An Elevated Talk On Race

how many elevator rides

do you recall

maybe because the small town of idabel

oklahoma

where i grew up only had one elevator

that i knew of

i can still recall my first

elevator ride but for the most part

elevator rides are uneventful

and not newsworthy there may be

music that plays in the background a

polite

obligatory hello if someone joins you

we’ve all had the experience of being in

an awkward position when the stranger

it’s on the elevator and wants to have a

full-blown conversation

that feels weird because there is a code

to

ride in an elevator you get on

get quiet and get off

and because most people abide by that

code most

elevator rides aren’t newsworthy

but i would like to share with you a

story of an elevator ride

so significant that the impact of it is

still being felt

100 years later and upon closer

examination there are some

lessons around emotional intelligence

that have been missed and that

is a problem so allow me to be

your elevator operator of sorts

and together we’ll make some new

discoveries and perhaps

change some perspective

to begin we’re going to go underground

we’re headed into the basement now it

gets a little

darker here and for that reason not a

lot of people

like to go but the truth is

you wouldn’t appreciate the light

if it were not for the darkness

so watch your step as you get off

the smoke makes it difficult to see

and the embers can still cause

degrees of burn you find yourself

in the middle of 34 blocks

of destruction ruined

burned to the ground churches

schools businesses

homes and even people

set aflame

now sadness would be a

fitting emotion if mother nature

was the culprit but this was done

this destruction was at the hands of men

who were emotionally unintelligent

who suffered from perception bias

who were fearful and

they lacked some facts

today it’s known as simply tulsa

but where you’re standing was once known

as the greenwood district

black wall street an area thriving

an area in such abundance and affluence

that it was called

the black wall street the years 1921

and you have men and women who are one

generation removed from slavery

who through collaboration resilience

and effort decided

to be personally responsible for the

lives that they wanted to live

and through those pioneers

greatness was the experience

study the pioneers of the greenwood

district

and it is a master class in emotional

intelligence

self-reliance responsibility

awareness motivation

social skill and empathy

so what happened why are we standing

here

in the ruins instead of experiencing

more of this area’s innovation

what if i told you that it started with

an elevator ride that on this

elevator ride a button was pushed

that was not on the elevator itself

but a button a trigger was pushed in the

psyche

of human beings

remember this name dick rowland

dick rowland was an orphaned teenager

who had become an entrepreneur

and he saw a need and decided to feel

the need

as a shoeshine boy

and he was so good at it

it is reported that he could shine a

shoe so well

that you might be able to see your

reflection

and the wingtips or the oxfords that you

were wearing

dick roland’s complexion was a lot like

mine

and he went to work daily shining the

shoes of men

in business in downtown tulsa and on a

particular day

he needed a break from being crouched

over and shining shoes

now remember the year is 1921

and so dick roland could not use the

same restroom

of the people whose shoes he shined

and so he had to go across the street

to the drexel building and at the top

floor of the drexel building

there was the restroom where his

skin color could use the restroom

now i found it interesting that you

would send the disenfranchised those who

were considered fractionally human

to the top floor in my experience the

top floor was where everyone was trying

to get to

but here in 1921 the top floor was the

place where

colored people could use the restroom

how come well

elijah otis had only recently

introduced a breaking system for

elevators

and so it was actually more dangerous

but on that day dick rolling goes on the

elevator

he goes up and on his way back down

he’s getting off of the elevator and as

he’s getting off

he trips you know he slips

he missteps and when he did

he bumped into that day’s elevator

operator

sarah page

have you ever been bumped

has anyone ever accidentally

kind of knocked you off balance

what’d you do maybe you dropped the

things that you were holding

or you you gasp because it caught you

off guard

well sarah sarah screamed

and when she screamed it got the

attention of an observer

the observer turned to where the noise

had come from

he sees sarah who happens to be white

he makes eye contact with dick rowland

dick runs now for those who would

suggest that well

if dick had did nothing wrong then why

did he run

and i would say well take your chances

as a black orphan teenager

in 1921 your word

against the word of this white observer

so dick runs he runs back to greenwood

but later that night he’s arrested

for sexual assault and he’s at the tulsa

city jail and there’s a mob that has

gathered outside

they want dick rowland released to them

the vigilantes

because they have a way of taking care

of this type of business

and the community of greenwood knows

that dick

is incarcerated and they go to the

courthouse to make sure

that he doesn’t get released to these

vigilantes

and when they arrive they see the mob

and so seeing that they are outnumbered

they retreat back to greenwood

and they returned and when they return

the number has grown to over 1500

violence ensues and so they retreat

again

back to greenwood but now the mob

is under the impression that well wait a

second they’re going to go get

more reinforcements not just from

greenwood but from surrounding areas

surrounding towns

we’re in trouble and so

destruction begins to take place

where literally airplanes are rented out

and bombs are dropped on

this 34 block area set

a fire blazing high

women children it did not matter

complete destruction of this area

how come

fear perception bias

and an absence of the facts

we stand here not because

mother nature willed it

but because it’s what happens when fear

overrides but what is also the case

is that those perpetrators were

guilty of being tricked

have you ever been tricked

have you ever been misled

or here is the greatest trick that has

ever been played

on mankind and it continues today

and the trick is convincing people

that a disadvantage to one

is not a disadvantage to another

what those in south tulsa did not

understand

is that destruction in north tulsa

represents also destruction

in south tulsa we cannot get around it

i cannot do harm to you without it also

being harmful to me and so

they had been tricked misled

and because of it destruction

ensued

let’s get back on the elevator now we’ve

spent enough time underground

we’re going to go to a higher level

let’s go take in the view from

the top floor i want you to see and

notice a world of

possibilities a community where people

are seen and because they are seen they

are

inspired because ultimately it’s what we

all want

is to be seen and to be known

you look out and you see a world where

there is absolute responsibility

absolute responsibility says that no

matter where we’ve been

and no matter what we’ve been through

what comes next

is up to us to take responsibility does

not suggest that i have to take blame

for what happened

it is not to say that i must own it as

my fault

but it does suggest that i am willing to

own

that what comes next is up to me why

because you will never

change what you are unwilling to own

as you look out and you see or imagine a

world where people are seen

for who they are and they recognize that

in and of itself

that is enough i recall a recent

incident

where a friend of mine rex he says to me

cortland i just don’t see you

as a black person

i thought well rex that’s odd

i obviously am and you’re not blind

i said to him please

take it from me that is not a sign of

enlightenment

it’s not received as a compliment but

i’m curious what do you mean by that

and in this eagerness to explain it he

said well well you know it’s

it’s the way you talk and how you dress

i just i’m sorry i just don’t see you as

a black person

and i said so essentially what you’re

saying

is that because of how i speak

and because of how i dress i don’t fit

your paradigm

of an african-american man

i don’t fit your paradigm of what it is

to be black

and rather than shift or change your

perception

rather than shift your paradigm you make

me

the outlier because rex was a friend

i shared that with him and today he’s

grateful

because he began to explore what does

inform

our viewpoints and our opinions what

informs

our biases every human being

wants to be seen and perhaps the

greatest gift that you could give them

is to recognize or have them know that

you see them

and that who they are in and of

themselves is enough

so much of what we have occurring in the

world are men and women believing

that they are deserving and worthy of

love only if they perform

or only buy what they possess or what

they own

but i declare that you are worthy of

love and acceptance

intrinsically you are worthy of love and

acceptance

by your birthright imagine a world

that understands that

let’s get back on the elevator it’s

about time to go

and on our way back down we’re at the

ground floor now

but before you leave

consider what you’ve seen not only in

the basement

and what happens when a community lies

but also what you saw as possible

when you’re willing to operate from

responsibility

and before you exit as you go out

i want to encourage you with some

specific things that you can do

to impact and influence

not only race relations but the idea

of people being seen and being known

and we can in fact use the elevator

as a metaphorical reference

have you ever had that experience of

you’re running towards the elevator

and just as you get there you see that

the elevator doors are closing

and just as you’re about to like ah

there’s a hand that

interrupts the sensor or maybe they just

push the button to open the door again

and you are gladly stepping on like oh

thank you so much

remember that feeling that’s the feeling

of being seen

one thing that you can do is be the

person

who holds the door for someone else

i want to encourage you to visit some

different floors

see what’s happening in places that are

not your own

that might look like you go to an area

of town

where you don’t live either eat at a

restaurant

where the cuisine that is being served

is not what you grew up on

and before leaving go say thank you to

the chef

who is passionately living his or her

dream

visit some other floors expand your

perspective

because the truth is choice is a

function of awareness

i can only gauge or judge why you made

that choice

if i know what you are aware of

so again hold the door open

visit some other floors and number three

here’s what i want you to do think about

that feeling

when someone is willing to assist you in

getting

where you desire to go and know that you

can provide that

for someone else be a person

who’s willing to ask where are you

headed

and then do what you can to assist them

in getting there hold the door open

visit some different floors

and also be one who’s willing to ask

where are you headed and then be willing

to assist

in getting them there thank you

你记得多少次乘坐电梯

可能是

因为我长大的俄克拉荷马州伊达贝尔小镇只有一部

我知道的电梯,

我仍然记得我的第一次

乘坐电梯,但在大多数情况下,

乘坐电梯是平淡无奇的

,没有新闻价值可能有

背景音乐

礼貌的

强制性问候 如果有人加入

我们,我们都有过尴尬的经历,当

陌生人在电梯上并想要进行一次

全面的谈话时

,感觉很奇怪,因为有一个

乘坐电梯的代码 你上车后

会安静下来

,因为大多数人都遵守该

代码,所以大多数

乘坐电梯的电梯都没有新闻价值,

但我想与你分享

一个电梯乘坐的故事,

如此重要以至于它的影响

100 年后仍然有感觉,经过仔细

检查,有一些

关于情商的课程

被遗漏了,这

是一个问题,所以让我成为

你的电梯歌剧

我们会一起发现一些新的

发现,也许会

改变一些

观点开始我们要进入地下

我们要进入地下室现在这里

变得有点

暗,因此没有

很多人

喜欢 去,但事实是

如果不是因为黑暗

,你不会欣赏光,所以当你离开烟雾时要小心你的脚步,

这会让你很难看到

,余烬仍然会导致

烧伤程度,你会发现自己

在中间 34

块破坏 毁坏 被

烧毁 教堂

学校 企业

房屋 甚至人们

现在被点燃 如果大自然是罪魁祸首,悲伤将是一种

恰当的情绪

,但这样做了,

这种破坏是在

情感上缺乏智慧的

人手中遭受痛苦的人 出于

恐惧

和缺乏一些事实的感知偏见,

今天它被称为简单的塔尔萨,

但你所站的地方曾经被

称为格林伍德区

黑华尔街一个地区 繁荣

富足的地区,

1921 年被称为黑色

华尔街 生活

并通过那些先驱者的

伟大是

研究格林伍德区先驱者的经验

,这是情商

自力更生责任

意识动机

社交技巧和同理心的大师班

为什么我们

站在废墟中而不是经历

更多 关于这个领域的

创新 如果我告诉你它是从

乘坐电梯开始的,在

乘坐电梯时按下了一个按钮

,而不是在电梯本身上,

而是按下了一个按钮 在人类的心灵中按下了一个触发器

记住这个名字 dick rowland

迪克·罗兰(dick rowland)是一个成为企业家的孤儿少年

,他看到了需求并决定

作为一个擦鞋童

,他觉得有必要,而且他非常擅长,

据报道,他可以将

鞋子擦得如此之好,

以至于您可以看到您的

倒影

,而您穿着的翼尖或牛津鞋

dick roland 的肤色是 和我的很像

,他每天去上班

,给塔尔萨市中心商界人士擦鞋,在某个

特定的日子,

他需要休息一下,以免被

蹲下,擦鞋

现在记得那是 1921 年

,所以迪克·罗兰不能

他擦鞋的人的同一个洗手间

,所以他不得不穿过马路

到德雷克塞尔大楼,在德雷克塞尔大楼的顶层

有洗手间,他的

肤色可以使用洗手间

现在我发现你很有趣

根据我的经验,将被剥夺权利的那些被认为是人类的人送到顶层,

顶层是每个人

都想去

的地方,但在 1921 年,顶层是

有色人种可以使用洗手间,

为什么

伊利亚奥蒂斯最近才

引入了电梯的破坏系统

,所以实际上更危险,

但那天鸡巴在电梯上滚动,

他上楼,在下楼

的路上他下车 电梯,当

他下车时

他绊倒了你知道他滑倒了

他走错了当

他撞到那天的电梯

操作员

莎拉页面

你有没有被撞过

有没有人不

小心让你失去

平衡你做了什么也许你 丢了

你拿着的东西,

或者你喘着粗气,因为它让

你措手不及,

莎拉莎拉尖叫

,当她尖叫时,它

引起了观察者的注意,

观察者转向噪音

的来源,

他看到莎拉碰巧是白人

他与迪克进行眼神交流

1921 年,作为一名黑人孤儿少年,你

对这个白人观察员的话做出了反对,

所以迪克跑了,他跑回格林伍德,

但那天晚上晚些时候,他

因性侵犯被捕,他在塔尔萨

市监狱,有一群暴徒

聚集在

他们外面 希望 dick rowland 向他们释放

义务警员,

因为他们有办法

处理这类业务

,而格林伍德社区

知道 dick

被监禁,他们去

法院

确保他不会被这些

义务警员释放

当他们到达时,他们看到了暴徒

,因此看到他们的人数超过了

他们撤退到格林伍德

,他们返回了,当他们返回时

,人数已经增长到超过 1500 起

暴力事件,所以他们

再次

撤退到格林伍德,但现在

暴徒在 印象就是等一下,

他们会去获得

更多的增援,不仅来自

格林伍德,而且来自

我们陷入困境的城镇周围的周边地区 le 等

破坏开始发生

,从字面上租用飞机

,在

这 34 个

街区投下炸弹,点燃熊熊烈火,

妇女儿童,

完全摧毁这个地区并不重要,

为什么

恐惧感知偏见

和缺乏事实

我们站在这里不是因为

大自然愿意这样做,

而是因为当恐惧超越时会发生这种情况,

但情况

也是如此,那些肇事者

犯了被欺骗的罪,

你曾经被欺骗

过,你曾经被误导过吗,

或者这是最大的欺骗

曾经

在人类身上玩过,它一直持续到今天

,诀窍是让人们

相信,对

一个人不利并不是对另一个不利,

南塔尔萨的人不明白的

是,北塔尔萨的

破坏也代表

着我们无法绕过的南塔尔萨的破坏 如果

它对我也有害,我就不能对你造成伤害

,所以

他们被欺骗误导了

,因此破坏了 接下来

让我们回到电梯上,现在我们已经

在地下度过了足够的时间,

我们将前往更高的楼层,

让我们从顶层欣赏美景,

我希望你看到并

注意到一个充满

可能性的世界 人们

被看到,因为他们被看到,他们

受到启发,因为最终我们

想要被看到和被知道

无论我们经历了

什么,接下来发生的事情都由

我们来承担

并不意味着我必须

为所发生的事情承担责任

这并不是说我必须把它

归咎于我的错,

但这确实表明我 我愿意

承认接下来会发生什么,这取决于我为什么,

因为

当你向外看时,你永远不会改变你不愿意拥有的东西,你看到或想象一个

人们被

视为自己的世界,他们认识到这

一点 本身

吨 帽子就够了,我记得最近

发生的一件事

,我的一个朋友雷克斯对我说

科特兰,我只是不认为你

是黑人,

我想雷克斯这很奇怪,

我显然是,你又不是瞎子,

我对他说,拜托

从我这里拿走这不是开悟的标志,

它不是作为一种恭维,但

我很好奇你的意思是什么

,在这种渴望解释的过程中,他

说得很好,你知道这是

你说话的方式和你的方式 穿衣服,

我只是抱歉,我只是不认为你是

一个黑人

,我说的本质上你

所说

的是因为我说话

的方式和我穿的方式,我不符合

你的

范式 非裔美国人,

我不符合你

对黑人的范式

,而不是改变或改变你的

看法,

而不是改变你的范式,你让

成为异常值,因为雷克斯是

我和他分享的朋友,今天他很

感激

因为他开始探索是什么影响

了我们的观点和意见 ns 是什么

导致

了我们的偏见,每个人都

希望被看到

世界上发生的男人和女人

认为,

只有当他们执行

或只购买他们拥有或拥有的东西时,他们才值得和值得被爱,

但我声明你

本质上值得被爱和接受 你值得被爱和被

接受

以你与生俱来的权利想象一个世界

明白

让我们回到电梯上,

是时候离开了

,在我们下楼的路上,我们现在在

底层,

但在你离开之前,

想想你不仅

在地下室

和 当一个社区说谎时会发生

什么,以及

当你愿意

承担责任

并在你退出之前你所看到的可能发生的事情

我想用一些

具体的事情来鼓励你 您不仅

可以影响和影响

种族关系,还可以影响

人们被看到和被认识的想法

,实际上我们可以将电梯

用作隐喻

参考 您是否曾经有过

向电梯奔跑的经历

,就像 你到了那里你

看到电梯门正在关闭

,就在你即将喜欢的时候,

有一只手

打断了传感器,或者他们只是

按下按钮再次打开门

,你很高兴地踩上去,就像哦,

谢谢你 非常

记住那种感觉

就是被人看到的感觉

你可以做的一件事就是

为别人守门

我想鼓励你去

不同的楼层

看看

不属于你自己

的地方发生了什么 看起来你去了一个

你不住的城镇地区,或者在一家餐厅吃饭,

那里供应的美食

不是你长大的

,在离开之前去向厨师说声谢谢

热情地生活在他或她的

梦想中

访问其他楼层 扩大您的

视野,

因为事实是选择

是意识的一种功能

如果我知道您所知道的,我只能衡量或判断您做出选择的原因

所以再次敞开大门

访问一些 其他楼层和三号

这是我想让你做的 想想

当有人愿意帮助你

到达你想去的地方并且知道你

可以为别人

提供的时候的那种感觉 成为一个愿意问你在哪里的人

前往

,然后尽你所能帮助

他们到达那里 把门打开

参观一些不同的楼层

,并且愿意问

你要去哪里,然后愿意

协助他们到达那里 谢谢你