Getting out of your norm
this
is the most common chronic disease that
you all
hear may have it is
curable but
you can have it for years but you never
know that you have it until
it knocked you down this disease
is so powerful that it can
even hypnotize your brain
to make you and to persuade you to
believe that
i am an introvert so that
i am unable to do public speaking
i am a woman so that i am able to be a
powerful
leader i am a man
so that i am unable to be emotional
which disease am i talking about
not cancer not heart disease
not even covet 19.
i am talking about self labeling
the inner monster in the soul
back to the day when i was 14 that we
all have to face the high school
entry exam which is where we can decide
whether the future
is successful or not and the society
the school or somehow myself always want
to define
myself and and want to know who i am
want to know what i am good at so that i
could get have a head up
for the other however to show you
how much i was clueless at that time
i could lead you into an interview that
i have had
at school that interview
or asked a very common question that i
was even used
to ask other people when they attend my
club
show me how can i disconnect
you with other candidates
what is your special trait
at that time i failed crisis
on myself the identity of crisis
believing that i am just average
you know the feeling of being in the
middle or if not let’s just see
i am middle class my grade was in the
middle
of the class and even i
study in bilingual school my english is
just a hybrid between
vietnamese and english and whenever i
tend to speak
vietnamese they even tell me that whoa
you you sound like a foreigner trying to
sound
and talk in vietnamese well
it’s so weird that i don’t know where i
would fit in
that i tend to find a definition for
myself
a label and i call myself an
average person an average student
and like many other average students i
pass through the application
and the school calling out for such
activities
like model u.n like tedx last
year but i denied to enter
because i thought i was average and that
activity is
only for the elite student
but likewise life is unexpected
and is unpredictable they always
is always given a moment that we never
know is gonna happen
but we all go through it covet 19
the longest vacation we ever have and
for our teenager
we heard that we can’t stay at home for
that long
yes finally but
day and day pad my routine
is just the same of sleeping
eating and then watching movie
somehow my mom cannot tolerate it
so one day she tried to transfer me
to my both my patinal
and maternal grandparents but the
problem is
that if you are a teenager you would
understand
think back of your last long vacation
or last long day that you spent
with your grandparents how was it like
did you two get along do you two
have fun so much fun and you feel like
they are your soul mate
i wish that is the case with me
and my paternal grandparents
both of us got a fixed mind of i am
young
and they are old we
tend to not talk outside of dinner table
because we thought that the matter we
gonna discuss
is not going to be the same
even though whenever i try to approach
him
with such thing like can you go out with
me
let’s go and have a bike or can you
don’t please don’t read that news
because it’s affecting you
they say and respond back with the same
old statement of i am oh
i’m already oh i have been living in my
life for 17 years of that as no point
for me changing
and i believe that oh it’s all right
they already lived their life for 17
years so
i live my life they live their life to
the rest of day i
spent in my paternal grandparents
i did not i did not share
anything but the longer the day
i went to my martial grandparents
is my grandma who changed his own with
the same question statement i’m asking
them to go out
asking them asking my grandma
to have fun with me she never answered
with the same statement
of i am oh but the statement of let’s
see what i can do
and that’s why i have so much fun with
her
it is so much that i feel like i want to
be like her an active person
a strong one the one that always shared
a bow i feel like
you may feel like what the story related
to self label
let’s just see one of my grandparents
are labeled themselves with being old
and the other
they do not and that’s why they open to
any contraception
then they open and that’s why i feel
like shareable with me
and this situation also made me to refer
back
to a quote that you are what you think
so to all students here let’s go back to
when i was 14
that the most insecurity of me is my
grade
so you guy when you were a student
when you received a bad grade at a
particular
subject what did you do
you properly went home and rewrite
harder
and harder for that subject right
and however if the fourth time
and then so on the second the third the
fourth time
you fail to get good grade we probably
end up concluding that well the subject
is not first we are not doing good at it
however have you ever thought
that this might not because that subject
is not for you
but maybe the way you are learning is
unlike
uneffective maybe the test that i was
required to do was practical but all i
do
is remembering fact and that’s why
i have climbed too soon to my conclusion
that that
i’m not good and that particular subject
and this case does not only happen
with students but when we go out using
our carrier
and also we see the factor of gender
race
and other may affect us of the way we
self-flavor ourselves
let’s just see an example
but xiaopan show me that
you have had someone say that they can
do a particular job
just because of their gender show me
your hand
interesting so a woman
that is an example i will show you
according to nippon foundation yes
asking women why they do not involve
into politic and strangely
after all the venomous movement of us
calling out
for equal right equal pay and also
the equal to get a job still 34 percent
of women
still believe that this is a job
just only for men 31
of women still believe that men
go out and do the work and women stay
home
it’s not only the case in japan but here
right here
when i looked for my carrier orientation
and i got me female friend who in
like history and politic but she denied
her to go into that field because she
think
it’s too much for a woman
so however what makes this
what makes us women
different
do they label themselves with being
woman do they have super power
powerful not properly but the main
difference is they never
label themselves with particular
thing referring to gender
and we as human whether you are
extrovert
whether you are introvert never know
what is our ability might end
it is infinite you today might be
different from you tomorrow
might be different from you yesterday
like the wright brother he they go
out of their own norm of that human
cannot fly
so that they invent the airplane
but by the use of labeling ourselves
with such definition of man
introvert or anything the social gift
word
we but nobody else dragged us in the
excuse mechanism
of because i am the sky a person
the society have already defied and i
already
defy it so there’s no point in changing
it
and that is what the way i should behave
but in the end of the day we might never
know that
our potential happy and happy
limited and i did i hadn’t
limited myself with the thinking of
i am average with the thinking of i’m
just a woman
but now i choose to be nobody
nobody here doesn’t mean that i
am not being recognized but i am not
really
that funny define myself with such
conception
of such thing so that i can look at
myself with open perspective and
always coming and welcome the challenge
that is going to come
and like
a famous word and i want to quote from
it
of ogaka lokata that when you were born
you are pink when you grow up you are
the color you are today
but when you get cold you are blue when
you get sick
you are even bluer and when you pass out
you get green yes our skin color
have different way to look but why
we just come to self at the conclusion
of who we are is that too fast to do so
yes it is so
i am standing here to challenge you
to look at yourself with an open
perspective
so that and then you can look at other
with open perspective so that the world
can be looked
at an open perspective
that the human needy can
come and at least from an endless
potential
and its own start with you thank you