How to Change Your Life In A Day
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what is love it’s actually an intense
feeling it’s a deep affection it is
something that most of us search for our
whole entire
lives we are taught from the time we’re
itty bitty
that nothing really matters if you don’t
have love anybody else heard that
so another question for you how many
people in here are married and in love
be proud now don’t be ashamed you got
your good thing
now how many of y’all
like me you have tried and loved and
failed
come on now so how many of you guys that
have tried and failed want to be in love
right hey i got something for you now
because i’m like y’all right i’m like
all the people that have sat in sermons
read books watch movies listen to songs
you talk to your friends you talk to the
pastor you talk to your mama you talk to
your elders your speed day your online
day your network day you know okay
you’re praying you’re throwing yourself
on the altar you tell somebody else to
call and pray for you you bought a new
outfit you got some new hair you went to
the gym you got a 10 right you meditated
you cried you did all this stuff you
went on divine journeys you had singles
gathered you had trips you sat around
until all your free job we did the
benefits we have been together right
there’s a single women huh
so we’re in an interesting conundrum so
interestingly enough there are four
british universities
uh aberdeen briston eden brawl and
glasgow and they did a ton of research
and what’s really interesting
about
highly intelligent and highly
accomplished women compared to highly
intelligent and highly accomplished men
is that for men
every 16 points that their iq goes up
they’re 35 percent more likely to get
married
but it is the opposite for
women
for every 16 points our iq increases
there is 40 chance that we are less
likely to get married
that puts us in an interesting conundrum
right for all of the modern bad
independent girls in the building okay
right because we are here doing the
thing we buying houses we’re traveling
we’re retaining our link growing our
edges we’re raising babies okay we
volunteers we’re supporting our friends
we’re impacting our community we crime
climbing the corporate ladder we got
degrees upon degrees we winning awards
we are accomplishing all kinds of status
and we’re doing all of this while we
looking beautiful okay in these streets
however
so many of us successful modern women
as prosperous as we are we struggle with
obtaining
love
and this is something that is a new age
problem right and i can speak to this
i’m ashley ian i’m a high performing
woman i am extremely successful
i’m highly accomplished
i started with 125 on a laptop and grew
a multi-million dollar event production
company then i turned around to grow a
multi-million dollar ads agency then i
turned into one of the top social media
strategists in the country then i helped
over 11 000 people make money with their
social media accounts and over 700 of my
clients became six figure earners then
150 did a million and under a year and i
got nine clients right now while i’m
standing on the stage to have million
dollar months nine right now and i have
million dollar days
i got all the stuff it’s supposed to be
but all of my accolades all of my
accomplishes i graduated school
laude i did what i was supposed to do i
gave what it was supposed to give
and yet i was still ending up in all of
these trash relationships
whole trash to throw the whole man away
right
that’s what i thought
i was married once upon a time before
and it was a trash relationship
okay i literally was abused physically
emotionally and mentally i successfully
divorced him but i still continue my
pattern of trash relationships
whether it’s because men were
intimidated or because they had baby
mama drama okay or because they got
freaked out once they looked at our
income disparity or maybe they just
weren’t ready right everybody wanted a
situationship they were emotionally
unavailable whatever it was it was trash
and it led me through a series of
unfortunate events that i now think are
very fortunate events because they led
me to figure out how you can manifest
love
which is particularly seems to be
challenging right now for all of our
high performing and successful women
so not only have i been able to assist
thousands of people with their
businesses and making money and
monetizing their social media accounts
but i honestly have helped hundreds of
love women find love
loving long-lasting romantic
relationships that have led to marriage
and there’s a really big secret
when it comes to manifesting love how
many y’all want secret
okay
it’s real simple
relationships aren’t hard
they’re not hard
they’re easy
they should be easy
and
in order to move away from this we have
to understand how our brain works okay
so i’m going to break down for you guys
today scientifically
how you’re able to manifest love and not
only does this work for love this works
for a multitude of things but in the
realm of manifestation if any of you
guys understand anything about that
y’all know love is one of the most
difficult things to manifest correct
so one of the biggest lies we’ve all
been told our whole lives love is hard
relationships are hard you got to work
at it nothing worth having is easy right
y’all heard that they told me that whole
whole lives
okay
i have a great man
an amazing man
he fine
he tall
he make a lot of money
you know i’m thickalicious and he can
carry all this honey because he work out
all of that i got real good okay
so we’re gonna go through the steps okay
so number one for those of you that are
taking notes is accountability
a lot of people struggle with this
because for many people you guys feel
like if you take accountability for what
part you played in something even if it
went bad right and we got to be honest
sometimes you take a left when you
should have made a right sometimes
you’re running when you should have sat
still sometimes you still when you
should have ran and sometimes you’d have
been around somebody you had no business
being around right and we all take
accountability for what we did now when
you take accountability this does not
absolve someone for how they mistreated
you or mishandled you
actually accountability is your
superpower
and when you take accountability of what
went wrong you also have to take
accountability of what went right
and you actually need to get a notepad
or laptop however you want to take notes
and you need to write out what went
right and what you like so you can
continue to repeat that so you can start
the process of attracting what you
really want
which leads us to step two
which is assessment and we have to
assess specifically what we believe
in order to do this we have to
understand how the brain works because
majority of you guys that are listening
to me right now have no idea what you
believe
95 of your brain in your day-to-day your
subconscious has taken over
the first seven years of your life
according to research has a critical
impact on what we believe and then that
is coupled with our other life
experiences
these are written inside of our brain
on the subconscious level we have a left
hemisphere and a right hemisphere with
our brain the left hemisphere is logical
it’s critical thinking it’s numbers it’s
orders it’s systems right
then you have the right side of your
brain that is your subconscious that’s
the creative it’s the dreaming it’s the
imagination
scientifically we also know that matter
and energy are one and the same it’s
been proven any physical matter that
you’re touching so the chair you’re
sitting in the laptop you use this
microphone the person next to you we’re
all really energy because solid matter
is nothing more than compressed atoms
that vibrate at a very high rate right
and they’re wrapped inside of another
set of energy fields so if we can
understand that everything is energy and
that
our brain okay
is
controlled or our actions on a daily are
controlled mostly by the right side of
our brain we’re going to be able to
start the process of shifting everything
so how this works and what’s really
interesting is the cia spent millions of
dollars researching this
in
1983 they came out with the monroe
studies and they basically proved that
manifestation is real and they break
down through something called the
gateway process of how to hemisink the
left side and the right side of your
brain
you actually can go to the cia’s website
it was declassified in 2003 it’s a
pretty interesting read and it’s
relatively short okay about 30 pages or
so
but one of the biggest takeaways from
this is that the way our subconscious
mind works is it takes what we’re
experiencing on the left side and then
interprets that your external experience
it gives you a physiological response
aka your feelings okay
and your feelings actually control at
what rate your atoms or your energy in
your body
move
so if you’re feeling really great guess
what your atoms are vibrating really
really high right that’s positive
there’s opportunity that’s good things
coming to you this love and if you’re
feeling low if you’re feeling negative
you actually slow down the vibration of
your atoms
it’s really crazy right
so
if we can control
or have greater control over our
emotions then we can control our
external life experiences
how do we have greater control over our
emotions
we start by number three which is
getting into
alignment okay
so inside of your brain
there is
um we have lots of neural pathways
that’s how we learn new things okay i
want you guys to think about a neural
pathway like a forest or the woods okay
so i live in the country and i like to
hike
so if i’m standing outside and i see a
tree and maybe that tree is a mile down
the road so we’re going to call that
tree c and i’m standing at tree a when i
walk from tree a to c the first time
i’ve never done that before so when i
walk there’s not quite a clear path it’s
going to take a little longer for me to
get there right i have to call on a
little bit more skill sets to get me
where i’m going but if i walk that path
every day every day every day every day
guess what the ground underneath me
wears out
and now i have a dirt path
then maybe one day i may put some rocks
down
and then maybe one day i may pave the
path and because i’ve walked that path
from tree a to tree c so often
i can do it like it’s second nature and
i can get down that path way faster
under 20 the time or the 200th time than
i could on the first time that’s how our
brain learns things okay
this is called plasticity
so there are these little neurons that
are hanging out
and more specifically the important set
of neurons we need to be focused on is
called the ras this is the reticular
activating system it’s about the size of
your pinky it’s in the base of your
brain i want y’all to think about this
like a filter that goes inside of your
mind
okay remember
we have to de-program ourselves right
when we’re working on alignment so the
beautiful thing about this i want y’all
to think about has anybody ever
thought of a car that you liked you’re
like hey i would really like to have a
red honda
and then all of a sudden you start
seeing red hunters everywhere right
you’ve never seen that many red hunters
before
same amount of red hunters were always
there but because you have noticed it
and you’ve decided that’s what you want
now your brain the ras
is working towards those the ras is very
powerful it controls your sleep cycles
it controls your muscles it controls
your arousal it controls your focus okay
it controls a lot of things so if we can
program our ras to be focused on
specific things guess what we’re now
going to find what we focus on and we
want to train our rs to be focused on
happy things and on love so we can start
the process of
love and start controlling what we are
in alignment with y’all picking up what
i’m putting now
really crazy how the brain works right
so
now that leads me to step number four
which is
action okay once we’ve decided what we
want to be aligned with and we’ve
decided what we don’t want to be aligned
with we are going to move into action so
we can bring forth what we want
so the first thing is put yourself in a
good mood as soon as you wake up
remember i told y’all we’re all energy
right
in
solid matter which is you me the chairs
this room it’s nothing more than
compressed atoms that are vibrating at a
high frequency
so we want to vibrate as high as we can
right we want to be in alignment with
love so you need to put yourself in a
good mood as soon as you wake up every
day i don’t care if you play music i
don’t care if you dance if it’s a joke
just whatever is going to make you happy
as soon as you get out of bed you need
to do that okay
number two put yourself in a good space
before you go to sleep
remember i told y’all that ras part of
your brain it controls your sleeping and
your waking cycles correct
it’s a whole lot of things going on
while you sleep in your body and we want
to make sure that our energy is still
correct
one of the worst things you can do for
yourself is put yourself in distress
before you go too bad you need to
actually make sure that you are calm or
you’re happy or you’re feeling mellow or
what loved whatever it is you need to
feel so what i suggest to my clients is
that they actually whatever the last
thing is that you see was right in front
of your bed above your bed make that
something that makes you feel good and
relaxes you
number three you need to look at images
that represent what you want something
very interesting about our brains is our
brains cannot differentiate between a
picture and reality so this means you
can find images to represent the love
that you want in your life and you can
actually speak and say what these things
mean to you this is how you start to
re-process or reprogram the ras center
of your brain number four you want to
surround yourself with people that
inspire you and that you aspire to be
like aka couples and more specifically
happy couples
because they are going to emit the
proper frequency that you want to be on
and you’re going to learn different
things from them which in return is
going to continue to reprogram that ras
right which is the filter so we can draw
what we want
the fifth thing you do change your
surroundings or your proximity i mean
physically change your surroundings you
don’t go to the ocean looking for a
catfish and you don’t go to a lake
looking for a whale
some of y’all are fishing in the wrong
hole and literally if you want to
attract better you need to go to a
different proximity right go to a
different bar a different gym a
different bank a different park okay go
to a different art gallery i don’t care
go somewhere outside of where you’ve
been going all right
number six you need to be very diligent
about your speech the speech that you
have over yourself and the speech when
you speak about what you desire more
often than not i hear highly successful
women talking about all these statistics
that say that they’re not going to get
what they desire i very rarely hear them
saying i’m really excited to attract a
man that’s a leader i’m really excited
to find somebody that i can build a
legacy with i’m really excited to have a
guy that’s going to support me we have
to start speaking what we want to see
and what we want instead of being so
focused on what we don’t want because
again every time we speak that guess
what it’s doing it’s programming the ras
center you’re putting in that negative
stuff into your filter and now
your atoms and your energy fields are
focused on that instead of what you
really want okay and finally number
seven all you have to do is prepare for
what’s coming so you start to change
your schedule you start to actually
physically change your space to make
room for what it is that you say that
you want if you are a highly successful
woman if you are high valued and you’ve
been able to accomplish promotions and
material matters and you’re an excellent
parent you’re a great sister you’re an
amazing part of your community others
feel fantastic when they’re around you
if you can manifest any type of material
matter it’s just as easy to manifest
happiness and love thank you guys
you