Whos life would you swap with
so the big question is this the big
idea is this if you’re to swap your life
with someone else’s life who would you
choose
i’ll just hold the concept just hold the
moment now i know initially you’re
thinking
there’s no way you do that ed there’s no
way i’m going to do that you’re going to
reject the initial thought
however the actual element that defines
whether you’re going to answer this
question
is one critical ingredient that
critical ingredient actually defines
your whole life
okay so the question is if you’re gonna
swap your life with someone else’s life
whose do you choose depends on one
ingredient that one ingredient
is this how you feel in the moment
because here’s the deal right if you’re
feeling amazing right you’re having an
amazing life
everything’s going well your
relationship’s going
you’re feeling great your business is
growing you’re gonna stick
i get it but here’s the deal if things
aren’t
going well and they’re not going great
they’re not going
as you imagined like just imagine you
wake up one day you’re not having the
the purpose that you really want you’re
not having the meaning that you really
want
and instantly you can swap to be in
oprah shoes
you know walking out with your own show
with that sort of level of impact
that sort of difference that you could
make
at a scale and instantly your problems
are resolved right
imagine right your business isn’t going
the way you want it all right your
career isn’t going the way you want it
your income isn’t
you know what it what you really want it
to be and you’re not going to pay the
bills
instantly you could swap to being mark
zuckerberg
imagine that i mean walking in his shoes
to have the control to own the largest
social media empire in the world today
what would you do with that sort of
power what would you do with the control
what would you do with the cash
you’d probably buy yourself a pretty
something
right okay maybe you’re not into
facebook maybe
swap to jeff bezos and you can walk
around with that power
owning amazon one of the first trillion
dollar businesses the world’s
ever gonna see instantly your problems
are resolved
maybe you’re lacking some self-worth
right maybe you’re lonely
maybe you’re missing someone and you’re
not connected and
bang instantly you can walk on stage and
you could be
justin bieber come on selena gomez
all right hundreds of thousands of
people saying i love you
i love you adoring you at that sort of
level
and instantly your problems are all
resolved
maybe you’re suffering a bit of weight
loss issues your diet’s not going quite
well
you’re scrolling down instagram and you
see that instant pretty picture
right the perfect abs the perfect legs
the perfect face
and you think bang for a moment you can
just have that body what would you do
with that body
and don’t tell me you haven’t done this
you’re having some relationship
connection problems
it’s not as good as it used to be and
then you look down on that social media
feed and you see that gorgeous girl
or guy whatever you’re into and for a
moment you go
could i have that person and bang your
problems are resolved
maybe you’re not into any of that you
say ed that’s not my bag
i don’t relate to any of those people
okay i hear you but here’s another thing
i know that you’ve been inspired by
someone i know that you’ve been
inspired by someone when you were
younger maybe you had a hero or heroine
all right and could you imagine in your
darkest times when your problems were at
the worst you could swap your life with
theirs
for mine it was the great tony robbins
imagine being tony robbins i remember
when i first
started growing my coaching consultancy
business my first live event super
excited
one person turned up one tony’s got
thousands of people at his event i
remember my first live webinar
one person turned up and left halfway
and i remember thinking my life would be
so much easier
if i was the amazing tony robbins
now you still might be thinking i’m
never going to swap my life but the
truth is this happens every single day
every single day millions of people
billions of people
will look at other people’s lives and
compare them to theirs
by looking through social media they
will compare their self-worth
with other people’s pictures with other
people’s highlights
with other people’s results and here are
the true stats the true stats of
comparison
are only getting worse this is actually
within the fabric
of society today there are more young
people that will compare themselves to
others
than ever before one in four people
according to mind who manage the big
charity for mental health say one in
four people will suffer from a massive
mental health problem today
over 1.5 million people per year
increase every single year will kill
themselves according to the global
society of health because of comparison
on social media
so whether we like it or not this is
here
and it’s here to state let me tell you
about my first ever client my first ever
client was a young boy
compared himself to everyone didn’t like
where he was in the world
didn’t like his place was always last at
class
never finished first and constantly was
reminding
constant reminder of the fact that he
was less than on a daily basis
tough days at school tough days at home
had a lot of conflict with his dad
one day he decided to end it he’d had
enough
he decided life just wasn’t worth living
anymore and so he ran to a railway
station nearby
as he was getting prepared to jump in
front of the train that was going to
take him out
as he was leaving the platform moments
before
something magical happened
i don’t know if you’ve ever had that
right where that feeling where you’re
just
not good enough i don’t know if you’ve
had that maybe you haven’t had that to
that extremity
but i know that there’s a moment where
you felt not good enough
in some shape or form and the truth is
we live in a world today
where we’re so used to seeing highlights
filtered pictures
perfect results and we forget about the
journey we forget about the problems
think about it we forget about the fact
that oprah had to go through all of
those things to be where she is today
we forget about the fact that oprah was
impregnated by a family member had a
still birth we forget about the racial
torment that she had to go through we
forget about the journey
because we get forced to look at the
highlights
we forget about mark zuckerberg and jeff
bezos is going through the anxiety and
the stress
all right we forget about the law cases
we forget about the anxiety that
the jeff would have gone through and
amazon almost didn’t make it through we
don’t see
the abuse on a daily basis it what it
must be like for justin bieber on a
daily basis
right for selena gomez the online
bullying that must be sent to them on a
daily basis
we don’t see the years and years of them
playing their music
over and over again when no one cared
and no one shared their music we don’t
see them living a
you know a scared life worried about
whether
the paparazzi are going to actually
unveil some information about their
private life
we don’t see that and that’s the problem
and so we live in a society when it’s
not cool to talk about
problems and the truth is
life is just one massive problem
it is what it is life is a journey
going from problem to problem to problem
the meaning of life
is to actually give your life meaning as
you go through the journey of life
solving these problems every
entrepreneur knows that
if you want to become a successful
entrepreneur all you need to do
is solve at five figures the problem to
six figures
from six figures to seven figures
there’s another problem
you resolve it quicker and faster you go
through to eight figures and nine
figures
you can solve those problems at scale
you have a super successful business
and although that sounds morbid to think
of life as just problems it is what it
is it’s been proven
those that say it is what it is
get access to the most beautiful emotion
the beautiful emotion of accepting
accepting
it is what it is the quicker you go
through the problem
the easier your life is the cooler your
life is
the calmer your life is the truth is
right
you and i are not getting out of this
bad boy called life alive you know that
right
no one’s hacked that one yet like we’re
gonna die and the fact that we’re going
to die
is a good thing because it means that we
can stop worrying
about everyone else we can stop worrying
about if anyone
likes your stuff on social media or not
whether you have subscribers or not
it doesn’t matter because when you die
no one’s going to remember you for how
much money you earn
how big your house was or how amazing
your car was
or how many people subscribed to your
youtube channel or not
all of the all that you’re going to be
remembered for is the love that you gave
and then that’s it and so therefore the
quicker we can get to that the easier
your
your life will become and so therefore
the truth is as soon as you can really
live with the fact that your problems
are there as gifts think of this like
this
imagine a movie right without any
challenges it’s not much of a movie
imagine the titanic without hitting the
iceberg it just doesn’t make sense
and so therefore actually we need that
iceberg
because you like the hero in every movie
the bigger the hero the bigger the
challenge is
the bigger the problem and so you can
only be successful
doing this comparing yourself to
yourself
and that’s it i’m successful i have a
successful business
i’m happy i’m fulfilled but am i
i’m only successful if i compare myself
to where i’ve been
all right i used to be a massive failure
i now have an eight-figure coaching
consultancy business
it’s not hard to improve on that but if
i compare myself to myself
then i can be happy and successful i
have thousands of clients
all over the world i’ve helped thousands
of people create an online coaching
consultancy business
so that they can make a massive
difference to other people
i’m fulfilled if i compare myself to
where i’ve been
i couldn’t look after myself now i can
help other people make a massive
difference
and so all you have to do is focus on
one door open that door take the step
one step
and one percent and if you focus on one
percent for the rest of your life
you’ll be good to go because in a year
if you just did one percent
every single day you’d be 38 times
better
at the end of the year just like
a musician there is no rush
you just have to enjoy the notes you
just have to enjoy the journey
let me leave you with this my
first client was at the moment of
jumping out
was about to let go wanted to eradicate
his life didn’t think he was good enough
and just at the last moment
something magical happened two hands
on his shoulders pulled back and he got
a
second chance at life he had a second
chance
to create a new path a second chance
what would you do with a second chance
would you
stop worrying about things that don’t
matter
would you stop worrying about everyone
else and just focus on opening up one
door
taking one step and one percent
hey just a heads up he’s actually here
i brought him with me would you like to
say hello
would you like me to bring him up he’s
he’s actually he’s
he’s actually in the back i brought him
here with me
he’s here he’s always here
he’s here right here wherever you go
in life you will take yourself with you
my first client is myself your
first client is yourself
here’s what i got for you you don’t need
to swap your life with anyone’s life
you don’t need to worry about your
problems you just need to focus
moving further forward one door
one step one percent
you are individual you’re unique there’s
no one like you
you to me are someone very special
i was able to turn my massive big
problem
into my biggest gift and i know you too
can change your massive problem into
your biggest gift too
thank you