How I used my life experiences to create a purpose unique to me.
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people have the right to live
can bear almost anyhow frederick
nisha why such a small but such a
significant
unnerving word that can bring the most
accomplished
most knowledgeable person to their needs
and as an individual whether you’re a
student or a professional
you do at some point in your life will
be asked the question
why why do you want to do this job
why should we hire you did you feel our
nerves
then because why is such an important
word
in all of our lives this sense
of why came to me at a very young age
because i was always inspired by my
grandmother
and the surprising fact is that i have
never met her
i don’t know how she looks like and i
often went around
the house asking whether she looked like
me
my grandmother lost her life at the age
of 22
giving birth to my mother she had given
birth
to her four siblings before that and i
often
wondered such a small span of life
i wondered if she was alive would she
also have ambitions and goals like me
would she be driven like me
and sometimes i think is it very
important for us as
human beings to have goals or is it like
a human fantasy of us
nevertheless a team of researchers from
the harvard school of public health have
found out that
individuals with a higher sense of
purpose or people that have goals and
ambitions
have shown a longer span of life and a
healthier life
that is a good reason for all of us to
think about having a purpose in our life
and to be very honest during my college
years
i have to spend a lot of time alone
thinking about
why am i here what is my purpose and
what
i should be doing in my life but it came
to me
in a very in a very weird fashion
it came to me at a time that i felt that
everything that happened
really brought me to my purpose and all
that had done subconsciously
really led me to my goal
so these are the steps that i
subconsciously taken to help me reach my
goals
and i hope they help you too step number
one
move out of your comfort zone i was born
and raised in kuwait
and i moved at the out at the age of 15
to a new city like bombay where i didn’t
really know the people over there i had
no family and friends
i had absolutely zero life skills to
survive
i could hardly wash my own clothes or
make my own food
and i had no idea why i came here in the
first place
yes i was very terrified in the starting
but soon and very gradually i met people
from different walks of life
that taught me so much that helped me
learn how to drive a car on my own for
the first time
start a business something that i don’t
think i would
ever think about and that’s what i want
for you
even you don’t have to leave your house
like me you can stay
with your family at the same time i
encourage you to meet new people
with different experiences that inspire
you to
take up something in your life and to
drive your passion
and even if you’re an introvert that
doesn’t like to mix up
all you can do is read a lot of books
because books really open up
your personality and help you think in a
much broader way
and you can always research on different
subjects that can help you
tickle your interest in a way
step number two make your own vision
board
i know a lot of people find this very
fancy but this has
always helped me year after year what i
pasted on that
vision board came true whether it was
representing india at miss universe
or getting featured in kingfisher
or even speaking at a ted talk like this
it all came true
but if you still believe that this is
some kind of hocus pocus
it technically really helps you because
it gives you a clear idea
of what you want to include in your life
of the places you want to go to and
of the experiences that you want to feel
and you can remove something that don’t
really fit your purpose
step number four your attitude towards
failures
and difficulties as humans we tend to
run away
from a difficult period or from any kind
of fear
and if you’re just like me and you love
reading astrology
i read only the positive parts and try
to ignore the negative parts
but i felt that everything in my life
has always driven me
to become a better person it’s all
because of the difficulties and all the
shortcomings that i had to face
whether it was not being able to get
into a medical school even after
studying for two years diligently
without any distractions at that moment
i was so
heartbroken and i i was so dejected
but today i realized that it helped me
have a new perspective in life and i
wouldn’t reach it that wouldn’t happen
or even when my love
my child of a business that i created
putting all my life savings
completely go down in three months at
that moment
i felt such a failure but today made me
realize that i
i had the i had the risk-taking ability
which i would not recognize
if that wouldn’t have happened to me so
i think as humans we need to be
accepting of failure and in schools and
in colleges they should teach
more about failure because they don’t
tell you that even
the best of the best and the legends
have faced their own share
of failure whether it’s an abraham
lincoln that has seemed so much before
he became the president of
the united states or if it’s mary curie
all these celebrities all these big
names have also faced their share
of failure so if you need if you feel
that you’re not
getting through because there’s so much
going around you maybe it’s a good sign
step number three eliminate the outer
chaos
steve jobs said don’t let the outer
noise silence your inner voice
and it holds very true sometimes we can
come
in between our own way and prove as a
resistance by listening to the opinion
of others
it can happen very easily and it’s
something that
you really need to take a stand on
i was always made fun for my speech
because i had a lisp and a stutter from
a very young age
people would not take me seriously and
they never thought that i could make
anything
of myself because communication is such
an important part of a person’s life
but i did not listen to them because i
never felt that there can be something
that limits you as a human being
and i spent all the hours that i could
trying to perfect the way i speak
it’s not not something that i’m obsessed
about but i’m constantly
evolving and learning and even with you
whatever difficulty comes in your part
make it make sure that you take it in
your stride
this particular incident in my life
kind of really shook me and taught me so
much as a student i was
in volunteering at the tata memorial
hospital of cancer research
and we were on a duty of taking care of
all the children
and on children’s day we had this
particular event where
we asked the kids what they would like
to become when they grew up
there was this one particular child that
came and said that when he grew up
he would want to be a doctor and cure
the cancer of all the children around so
that nobody has to live a life like him
and that really shook me and showed me
the kind of courage
and passion this tiny soul had in him
and i feel that really taught me to take
everything that happened in my life
in the stride and use it for a better
and a bigger purpose
never underestimate the power that lies
in solitude
meditation is very important in today’s
generation because there’s a lot of
noise inside and you need
that quiet moment for yourself to listen
to your inner voice
i had this habit of getting up really
early in the morning around
four o’clock so that i could experience
sitting alone by myself
and meditating to understand what is it
that i really wanted
from life nicola tesla said that the
greatest inventions came to him when he
spent time alone
and i feel that’s where you will find
your true inner voice
if i think about it my passion for
standing up for the truth and for
voicing
for communities of farmers and lgbtq
communities something that really helped
me develop myself and overcome
my lisp
and that is exactly what i want for you
the youth of this
country that drives this marvelous
nation to be inspired and passionate
about something that drives you i hope
that all my life events causes the
ripples
in yours to an epicenter that is you