Resilient A New Approach to Life.
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so i’m going to speak a lot less on
mental issues
i’ve been doing that for a while but
i’ll just focus on this
because these are unprecedented times
for me survival is not an
individualistic
phenomenon process and i think that’s
what we need
to understand it’s not something that
um you know we hear stories about
survivors there is no individual
when it comes to survival it’s always a
collective
always let’s pick up
from what our kovid experience has been
we didn’t know this will happen nobody
needs us
now we’ve not even thought in history
textbooks
the previous video
so we were completely unprepared i have
i’ll be taking my vaccine
either tomorrow or day after
but what are these stories people have
been talking to me and i have been
talking to so many people
in the last few months and what i
realized was people who’ve come out
well are people whose support systems
were on track the difference between
the struggle and those who don’t
struggle comes down
in the collective it’s never an
individualistic process
when i go back and look at my life
i feel so bad for this generation right
now
because we know you we gave you uh
pollution right you took up your hair
we took up your greens
we gave you a smartphone clearly that
doesn’t make you smart
because your phone seems to be smarter
we give you social media essentially
took up your life
right uh i don’t have an incentive
yeah um because i have a life
that’s all right
you know in grade 10 grade 12
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have school friends whom you wouldn’t
meet when there are children
so you have neighbor or friends
so one school friend support system
neighborhood friends support system
and vacation is for present support
system you have actually three support
systems which are actually continuing
all these years
and then you have the college and
medical college and things like that so
what happens is it is these support
systems that make your career
i wasn’t ever taking an exam by myself
in any
or any of your siblings is
what support system is so you want to
survive you need to understand
you survive together nobody survived by
themselves
we don’t have that skill bill let’s not
be
individualism
is not the solution collectivism is the
solution and that’s why i talked about
the pandemic
one quadrant of the world a small little
one
spoonful of others and how connected the
world was
we realized that
how connected we were beyond the
geographies and boundaries and
all the physical and all the other forms
of distances
and the cartographers the fact of the
matter is we were so connected
it took what a few weeks here and then
the whole world
was in this way and that’s something we
need to learn from you can either learn
from
positively or negatively the positive
learning is we are connected negative
learning is well
you can just take it as much as you want
i talk to my young people in my
team and i keep talking to them about
depth in life
depth in life cannot be spoonful
everything in life needs to be ocean
food that you can’t measure it
and depth comes from values so if you
add the second component
to survivor with one most collectivism
second is values
how you do it has to be the
main aspect means matter ends don’t ends
will happen
you can’t stop it from happening but
don’t allow yourself to believe means
don’t matter that’s
as rubbish as it gets there are no
success stories
where means didn’t have values i mean
even if you see one of here or there
you are actually just doing uh your
strolling kind of
evaluation of an individual’s life by
thinking that he or she
reached some place by taking a few cuts
in there that does not apply
so people who survive times are people
whose values are intact and people who
have support system
so again coming back the curve so what
we did was
what we all did was like all of us here
you know maintaining as much as physical
distancing social distancing we can
using the mask so on and so forth had
you not done that what would have
happened
the fact is inspirational stories came
out from us
you’ve heard about the work done by
healthcare practitioners
absolutely overwhelming just imagine
what it would have been imagine you
sitting here in one mask imagine that’s
a ppe
imagine you are at work 12-hour shift
how would you breathe and it is these
stories
these are also survivors because these
survivors help the entire
community collectively survive
and move forward so you learn from them
so years down the lane when you have
essays that you will ask young children
to write
no your role models they don’t need to
write about people who were born
100 years before they were born they
cannot talk about people who are born
right now in their eyes
in front of their eyes that we need to
learn from this because this is meaning
what we’ve seen all across in the last
10 months culturalism
inspiring stories of people standing up
for each other
and i have been talking about this for
organizations as well
organizations where mental outcomes
organizations where
positivity connectivity was the focus
and
individuals were not treated as
individuals but as a collective
those organizations have done so much
so if you want to actually survive
and do well both of them go hand in hand
we are all survivors
you survive exams i have survived exams
medical school exams also
absolutely but then i am nobody to
compare mine to your and yours to my you
don’t want to have our own struggles
you learn you learn every time you go
through a high end
you learn you adapt
and today you learn the meaning so all
of us sitting
when the first vaccine finally was taken
by a lot of my colleagues
yesterday that’s that’s what mankind is
about
you know coming up with a vaccine
anymore less than 12 months
remarkable
beyond all doubts you have medical
practitioners taking the initiative
and remarkably collective force of the
world coming together
nobody is saying it you know which one
is made where what is made well
what what works for us and so that’s
that’s the learning here
that’s how you move forward survivor is
not about staying afloat
survivor is about blasting flourishing
growing
having a fruitful life that is fruitful
for others also
life cannot be for one’s own self that
just doesn’t work
it has to be meaningful and meaning is
not self
self is just a small little power it is
the environment
the other that makes the world
individualism is about self collectivism
is about others
you will hear so many people sharing all
their stories
and individualizing each eye and me
there was an us enemy because it’s
always an assembly
so i didn’t pass my tent like i said my
teachers passed my death
my friends passed my death i didn’t pass
my medical college
my friends had been past it not because
they were giving me the sheets
but in my case for sure one night before
i still remember
my surgery exam i was reading if i’m not
mistaken often
which was supposed to be in surgery too
and not surgery when i don’t now
remember
and one of my friends just passed by and
said what i’m reading
often is not tomorrow tomorrow
i hope you don’t measure them i hope it
doesn’t matter in your life because it
truly doesn’t matter
and i’ve been saying this specially to
young people influence matters
number of people who influence doesn’t
matter and anybody who calls himself or
herself an influencer
that’s bad
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that you are telling me that you are an
influencer
which means you can influence me
come tell that to my mom
so she really can’t relate to all this
oh she likes seeing your tv for sure
yeah
she’s everything but wonders
why this is happening so understand this
we are imagine being
a five-year-old today imagine being born
today
just imagine this person was born today
in five years time would have gone
through some
schooling and all sorts of things
happening to this child and you might
well have
early stimulations happening not only
knows by
another decade or so we might start
stimulating in a month
two months what all things will start
doing
and we put this child in a rat phase and
you will have
younger and younger people having social
media influence younger and younger
people using that
right you’ll have more and more
superficiality
less and less depth more and more
followers
less and less friendship
all of that where is the open loneliness
conversation gone in cold
we realized that all we needed was to
spend time with our family
recall it my conversations were what do
i do
i don’t have time i can’t talk to my
family i don’t get tired to talk to my
family
there is so much of loneliness there is
that everything
what happened in cold you connected to
your alumni you connected to your
cousins
you did your video meetings that’s what
media is for
that’s the change now we need to make
sure that we continue with this change
because i think that’s the key the key
here
is are we going to learn from this
experience
or are we going to just let this
experience also pass
because this has taught us a lot we’re
all survivors we learn minimalistic
living
we learn that right we learned that for
a community
we can all be responsible
we learned that we could actually take
care of our households
we learned that children are the pillars
of strength
that they have been sitting 10 months at
home and they have been
doing brilliantly in this we’ve been
more worried
every now and then i’m asked by a
journalist that you know how about
children
and i tell them children are all totally
fine with it
i mean this is your best imagination
best dream come true
that you are taking your first class
actually from your bed actually in your
pajamas
i mean what would you have become in our
time so like
you woke
so pick up pick up the right things
you don’t need to go through a mission
to flourish in life you don’t need there
are highs and lows happening day in and
day out in our life
you just pick them up and learn from
them so we’ve learned a lot
and we’ve learned the power of community
we’ve learned that together we could
have achieved so much and which we have
that’s why we are here if this question
would have been asked five months back
that good tedx number have happened we
would have not known the answer
it happened it happened because the
collective force of the society together
the majority took part in
a collective exercise of precaution
prevention that’s the factor you and i
can all think about oh that one’s not
wearing a mask so that one did not know
this that one did not do this
for a change that was the minority
because the majority stood up and
was there to be counted and that’s the
learning we need to have
so if there is a summary according to me
about survival
it’s in values values come with
connectivism
nothing in life that does not have
values can be meaningful nothing in life
that is only about me can ever be
correct because me does not exist
each and every step of yours is a
collective step
and if we continue to learn and like i
said
the depth is not going to be a spoon and
survival
is not going to be just staying afloat
depth is going to be the ocean then
surviving
is going to be for the collective and
that’s the message thank you