JUST DO IT A Discussion on Motivation

when i was young my father would always

push me

no matter the situation or the

circumstance i remember

one day my fifth grade math teacher told

me that i was not smart

and i had no hope in passing the

end-of-year exam because i was stupid

now fifth grade me at the time was

feeling embarrassed and overall

horrible of course he had to say this in

front of the whole

entire class making me feel worthless

i didn’t know what to do so i walked

around with my head down and had no

pride in who i was

that night i came crying home to my mom

and dad feeling like a disappointment

and ashamed

my mom and dad looked at me and said

stop you know who you are and you know

how much effort you put into the things

you do and you will not let some teacher

let you think any differently

you are smart and you will pass

that night we got straight to work i

studied and studied and learned more and

more and i would always push myself

and if i didn’t my dad would and don’t

get me wrong sometimes it ended up with

me being annoyed at him and wishing he

would just stop

but he said that is how you become

the best and who doesn’t want to be the

best right

i was still fearful though of what would

happen if my teacher was right

what would happen if all my hard work

was for nothing and i still ended up

disappointing my parents

looking back now i can’t thank my

parents enough for pushing me

because it has turned me into the person

i am today

fearless now this doesn’t mean i don’t

get scared or nervous because believe me

i do

but now i choose to face it head on

oh and by the way i ended up passing

highest in my class that year

by a young age we are faced with the

unknown from when we learn how to walk

talk

and swim all things that are essential

elements and will benefit us in the

future

and if not taught we would be put at a

disadvantage from all the others

as babies we weren’t given the choice to

cower fear was unknown to us back then

now we know what fear and disappointment

are

sometimes they go hand in hand with the

unknown with such a negative connotation

to the word already why this is a

surprise that people stray away from the

unknown

but by not choosing the unknown you’re

depriving yourself of new experiences

and that is exactly why exploring the

unknown is the most valuable thing you

can experience in life

we have all gone through the frustration

of having to pick a movie with our

families

one wants to watch a movie about history

the other one about comedy what about

action and at the end of the day you

waste more time

in picking the movie than actually

watching it but

one day we didn’t argue my dad put on

the movie and me at the time thinking

this was probably going to be the worst

movie ever

me after the movie let’s just say i was

in awe

i was fascinated by the movie i thought

how have i never watched this movie

before and

made me think so much about how life

works and the possibilities of what goes

on in the world

you might even know the movie it’s

called the matrix

and one of the most famous quotes from

this film is the blue

or the red pill that is the choice that

the main character neo faces

the rebel leader morpheus tells him that

if he takes the blue pill

the story will end neil will wake up in

his bed and believe whatever he wants to

believe

but he says if you take the red pill

you will remain in wonderland and i’ll

show you how far the rabbit hole goes

most of us in life would take the blue

pill we choose the illusion of certainty

day after day instead of the chaotic

truth of

change as a consequence facts become

irrelevant and misconceptions and fake

news flourish

taking the red pill will most likely

expose information

you didn’t want to know but

being uneasily doubtful is much better

than being comfortably mistaken

in the end neil picks the red pill he

figures out the truth and he finds out

that he’s been living in a manufactured

world called

the matrix from his clothes to where he

goes to work

all he sees is an illusion designed to

blind him from reality

this is a problem that many teens face

today

for example natalie has many friends

they talk all the time and they’re

always so nice to her

but one day someone comes up to her and

tells her that her friends have been

talking bad behind her back

at first she is shocked she doesn’t know

what to do should she confront her

friends or should she stay

silent in the end she decides not to

believe the truth of the matter

she’s in denial because it is easier for

her to keep on believing that they are

her friends

she is scared she is scared of what will

happen if she confronts them

she’s scared who she will hang out with

because of her fear of the unknown

natalie could have found better friends

if only she had dared to venture into

the unknown

this is not something that can only be

related to teens today

as adults it may be even harder for you

to take risks

some things that could be unknown to

adults could be how to get out of an

abusive relationship

how to ask for a promotion or more

importantly how to ask for a vacation

because we all know that’s a must need

but we start to overthink before we even

ask what if they say no what if i get

fired

what if they think i’m lazy in times

like this i like to think of nike and

don’t laugh at me okay

but just do it just do it you have

so much responsibility and let’s be

honest as adults you aren’t supposed to

make mistakes

teens and kids can make mistakes but not

you you’re supposed to be an expert at

this whole

life thing um yeah no i don’t think so

whoever told you that is probably

struggling way more than you are right

now

but that is the illusion society gives

off

society can play a really big role in

people’s decision-making

society shapes us and decides what

occupation is appropriate for us

how we should look and to whom we should

talk to society shapes us into who they

want

us to be but as evolution shows we are

starting to outgrow

society’s social norms things that were

back then are no longer

now remember that you were born with the

right to have your own beliefs and if

you let society change that you’re no

longer yourself

in past decade many experiments have

shed light on the role

of social norms in influencing

individuals decision making

for example it has been argued that

punishment and emotion are two

key factors involved with norm

compliance

so now you might be thinking that

choosing the unknown will always turn

out good right

no that is not always true but many

people do overlook a key

element learning though it may not have

been the best experience

you ended up learning so now if that

situation were ever to come back again

you know what to do the second time

around you know not to make the same

mistakes

the people that choose the safe path

wouldn’t they would keep on making the

same mistakes

over and over again the greatest enemy

of knowledge is not ignorance as the

late stephen hawking said

it is the illusion of knowledge the

illusion of knowledge closes our ears

and blocks off outside sources of

incoming experiences

don’t let pride get in the way of you

experiencing new things it’s okay not to

know how to handle a problem

i know there were many times in my life

where i didn’t know what to do and i was

afraid to make mistakes

until mr clegg a wise teacher of mine

told me

sin boldly make mistakes that is how you

will become better

what i took away from that was if you’re

willing to fail

or maybe be disappointed in the end you

will learn

so now some of you might be wanting to

take a step forward and start exploring

the unknown

while the other half of you are just

ready to leave or and hear another

talk but to those who maybe want to

start exploring the unknown

but don’t know how an article by saw in

westbrook

says the three brain regions implicated

with fear conditioning and extinction

are the amygdala

the prefrontal cortex and the

hippocampus the article also says

extinction of fear occurs when the

association between the condition

and unconditioned stimuli is broken by

repeated presentation of the conditioned

stimuli

basically what it is saying is that in

order to break your fear of the unknown

or anything in general you must repeat

it over and over again

until you are no longer triggered by it

and it becomes normal

so whenever you get the chance to

venture onto the untraveled path

take it for that is the only way to

break the fear

in the end you can’t learn how to deal

with life problems just by reading a

book

only by going out and exploring the

unknown will you truly

understand just like anamore limburg

says and yet it is the unknown with all

its disappointments and surprises that

is the most

enriching and that is precisely why

exploring the unknown is the most

valuable thing you can experience in

life

thank you

小时候不管遇到什么情况,爸爸总是

逼着我

我记得

有一天五年级的数学老师告诉

我,我不聪明

,我没有希望通过

年终考试,因为我是 愚蠢的

现在五年级的我当时

感到尴尬和整体

可怕当然他不得不在

全班同学面前说这让我觉得一文不值

我不知道该怎么做所以我低着头走来

走去 那天晚上我不为

自己的身份感到骄傲,

我哭着回家给

爸爸妈妈感到失望

和羞愧

我的爸爸妈妈看着我说

停止,你知道你是谁,你知道

你为你所做的事情付出了多少努力

做,你不会让一些老师

让你有任何不同的想法

你很聪明,你会通过

那天晚上我们直接上班我

学习,学习,学得越来越

多,我总是会逼迫自己

,如果我不这样做,我爸爸 不会

误会我的意思 有时最后

我对他很生气,希望他

能停下来,

但他说这就是你如何

成为最好的,谁不想成为最好的,

我仍然害怕

如果我的老师是会发生什么

是的,如果我所有的努力

都白费了,我最终还是

让我的父母失望

了,现在回想起来,我不能感谢我的

父母足够多的鼓励我,

因为它让我变成了

今天的我,

现在无所畏惧。 这意味着我

不会害怕或紧张,因为相信

我,

但现在我选择正面面对它

哦,顺便说一句,

我在那年以全班最高的成绩

通过了我们年轻的时候我们面临的

未知数 当我们学会走路

说话

和游泳时,所有这些都是必不可少的

元素,并且将来会使我们受益

,如果不被教导,我们将在婴儿时期

处于不利地位,

我们没有选择畏缩恐惧的选择。

那时我们不知道

现在我们知道 w 恐惧和失望有时是什么,

它们与

未知并驾齐驱,对这个词有如此负面的含义

为什么这是一个

惊喜,人们远离

未知,

但不选择未知,你

剥夺了自己新的体验

这就是为什么探索

未知是你

在生活中能体验到的最有价值的事情

我们都经历过

不得不和家人一起挑选电影的挫败感

一个人想看一部关于历史

的电影另一部关于喜剧的电影呢

? 归根结底,你

花在挑选电影上的时间比实际看电影还要多

,但

有一天我们并没有争辩说我爸爸放

了这部电影,我当时认为

这可能是我有史以来最糟糕的

电影

看完电影让我们说我

很敬畏

我被这部电影迷住了我想

我以前从未看过这部电影

让我对生活的

运作方式和可能性有了很多思考

关于世界上发生的事情,

你甚至可能知道这部电影

叫做矩阵

,这部电影中最著名的引语之一

是蓝色

或红色药丸,这

是主角 Neo

面对叛军领袖 morpheus 告诉他的选择

如果他服用蓝色

药丸,故事将结束 尼尔会在

床上醒来,相信他想相信的任何东西,

但他说如果你服用红色药丸,

你将留在仙境,我会

告诉你兔子洞有多远

我们生活中的大多数人都会服用蓝色

药丸 我们日复一日选择确定性的幻觉,

而不是变化的混乱

真相,

结果事实变得

无关紧要,误解和假

新闻盛行

服用红色药丸很可能会

暴露

你没有的信息 不想知道,

但心存疑虑

总比舒服地

误会要好得多。最终尼尔摘下了红色

药丸,他发现了真相,他

发现他一直生活在一个人造的

世界

称矩阵从他的衣服到他

去工作的地方

他所看到的只是一种幻觉,旨在使

他对现实视而不见

这是当今许多青少年面临的问题,

例如娜塔莉有很多朋友,

他们一直在交谈,而且他们

总是 对她太好了,

但有一天有人上前

告诉她,她的朋友一直

在背后说她坏话

,起初她很震惊,她不知道

该怎么做才能面对她的

朋友,或者她应该保持

沉默 最后,她决定不

相信她否认的事情的真相,

因为

她更容易继续相信他们是

她的朋友

她害怕她害怕

如果她面对他们会发生什么

她害怕她会和谁一起出去玩

因为她对未知的恐惧,

娜塔莉本可以找到更好的朋友

,只要她敢于冒险

进入未知世界,

这不仅仅是

今天的青少年,

作为成年人,它可能更难 你

去冒险

一些

成年人可能不知道的事情可能是如何摆脱

虐待关系

如何要求升职或更

重要的是如何要求休假,

因为我们都知道这是必须的,

但我们开始过度思考 在我们甚至

问如果他们说不怎么办如果我被

解雇

怎么办如果他们认为我在这种时候很懒惰

我喜欢想到耐克,

不要嘲笑我,好吧

,只要去做就行了

很多责任,

老实说,作为成年人,你不应该

犯错误

青少年和孩子会犯错误,但不是

你,你应该是

辈子的专家嗯是的,不,我不这么认为,

不管是谁告诉你的 这可能

比你现在更挣扎,

但这是社会散发出的幻想

社会可以在人们的决策中发挥非常重要的作用

社会塑造我们并决定什么

职业适合我们

我们应该如何看待以及我们对谁 应该

与社会对话 ety将我们塑造成他们希望我们成为的人

,但随着进化表明,我们

开始超越

社会的社会规范,当时的事物

现在不再

记得你生来

就有拥有自己信仰的权利,如果

你让社会改变 在过去的十年里,你

不再是你自己

许多实验

揭示

了社会规范在影响

个人决策中的作用

,例如,有人认为

惩罚和情绪是

规范遵守的两个关键因素,

所以现在你可能在想

选择未知的东西

总是好的,对

不对,这并不总是正确的,但是很多

人确实忽略了学习的关键

要素,尽管这可能不是

你最终学习的最佳体验

,所以现在如果这种

情况再次出现,

你 知道第二次该做什么

知道不要犯同样的

错误

选择安全道路的

人不会继续犯

同样的错误

一次又一次的错误

知识的最大敌人不是无知,正如

已故斯蒂芬霍金所说,

这是知识的

幻觉 你

经历新事物 不

知道如何处理问题没关系

我知道在我的生活中有很多次

我不知道该做什么,我

害怕犯错误,

直到我的一位明智的老师克莱格先生

告诉我

罪 大胆地犯错误,这就是你

会变得更好的方法

我从中学到的就是如果你

愿意失败

或者最终可能会感到失望,你

会学到的,

所以现在你们中的一些人可能想要

向前迈出一步并开始探索

未知,

而你们中的另一半只是

准备离开或听另一场

谈话,但对于那些可能想

开始探索未知

但不知道威斯布鲁克的一篇文章如何

说三脑规则的人

与恐惧条件反射和消退有关的离子

是杏仁核

、前额叶皮层和

海马体。文章还说

,当

条件

和非条件刺激之间的关联被条件刺激的

反复呈现而破坏时,恐惧就会消失,

基本上它所说的是在

为了打破你对未知

事物或任何一般事物的恐惧,你必须

一遍又一遍地重复它,

直到你不再被它触发

并且它变得正常,

所以每当你有机会

冒险走上未走过的道路时,就把

它当作那是 最终

打破恐惧

的唯一方法你不能

仅仅通过阅读一本书来学习如何处理生活问题

只有走出去探索

未知你才能真正

理解就像anamore limburg

所说的那样,但它是所有的未知

它的失望和惊喜

是最

丰富的,这正是为什么

探索未知是

你最有价值的事情 可以在

生活中体验

谢谢