The Power of Positive Disruption

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every single day

we are faced with decisions that can

change the course of our lives

sometimes we make split-second decisions

and other times we have the opportunity

to pause and ask ourselves what do

i really want how do i want to show up

in this world

but often we are so stuck in the chaos

of our daily lives

that all we can do is put a band-aid on

it

and think to ourselves i’ll suck it up

rather than take the risk

to push back or to disrupt

we learn to ignore our higher self

that voice that says this just doesn’t

feel right

and yet if you can be open

and embrace that discomfort it will lead

you

down the path to personal freedom and

it’s the first step

to becoming a positive disrupter

a positive disruptor is someone

who challenges the status quo they look

for positive alternatives

changing the way we think behave

and how we do business how do we become

positive disruptors in our own lives

that is what i would like to share with

you today

three examples from my life

where i unknowingly was setting the

stage

to become a positive disrupter in my own

career

i was 35 years old divorced

mom with three kids and desperate

to find a job to support my family

i dreaded going to job interviews

because i was too ashamed to tell anyone

that i had never gone to college

i landed a job interview with a local

brokerage firm and i convinced the

manager to hire me

even though i knew nothing about stocks

and the only investment i’ve ever owned

was a 25 war bond from my grandpa

i had just talked my way

into a job that i had no idea how i was

going to do it

i was scared but i knew this was a risk

that i had to take in order to support

my family

positive disruptors must be willing

to disrupt their own lives first

to let go of that fear of

i’m not enough i don’t have time

or i’m too old and have the courage

to disrupt their own lives for the

better

i had no idea of what i was in for

i was a mom in training with young

college graduates

and when we were done working they went

out to party

i went home to parenting duties and then

i studied i failed

my securities test to become a

stockbroker

the first time and then i failed it the

second time

i was so embarrassed

and discouraged three strikes and i was

out

if i didn’t pass that test the third

time

there would be no job and i had no idea

of what i would do

it was a moment that i will never forget

we all have moments like that where we

ask ourselves

why am i doing this

i knew my initial why was to feed my

kids

but there was a bigger why pushing me to

take this test again

i wanted that securities license

so i could let go of the shame

that i felt for not going to college

that bigger why gave me the courage

to push through my fear and take that

test again

i learned on christmas eve

that i had passed my test i was so

relieved

to know that that part was finally

behind me positive disruptors

have the courage to disrupt

when they know their why is in alignment

with who they are and who they strive to

be

i was now a official stockbroker

i was handed the tools of my trade a

phone

and a phone book we called that

dialing for dollars we all sat in this

large

area that we called the pit our job

was to call complete strangers and pitch

investment products like stocks and

bonds

the more we sold the more we made

i was the only woman in that pit

and when men made calls people listened

when i made calls they asked are you the

secretary

it was humiliating and no one

not even any of the other stock brokers

took me seriously

my inner voice was nudging me again

telling me to find a better solution

i thought that if i could get in front

of people

i could overcome the challenges of being

a woman

in a male-dominated industry

i thought i’m gonna do public seminars

i was excited about my idea and i went

to tell my boss

and he shot me down he said

who in their right mind would want to

work

all day and then do seminars at night

they’ll only show up for the cookies

i didn’t want to be gone from my

children

all day and at night so i thought

i’ll take them with me they were so

excited

they passed out paper and pencils and

checked everyone in

and the attendees they saw me

balancing my family and my career

and it caused an immediate connection

many of those people became my clients

and are still clients today

i was surprised to learn that within a

year

i was made broker of the year i was just

now

beginning to understand the power of

positive disruption

i was curious about my competition

so i started listening to financial

radio shows

only to discover it was like diving for

dollars all over again

stock brokers offering one size fits all

advice and pushing investment products

to their listeners

without having any idea whatsoever of

what their financial situation was

i knew that this was not the way

to build a sustainable business hosting

seminars had taught me

that clients want to be educated

they want to work with someone that they

trusted i thought to myself

if i ever had a radio show i would never

sell investments on the radio

i would offer education like i had done

in my seminars

you know what they say be careful of

what you ask for

an opportunity came up for me

to pitch my idea to a local radio

station

they loved it i thought that they were

going to pay me

only to find out i had to pay them forty

thousand dollars

now i had to convince my boss

to sponsor the show he said

you mean you want me to pay for a radio

show

and you’re not gonna sell anything do

you think i’m crazy

well i convinced him to let me do that

show for one

year there i was

ready to go on the air and terrified

i thought to myself what are you

thinking you don’t have any broadcast

experience

are you even smart enough will anyone

want to listen i had all these notes

and none of it helped and after a week

i was feeling sick to my stomach and i

thought

if i’m going to do this radio show it

has to be fun

i knew that i had to let go of my fear

of not being smart enough or polished

enough

and i asked myself why are you doing

this radio show

is it for me or is it for my listeners

i realized that i was disrupting

the status quo again because

i believed there was a better way

to serve listeners that desire

to serve was my bigger why

i have been hosting the same radio show

money sense for over 30 years

without ever selling an investment

product on the air

and providing education to my listeners

and my competition they now listen to me

positive disrupters live

by what they trust not by what they fear

fear is a great teacher

it gets our attention when faced with

fear

ask yourself what am i afraid of

what is holding you back if you

can identify the source

then you can work towards making fear

your opportunity

for growth i was finally

feeling financially secure

and good about how i was caring for my

clients

and that all changed in an instant i was

doing a portfolio review

and my client noticed all the

transactions and the commissions that

were generated in his account

and he turned and he looked to me and he

said karen

i know that your kids will go to college

but what about mine that comment

stopped me dead in my tracks

it was true that whether a client did

well

or not stock brokers generated a lot of

commissions

by buying and selling investments

now every time i made a trade in a

client’s account

i heard that voice i know your kids will

go to college

but what about mine not only was i

out of alignment with my values

of integrity and trust and treating

others how i wanted to be treated

but the entire financial industry was

out of alignment

with the values of ethical business

practices

that client was my wake-up call

and when that light went on there was no

turning back

i thought what if i start my own

fee-based financial firm i had seen it

successfully done

in the banking industry it would mean

that i would charge my clients a fee to

manage their investments

rather than charge them a commission

every time

i bought or sold an investment it would

also mean

that i would have to start all over

again

no clients and no income

i had no idea that i was about to cause

the biggest disruption

in my life and to turn the entire

financial industry

upside down no one

not my family or my friends could

understand

why i was willing to disrupt my career

and my financial stability they thought

it was way too risky

my boss said to me no one will pay you a

fee to manage their money

it’s a crazy idea what they didn’t

understand

was that when you know you are

disrupting

for the greater good it doesn’t feel

like risk at all

i believed that i could do business

ethically

and still make a good living

i started my own fee based investment

firm

25 years ago today we have 40 employees

and we manage over a billion dollars of

clients assets

and my daughter julie that little girl

who passed out pencils

she’s now the president of our company

back then i pioneered a shift

in my industry but today financial firms

all over the world are embracing the fee

based model

positive disruptors lead from their

values

they lead with a deeper sense of purpose

every decision they make comes from a

higher level

of integrity and every action

is driven by who they are and what they

stand for

take time to write down your core values

they will continue to remind you of who

you are

and who you want to be in this world

we have all caused disruptions in our

lives

some for the positive and sometimes not

but for the most part we disrupt

unintentionally

without thought what if

we chose to positively disrupt on

purpose

now that would be powerful

if we want to be a catalyst for positive

change

we must let go of our fear of making a

mistake

or of being judged and have the courage

to disrupt our lives for the better

imagine this every time we make a

decision

in our personal life or our business

life

we stop and we ask ourselves am i

leading from my higher self

am i listening to the needs of others am

i serving

the greater good if the answers are

yes then you know it’s a positive

disruption

take the risk to positively disrupt

and together we will make this world a

better place to live

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每天

我们都面临着可能

改变

我们生活进程的决定

在这个世界上,

但我们常常陷入日常生活的混乱

,我们所能做的就是在上面贴上创可贴,

然后对自己想,我会接受它,

而不是

冒险反击或破坏

我们学会忽略我们的高我

,那个说这话的声音

感觉不对

,但如果你能敞开心扉

接受这种不适,它会引导

走上个人自由之路,

这是

成为积极破坏者

的第一步 积极的破坏者是

挑战现状的人 他们

寻找积极的替代方案

改变我们的行为方式

和我们的经商方式 我们如何

在自己的生活中成为积极的破坏者

这就是我今天想与你们分享的

三 我生活

中的例子,我在

不知不觉中为自己的职业生涯做好了准备,

我 35 岁,离异的

妈妈带着三个孩子,迫切

希望找到一份工作来养家糊口

我害怕参加工作面试,

因为我也是 羞于告诉任何

人我从未上过大学

从我的祖父那里,

我刚刚谈了

自己的工作,我不知道我

将如何去做

我很害怕,但我知道这是

我必须承担的风险,以支持

我的家人

积极的破坏者必须愿意

首先扰乱自己的生活

放下对

我不够的恐惧 我没有时间

或我太老 有勇气

为了更好地扰乱自己的生活

我不知道我是什么 因为

我是一个和年轻人一起训练的妈妈

大学毕业生

,当我们完成工作后,他们

出去参加派对

我回家承担育儿职责,然后

我学习 我第一次未能通过

证券测试成为

股票经纪人,第二次我失败了,

我感到非常尴尬

和气馁三 罢工,

如果我第三次没有通过那项测试,

我就出局了 没有工作,我不

知道我会做

什么 这是一个我永远不会忘记的

时刻 我们都有这样的时刻,我们

问自己

我为什么要这样做

我知道我最初的原因是为什么要养活我的

孩子,

但还有一个更大的原因是为什么要推动我

再次参加这项考试

更大的原因让我有勇气

克服恐惧并

再次参加考试

我在圣诞节前夕

得知我已经通过了考试 我很

欣慰

地知道那部分终于

在我身后 积极的破坏者

有勇气

破坏 他们知道他们的原因

与他们是谁以及他们努力

成为谁是一致的

我现在是一名正式的

股票经纪人 我得到了我交易的工具

一部电话和一本我们称之为

拨打美元的电话簿 我们都坐在这个

广阔的

区域 我们称之为坑我们的工作

是打电话给完全陌生的人并推销

诸如股票和债券之类的投资产品

我们卖的越多我们赚的越多

我是那个坑中唯一的女人

当男人打电话时人们听

我打电话他们问的是 你这个

秘书太丢人了,没有人

甚至其他任何股票经纪人

都没有认真对待

我我内心的声音再次轻推我

告诉我找到更好的解决方案

我想如果我能站在人们面前

我可以克服挑战 作为

一个男性主导行业的女性

我想我要参加公开研讨会

我对我的想法很兴奋,我

去告诉我的老板

,他拒绝了我,他说

谁在他们的头脑中会想

工作 我白天然后晚上做研讨会

他们只会出现在饼干上

纸和铅笔,并

检查了每个

人和与会者,他们看到我

平衡了我的家庭和我的职业

,这引起了直接的联系,

其中许多人成为我的客户

,今天仍然是客户

我很惊讶地得知在

一年内

我成为了经纪人 那一年,我刚刚

开始了解积极颠覆的力量,

我对自己的竞争感到好奇,

所以我开始收听金融

广播节目

,却发现这就像再次为美元跳水,

股票经纪人提供一刀切的

建议和 在

知道他们的财务状况的情况下向他们的听众推销投资产品

我知道这

不是建立可持续业务举办

研讨会的方式哈 d 告诉我

,客户希望接受教育,

他们希望与他们

信任的

人合作

他们说的小心

你要求

的机会让我

向他们喜欢的当地广播电台推销我的

想法我以为他们

会付钱给

我却发现我现在不得不付给他们

四万美元

我不得不说服我的

老板赞助这个节目,他说

你的意思是你要我为一个广播节目付费,

而你不会卖任何东西

你认为我疯

了吗我说服他让我

为一个节目做这个节目

在那一年我

准备好播出并且害怕

我心想你在

想什么你没有任何广播

经验你是否足够聪明会有人

想听我有所有这些

笔记但没有任何帮助和之后 一个星期

我感到恶心 肚子,我

如果我要做这个广播节目,

那一定很有趣

是为了我还是为了我的听众

我意识到我再次破坏

了现状,因为

我相信有更好的方式

来服务听众,

服务的愿望是我更大的原因为什么

我一直在主持同一个广播节目的

金钱意识 30 年

来从未

在广播中出售投资产品

并向我的听众

和我的竞争对手提供教育他们现在在听我

积极的破坏者

以他们信任的东西而不是他们害怕的东西生活

恐惧是一位伟大的老师

当面对恐惧时它会引起我们的注意

问问自己,我害怕

什么阻碍了你如果你

能确定来源,

那么你就可以努力让恐惧成为

你成长的

机会 ng 为我的

客户

,一切都在瞬间发生了变化

会去上大学,

但是我的那条评论

让我陷入了僵局

我听到这个声音,我知道你的孩子

会上大学,

但我的呢?我不仅不

符合我

的正直和信任价值观,也不以

我希望的方式对待他人,

而且整个金融业都

与 道德商业

实践

的价值观 客户是我的

警钟 当那盏灯亮起时没有

回头路

我想如果我创办自己的

收费金融公司会怎样 我已经看到了 在银行业

取得成功

意味着我将向我的客户收取管理他们投资的费用,

而不是

每次

我购买或出售投资时向他们收取佣金,这

意味着我将不得不重新开始

不 客户和没有收入

我不知道我即将对我的生活

造成最大的破坏

并颠覆整个

金融业 除了

我的家人或我的朋友之外没有人能

理解

我为什么愿意破坏我的职业

和财务 稳定 他们认为

这太冒险了

我的老板对我说没有人会付钱给你

管理他们的钱

这是一个疯狂的想法 他们不

明白的

是,当你知道你

为了更大的利益而破坏时,它不会 觉得自己

有风险

我相信我可以在

道德上做生意

并且仍然过上好日子

我在 25 年前创办了自己的收费投资

公司

今天我们有 40 名员工

,我们管理着超过 10 亿 美元的

客户资产

和我的女儿朱莉,那个

散发铅笔的小女孩,

她现在是我们公司的总裁,

那时我开创

了我所在行业的转变,但今天

世界各地的金融公司都在接受

基于收费的模式,

积极的颠覆者从他们的

他们以更深层次的使命感引领价值观

他们做出的每一个决定都来自

更高层次

的诚信,每一个行动

都由他们是谁以及他们所代表的东西驱动

花时间写下你的核心价值观

他们会继续提醒你谁

在这个世界上,你是谁,你想成为什么样的人,

我们都对我们的生活造成了干扰,

有些是积极的,有时不是,

但在大多数情况下,我们无意中破坏了,

没有想过如果

我们现在选择故意积极地破坏,

那将是强大的

如果我们想成为积极变革的催化剂,

我们必须放下对犯错

或被评判的恐惧,并

有勇气破坏 让你的生活变得更美好

每当

我们在个人生活或商业

生活中做出决定时

,我们都会停下来问自己,我是否

从更高的自我中引导

我是否倾听他人的需求,如果

我正在

为更大的利益服务 答案是

肯定的,那么您就知道这是一种积极的

破坏

冒着积极破坏的风险,

我们将共同让这个世界成为一个

更宜居的地方