Power of a click
several
several years ago really very many years
ago
as my son says during dinosaur era
i had my first experience with my job
interview
and at that time it wasn’t called the
environment interview there were no
announcements nothing like that
it was more of a word of the mouth that
you heard
there is some opening so here i am
hearing that there is a job opening in
one of the us-based organizations in
umri
and i’m getting completely ready for the
conversation
and while i’m going there 18-year-old
girl
with absolutely no work experience but
with
huge desire to work because i needed to
support my education and my family
there were couple of sentences ticking
my mind
first of all everything will be okay
secondly if i do good on the interview
the job is mine
third if i don’t get the job it means
somebody else was much better than
myself
with this very affirmative and very
smart sentences in my head
i entered the room and the guy started
to ask
questions the more i was answering the
questions
the more confident i would become i was
completely sure the job is mine
i mean it like in the movies you see
like the confidence is ticking
up up up and i’m completely sure the job
is mine
but interesting thing happened the more
i was answering the questions the more
angry
irritated nervous the guy would become
and i i frankly i don’t know what’s
going on but with the last
answer to his last question in a very
loud voice
all of a sudden the guy asks me why you
didn’t come
10 minutes earlier i’m like i’m sorry i
came only now
i mumbled something i don’t know what’s
what’s wrong what’s going on
completely ignoring my mumbling he again
asked the same question
even in a higher voice no why you didn’t
come 10 minutes earlier
i already shocked but demanded an answer
okay
what’s wrong and then he tells me
something
which completely crashes me down he told
me
ten minutes before you came i received
the call
from my friend who asked me to hire
a daughter of his friend some city
official
and i promised to hire her so marianna
you did good thank you bye-bye i cannot
hire you
i left the room completely devastated
i was crying the whole way angry at the
whole world
at that guy who at least could have the
courtesy not tell me the truth
at that girl who were good enough to
have some father who would call
but most important i was angry at my
parents
i came home i called them losers
i said you’re losers you don’t know
anybody in this town that at least
somebody would call for
me just two months after that
my university teacher recommended me to
work in peace corps
and the experience to working with peace
corps volunteers gave me
important life skills that i would never
ever learn anywhere else and this is
don’t be afraid of anything
please speak up it is okay to make
mistakes
it is okay to have your opinion and it
is okay
for multitasking we were doing tons of
things
but most important what i’m grateful to
my peace corps volunteer
he once called me in and shows me
something really big
he says what is this do you know i said
no says this is pc
i’m like okay what is pc he says this is
personal computer
okay what the hell is this he says well
this is something that will make the
life
of the people easier in the future and
this huge thing
is switched on by one button okay you
need to remember i did not understand
anything but i kept in my mind okay
there is a button that switches this
thing
on and in just a couple of months after
that the whole
jumery was shocked by the information
that there is an opening in another u.s
based organization
a salary of 170 dollars in 1995
most of you are not even born that time
so you need to realize it’s a huge
amount of money
and i’m there i already count myself but
i still was negative i scolded to my
parents i said well
i know i will not pass so i’m going
there the interview is there
and all of a sudden they ask me do you
know what pc
is can you imagine my happiness at that
moment
i think i was shining all over yay i
know what this is
he said okay can you do something i said
i can switch it on
and that was very important so i
switched it on
i typed my name for 20 minutes i think
and then answered other questions and
left home
and all of a sudden i’m receiving a call
that i am the one
hired they called me to the office
you can imagine i did not go there i ran
there i
flew there i’m reaching the office and
the guys are asking me
brianna do you want to know why are you
hired i’m like
it doesn’t matter but yes please tell me
and they tell me
well mainly three reasons okay your
english was good
you were the only one who at least saw
computer in her life
but most important out of so many
participants
you were the only one who nobody called
and asked to hire her
i remember that moment of my life so
vividly because at that moment i
realized
one thing i failed the exam
of life all this time the life was
teaching me that
it is okay if something bad happens
it is okay if something injust happens
it is okay because if i got that job
i would mean miss this one who was much
more paid
i would not work in peace corps and
learn so many skills that helped me even
up to now
and i failed and the lesson learned
you can call it an importance to be
positive
you can call it necessity to be
proactive
i call it a power of a clique
what is the moment you click and stop
and you need to realize this clicking
yourself
the stopping yourself is owned
and controlled only by you
and there are four main things of course
you can google about google about that
and there are tons of research
but the first one is you need to realize
you are being negative
you need to be honest with yourself at
this
very moment secondly please
make the inventory of your thoughts and
of your words
and please keep in mind i’m not telling
you what to think or what to speak
you are all grown up i’m urging you to
make the inventory of the words
and thoughts you are using all the time
these are the ones who control you
and when you make the list then you will
be able to understand
which parts you actually need in your
life
the third one is please please stop
playing the victim role it has never
ever helped anybody to get anywhere
see the moment you play victim you start
pitying yourself
your body is in the standby position
your mind
is not moving you know why because he
doesn’t have to
he knows well i’m pd
myself wow i’m a bad girl they treated
me badly
okay live with that go
only then you can move forward
and the fourth one please take the
responsibility
please feel your part in the whole story
they say reactive people are the ones
who are like actors who play the lines
written for them by another people so
are you the one
playing somebody else’s lines or you are
the one playing your own story which you
have written yourself see the important
point
is we all turn into positive mode
human nature is that you don’t start in
the negativity
all the time we all move the nuance is
how quickly you switch your button
how quickly you pull the gears and how
quickly you push on the brakes
how quickly you click and how long does
it take you to rebuild
yourself is it a day a month
a year a whole lifetime
and we need this clique for us to go
forward
we had a huge a very prejudiced year
2020 filled with tensions
and all the bad stuff possible and we
are having a very uncertain 2021
and i think we as country and nation
also need this clique
to be able to head to the safe future
we also need this clique to be able to
move forward and to rebuild ourselves
and as today is march 8
and due to clara setkin and other
amazing women we have the power
to celebrate this day and we have
official reason to request
presence and attention i would like to
finish up with a story that happened
back in 2000
when i was attending women empowerment
conference
and i think if my husband ever knew how
many women empowerment conferences i
have ever attended
he would never have married me but now
the moment is gone he cannot throw away
15 years of marriage
so he stuck with me but the thing is
when i was attending one of the
conferences you need to keep in mind 300
people
all talking about women empowerment that
a woman should work
that a woman should be in the leadership
position she should make the decisions
and blah blah blah blah
and all of a sudden one woman stands up
irish woman
and tells literally the following
who said a woman should walk maybe a
woman doesn’t want to walk
maybe she wants to sit at home and take
care of her children
or lay on the beach with ridiculously
expensive
cocktail please stop it a woman should
do whatever she wants
to do the end and with this
in mind my dears i want to really wish
you
may you always have the heart and may
you always have the brains
to do whatever you want to do and this
whatever you want to do will make you
truly and unconditionally
happy thank you