This could be why youre depressed or anxious Johann Hari

For a really long time,

I had two mysteries
that were hanging over me.

I didn’t understand them

and, to be honest, I was quite afraid
to look into them.

The first mystery was, I’m 40 years old,

and all throughout my lifetime,
year after year,

serious depression and anxiety have risen,

in the United States, in Britain,

and across the Western world.

And I wanted to understand why.

Why is this happening to us?

Why is it that with each year that passes,

more and more of us are finding it harder
to get through the day?

And I wanted to understand this
because of a more personal mystery.

When I was a teenager,

I remember going to my doctor

and explaining that I had this feeling,
like pain was leaking out of me.

I couldn’t control it,

I didn’t understand why it was happening,

I felt quite ashamed of it.

And my doctor told me a story

that I now realize was well-intentioned,

but quite oversimplified.

Not totally wrong.

My doctor said, “We know
why people get like this.

Some people just naturally get
a chemical imbalance in their heads –

you’re clearly one of them.

All we need to do is give you some drugs,

it will get your chemical
balance back to normal.”

So I started taking a drug
called Paxil or Seroxat,

it’s the same thing with different names
in different countries.

And I felt much better,
I got a real boost.

But not very long afterwards,

this feeling of pain started to come back.

So I was given higher and higher doses

until, for 13 years, I was taking
the maximum possible dose

that you’re legally allowed to take.

And for a lot of those 13 years,
and pretty much all the time by the end,

I was still in a lot of pain.

And I started asking myself,
“What’s going on here?

Because you’re doing everything

you’re told to do by the story
that’s dominating the culture –

why do you still feel like this?”

So to get to the bottom
of these two mysteries,

for a book that I’ve written

I ended up going on a big journey
all over the world,

I traveled over 40,000 miles.

I wanted to sit with the leading
experts in the world

about what causes depression and anxiety

and crucially, what solves them,

and people who have come through
depression and anxiety

and out the other side
in all sorts of ways.

And I learned a huge amount

from the amazing people
I got to know along the way.

But I think at the heart
of what I learned is,

so far, we have scientific evidence

for nine different causes
of depression and anxiety.

Two of them are indeed in our biology.

Your genes can make you
more sensitive to these problems,

though they don’t write your destiny.

And there are real brain changes
that can happen when you become depressed

that can make it harder to get out.

But most of the factors
that have been proven

to cause depression and anxiety

are not in our biology.

They are factors in the way we live.

And once you understand them,

it opens up a very different
set of solutions

that should be offered to people

alongside the option
of chemical antidepressants.

For example,

if you’re lonely, you’re more likely
to become depressed.

If, when you go to work,
you don’t have any control over your job,

you’ve just got to do what you’re told,

you’re more likely to become depressed.

If you very rarely get out
into the natural world,

you’re more likely to become depressed.

And one thing unites a lot of the causes
of depression and anxiety

that I learned about.

Not all of them, but a lot of them.

Everyone here knows

you’ve all got natural
physical needs, right?

Obviously.

You need food, you need water,

you need shelter, you need clean air.

If I took those things away from you,

you’d all be in real trouble, real fast.

But at the same time,

every human being
has natural psychological needs.

You need to feel you belong.

You need to feel your life
has meaning and purpose.

You need to feel that people
see you and value you.

You need to feel you’ve got
a future that makes sense.

And this culture we built
is good at lots of things.

And many things are better
than in the past –

I’m glad to be alive today.

But we’ve been getting less and less good

at meeting these deep,
underlying psychological needs.

And it’s not the only thing
that’s going on,

but I think it’s the key reason
why this crisis keeps rising and rising.

And I found this really hard to absorb.

I really wrestled with the idea

of shifting from thinking of my depression
as just a problem in my brain,

to one with many causes,

including many in the way we’re living.

And it only really began
to fall into place for me

when one day, I went to interview
a South African psychiatrist

named Dr. Derek Summerfield.

He’s a great guy.

And Dr. Summerfield
happened to be in Cambodia in 2001,

when they first introduced
chemical antidepressants

for people in that country.

And the local doctors, the Cambodians,
had never heard of these drugs,

so they were like, what are they?

And he explained.

And they said to him,

“We don’t need them,
we’ve already got antidepressants.”

And he was like, “What do you mean?”

He thought they were going to talk about
some kind of herbal remedy,

like St. John’s Wort, ginkgo biloba,
something like that.

Instead, they told him a story.

There was a farmer in their community
who worked in the rice fields.

And one day, he stood on a land mine

left over from the war
with the United States,

and he got his leg blown off.

So they him an artificial leg,

and after a while, he went back
to work in the rice fields.

But apparently, it’s super painful
to work under water

when you’ve got an artificial limb,

and I’m guessing it was pretty traumatic

to go back and work in the field
where he got blown up.

The guy started to cry all day,

he refused to get out of bed,

he developed all the symptoms
of classic depression.

The Cambodian doctor said,

“This is when we gave him
an antidepressant.”

And Dr. Summerfield said,
“What was it?”

They explained that they went
and sat with him.

They listened to him.

They realized that his pain made sense –

it was hard for him to see it
in the throes of his depression,

but actually, it had perfectly
understandable causes in his life.

One of the doctors, talking to the people
in the community, figured,

“You know, if we bought this guy a cow,

he could become a dairy farmer,

he wouldn’t be in this position
that was screwing him up so much,

he wouldn’t have to go
and work in the rice fields.”

So they bought him a cow.

Within a couple of weeks,
his crying stopped,

within a month, his depression was gone.

They said to doctor Summerfield,

“So you see, doctor, that cow,
that was an antidepressant,

that’s what you mean, right?”

(Laughter)

(Applause)

If you’d been raised to think
about depression the way I was,

and most of the people here were,

that sounds like a bad joke, right?

“I went to my doctor
for an antidepressant,

she gave me a cow.”

But what those Cambodian
doctors knew intuitively,

based on this individual,
unscientific anecdote,

is what the leading
medical body in the world,

the World Health Organization,

has been trying to tell us for years,

based on the best scientific evidence.

If you’re depressed,

if you’re anxious,

you’re not weak, you’re not crazy,

you’re not, in the main,
a machine with broken parts.

You’re a human being with unmet needs.

And it’s just as important to think here
about what those Cambodian doctors

and the World Health Organization
are not saying.

They did not say to this farmer,

“Hey, buddy, you need
to pull yourself together.

It’s your job to figure out
and fix this problem on your own.”

On the contrary, what they said is,

“We’re here as a group
to pull together with you,

so together, we can figure out
and fix this problem.”

This is what every depressed person needs,

and it’s what every
depressed person deserves.

This is why one of the leading
doctors at the United Nations,

in their official statement
for World Health Day,

couple of years back in 2017,

said we need to talk less
about chemical imbalances

and more about the imbalances
in the way we live.

Drugs give real relief to some people –

they gave relief to me for a while –

but precisely because this problem
goes deeper than their biology,

the solutions need to go much deeper, too.

But when I first learned that,

I remember thinking,

“OK, I could see
all the scientific evidence,

I read a huge number of studies,

I interviewed a huge number of the experts
who were explaining this,”

but I kept thinking, “How can we
possibly do that?”

The things that are making us depressed

are in most cases more complex
than what was going on

with this Cambodian farmer.

Where do we even begin with that insight?

But then, in the long journey for my book,

all over the world,

I kept meeting people
who were doing exactly that,

from Sydney, to San Francisco,

to São Paulo.

I kept meeting people
who were understanding

the deeper causes
of depression and anxiety

and, as groups, fixing them.

Obviously, I can’t tell you
about all the amazing people

I got to know and wrote about,

or all of the nine causes of depression
and anxiety that I learned about,

because they won’t let me give
a 10-hour TED Talk –

you can complain about that to them.

But I want to focus on two of the causes

and two of the solutions
that emerge from them, if that’s alright.

Here’s the first.

We are the loneliest society
in human history.

There was a recent study
that asked Americans,

“Do you feel like you’re no longer
close to anyone?”

And 39 percent of people
said that described them.

“No longer close to anyone.”

In the international
measurements of loneliness,

Britain and the rest of Europe
are just behind the US,

in case anyone here is feeling smug.

(Laughter)

I spent a lot of time discussing this

with the leading expert
in the world on loneliness,

an incredible man
named professor John Cacioppo,

who was at Chicago,

and I thought a lot about one question
his work poses to us.

Professor Cacioppo asked,

“Why do we exist?

Why are we here, why are we alive?”

One key reason

is that our ancestors
on the savannas of Africa

were really good at one thing.

They weren’t bigger than the animals
they took down a lot of the time,

they weren’t faster than the animals
they took down a lot of the time,

but they were much better
at banding together into groups

and cooperating.

This was our superpower as a species –

we band together,

just like bees evolved to live in a hive,

humans evolved to live in a tribe.

And we are the first humans ever

to disband our tribes.

And it is making us feel awful.

But it doesn’t have to be this way.

One of the heroes in my book,
and in fact, in my life,

is a doctor named Sam Everington.

He’s a general practitioner
in a poor part of East London,

where I lived for many years.

And Sam was really uncomfortable,

because he had loads of patients

coming to him with terrible
depression and anxiety.

And like me, he’s not opposed
to chemical antidepressants,

he thinks they give
some relief to some people.

But he could see two things.

Firstly, his patients were depressed
and anxious a lot of the time

for totally understandable
reasons, like loneliness.

And secondly, although the drugs
were giving some relief to some people,

for many people,
they didn’t solve the problem.

The underlying problem.

One day, Sam decided
to pioneer a different approach.

A woman came to his center,
his medical center,

called Lisa Cunningham.

I got to know Lisa later.

And Lisa had been shut away in her home
with crippling depression and anxiety

for seven years.

And when she came to Sam’s center,
she was told, “Don’t worry,

we’ll carry on giving you these drugs,

but we’re also going to prescribe
something else.

We’re going to prescribe for you
to come here to this center twice a week

to meet with a group of other
depressed and anxious people,

not to talk about how miserable you are,

but to figure out something
meaningful you can all do together

so you won’t be lonely and you won’t feel
like life is pointless.”

The first time this group met,

Lisa literally started
vomiting with anxiety,

it was so overwhelming for her.

But people rubbed her back,
the group started talking,

they were like, “What could we do?”

These are inner-city,
East London people like me,

they didn’t know anything about gardening.

They were like, “Why don’t we
learn gardening?”

There was an area
behind the doctors' offices

that was just scrubland.

“Why don’t we make this into a garden?”

They started to take books
out of the library,

started to watch YouTube clips.

They started to get
their fingers in the soil.

They started to learn
the rhythms of the seasons.

There’s a lot of evidence

that exposure to the natural world

is a really powerful antidepressant.

But they started to do something
even more important.

They started to form a tribe.

They started to form a group.

They started to care about each other.

If one of them didn’t show up,

the others would go
looking for them – “Are you OK?”

Help them figure out
what was troubling them that day.

The way Lisa put it to me,

“As the garden began to bloom,

we began to bloom.”

This approach is called
social prescribing,

it’s spreading all over Europe.

And there’s a small,
but growing body of evidence

suggesting it can produce real
and meaningful falls

in depression and anxiety.

And one day, I remember
standing in the garden

that Lisa and her once-depressed
friends had built –

it’s a really beautiful garden –

and having this thought,

it’s very much inspired by a guy
called professor Hugh Mackay in Australia.

I was thinking, so often
when people feel down in this culture,

what we say to them – I’m sure
everyone here said it, I have –

we say, “You just need
to be you, be yourself.”

And I’ve realized, actually,
what we should say to people is,

“Don’t be you.

Don’t be yourself.

Be us, be we.

Be part of a group.”

(Applause)

The solution to these problems

does not lie in drawing
more and more on your resources

as an isolated individual –

that’s partly what got us in this crisis.

It lies on reconnecting
with something bigger than you.

And that really connects
to one of the other causes

of depression and anxiety
that I wanted to talk to you about.

So everyone knows

junk food has taken over our diets
and made us physically sick.

I don’t say that
with any sense of superiority,

I literally came to give
this talk from McDonald’s.

I saw all of you eating that
healthy TED breakfast, I was like no way.

But just like junk food has taken over
our diets and made us physically sick,

a kind of junk values
have taken over our minds

and made us mentally sick.

For thousands of years,
philosophers have said,

if you think life is about money,
and status and showing off,

you’re going to feel like crap.

That’s not an exact quote
from Schopenhauer,

but that is the gist of what he said.

But weirdly, hardy anyone
had scientifically investigated this,

until a truly extraordinary person
I got to know, named professor Tim Kasser,

who’s at Knox College in Illinois,

and he’s been researching this
for about 30 years now.

And his research suggests
several really important things.

Firstly, the more you believe

you can buy and display
your way out of sadness,

and into a good life,

the more likely you are to become
depressed and anxious.

And secondly,

as a society, we have become
much more driven by these beliefs.

All throughout my lifetime,

under the weight of advertising
and Instagram and everything like them.

And as I thought about this,

I realized it’s like we’ve all been fed
since birth, a kind of KFC for the soul.

We’ve been trained to look for happiness
in all the wrong places,

and just like junk food
doesn’t meet your nutritional needs

and actually makes you feel terrible,

junk values don’t meet
your psychological needs,

and they take you away from a good life.

But when I first spent time
with professor Kasser

and I was learning all this,

I felt a really weird mixture of emotions.

Because on the one hand,
I found this really challenging.

I could see how often
in my own life, when I felt down,

I tried to remedy it with some kind of
show-offy, grand external solution.

And I could see why that
did not work well for me.

I also thought,
isn’t this kind of obvious?

Isn’t this almost like banal, right?

If I said to everyone here,

none of you are going to lie
on your deathbed

and think about all the shoes you bought
and all the retweets you got,

you’re going to think about moments

of love, meaning
and connection in your life.

I think that seems almost like a cliché.

But I kept talking
to professor Kasser and saying,

“Why am I feeling
this strange doubleness?”

And he said, “At some level,
we all know these things.

But in this culture,
we don’t live by them.”

We know them so well
they’ve become clichés,

but we don’t live by them.

I kept asking why, why would we know
something so profound,

but not live by it?

And after a while,
professor Kasser said to me,

“Because we live in a machine

that is designed to get us to neglect
what is important about life.”

I had to really think about that.

“Because we live in a machine

that is designed to get us
to neglect what is important about life.”

And professor Kasser wanted to figure out
if we can disrupt that machine.

He’s done loads of research into this;

I’ll tell you about one example,

and I really urge everyone here
to try this with their friends and family.

With a guy called Nathan Dungan,
he got a group of teenagers and adults

to come together for a series of sessions
over a period of time, to meet up.

And part of the point of the group

was to get people to think
about a moment in their life

they had actually found
meaning and purpose.

For different people,
it was different things.

For some people, it was playing music,
writing, helping someone –

I’m sure everyone here
can picture something, right?

And part of the point of the group
was to get people to ask,

“OK, how could you dedicate
more of your life

to pursuing these moments
of meaning and purpose,

and less to, I don’t know,
buying crap you don’t need,

putting it on social media
and trying to get people to go,

‘OMG, so jealous!'”

And what they found was,

just having these meetings,

it was like a kind of Alcoholics Anonymous
for consumerism, right?

Getting people to have these meetings,
articulate these values,

determine to act on them
and check in with each other,

led to a marked shift in people’s values.

It took them away from this hurricane
of depression-generating messages

training us to seek happiness
in the wrong places,

and towards more meaningful
and nourishing values

that lift us out of depression.

But with all the solutions that I saw
and have written about,

and many I can’t talk about here,

I kept thinking,

you know: Why did it take me so long
to see these insights?

Because when you explain them to people –

some of them are more
complicated, but not all –

when you explain this to people,
it’s not like rocket science, right?

At some level, we already
know these things.

Why do we find it so hard to understand?

I think there’s many reasons.

But I think one reason is
that we have to change our understanding

of what depression
and anxiety actually are.

There are very real
biological contributions

to depression and anxiety.

But if we allow the biology
to become the whole picture,

as I did for so long,

as I would argue our culture
has done pretty much most of my life,

what we’re implicitly saying to people
is, and this isn’t anyone’s intention,

but what we’re implicitly
saying to people is,

“Your pain doesn’t mean anything.

It’s just a malfunction.

It’s like a glitch in a computer program,

it’s just a wiring problem in your head.”

But I was only able to start
changing my life

when I realized your depression
is not a malfunction.

It’s a signal.

Your depression is a signal.

It’s telling you something.

(Applause)

We feel this way for reasons,

and they can be hard to see
in the throes of depression –

I understand that really well
from personal experience.

But with the right help,
we can understand these problems

and we can fix these problems together.

But to do that,

the very first step

is we have to stop insulting these signals

by saying they’re a sign of weakness,
or madness or purely biological,

except for a tiny number of people.

We need to start
listening to these signals,

because they’re telling us
something we really need to hear.

It’s only when we truly
listen to these signals,

and we honor these signals
and respect these signals,

that we’re going to begin to see

the liberating, nourishing,
deeper solutions.

The cows that are waiting all around us.

Thank you.

(Applause)

在很长一段时间里,

我有两个
谜团一直笼罩着我。

我不理解他们

,老实说,我很
害怕调查他们。

第一个谜团是,我已经 40 岁了

,在我的一生中,
年复一年,

严重的抑郁症和焦虑症

在美国、英国

和整个西方世界都在上升。

我想知道为什么。

为什么这会发生在我们身上?

为什么随着时间的流逝,

越来越多的人发现
日子越来越难过?

我想了解这一点
是因为一个更私人的谜团。

当我还是青少年的时候,

我记得去看医生

并解释说我有这种感觉,
就像疼痛从我身上渗出一样。

我无法控制它,

我不明白为什么会这样,

我感到很惭愧。

我的医生告诉我一个故事

,我现在意识到这是善意的,

但过于简单化了。

不完全错。

我的医生说:“我们知道
人们为什么会这样。

有些人只是自然而然地
在头脑中产生化学物质失衡——

你显然就是其中之一

。我们需要做的就是给你一些药物,

它会吸收你的化学物质
平衡恢复正常。”

所以我开始服用一种
叫做 Paxil 或 Seroxat 的药物,

它是同一种东西,
在不同的国家有不同的名称。

我感觉好多了,
我得到了真正的提升。

但没过多久,

这种痛感又开始袭来。

因此,我被给予越来越高的剂量,

直到 13 年来,我一直在服用法律允许服用
的最大剂量

在这 13 年的
大部分时间里,到最后几乎所有的时间里,

我仍然很痛苦。

我开始问自己,
“这是怎么回事?

因为你正在做主宰文化

的故事告诉你要做的一切
——

为什么你仍然觉得这样?”

因此,为了
弄清这两个谜团,

为了我写的一本书,

我最终踏上
了环游世界的旅程,

我旅行了 40,000 多英里。

我想与世界领先的专家坐下来

讨论导致抑郁和焦虑的原因

,至关重要的是,解决这些问题的方法,

以及从抑郁和焦虑中走出来的人,

以及
以各种方式走出另一边的人。

从一路上认识的令人惊叹的人那里学到了很多东西

但我认为
,到目前为止,我所学到的核心是

,我们有科学证据表明

抑郁和焦虑的九种不同原因。

其中两个确实存在于我们的生物学中。

你的基因可以让你
对这些问题更加敏感,

尽管它们并不能决定你的命运。

当您变得沮丧时,可能会发生真正的大脑变化,

这会使您更难摆脱困境。

但大多数
已被证明

会导致抑郁和焦虑的

因素并不存在于我们的生物学中。

它们是我们生活方式的因素。

一旦你理解了它们,

它就会打开一套非常不同
的解决

方案,除了化学抗抑郁药的选择之外,还应该向人们提供这些解决方案

例如,

如果你很孤独,你更有
可能变得抑郁。

如果,当你去上班时,
你对自己的工作没有任何控制权,

你只需要按照别人说的去做,

你就更有可能变得抑郁。

如果你很少
进入自然世界,

你就更有可能变得沮丧。

有一件事结合了我了解到的许多
抑郁和焦虑的原因

不是全部,而是很多。

这里的每个人都知道

你们都有自然的
生理需求,对吧?

明显地。

你需要食物,你需要水,

你需要住所,你需要干净的空气。

如果我把那些东西从你手里拿走,

你们都会遇到真正的麻烦,很快。

但同时,

每个人
都有自然的心理需求。

你需要有归属感。

你需要感觉到你的
生活有意义和目的。

你需要感觉到人们
看到你并重视你。

你需要感觉到你有
一个有意义的未来。

我们建立的这种文化
擅长很多事情。

很多事情
都比过去好——

我很高兴今天还活着。

但我们越来越不

擅长满足这些深刻的、
潜在的心理需求。

这不是唯一
发生的事情,

但我认为这是
这场危机不断上升和上升的关键原因。

我发现这真的很难吸收。

我真的很想

从认为我的抑郁症
只是我大脑中的一个问题

转变为一个有多种原因

的想法,包括我们生活方式的许多原因。

直到有一天,我去采访
一位

名叫 Dr. Derek Summerfield 的南非精神病医生时,我才真正开始意识到这一点。

他是个好人。

2001 年,萨默菲尔德博士恰好在柬埔寨,

当时他们首次

为该国的人们引入化学抗抑郁药。

而当地的医生,柬埔寨人,
从来没有听说过这些药物,

所以他们就像,他们是什么?

他解释道。

他们对他说,

“我们不需要它们,
我们已经有抗抑郁药了。”

他就像,“你是什么意思?”

他以为他们会谈论
某种草药

,比如圣约翰草、银杏叶之
类的。

相反,他们给他讲了一个故事。

他们社区有一个
农民在稻田里干活。

有一天,他站在与美国

的战争遗留下来的地雷上

,他的腿被炸断了。

于是他们给他做了一条假腿

,过了一会儿,他又回到
稻田里干活了。

但显然,

当你有假肢时,在水下工作

是非常痛苦的,我猜想

回到
他被炸毁的地方工作是相当痛苦的。

这家伙开始哭一整天,

他拒绝起床,

他出现了所有
典型抑郁症的症状。

柬埔寨医生说:

“这是我们给
他服用抗抑郁药的时候。”

萨默菲尔德博士说:
“那是什么?”

他们解释说他们去
和他坐在一起。

他们听他的。

他们意识到他的痛苦是有道理的

——他很难
在抑郁症的阵痛中看到它,

但实际上,它
在他的生活中有完全可以理解的原因。

一位医生在和社区里的人交谈时
想,

“你知道,如果我们给这个人买一头牛,

他就可以成为奶农,

他就不会处于这个
让他如此糟糕的位置,

他不必去
稻田里干活。”

于是他们给他买了一头牛。

几周内,
他的哭声停止了,

一个月内,他的抑郁症消失了。

他们对萨默菲尔德医生说:

“所以你看,医生,那头牛,
那是一种抗抑郁药,

这就是你的意思,对吧?”

(笑声)

(掌声)

如果你从小
就像我一样思考抑郁症,

而这里的大多数人都是这样,

那听起来像是个糟糕的笑话,对吧?

“我去看医生
要了抗抑郁药,

她给了我一头牛。”

但是,这些柬埔寨
医生

根据这个
不科学的轶事直觉

地知道,世界领先的
医疗机构

世界卫生组织

多年来一直试图

根据最好的科学证据告诉我们什么。

如果你沮丧,

如果你焦虑,

你并不软弱,你并不疯狂

,你基本上不是
一台零件坏了的机器。

你是一个有未满足需求的人。

同样重要的是在这里
思考那些柬埔寨医生


世界卫生组织没有说的话。

他们没有对这个农民说,

“嘿,伙计,你
需要振作起来

。你的工作是自己找出
并解决这个问题。”

相反,他们说的是,

“我们作为一个团队在这里
与你们

齐心协力,所以我们可以一起找出
并解决这个问题。”

这是每个抑郁症患者都需要的,

也是每个
抑郁症患者应得的。

这就是为什么
联合国的一位主要医生在

几年前的 2017 年世界卫生日官方声明中

说,我们需要少
谈论化学失衡,

而更多地谈论
我们生活方式中的失衡。

药物给一些人带来了真正的解脱——

他们给了我一段时间的解脱——

但正是因为这个问题
比他们的生物学

更深入,解决方案也需要更深入。

但是当我第一次了解到这一点时,我记得当时我在

想,

“好吧,我可以看到
所有的科学证据,

我阅读了大量的研究,

我采访了很多
解释这一点的专家,”

但我一直在想,“ 我们怎么
可能做到这一点?”

在大多数情况下,让
我们感到沮丧的事情比这位柬埔寨农民所发生的事情要复杂得多

我们甚至从哪里开始?

但随后,在我写书的漫长旅程中,

在世界各地,

我不断遇到
正在这样做的人,

从悉尼到旧金山,

再到圣保罗。

我不断遇到
那些了解

抑郁和焦虑更深层原因的人,

并作为团体来解决这些问题。

显然,我不能告诉你我认识和
写过的所有令人惊叹的人

或者我了解到的所有导致抑郁和焦虑的九个原因

因为他们不会让我做
一个 10 小时的 TED 演讲 ——

你可以向他们投诉。

但如果可以的话,我想关注其中的两个原因

和两个解决
方案。

这是第一个。

我们是人类历史上最孤独的社会

最近有一项
研究问美国人,

“你觉得你不再
和任何人亲近了吗?”

39% 的人
说这描述了他们。

“不再靠近任何人。”

在国际
孤独度测量中,

英国和欧洲其他国家
仅次于美国

,以防这里有人沾沾自喜。

(笑声)

我花了很多时间


世界上最重要的孤独专家讨论这个问题,他是

一位不可思议的人,
名叫约翰·卡乔波教授,

他在芝加哥

,我想了很多关于
他的工作给我们提出的一个问题。

卡乔波教授问道:

“我们为什么存在?

我们为什么在这里,我们为什么活着?”

一个关键原因

是我们
在非洲大草原上的

祖先确实擅长一件事。

它们的体型并不比
它们经常击落的动物大,

它们的速度并不
比它们经常击落的动物快,

但它们更
善于组合成组

并进行合作。

这是我们作为一个物种的超级大国——

我们团结在一起,

就像蜜蜂进化成生活在蜂巢中一样,

人类进化成生活在部落中。

我们是有史以来第一个

解散我们部落的人类。

这让我们感觉很糟糕。

但它不必是这样的。

我书中的英雄之一
,事实上,在我的生活中,

是一位名叫 Sam Everington 的医生。


是东伦敦贫困地区的一名全科医生,

我在那里生活了很多年。

山姆真的很不舒服,

因为他有很多患有严重抑郁和焦虑的病人

来找他

和我一样,他并不
反对化学抗抑郁药,

他认为它们可以
缓解一些人的不适。

但他可以看到两件事。

首先,

由于完全可以理解的
原因,比如孤独,他的病人很多时候都感到沮丧和焦虑。

其次,虽然
药物对一些人有一定的缓解作用,但

对很多人来说,
它们并没有解决问题。

根本问题。

有一天,山姆
决定开创一种不同的方法。

一个女人来到他的中心,
他的医疗中心,

名叫丽莎坎宁安。

后来我认识了丽莎。

丽莎因
严重的抑郁和焦虑被关在家里

七年了。

当她来到山姆的中心时,
她被告知:“别担心,

我们会继续给你这些药,

但我们还会开
其他药。

我们会开药让你
来这里 每周两次到这个中心

与一群其他
抑郁和焦虑的人会面,

不是为了谈论你有多痛苦,

而是为了找到一些
有意义的事情,你们可以一起做,

这样你就不会孤独,你不会
感觉生活毫无意义。”

这群人第一次见面时,

丽莎真的开始
焦虑地呕吐,

这对她来说太难了。

但是人们揉了揉她的背
,这群人开始说话,

他们就像,“我们能做什么?”

这些都是
像我一样位于伦敦东部市中心的人,

他们对园艺一无所知。

他们就像,“我们为什么不
学习园艺?”

医生

办公室后面有一片灌木丛。

“我们为什么不把它变成一个花园呢?”

他们开始从图书馆取书

开始观看 YouTube 剪辑。

他们开始
把手指伸进土里。

他们开始学习
季节的节奏。

有很多证据

表明,接触大自然

是一种非常强大的抗抑郁药。

但他们开始做一些
更重要的事情。

他们开始组建部落。

他们开始组成一个小组。

他们开始互相关心。

如果其中一个没有出现

,其他人就会
去找他们——“你还好吗?”

帮助他们
找出那天困扰他们的事情。

丽莎对我说的那样,

“随着花园开始开花,

我们开始开花。”

这种方法被称为
社会处方,

它正在整个欧洲传播。

有少量
但越来越多的证据

表明它可以使抑郁和焦虑产生真实
而有意义的

下降。

有一天,我记得
站在

丽莎和她曾经抑郁的
朋友们建造

的花园里——那是一个非常美丽的花园

——有这个想法,

它的灵感来自
澳大利亚一个叫休·麦凯教授的人。

我经常在想,
当人们在这种文化中感到沮丧时,

我们对他们说的话——我相信
这里的每个人都说过,我说过——

我们说,“你只需
要做你自己,做你自己。”

而且我意识到,实际上,
我们应该对人们说的是,

“不要做你

自己。不要做你自己。

做我们,做我们。

成为一个群体的一部分。”

(掌声

)解决这些问题的方法

不在于
越来越多地利用你

作为一个孤立的个体的资源——

这部分是让我们陷入这场危机的部分原因。

它在于
与比你更大的事物重新建立联系。

这真的与

我想和你谈谈的抑郁和焦虑的其他原因之一有关。

所以每个人都知道

垃圾食品已经占据了我们的饮食
,让我们身体不适。


没有任何优越感,

我真的是
从麦当劳来做这个演讲的。

我看到你们所有人都在吃
健康的 TED 早餐,我觉得不可能。

但就像垃圾食品占据了
我们的饮食并使我们身体不适一样,

一种垃圾价值观
已经占据了我们的思想

并使我们患上了精神疾病。

几千年来,
哲学家们说,

如果你认为生活是关于金钱
、地位和炫耀的,

你会觉得自己像个垃圾。

这不是叔本华的准确
引用,

但这是他所说的要点。

但奇怪的是,没有人
对此进行过科学调查,

直到我认识了一个真正非凡的人
,名叫蒂姆·卡塞尔教授,

他在伊利诺伊州诺克斯学院

,他已经研究
了大约 30 年。

他的研究表明
了几件非常重要的事情。

首先,你越相信

你可以购买和展示
你摆脱悲伤

、进入美好生活的方式

,你就越有可能变得
沮丧和焦虑。

其次,

作为一个社会,我们变得
更加受这些信念的驱动。

在我的一生中,

在广告
和 Instagram 以及类似的一切的重压下。

当我想到这一点时,

我意识到这就像我们
从出生起就被喂饱了,一种灵魂的肯德基。

我们被训练
在所有错误的地方寻找幸福

,就像垃圾食品
不能满足你的营养需求

,实际上让你感觉很糟糕,

垃圾价值观不能满足
你的心理需求

,它们会让你远离 美好的生活。

但是当我第一次
和 Kasser 教授

一起学习所有这些时,

我感到一种非常奇怪的混合情绪。

因为一方面,
我发现这真的很有挑战性。

我可以看到,
在我自己的生活中,当我感到沮丧时,

我经常尝试用某种
炫耀的、宏伟的外部解决方案来弥补它。

我可以明白为什么这
对我来说效果不佳。

我也想,这样
不是很明显吗?

这不是很平庸,对吧?

如果我对这里的每个人说

,你们中的任何人都不会
躺在临终前

思考你买的所有鞋子
和你得到的所有转发,

你会想到生活中

的爱情、意义
和联系的时刻。

我认为这似乎是陈词滥调。

但我一直在和
Kasser 教授交谈并说:

“为什么我会感到
这种奇怪的双重性?”

他说,“在某种程度上,
我们都知道这些事情。

但在这种文化中,
我们不靠它们生活。”

我们非常了解它们,
它们已成为陈词滥调,

但我们不靠它们生活。

我一直在问为什么,为什么我们会知道
这么深奥的东西,

却不靠它生活?

过了一会儿,
卡塞尔教授对我说,

“因为我们生活在一台机器

中,它的设计目的是让我们
忽视生命中重要的事情。”

我不得不真正考虑一下。

“因为我们生活在一台机器

中,它的设计目的是让
我们忽视生活中重要的事情。”

Kasser 教授想弄清楚
我们是否可以破坏那台机器。

他对此进行了大量研究;

我会告诉你一个例子

,我真的敦促这里的每个人
都与他们的朋友和家人一起尝试。

他和一个叫 Nathan Dungan 的人一起,
让一群青少年和成年人在一段时间

内聚在一起进行一系列会议
,以见面。

该小组的部分目的

是让人们
思考他们生活

中真正找到
意义和目的的时刻。

对于不同的人来说,
这是不同的事情。

对一些人来说,就是演奏音乐、
写作、帮助别人——

我相信这里的每个人
都能想象出一些东西,对吧?

这个小组的一部分目的
是让人们问,

“好吧,你怎么能把
更多的生命

投入到追求这些
有意义和目的的时刻,

而不是,我不知道,
买你不知道的废话” 不需要,

把它放在社交媒体上
并试图让人们去,

‘天哪,太嫉妒了!’

”他们发现,

只是举行这些会议,

就像是消费主义的酗酒者匿名
,对吗?

让人们参加这些会议,
阐明这些价值观,

决定采取行动
并相互检查,

导致人们的价值观发生显着转变。

它使他们远离了这种
产生抑郁的信息的飓风,这些信息

训练我们
在错误的地方寻求幸福,

并朝着更有意义
和更有营养的价值观迈进

,使我们摆脱抑郁。

但是对于我看到
和写过的所有解决方案,

还有很多我不能在这里谈论,

我一直在想,

你知道的:为什么我花了这么长时间
才看到这些见解?

因为当你向人们解释它们时——

其中一些更
复杂,但不是全部——

当你向人们解释时,
这不像火箭科学,对吧?

在某种程度上,我们已经
知道这些事情。

为什么我们觉得很难理解?

我认为有很多原因。

但我认为一个原因
是我们必须改变对

抑郁
和焦虑实际上是什么的理解。 对抑郁和焦虑

有非常真实的
生物学贡献

但是,如果我们让
生物学成为全局,

就像我长期以来所做的那样,

正如我认为我们的
文化在我生命的大部分时间里所做的那样,

我们隐含地对人们说的
是,这不是任何人的 意图,

但我们含蓄地
对人们说的是,

“你的痛苦没有任何意义。

这只是

一个故障。就像计算机程序中的一个小故障,

它只是你头脑中的一个接线问题。”

但只有

当我意识到你的抑郁症不是故障时,我才能开始改变我的生活

这是一个信号。

你的抑郁是一个信号。

它在告诉你一些事情。

(掌声)

我们有这样的感觉是有原因的,

在抑郁症的阵痛中很难看到——

我从个人经历中非常理解这一点

但是在正确的帮助下,
我们可以理解这些问题

,我们可以一起解决这些问题。

但要做到这一点

,第一步

是我们必须停止侮辱这些信号

,说它们是软弱、
疯狂或纯粹生物的标志,

除了少数人。

我们需要开始
倾听这些信号,

因为它们告诉我们
一些我们真正需要听到的东西。

只有当我们真正
倾听这些信号

,我们尊重这些信号
并尊重这些信号时

,我们才会开始

看到解放、滋养、
更深层次的解决方案。

在我们周围等待的奶牛。

谢谢你。

(掌声)