhood

with points all along the way so we’re

going to start in evanston

cross over howard which is kind of the

chicago northern

border go downtown go out west to the

northernmost neighborhood

and then south to gail gardens the

southernmost neighborhood

and through this we would see 35

neighborhoods of chicago

and really get on the ground feedback on

how

how the city was doing um this was

particularly meaningful for me who had

never been to the south side or the west

side at that time

um so the logistics just seem to

be very attractive here um but

i had this problem now instead of me

simply going on this bike ride and

raising some money

i had to i had to rally a crowd i had to

communicate to that crowd

and get them to buy into my mission i

had to get them to put on helmets

rent borrow or buy their own bikes

and then bike 50 miles of me which is

kind of a large ask

for some people so uh

i targeted in on my audience my audience

were people that

i already knew through some other means

um whether that’s through work

uh most of my most of my audience were

at work so i’ll describe that flavor a

little bit

more depth but there were other people

that

i related to as well

this is a highly educated crowd it’s a

crowd that highly values their time

and is also not scared of an athletic

challenge

so i knew i could rope them in with

the the challenge of 50 miles right that

that would be um

that that wouldn’t be uh it was a

barrier for some but it wasn’t

insurmountable right um this was also a

crowd that

was highly incentive by bragging rights

um

so the fact that i’m convincing them to

buy 50 miles and i guarantee that

they’ll make it

um and that they could brag for the next

year that they biked 50 miles in a

single go that year

um that was another element that i

thought i could hook them with

um and lastly they’re highly educated

and they

uh they had they were from an upper

income

so um i knew that this would be a right

target for

my end result which is raising money for

this nonprofit um

now let’s talk about about the content

um

so for this section

i’m going to deviate a little bit from

that first year of the bike ride and

talk about

the actual content of the ride so it was

a great day uh

it was a little chilly um but as you get

biking and start warming up it

became just perfect um i want to

describe a scene to you

because uh this became the content of my

pitch

in years for the future we’ve done this

right now

three times so it’s a little bit chilly

we’ve been biking all day we’re

approaching austin

which is the western neighborhood in

chicago westernmost

and i don’t know if you’re familiar with

all of chicago but the green line runs

over i believe it’s i believe it’s lake

street

and there’s tons of glass on both sides

we’ve gotten a few flat tires

i’ve held back fixed them and then we’ve

caught up

and there’s a staff member from this

non-profit that’s that’s leaving us at

the time

and all of a sudden he pulls in the

middle of the intersection underneath

the green line and he goes james

leave your team and of course

i i don’t know the route uh i don’t know

what’s going on but he signals me to the

right so i take a right-hand turn

and all of a sudden the skies open up

and it’s sunny and it’s

warm and there’s hundreds of kids lining

the streets

on both sides waving signs and cheering

us on there’s my name on there

there’s the girl that signed up last

minute her name is on there

there’s all seven of us all seven of us

riders

are represented on signs there’s people

with balloons there’s kids shouting

it was just this amazing sight to behold

so we paused we stopped we recruit and

this girl ran up to me

and she slapped me across the face and

she goes james

i was just on the phone with my mom i’m

crying

my mom’s crying you gotta warn me

before you ambush me with 300 kids like

that

and throughout the rest of the day we

made two or three more stops that were

just as impactful

so pause that’s that’s the content

that i use in my pitch to get people to

participate in the bike ride going

forward

that’s the message that i want to send

across i want to communicate

the emotion of appearing from underneath

the l it’s dark

it’s gloomy there’s glass you can see it

right

and then the skies open up and it’s just

pure

joy i understand that this medium

uh isn’t the best so perhaps that

emotion wasn’t communicated

uh but that ties in my third point which

is delivery um

it’s best to communicate this in person

the urban studies done that majority of

communication is non-verbal

um and even though you can see me right

now it’s difficult for me to communicate

my energy it’s difficult for me to

communicate um

whether i’ve had a rough day any

anxieties that i have

and and most importantly uh this

delivery lacks feedback

i don’t know if you’ve turned off by now

i don’t know if you’re checking out

i don’t know if you’re listening to

anything i’m saying i don’t know if

my voice is too low or if it’s too high

if i was in person i could get

real-time feedback on how you’re

reacting to my message

and that i think is is one of the key

parts whatever delivery technique that

you choose

try to ensure that you get shorter

feedback cycles depending on what the

content is

and this content i’m looking for uh

i’m looking for a reaction right i’m

looking for someone to agree to go in

the bike ride with me

to agree to support my fundraising

effort

so it’s very important to me to know

what you’re thinking

and how you’re reacting to this for

instance if i was pitching in a very

formal environment if you if you were

the type of person

that i i was that it was very uh

very close to emotion that was very by

the book analytical

want to know the roi i probably wouldn’t

have told that story

i would have told the story about how uh

the

the fundraiser has grown by thirty

percent over three years

or every year for three years we’ve i

would have told you about the roi

of seeing these kids faces and uh

i actually i take that back i have told

you about their faces i told you about

their grades it’s an after-school

program so i would have told you that

for every dollar

um this is how many kids you impact and

this is

the grade point average improvement that

they would have seen

so delivery is very important and the

method that you deliver

the medium so those are my three points

audience content and delivery um thank

you so much for listening

um i hope that you’re doing well and

staying safe

bye now

大家好

,欢迎来到我的家庭空间

和生活空间工作

在此

之前,我将尝试

通过虚拟环境进行接触,

并使其更具吸引力,

因此我希望您考虑一个实例

,您是一个无效的

沟通者

,您没有传达您的信息

。 t 有效 你的最终目标没有

达到 有一些类似的

误解

现在如果你像我一样,你

可能想想想自己,

并认为你是一个

伟大的沟通者

,所以你的 确认偏差

可能会

过滤掉任何与此相反的故事,

但尝试抓住一个你

沟通不畅的故事

,现在选择与之相反的故事,所以

记住你所在的时间 一个伟大的

沟通者

,人们事后会来找你

,说你知道

你沟通得如此有效,

你传达的信息

正是你需要听到的,

我希望你在我们

在这里介绍这三个原则时掌握这两个原则,

所以你 知道你的 abcs 我会给你

你的 CDA

所以今晚我们要讨论的三个沟通要素是

受众内容和交付,

所以当你想到那个时候

你是一个伟大的沟通者时,想想

你的听众是谁

你在和谁交谈,他们的动机是什么

不仅要看人数,

或者他们的背景

,还要真正了解那个

人是谁,他们是在

公司环境

中工作的人 你的沟通需要

搞定吗

他们说

他们

在五年级阅读水平八

年级高中大学高级学位

一年级

他们是谁以及他们最重要的是想要什么

然后考虑内容

你实际上传达了

什么肉有什么复杂的

它是一个图表是一个分析

还是一个简单的紧急信息,

你必须

尽快传达,最后

交付

这是一种携带内容的推车

嗯是通过电子邮件它是通过缩放

是它 亲自是通过电话

吗?除了

传递媒介之外还有什么?

视频,但

如果你有时间,

我很想告诉你我自己

生活中的一个故事,它说明了这三个,

所以我在 2019 年搬到芝加哥,

对不起,2018 年 2018 年 6 月。

在我认识零人之前,我从来没有来过这里

e 从我出现的第一天起,我就

试图破坏

芝加哥的社交社区,并试图

与尽可能多的人接触,

有一天我遇到了

为一家大型非营利组织筹款的筹款人,

也许是一个中等

非盈利组织 -在这个城市赚取大约 1000 万美元的

收入

,她来找我

她说詹姆斯,呃,这是我们的使命,

我们希望你能加入,

嗯,我很好,我能帮上什么忙,我

刚搬到 城市,

我认识一些人,这似乎是一次

很好的交流,你把我介绍给

一些人,

嗯,我有一些社区,作为回报,

我很乐意帮助你筹款,因为我

真的认同你的事业

,她来找我说 听起来

不错,您应该进行点对点

筹款活动,

但在我同意签约之前,

我知道我需要一个理由,为什么我

以前在非营利组织中做过很多筹款活动,

但我发现自己已经筋疲力尽了,

除非 我曾与非专业人士订婚

以一种非常真实的方式适合并且有我自己的

个人故事关于我为什么参与

所以我说等一下我首先想要一个志愿者

所以我自愿做了

一点当我看到组织的内部运作时

我被吹走了

我想要 为了让我的名字支持

这个组织并将他们带到

一个新的水平,

所以我回去找她说很好,

让我们这样做

,她的想法是你有一个

生日快到

而不是收到生日礼物

去吧,只是说

做一个 捐赠给我们

我想做得更大 我一直喜欢

组织活动,我一直讨厌

向人们要钱,

所以也许筹款不是我的

未来,但我

擅长向人们要东西

或他们的时间,因为我知道我 可以

控制

他们举办活动的美好时光,

但我不知道

如何向人们要钱,所以

我没有自己筹款,而是

决定举办一场穿越芝加哥的自行车骑行,

我们称之为穿越芝加哥的自行车

50英里 从

埃文斯顿的城市北部开始,在最南端的社区结束

,一路上都有点,所以我们

将从埃文斯顿开始,

穿过霍华德,这是

芝加哥北部

边境的一种 去市中心 向西到最

北端的社区

,然后 南到盖尔花园

最南端的社区

,通过这个我们可以看到

芝加哥的 35 个社区,

并真正得到关于

城市如何做的实地反馈,这

对从未去过南边或西边的我来说特别有意义

那个时候

嗯,所以这里的物流

似乎很有吸引力,但是

我现在遇到了这个问题,而不是我

只是骑自行车并

筹集一些

我必须的钱我必须召集一群人我必须

与那个人群交流

让他们接受我的任务

我针对的是我的听众 我的听众

我已经通过其他方式认识的人

嗯,这是否是通过工作

嗯,我的大多数听众都

在工作,所以我会更深入地描述这种味道,

但还有其他的

我也与之相关的人

这是一群受过高等教育的人群,这是

一群高度重视自己的时间

并且也不害怕运动

挑战的人群,

因此我知道我可以将他们拉入

50英里的挑战中,

那将是 嗯

,那不会是,嗯,这

对某些人来说是一个障碍,但这并不是

不可逾越的,对,嗯,这也是一群

通过吹牛来高度激励的人群,

嗯,

所以事实上我说服他们

购买 50 英里,我

保证他们会成功

,并且他们可以吹嘘

明年他们单次骑行 50 英里

嗯,这是我

认为我可以吸引他们的另一个因素

,最后他们受过高等教育

, 他们

呃他们 如果他们来自高

收入,

那么嗯,我知道这将

是我最终结果的正确目标,即为这个非营利组织筹集资金,

现在让我们谈谈内容,

嗯,

所以对于本节,

我将稍微偏离一下 从

骑自行车的第一年开始,

谈论

骑行的实际内容,所以这

是美好的一天,

嗯,有点冷,但是当您

骑自行车并开始热身时,它

变得非常完美,嗯,我想

描述一下 给你的场景,

因为嗯,这成为我

未来几年推销的内容我们现在已经做

了三遍所以有点冷

我们整天骑自行车我们正在

接近奥斯汀

,这是西部社区

芝加哥最西端

,我不知道你是否熟悉

整个芝加哥,但绿线

越过我相信它是我相信它是湖

,两边都有大量玻璃

我们已经得到了几个爆胎

我已经 阻止修复它们,然后我们

已经 很快

,这家非营利组织的一名工作人员

当时离开了我们

,突然间,他把车停

在绿线下方的十字路口中间,然后他

让詹姆斯离开了你的团队,

当然我不会 知道路线 呃我不知道

发生了什么事,但他示意我

向右,所以我右转

,突然天空打开

,阳光明媚,

温暖,街上有数百名孩子

两边都挥舞着标语为

我们欢呼那里有我的名字

有那个女孩在最后一分钟注册了

她的名字

有我们所有的七个人我们所有的七个

车手

都出现在标志上有气球的人

有孩子们大喊

这是 看到这个惊人的景象

所以我们停下来我们停止招募,

这个女孩跑到我身边

,她扇了我一巴掌,

她走了詹姆斯

我刚和我妈妈通电话我在

我妈妈在哭你要警告 我

在你面前 和 300 个这样的孩子混在一起

,在剩下的时间里,我们又

做了两到三站

同样有影响力的

停顿,这

就是我在演讲中用来让人们

参与骑自行车

的内容 我想传达的信息 我想传达

从下面出现的情感

l 它是黑暗的

它是阴暗的 有玻璃 你可以看到它

然后天空打开了,这只是

纯粹的

快乐 我明白这个媒介

呃不是 最好,所以也许

没有传达情感,

嗯,但这与我的第三点有关,那

就是交付,嗯

,最好亲自传达这一点

城市研究完成,大多数

交流是非语言的

,即使你可以看到我

现在我很难传达

我的能量我很难

传达嗯

我是否度过了艰难的一天

我有任何焦虑

,最重要的是,这个

交付缺乏反馈

我不知道你现在有没有

关机 低或太高,

如果我亲自到场,我可以获得

有关您

对我的信息的反应的实时反馈

,我认为这是关键部分之一,

无论您选择何种交付技术,

试图确保您得到 更短的

反馈周期取决于内容是什么

以及我正在寻找的内容

我正在寻找正确的反应我

正在寻找同意

与我一起骑自行车

以同意支持我的筹款

活动的人

所以

知道你在想什么

以及你对此有何反应对我来说非常重要,

例如,如果我在一个非常

正式的环境中投球,如果你是

那种类型的人

,我会

非常接近 对本书的分析非常激动,

想知道投资回报率,我可能

不会讲那个故事,

我会 我已经讲了这个故事,关于

呃筹款活动如何

在三年内或每年三年内增长了 30%

我们已经告诉过你

看到这些孩子面孔的投资回报率,呃

我实际上我收回了我 已经告诉过

你他们的面孔 我告诉过你

他们的成绩 这是一个课后

项目 所以我会告诉

你 每一美元

嗯 这就是你影响的孩子数量

是他们会看到的平均成绩提高

交付非常重要,并且

交付媒体的方法是我的三点

观众内容和交付

,非常感谢您的收听,

我希望您现在做得很好并

保持安全

再见