The Positive Generator
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good evening everybody i’m here to talk
about
a story which started when i was four
years old
so when i was four years old my mom
approached me with a very serious face
and as all four-year-olds boywood i just
had a big smile on my face i didn’t know
what was happening i was just hoping for
candy
so when that happened i she just told me
three words which went through my mind
so those three words were that she has
cancer
so when those words just went through my
mind i didn’t really know what to do
because i was still for i didn’t know
what cancer was and my evidence to that
i think i’m just unsure i think i used
to call it canker or something
and that’s my evidence that i had no
idea whatsoever what cancer was
so then i didn’t really
know what to do and it wasn’t a problem
for that long
as she got cured but then last year
she got cancer again so when that
happened
i wasn’t that four-year-old boy anymore
i knew what to do
so but at first there were two helens
the old trainer than the new one so the
old one
he he was in extreme devastation he was
extremely depressed
and what wasn’t helping was thinking of
the ifs
for example what if my brother gets
cancer what if my father gets cancer
what if i get cancer and even worse what
if i lose her
so these ideas just kept on going
through my mind and as they went through
in and out it was just exploding my mind
and something which wasn’t doing my mom
any favors
was asking me i was asking her how can i
help
so i know most people will say no asking
her how i
how can i help is actually helping but
it’s not
because that that’s going to make her
think about me every day
on how can i help that’s first of all
second of
all it’s going to make her feel pity for
me or worried for me
but then in that same day where i
realized that i was not helping
whatsoever
i just went to the mirror and i said
okay i need to change
i’m not helping and i’m not i’m not
happy
and i’m not making her happy so instead
i shine the light on the new hell just
like the light going through my eyes
right now
so i learned from the uh from the old
khalid
not to think of the ifs and not ask how
to help
so the new khalid focused on three main
things
help before she needs it distract and
cheer her up
so the help before she needs it for
example i used to do the dishes
i used to get all the plates and all the
forks and put it beside the sink
and go to my brother and be like okay
can you please do these things i’m kind
of too lazy and i have no idea how to do
it whatsoever
so please just do it for me so he swift
over there and he do it
because that’s how kind my brother is
another thing
i used to distract her i know i get that
a lot
it’s just for the stage really
so another thing i used to do was
distract her so i used to distract her
by
playing any game that she loved in face
10
and i used to play face 10 because that
was her favorite
card game and until now i still play it
with her because i really liked the game
so even if she wasn’t up for it i didn’t
force her i just convinced her
for example i i really i
i’m very convincing and i’m very good at
persuading people for example
can anyone raise their phone please
okay that that’s how persuading i am i
know
it’s magical
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so the last point i used to do to help
was to cheer her up so i just bond with
her or help her
or do anything i could for example i
used to tell her
very very funny but still annoying jokes
and i’d explain it afterwards
and sorry something’s on my throat
so after i do that i just say that i’ll
explain it and that’s the end
um and after that i used to smile around
her i know people would say
smiling doesn’t help smiling is just
something you do
if you’re happy but that’s not true
smiling really helps and it’s extremely
effective as small as a smile may seem
it’s going to make that person feel
super happy
around you and even if you ask me
how i know that smiling really helped i
was recently awarded by my mother
the positive generator and thank you