Be Bold Be Fearless Be You
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be
bold be fearless be you
how to create the life you want that is
what we’re going to talk about today
i want you to think about the answers to
these questions
what does being brave mean to you how
brave do you feel
right now and what would be different if
you had more bravery
in your life how many of us
are just going through the motions of
life settling for anything
and just taking what life gives us i
feel like it’s so much more common than
we think
and it’s become so much more acceptable
than it ever has
but why is that why do we settle for
less than we want
when we all know that this is the only
life
we really get
these are questions that i started to
ask myself years ago
when i started my journey of
self-development
and it wasn’t easy they were difficult
questions to answer
and i had to be honest with myself i had
to make a choice
i had to decide if i wanted to be safe
in my life
or if i wanted to be brave in my life
having courage and being bold ultimately
were the things that i wanted the most
i urge you to answer the same questions
so i will give you a little back story
imagine waking up one day
and everything you thought life was
gonna be has gone down the drain
you’re depressed you’re in darkness
you’re suffering from anxiety and you
just have no clue
how you’re gonna move forward you’re
being held back by fear
imagine being in a relationship where
you don’t have a voice
nothing that you want to do nothing that
you
think about yourself being can come to
fruition
because this person is holding you back
by being aggressive by instilling
fear in you by not allowing you to speak
up for yourself
and also by making you feel that all of
this that is happening to you
is your fault and on top of that
imagine having two children that you
have to be an example for
yet you’re still in this darkness yet
you’re still in this uncertainty
well that was me until one day
i woke up and i told myself
i need to be here for my children and
most importantly
also for myself if i don’t pour
self-love into myself
if i don’t think about being brave
and what that will mean to my children
and what example that was set for them
then what would i have then i would stay
in this fear for the rest of my life
so i became brave i started to ask
myself all of these questions
and i started my journey of
self-discovery and self-love
i knew i was tired of being tired
and miserable and that i had to make a
change
but one thing i think a lot of people
overlook
is that when you are ready to make a
change you sometimes have no idea where
to start
and that was me you may even feel
hopeless and you may not even feel
that you can achieve what you want
there is also usually a lot of fear
mixed up
in being brave and living courageously
one thousand percent
so that’s what i’m going to talk about
today how to start to change
your life and live it authentically
while conquering that fear
because that fear can feel like a real
thing
and sometimes it is so hard to escape
but you won’t have to let it prevent you
from living the life you want
living authentically that is the
beginning
living an authentic life is so much more
complicated and so much more messier
than we give it credit for
it’s a journey and it is so worth it
but it is a long journey it is one of
the most exciting
the most challenging and the most growth
filled opportunities that you will ever
encounter in your life
you slowly learn implement
and implement things then that begin to
help you change
and when you choose to live a life
that’s authentic to you
that’s when you really start to show up
in your life for yourself
that’s when you learn what your real
power is
and what you are truly capable of it is
so amazing
and it requires bravery and courage
dedication
and the utmost audacity to take a chance
on yourself
learn who you are the first step is
really learning who you are
who are you ask yourself that take a
look at yourself in the mirror
be brave to go really deep and dig
deep in yourself it is taking a look
inside
and learning what’s important to you
it’s learning to live your life
based on what your values are and your
heart desires
instead of what you’ve been told that
they are
as it was in my case and that can be a
little scary
because most of us have been living our
lives based on other people’s values
so the first step really is to dig deep
within yourself and to really understand
what it is that you want from your life
how do you want your life to look
what do you want it to be like how do
you
want to be really dig deep and ask
yourself these questions
figure out who you are and what your
purpose is
and what your likes and dislikes are and
what you like what you want your lights
look like my life was looking like
darkness and that is
nothing that i wanted a part of anymore
i want
fulfillment purpose excitement
peace so take a look inside
the second step after really digging
deep is to create
a vision create a vision not only for
what you want in your life to look like
but for how you want to be how are you
going to be showing up differently
in your life because of these changes
for example myself
if i continue to wake up every day
feeling hopeless feeling like there was
no opportunity for me
feeling like this was it this was my
life and
nothing more was gonna come from it then
that would have been the vision the
negative vision for the rest of my life
except i changed that i started waking
up with hope
and i encourage you to really write this
down
and get as detailed as possible if it
helps
think about how your life will be
different day to day
what is your day going to look like as
simple as a day
it starts with just first step who’s
going to be in your life
do you need to eliminate some people
from your life for your life to change
think about those things not only what
it will look like
how will you feel once you start
implementing these changes
i want you to envision it like it’s
really happening right now
tackle the fear head on now that you
have your vision
i want to go over the crucial step that
we often overlook
tackling the fear head-on whenever there
is a change in our lives
there is a certain level of risk and
uncertainty
and it can cause us to become fearful of
making that change
for me it was not being able to rely on
another partner
to help me raise my children help me pay
for expenses that i had to do with my
children
i was afraid i couldn’t be able to
handle it financially
the top the tip that i give for managing
the fear
is to really recognize that you’re not
alone in feeling that fear
most people often just don’t talk about
it people don’t talk about how they’re
afraid to do the things
they want to go after their dreams as
much as we should
so the first thing to recognize is that
the fear is just your way
or your mind’s way of trying to keep you
safe
and safety isn’t a bad thing know it’s
there
to keep us safe from real physical harm
so this fear is not your enemy
it is something that is there to protect
you
with that recognize that you don’t have
to be submissive to that fear
you don’t have to let it drive you
because you can’t let it stop you from
that vision
that you created for yourself don’t
judge
yourself for the fear don’t feel like
it’s a sign
that you shouldn’t be doing what you’re
doing because in actuality it is a sign
that is what your heart wants and that
is where you should go
normally we feel fear while we’re
stepping out of our comfort zone
so it’s not necessarily a bad thing
we’re just stepping into a new
growth-filled
place that we’re not used to my biggest
tip for actively going after the things
that you want while managing that fear
is to find support find people who are
like
you who are going through the same
things or have the same goals
find a mentor or surround yourself with
positive people
that has helped me so much or find
someone that’s going to hold you
accountable
we are much stronger together
taking action know that when it’s time
to take action
is when your fear tries to rear its ugly
head just when you’re ready to take that
leap of faith just when you’ve created
that vision and you’re
ready to put it into fruition that’s
when fear starts rolling back in
imposter syndrome we call that now
recognize that you have vision
and the support team and that the fear
doesn’t have to hold you back so i
encourage you to take action no matter
how small
or how big it is as long as you’re
moving forward
power in fear i think it’s important to
realize that we all have fear
there’s something for us to be afraid of
no matter how much we grow
or how much we change but the thing is
when we’re fearful
that seems to blind everything it seems
to be the only thing we can focus on
and when we choose to focus on that fear
it can distract us from what we really
want
so we have to really really try to
understand
that the fear is there but we don’t have
to
allow it to take over our lives it
doesn’t have to necessarily be a bad
thing
i was always very fearful in sharing my
survival story with others
especially my family due to
embarrassment
due to just not feeling comfortable and
sharing what was going on and also
not knowing what was the right step to
take if i still wanted to continue to be
in this relationship
i was scared i was fearful but once i
did
i felt free and empowered
because i now let it go and it no longer
consumes me
it no longer was who i was it was
something that happened to me
but it did not define me that is when i
realized how much power i really had
and you have this inside of you too
and when you overcome the things that
you’re afraid of that’s when you realize
just how strong you are
and how much you can do in your life
so if you take anything from today’s
conversations
is that when you face your fears and
choose to live your life
that’s when you prove to yourself how
strong you really are
you already have it in you but it is
time to let it
shine through the steps are simple
know who you are decide
what you want and take action
the complexity comes in when we have to
tackle the fear head-on
but it’s the difference between a life
of going through the motions
and a life that is true and authentic
to you thank you