What if you gave up 3 feet from gold

what if

you gave up three feet from gold

in the book by napoleon hill think and

grow rich there was a young gold miner

by the name of r

u darwi way way back decided to invest

all the family’s money in his quest for

gold

chasing the dream he wanted to change

his family’s life he wanted to change

his life

he wanted to create a legacy off he went

with his uncle

to the gold mine and they started to

mine for gold

they had some early success but not

enough not enough to change a life

so the continued demand the further the

mind

the further the desperation and anxiety

set on

they continue to mine but they were

mining further in the depth

eventually they gave up they accepted

failure

they sold the equipment to a local scrap

man and explained the situation

but the scrap man and his wisdom took

some counsel

he returned to the scene and began

mining again

three feet later he struck gold

rich beyond his wildest dreams he

changed his family’s life he changed

everything

when argue derby and his uncle heard

this they were distraught as you can

imagine

they had accepted failure when they had

the actual of choice and ability

to keep going but they accepted failure

they gave up powerful powerful story but

how does it even relate to today you

might ask

it’s hundreds of years ago well

i’d ask you this have you ever felt like

a failure

have you ever felt not good enough have

you ever felt useless

what if i told you you’re not you

actually only fail when you give up

keep going if you have a goal and you

know it’s the right goal

and you believe in your heart it’s the

right goal don’t change the goal

change the plan anyway

i didn’t always think this way um and

people that know me will know that

rewinding back the following words are

words that i would have used to describe

myself

useless failure not good enough

disappointment let down wick

i could go on you get the drift you get

the message

i was locked up i felt locked in my mind

which brings me on to a question i

wonder anybody listen to this have you

ever been in prison before

have you ever been in jail because i

have

i’ve never told anybody that before and

i’m telling you right now

i was a prisoner of my mind for 24 years

locked up no key to get out i felt like

one of those guys

or girls on death row

no chance of reprieve i would look at

other people wishing i was them they had

it all figured out i hadn’t

you know that amy curry ted talk the one

that went viral

and no pressure mentioning that talk

during mine

but i love it and i hear it at the very

same time

i love it because she talks about power

posturing

and power posturing right now and i feel

great

but when i was younger and she talks

about faking it do you make it

i didn’t even have the courage to fake

it

i didn’t have the courage they own my

own mind

what chance have you got when that’s how

you actually feel

but it’s not all anxiety and pain

and unhurt when i look back i can

actually laugh now i can laugh out loud

some things are so funny you know the

game hiding sick

that my generation would have played now

it’s a playstation generation but when i

was younger it was hide and seek that’s

what we played

well i was very very very good at it and

without fear of contradiction

i would say i was the submarines high

school

hide and seek champion from 1987 to 1992

and there’s a skill in there somewhere

and i still have to work out whether i’m

proud of it or not

but you see for five years i avoided

giving a book review in class

five years my whole time at school and i

had full attendance by the way i never

missed a day

every month we were supposed to speak to

the class

about the book that we read and how we

found it

and as that dreaded day with near every

month i would come up with the best

excuse you’ve ever seen i was sick

i had a dentist i had football practice

or i just skipped the class

um i would have done anything to avoid

speaking and i did

and i calculated that’s about 165 times

that i had and i was never found if

anybody’s got a better record than that

i’d love to

hear it um also i would like to

apologize

to my english teacher actually mrs

holmes i believe she’s retired now but

if anybody knows her please pass this on

i’d like to apologize to her for wasting

her time and i would

love to return to that school and

perhaps give this ted talk maybe

what a full circle that would be

as i mentioned about the anxiety

speaking publicly i would rather have

died

honestly i would rather give my own life

than had to speak

and i later found a stanford universe

university study in the us the

prestigious university

had a study about this and 73 percent of

people said the exact same thing

i wasn’t such a freak after all but i

didn’t know it at the time

i wonder how many people actually feel

this way today

and hide those feelings and live in that

prison that i let i loved on

it’s an awfully dreaming place and i

wouldn’t wish it in anybody

speak to somebody about that please

through pain however comes growth

i’m proof of that today speaking in the

famous red dot for somebody that didn’t

want to speak for five years and avoided

speaking

look at henry ford the great henry ford

that produced the cars that we all know

today on the road and his first wave of

investment

he didn’t produce one single car not one

but he didn’t fail he didn’t fail he’s

famously actually quoted

failure is only an opportunity to go

again but this time more intelligently

and that lives with me i feel forward

every day

i continue to feel if i feel here today

it’ll be forward i’ll be better the next

time keep going

through pain as i said already comes

growth

and with that in mind there’s a date

that’s etched in my memory for those two

feelings

the 24th of the sixth 2000

it’s a date that’ll be etched in my

memory forever

and it should be my wife would say and i

know she’s watching this now

today i got married lucky her

lucky me and

apart from the obvious anxiety about

speaking at my own wedding

and i actually nearly did a runner about

five minutes before my speech

and that is a true story and it’s a

whole other talk maybe another ted talk

actually

um as i was sitting there and the

anxiety was building and the dread was

building and i was thinking what door

was i gonna run out

my father-in-law was sitting to my

right-hand side

marshall mccollum remember that name

marshall stood up and as my right foot

was tapping

and the sweat was running down my brow

and i was welling up with tears

marshall was talk marshall said i

believe in him

i believe he will go a long way in life

i believe in him so much i know for

certain

he has what it takes it was like an

outer body experience for me

honestly i had never ever ever heard

those words

and my name in the same breath breath

it’s just not the word i’m from in my

world we didn’t express

feelings and for him to say that

and he and for me to hear that he loved

me

and he had the courage selfless courage

to express that

and that’s and that’s a skill and an art

and a quality

that i that i try to pass on today he

made me feel

10 feet tall he made my dreams come true

in that moment right there he didn’t

know it at the time

but he knows that now it changed my life

see sometimes whether we like it or not

or even admitted or not

and i defy anybody to tell me i’m wrong

if i’m wrong i stand corrected

but at some point in our life we all

seek or certainly like and accept

validation from others

that we’re right that we’re good enough

that we’re on the right path

it’s good it’s always good it’s always

good to hear it right

well people often ask me

how do you develop the ability to keep

going gary you talk about keeping going

no matter what feeling forward

all the buzz cliche phrases words terms

they all fly about in the personal

development world but how do you

actually do it

people want to know how to do it well

i’m going to share my unique insight

into how i do it

and how i believe you can do it if you

either struggle with it or if you want

to pass it on and give that gift to

somebody else

i’m going to share my unique insight you

see

in life i believe we all have a purpose

it might take you a while to find it it

took me 42 years

but i found it now my my advice to

anybody is

follow your passion what is it you love

doing is it football

personal development art what is it

follow your passion you will find your

purpose in life

your purpose lies beyond your passion

but here’s here’s the secret

here’s that x factor that magic wand

that people are looking for

why is it your purpose why is it your

passion

now here’s where you have to be brief

you need to go deep inside for your way

because i had a exercise with my dear

friend

and mentor cleon o’hara he was an

original derricker

and is now residing in the u.s and

cleona asked me on a call one night from

the u.s and i met her and call

gary what what’s your why why do you do

what you do

straight off about i do it for my family

so cliche everybody does it for their

family of course

and she said that to me said guy you and

millions of others now tell me

why you do and as the conversation

evolved

after about half an hour i found my way

a wave of emotion came over me like you

wouldn’t believe

like the 24th of the 6th 2000 that sort

of emotion

it was that sort of moment again and

before

i share it with you i want to apologize

to cleona

i’m full of apologies today mrs holmes

now cleona

i want to apologize to cleona because

her inbox will be falling upright about

now everybody’ll be wanting to know

their true way

but here here’s my way i’ll share it

with you right here

and right now my way is to make my wife

and my children proud of me simply

because

nobody has ever been proud of me or even

demonstrated it

before and that’s not a violin story

it’s just the word i’m from

we don’t think we haven’t experienced

express those emotions and feelings and

that’s okay

i accept that it’s all good it’s all

love of me

but i want to make my wife and my

children proud of me the way nobody has

ever been

and they’re watching this right now and

i hope they are

you see finding that way is a beautiful

beautiful thing

and i hope everybody knows their way and

if you don’t please go and explore it

see now i’m like a formula one car with

an unlimited fuel tank

and i’m going through life on a

relentless charge just watch me

i’m i’m attempting to be the best me

every day of the week every second of

the week i’m attempting to be the best

me right now

feeling some might say that’s okay don’t

stop three feet from gold now never stop

three feet from gold

no matter how successful i am i’ll i

love and that’s space three feet from

gold i’ll be there forever

i’ll always be going forward

do you know your way explore it find it

change your life or even if you’ve got a

really good life make it even better

i often think what of all young boys and

girls

knew their way what if i knew my way

when i was at school

scared to speak maybe i would have got

up speaking

i make up for it now i do plenty of

talking now

um anyway as i’ve said

true growth for me comes through pain

it’s always been that way for me life’s

always a beautiful struggle

it’s always finding calm and the chaos

it’s always finding that place

that it never comes easy for me and if

it does i don’t want that

i i want the struggle i want i want that

i want that i want the hurt and the pain

because i want to grow

um and when i talk about pain i

experienced a measurable pain

when i say i i mean we my family

five years ago the late and the great

marshall mccollum

died and

that’s okay because marshall

saved my life he gave me that

life-saving drug

of self-belief and this talks for him

and i wouldn’t swap that heartache and

heartbreak for anything

honestly i hope we all

feel that heartbreak and heartache if it

saved your life

and you hear those words that i heard

we all need immersal right everybody

needs a marshall

are you one could you be one

if you’re not one you should be your

words can change your life

who can you inject self-belief on day

today

right after this talk who can you go and

tell

that they’re good enough that you

believe in them

that they have what it takes you might

be thinking it

but be selfless and give them the gift

tell them

it might be the only time that they ever

hear it

in their entire life it was for me

i had never heard it before it changed

my

life one word one sentence is all it

takes

go and change your life be the best you

be a martial

the world needs it today right the

global pandemic

this crazy world we’re living on today

we all need hope we all need some belief

i believe history history will judge us

all i truly believe that

i’d encourage everybody to be the best

damn right now

or if you’re not a marshal and you’re a

gary

lucky you you’re thinking maybe not

keep dreaming keep believing

keep searching keep going keep moving

forward

be a dream maker be a dream chaser never

ever ever as long as you love give up

what if you are three

feet from gold yes

如果

你在拿破仑希尔的书中放弃三英尺的黄金怎么办

思考并

致富 有一个名叫鲁达尔维的年轻金矿工

很久以前

,他决定把全家的钱都投资在

他追逐梦想的黄金上 想改变

家人的生活 他想改变

自己的生活

他想创造遗产

他和叔叔一起

去金矿,他们开始

开采黄金

他们取得了一些早期的成功,但还

不足以改变生活

所以 持续的需求

头脑

越远 绝望和焦虑

越深 他们继续开采 但他们开采得更深

最终他们放弃了 他们接受了

失败

他们将设备卖给了当地的废品

工并解释了情况

但废品 男人和他的智慧采取了

一些建议

他回到现场并在

三英尺后再次开始采矿 他获得了

超出他最疯狂梦想的金矿 他

改变了家人的生活 他改变了

一切

当德比和他的叔叔争吵时,

他们心烦意乱,你可以想象

,当他们有实际的选择和继续前进的能力时,他们已经接受了失败,

但他们接受了失败,

他们放弃了强大的故事,

但它与今天有什么关系 你

可能会问

那是几百年前的事了

我会问你这个 你有没有觉得自己

很失败

你有没有觉得自己不够好

你有没有觉得

没用 如果我告诉你你不是 你

实际上只有在你付出时才会失败

如果你有一个目标并且你

知道这是正确的目标

并且你相信这是

正确的目标就继续前进不要改变目标

无论如何都要改变计划

我并不总是这样想嗯

而且认识我的人会 知道

倒回下面的

词是我用来形容

自己的词

无用的失败 不够好

失望 失望 灯芯

我可以继续 你得到漂移 你

得到消息

我被关起来了 介意

这让我想到一个问题,我

想知道有人听过这个吗 你

以前坐过监狱吗

你以前坐过监狱吗 因为

我以前从来没有告诉过任何人

我现在告诉你

我是个囚犯 我的心

被锁了 24 年 没有钥匙可以出去 我觉得自己像

死囚牢房里的那些男人或女孩中的一个

没有机会缓刑 我会看着

其他人希望我是他们 他们

都知道我没有

你 知道艾米·库里(amy curry)谈了一个

病毒式的

谈话,在我的谈话中没有压力提到那个谈话

但我喜欢它,我同时听到它

我喜欢它,因为她现在谈论权力

姿态

和权力姿态,我感觉

很好

但是当我年轻的时候,她

谈到假装它是你做的

我什至没有勇气假装

我没有勇气他们拥有我

自己的想法

当你真正的感受时你有什么机会

但是 不是所有的焦虑、痛苦

和安然无恙 好吧回来我

真的可以笑现在我可以大声笑

有些事情太有趣了你

知道我这一代会玩的游戏隐藏病态现在

它是一个游戏机一代但是当

我年轻的时候它是捉迷藏这

就是我们玩得

好的我 非常非常非常擅长,

不用担心矛盾,

我会说我是

1987 年至 1992 年的潜艇高中捉迷藏冠军

,那里有一项技能

,我仍然需要弄清楚我是否

为此感到自豪 或者不是,

但你看,五年来我一直避免

在课堂上做书评,

五年来我在学校的整个时间都在

全勤,顺便说一句,我每个月都没有

错过一天

我们应该

和全班同学

谈论这本书 我们阅读以及我们是如何

找到它的

,因为几乎每个月都有那个可怕的日子

我会想出你见过的最好的

借口我生病了

我有牙医我有足球练习

或者我只是逃课了

做了什么 为了避免

说话,我做了

,我计算了大约 165 倍

,如果

有人有比这更好的记录,我从来没有找到过,

我很想

听听,嗯,我想

向我的英语老师道歉,实际上是

福尔摩斯夫人 我相信她现在已经退休了,但是

如果有人认识她,请把这个

传给她

我提到了

公开演讲的焦虑我宁愿

诚实地死去我宁愿献出自己的

生命也不愿说话

,后来我在美国发现了斯坦福

大学的一项研究,这所

著名的大学

对此进行了研究,73% 的

人说 同样的事情,

我毕竟不是一个怪胎,但我

当时并不知道,

我想知道今天有多少人真正有

这种感觉

,隐藏这些感觉,住在

那个我让我爱的监狱

里” 这是一个非常梦幻的地方,

我不希望任何人通过痛苦

与某人谈论这件事,

但是成长会

到来 并避免

说话

看看亨利福特伟大的

亨利福特生产了我们今天在路上都知道的汽车

和他的第一波

投资

他没有生产一辆汽车不是一辆

但他没有失败他没有失败 他

著名的引用实际上是

失败只是一个再次去的机会,

但这次更聪明

,这和我一起生活我每天都感觉向前

我继续感觉如果我今天感觉在这里

它会向前我下次会更好

保持

正如我所说的那样,经历痛苦已经带来了

成长

,考虑到这一点

,我的记忆中铭刻了一个日期,因为这两种

感觉是 2000 年 6 月 24

日,这个日期将永远铭刻在我的

记忆中

,它应该是我的妻子 我会说

知道她现在正在看

今天我结婚了,幸运的是她

幸运的是我,

除了

在我自己的婚礼上演讲的明显焦虑之外

,我实际上在演讲前五分钟几乎做了一个跑步者

,这是一个真实的故事,完全

是另一个谈话 也许另一个 TED 演讲

实际上是,

当我坐在那里时,

焦虑正在积聚,恐惧正在

积聚,我在想

我会跑出哪扇门

我的岳父坐在我

的右手边

Marshall mccollum 记得那个

马歇尔的名字站了起来,当我的右脚

在敲击时

,汗水从我的额头

上流下来,我流下了眼泪

马歇尔在说话马歇尔说我

相信他

我相信他会走很长的路

我相信他所以 我很

确定

他有什么需要它就像

我的外在身体体验

老实说我从来没有听说过

这些词

和我的名字在同一个呼吸呼吸

这不是我在我的

世界里来自我们所做的词 不要表达

感情,让他说出来,让

他和我听到他爱

,他有勇气无私的勇气

去表达那个

,那是我努力的技能,艺术

和品质

今天继续他

让我感觉自己

高了 10 英尺他让我的梦想

在那一刻成真他当时不

知道

但他知道现在它改变了我的生活

有时看看我们是否喜欢

甚至承认 与否

,我无视任何人告诉我我错了

如果我错了,我会得到纠正,

但在我们生活中的某个时刻,我们都

寻求或肯定喜欢并

接受他人的认可,

即我们是对的,我们足够好

我们走在正确的

道路上 很好 总是

很好 听到正确的声音总是

很好 人们经常问

我你如何培养继续前进的能力

加里你说不管感觉如何都要继续

前进

所有流行的陈词滥调

在个人发展中飞来飞去的词语

世界,但你

实际上是

如何做到的

,人们

想知道如何把它

做好 把它传下去,把礼物送给

别人

我对

任何人的建议是

追随你的激情你喜欢

做什么是足球

个人发展艺术是什么

追随你的激情你会发现

你的人生目标

你的目标超越了你的激情

但这里的秘密

在这里是魔法的x因素

人们正在寻找的魔杖

为什么它是你的目的 为什么它是你的

激情

现在在这里你必须简短

你需要深入内心以你的方式

因为我和我亲爱的

朋友

和导师 cleon o’hara 他是

原来的井架

,现在是残渣 在美国和

cleona 有一天晚上在美国打来电话时问

我,我遇到了她并打电话给

加里你是什么原因你为什么要直接做你所做

的事情我为我的家人做这件事

所以陈词滥调每个人都为他们的

当然是家人

,她对我说,你

和数以百万计的其他人现在告诉我

你为什么这样做,随着

大约半小时后谈话的进展,我发现我的方式

出现了一种情绪,就像你

不会相信

一样 2000 年 6 月 24 日

那种情绪

又是那种时刻

我和你分享之前 我想

向 cleona

道歉 今天我充满了道歉 福尔摩斯

夫人 现在 cleona

我想向 cleona 道歉,因为

她的收件箱

现在每个人都会想知道

他们的真实方式,

但这是我的

方式 曾经为我感到骄傲,甚至

展示过

以前做过这不是一个小提琴故事

这只是我来自的词

我们认为我们没有经历过

表达这些情感和感受

,没关系

我接受这一切都很好这一切都是

对我的爱

但我想 让我的妻子和我的

孩子们以前所未有的方式为我感到骄傲

,他们现在正在看这个,

我希望他们是

你看到的,发现那是一件

美丽的事情

,我希望每个人都知道他们的方式,

如果你不这样做' 请去探索一下,

现在我就像一辆有无限油箱的一级方程式赛车

,我正以

无情的充电度过一生,请看着我

,我每天都在努力成为最好的自己

一周中的每一

秒我都在努力成为最好的

我现在

感觉有些人可能会说那没关系

不要停止距离黄金三英尺无论我多么成功永远不要停止

距离黄金三英尺

我会

爱 那是距离黄金三英尺的空间

我将永远在那里

我将永远前进

你知道你的方式吗 探索它发现它

改变了你的生活或者即使你有一个

非常好的生活让它变得更好

在学校

害怕说话也许我会站

起来说话

我现在弥补它现在我说了很多

不管怎样我说过

我真正的成长来自痛苦

对我来说一直都是这样生活

总是一场美丽的斗争

它总是找到平静和混乱

它总是找到

那个对我来说从来都不容易的地方如果

是这样我不想要

我想要的斗争我想要我想要

我想要的伤害和痛苦

因为我 想要成长

嗯,当我谈到疼痛

时,当我说我的意思是我们我的家人

五年前已故和伟大的

马歇尔麦科勒姆

去世时,我经历了可测量的疼痛,

这没关系,因为马歇尔

救了我的命,他给了我

救命药

自信,这为他说话

老实说,

我不会把那种心碎和心碎

换成任何东西 一个

如果你不是一个人,你应该成为你的

话可以改变你的

生活你能在

今天的今天注入自信,

就在这次谈话之后你能去

告诉他们足够好,你

相信他们

,他们有 你可能

会想,

但要无私,给他们礼物

告诉他们

这可能是他们一生中唯一一次听到

它对我来说

我从未听说过它改变了

我的

生活一个字一个 一句话就是一切

去改变你的生活 成为最好的你

成为一名

军人 世界今天需要它 正确的

全球流行病

我们今天生活的这个疯狂的世界

我们都需要希望 我们都需要一些信念

我相信历史会判断 美国

我真的相信

我会鼓励每个人现在都成为最好的该死的人,

或者如果你不是元帅而且你是个

幸运的人,你在想也许不会

继续梦想继续相信

继续寻找继续前进继续前进

做一个梦想的制造者 做一个追梦

人 只要你爱 永远不要

放弃 如果你

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