five years ago

at the age of 25 i graduated from

university

i had two comlada degrees in my hand had

studied in five countries of this world

pursued

six internships on four continents and

spoke five languages

and yet when standing there in my

playground

and receiving this ultimate reward for

my hard work

i fed rather now where was the special

sense of fulfillment

i had been longing for

and this feeling of numbness didn't go

away as i entered the workspace

my view was clouded i felt disoriented

and lost at times

so i did what i was used to i just

jumped at the next goal

and without even thinking about it i

knew i wanted to work my way up from

assistant to manager

and though i liked my job it was

interesting and i learned a lot

i still did not feel this welfare

back in university it had all seemed so

simple

hard work and good grades would

translate into a satisfactory job

a successful career and ultimately

fulfillment

but now i was just standing there and

thinking to myself that's it

i just work my way up until i retire

and then one day it hit me

for years i'd been running from goal to

goal from achievement to achievement

without ever pausing and thinking about

the why

i got plenty of goals whatever i set my

mind to

i did it and succeeded checked the box

i really was the checkbox queen

but did i ever question the deeper

meaning behind the pursuits of these

goals

their relevance and importance

and would they eventually complete

i started to look for advice and came

across

simon sinek you probably

all know him because his ted talk start

with right

is one of the most watched in history

his argument as a leader if you want to

inspire people to take action

you need to communicate your why

people don't buy what you do they buy

why you do it

his golden circle says you first need to

look at the y

then at the hou and then i do what

now i had to admit to myself

i'd always started with the what pursuit

these two coming out of the place

then i looked into how study very hard

and only now was i looking at the why

but if i wanted to continue to motivate

myself

i needed to be clear about my worry and

in my

why only not that of friends society

or family

now why do you think this ted talk is

one of the most watched in history

there are probably many reasons but

surely one of them is

that people want to know their why we

want to know our purpose

because it gives us guidance and

orientation in life

and having a purpose is good

studies prove that people with a purpose

a deeper meaning and sense of direction

remains stronger and healthier as they

grow older

and have a lower risk of death

other studies suggest that

the purpose makes you happier and

increases

your creativity and productivity at work

now why is it then i wonder that when i

reached out to people as part of my

self-discovery journey

and asked them about their why more

often than not

they could not tell me why they were

doing what they were doing and what they

wanted to do with their life

in fact quite a few even seemed

irritated and angry

when they realized they could not give

me an

answer to my question and there's an

interesting study in that regard that

shows

that of participants of different ages

those at the age of 60 are most likely

to say your life has a purpose

sixty now that leaves me with the

personal impression

that people have a hard time finding

their why but do they ever look for it

because just like anything in life

really

when it comes to your partnership

friendship or job

you have an impact on the outcome you

can create those opportunities that may

lead

to the lawful success that you're

looking for

we just need to permit ourselves to be

in charge of our life

and of finding our calling

now there might be a few people in the

crowd now that would tell me sir

you know what i always wanted to travel

the world i wanted to go down under

that's how i will find my purpose

now let me tell you i don't think you

will find your purpose

picking apples on an australian farm

nor do i think you need to quit your job

and

leave your city you can find it

right here right now if you just dare to

be vulnerable

and honest with yourself

now people always told me your passion

leads you to your purpose

the things that come easy that you

really enjoy doing

and while that might be the case

for me it was rather the really

difficult moments the challenging and

hurtful ones that i would want to forget

about

it could be the moment when your partner

passes away after many years of sickness

when you lose your job for which you

have worked for such a long time

or you're just tremendously sad

because a friend has disappointed you

now why this is not the ultimate

conclusion or hard truth this is just me

trying to make sense of my experiences

so allow me to tell you my story

when i entered the workspace as a young

ambitious woman full of energy

and ideas to put into practice i faced

so many challenges and setbacks related

to my gender

and it was frustrating to realize that

competence and performance

do not always translate into the success

or the recognition that we believe we

deserve

and i remember that aha moment that

looking back

is when i found my purpose

i was driving in the car with some of my

colleagues

and one of my main colleagues

confidently pitched an idea

that took me some courage but i did the

same just so one of my female colleagues

could tell me sir that's good but please

don't be so bossy this time

at first i was confused

then i was sad but soon my sadness

turned into anger

because i realized how much potential is

wasted in our society

because it imposes artificial barriers

on the confidence of women because if we

want to unleash our potential

we need to be our authentic self

yet too many women hold themselves back

because they feel they don't fit in the

environment that you operate in

now these experiences have taught me how

strongly i feel about

bringing about change in business and

society

and how much i care about helping the

women following me

to overcome similar obstacles and help

them

become the confident and resilient woman

they all are

early on in their career

and what better way is there than

writing down

my story and experiences

that's why i co-wrote the book unleash

today

to share my stories and turn my pain

into the healing for others

and frankly writing down my stories

helped me to make sense of my

experiences

and i can only recommend this to all of

you to do the same

now what constitutes a meaningful goal

and purpose is deeply personal

and finding your purpose can take years

it is a self-discovery journey that can

even take a lifetime

it can also change over time and it

doesn't matter

if you do not always feel like the

puzzle pieces

fit together perfectly what is important

though

is that you dare is that you

dare to put yourself out there to go out

of your comfort zone

and to expose yourself to risk

is that you dare to embrace those

difficult

those frightening and fearful moments

because they will teach you about your

values and your boundaries

and may ultimately lead you to your

purpose

and having a purpose is beautiful it's

like a

compass that guides you and

assists you in setting goals and plans

and allows you eventually to unleash

your potential

so don't go the easy vote

now i still run from goal to goal

from achievement to achievement but i

pause

and think about the why i still want

that successful career

just quit my job i moved to china

embraced the new professional challenge

and i'm learning my sixth language

although i shall admit

i cannot take that box just yet

but all of my goals are linked to my

purpose

and i'm deeply personal to me

i carefully considered why i wanted to

move here why i started a new job

and why i'm learning a sex language

and starting with why finally

makes me feel fulfilled

thank you

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五年前

，我 25 岁时大学毕业

，我手里拿着两个 comlada 学位，

曾在世界上五个国家学习过，

在四大洲进行过六次实习，会

说五种语言

，然而当我站在我的

操场上

，接受这个终极 对

我辛勤工作的奖励我

现在得到了我一直渴望的特殊

成就感在

我进入工作区时这种麻木感并没有消失

我的视线被遮住了我有时会感到迷失方向

和迷失

所以我做到了 我已经习惯了，我只是

跳入下一个目标

，甚至没有考虑它我

知道我想从

助理到经理

，虽然我喜欢我的工作，但它很

有趣，我学到了很多

我仍然没有感觉

回到大学的这种福利，一切似乎都是那么

简单的

努力和好成绩将

转化为一份令人满意的工作，

一个成功的职业生涯并最终

实现，

但现在我只是站在那里，

对自己想就是这样，

我只是努力工作直到退休

，然后有一天它打击了

我多年 我

下定决心，

我做到了，并成功选中了复选框

在

simon sinek 你可能

都认识他，因为他的 ted 演讲

以正确开头

是历史上最受关注的演讲之一

如果你想

激励人们采取行动，

你需要传达你为什么

人们不买你的东西 他们买

你为什么这样做

他的黄金圈说你首先需要

看y

然后看hou然后我做什么

现在我不得不对自己承认

我总是从追求

这两个c开始 离开这个地方，

然后我研究了如何非常努力地学习

，直到现在我才知道为什么，

但是如果我想继续激励

自己，

我需要清楚我的担心，我

为什么不知道朋友社会

或

现在的家人 为什么你认为这个 ted 演讲是

历史上最受关注的演讲之一

可能有很多原因，但

其中一个肯定

是人们想知道他们为什么我们

想知道我们的目的，

因为它给了我们

生活中的指导和方向

有目的是

好的 现在在工作，

为什么会这样，我想知道

当我在

自我发现之旅中

与人们接触并询问他们的原因时，他们往往

无法告诉我为什么 嘿，

他们正在做他们正在做的事情，他们

想做的

事情实际上

，

当他们意识到他们无法回答我的问题时，他们甚至看起来很恼火和生气，

并且

在这方面有一项有趣的研究

表明 不同年龄的参与者

60 岁的人最有

可能说你的生活现在有了目标

60 这给我的

个人印象

是人们很难找到

自己的原因，但他们是否曾经寻找它，

因为就像任何事情一样 在生活中

真的

当涉及到你的伙伴关系

友谊或工作时

你会对结果产生影响你

可以创造那些可能

导致你正在寻找的合法成功的机会

我们只需要允许

自己负责我们的生活

现在找到我们的呼唤

现在人群中可能有几个人

会告诉我先生

你知道我一直想

环游世界我想去下面

这就是我的方式 现在我会找到我的

目的让我告诉你我不认为你

会

在澳大利亚农场摘苹果找到你的目的

我也不认为你需要辞掉工作

离开你的城市你

现在可以在这里找到它如果你只是 敢于对

自己脆弱

和诚实

现在人们总是告诉我你的热情

会引导你达到你的目标

那些你

真正喜欢做

的容易的事情虽然

对我来说可能是这样但真正

困难的时刻充满挑战和

伤害 我想忘记

的可能是你的

伴侣在多年病后去世的那

一刻，你失去了

你工作了这么长时间的工作，

或者你只是

因为朋友的失望而感到非常难过 你

现在为什么这不是最终的

结论或确凿的事实这只是我

试图理解我的经历

所以请允许我告诉你

当我作为一个年轻的雄心勃勃的女性进入工作区时的故事

充满活力

和想法付诸实践 我面临着

许多与我的性别有关的挑战和挫折

，我

很沮丧地意识到

能力和表现

并不总是转化为

我们认为我们应得的成功或认可

，我记得啊哈 回首往事的那一刻，

当我找到我的目标时

，我和我的一些同事一起开车，我的

一个主要同事

自信地提出了一个

让我鼓起勇气的想法，但我也这样做了，

只是为了让我的一位女

同事知道 先生，这很好，但

这次请不要那么专横

，一开始我很困惑，

然后我很伤心，但很快我的悲伤

变成了愤怒，

因为我意识到

我们的社会浪费了多少潜力，

因为它对人们的信心施加了人为的障碍

女性，因为如果我们

想释放自己的潜力，

我们需要做真实的自己，

但太多的女性

因为觉得自己不适合

环境而退缩 你

现在工作的这些经历告诉我，

我对

带来商业和社会变革的感觉有

多么强烈，我多么关心帮助

跟随我

的女性克服类似的障碍，帮助

她们

成为自信和有韧性的女人，

她们都是

在他们职业生涯的早期，

还有什么比

写下

我的故事和经历更好的方式，

这就是为什么我与人共同撰写了今天释放的这本书

来分享我的故事，并将我的痛苦

转化为对他人的治愈

，坦率地说，写下我的故事

帮助我 理解我的

经历

，我现在只能向你们所有人推荐这一点

它也会随着时间的推移而改变，

如果你不总是觉得

拼图

完美地结合在一起也没关系，重要的

是你敢 是你

敢于把自己放在那里

走出你的舒适区

，让自己暴露在风险

中是你敢于拥抱那些

困难的

那些可怕和恐惧的时刻，

因为它们会教你关于你的

价值观和你的界限，

并最终可能会导致 你有你的

目标

，有一个目标是美丽的，它

就像一个

指南针，引导你并

帮助你设定目标和计划，

并让你最终释放

你的潜力，

所以不要轻易投票，

现在我仍然从一个目标跑到另一个

目标 成就对成就，但我

停下

来思考为什么我仍然

想要成功的职业

只是辞掉工作我搬到中国

接受了新的职业挑战

，我正在学习我的第六语言

虽然我承认

我现在还不能接受那个盒子

但是 我所有的目标都与我的目标有关，

而且我对我来说非常个人化

我仔细考虑了为什么我想

搬到这里为什么我开始一份新工作

以及为什么我要学习性爱 l 语言

和开始为什么最终

让我感到满足

谢谢