Happy Parents Will Change the World
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i still remember
when we came here for an interview and
the school principal was asking my son
she asked what is can you tell us what
is your other
reason for joining this school and my
son
you know he said he said because the
school
is so big so i can practice my running
skill
that was so funny so me and the
principal we just laughed
i was years ago and you know years
passed
i still remember when i was in his age
my english teacher asking me
say gente what do you want after
high school i said i want to go
to tourism school i want to travel
i want to see the world and hopefully i
can change the world
and i did i did went to college and i
did travel
and i did live in seven different
countries
due to work and family but
did i manage to change the world
i don’t think so i i did do
a lot of photo taking though so
when i came back and my grandma was
saying oh my god
you have been traveled so much and all
you got is just photos
of course back then there wasn’t any
social media where i can posted my
photos so
so um there is the one talk that i
listened to
from uh renowned master gentil nathan
he was saying that in the school
actually we need more of the happy
teachers
and he was asking us why he said because
happy teachers will change the world
you know happy teachers will make a
better place for the students
and at the end of his talk he said
actually it’s not only happy teachers
we also need happy parents because
parents are teachers at home
and happy parents will change the world
um and then i was
thinking you know after i listened to
that talk i was like hmm
happy parents change the world really i
mean
well i was like
i can’t believe that myself but then he
he ended it with mindfulness
mindfulness can help happy parents to
change the world what is mindfulness
actually they did a study
about the impact of mindfulness to
children
780 children in a duration of six weeks
and they saw
with mindfulness there is a increase of
children ability to pay attention and to
self-care
and participate in class and more
compassion
the children are able to show care for
others
so what is mindfulness according to
dr john cabezin professor of medicine
emeritus at university of massachusetts
he explained that mindfulness is paying
attention in a particular way
on purpose in the present moment and not
just mentally
have we ever realized that nowadays we
tend to judge
a lot we saw one thing which is we are
not happy about and then we start
making an adjustment in our memory like
what’s going on and why so many things
so to explain in simple words
mindfulness is about living in the
present moment
you know how do we differentiate between
the past the present and the future
is through our breathing you know as we
breathe in do it together
we breathe in we breathe out
that’s a present okay sometimes we worry
about
we worry too much about the past but the
past is already gone
and then sometimes we also worry about
the future the future is not yet coming
so how popular is mindfulness
if we google mindfulness uh you know in
the search engine we’ll find any kind of
definition
and there are many uh proven
uh method also that uh saying
mindfulness practice has been able to
treat many ailments
including chronic pain anxiety work
family and emotional distress
so how is that possible this is valid
yeah
because the source is from uh university
of massachusetts medical school center
for mindfulness
so have you been practicing mindfulness
um anyone know about mindfulness
no what comes in mind when you heard of
the words
all right there are three things uh
three method that i
like i can suggest we can do uh every
day
uh you know sometimes our life is so
hectic and so
stressful and so you know so much
pressure
that uh we don’t have energy to do
anything
else but there are three things that we
always do
every day is sit
right you all are sitting now right and
we walk
and we eat right but have you been able
to sit just for the sake of sitting
most of the time while we sit our mind
wander
you know the the fastest the fastest way
to travel is through our mind
because one second we could be here the
next second we could be in new york city
or we could be in london it’s you know
it’s really fast
and sometimes our mind could drive us
crazy
because you know the rhyme is so fast
so what we can do is we sit and we focus
of our breathing we breathe in
we breathe out okay the next practice we
can do is walking you know
we can walk just as we walking
we focus on our food touching the earth
instead of our you know walking and
looking at your phone that happens too
right
so and enjoy as we walk because we can
see the green trees
we can see the flowers or we can say
hello to our friends
there are many things we can do as we
walk
and we enjoy the breeding and the third
one
is eating i
i noticed that sometimes we eat
while we are looking at our phone i even
went to a restaurant you know when i saw
a mom dad and two kids they sit in one
table the food is not yet coming
so they are waiting and they all play
with their phone instead of talking to
each other
so this might be one uh one thing that
drives one restaurant
who gave a 10 discount to the customer
provided that if you deposit your phone
to the cashier
so after you finish your meal you can
collect your phone and you got the 10
discount
this is how unmindful we are with our
food you know actually food is
the gift
for us but sometimes we we just eat
for the sake of eating and we like to
finish everything really fast
so we can go to the next job and
sometimes we even
forgot to appreciate how delicious our
food is
okay so this three simple practice we
can do it every day
we can sit while enjoying our bread
we can walk and we can eat
try to eat slowly and appreciate
how delicious our foods are
okay so do you want to practice
mindfulness
yeah have you ever been in a condition
where you you have feel
so much stress so much pressure
that you really want to
blow up yes you do
especially during exam okay
to end this i would
share with you a few of the things that
i have done
as a parent and how i benefit from the
mindfulness training i have
when my uh when my son was three years
old and i was working from home
and i was working on my laptop and then
i went to the kitchen to grab something
to to eat
when i came back my son was playing with
my laptop
and he saw me and he was so scared
and then he jumped he tried to run away
but what he did unconsciously was he
pulled the laptop caught with him
so when i came back what i saw was like
my laptop crashed
you know i was so angry to see my laptop
crest
and my three years old son was like
looking at me and
he was so scared of me you know maybe
that time i
i asked him he didn’t remember but may i
can’t imagine maybe
i was looking like a monster that time
uh and and at that precious second was
very quick happening
and i make a decision you know even
though i was
so sorry about my laptop by looking at
my son’s
eyes i decided to give him a hug
i say it’s okay it’s okay we let go i’ll
let go of my laptop
i i realized one thing that
that precious seconds is the uh is the
result of my training
like uh instead of fenting my anger at
my son
you know i decided to love him
um you know sometimes as parents we
could be
facing a lot of things with our children
and
sometimes we lost our patient because we
are so
caught up in wanting to get things done
and sometimes our children actually slow
us down
with their sometimes many requests and
demands and things
and the easiest thing for us to do is
just to yell at them
or be angry at them and
my mindfulness practice did uh talk it
teach me to be
a more patient i’m working on it okay
because my son is listening to me i’m
working on it but it helps me
when things get stressful for me
and before i react i try to slow down
i try to stop for a moment and that
moment that
mindfulness moment when i took my breath
the rule of thumb is to do it three
times you know
when you are angry you take you breathe
in
you breathe out you breathe in
you breathe out then
for one last time you breathe in
you breathe out and your anger subsides
try this at home thank you for listening
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