Light Recipe to Embrace Change
how do you feel into this pandemic times
bad obviously i’m not asking this
question to the ones that the bad
tragic event concerning their family and
friends
i would never tolerate i’m asking to the
luckiest others
including myself how do we feel
bad right right but why
well if we take the time to analyze what
is really disturbing us
i’m ready to bet that having to change
many of our habits
is one of the major issues here indeed
a big part of the sickness is coming
from the fact that
we are resisting to change
one of my best picture my name is
fabrizio
and for the bodies the half-brained men
i got this nickname since september 2015
when an ischemic brain stroke has
damaged
50 percent of my brain since then i am
enemy plagic i didn’t even know the
meaning of the word hemiplegic
because these things happen only to
others isn’t it well
now i know it sixty percent of my body
is paralyzed after reading my biography
someone said fabrizio you look qualified
to talk about how to embrace
change everybody fully alive is
qualified to talk about embrace change
for billions of years of evolution since
life started on this planet
to 100 000 years to get homo sapiens
ready for a ted talk
and i came and i managed to give me a
broken congratulations fabrizio i know
that deserve better than a brain but in
a period of crisis
this is what you get
you said there is no evolution if you
are not intrigued by change
you certainly recognize this illustrious
sir no
he’s not gandalf the magician of the
lord of rings now
this gentleman said the sentence that
that is
very often used and will be it will
continue to be used for determinity
he said is not
the strongest knows the nor the most
intelligence that will survive
it is the most responsive
to change charles darwin of course
definitely true for business evolution
true for
species evolution of course true for our
mind
confronted to daily hysterical issues
so true that it would have been nice
if ser darwin would have had a few lines
to explain
us what is the magic formula for
responsiveness
i know responding remain 100
our responsibility if now you expect
that somebody with that free brain
is coming and bringing you the universal
magic formula of responsiveness
it means you love a science fiction
movie
some of my friends believe i have
something to say
i don’t know maybe because i have an
intense modern life like i assume the
majority of you has
graduating changing my job
12 times relocating eight times
cooperating with 14 new different bosses
including my wife
hiring 200 brilliant people of different
nationalities
with the privilege to doing to visit and
doing businesses
under different nations
a good salary driving
a ferrari and now
driving a wheelchair without any job
unemployed in handicapped
however i continue to keep smiling
and overenjoy life against all
the psychology statistical expectations
my friends start questioning me fabrizio
what is wrong with you
you should be in deep depression where
is the trick
the trick the trick what is the trick
after weeks and months of reasoning
raised on insertion for the trick
i finally landed with absolutely nothing
revolutionary
nothing they can make money with
just some basic cuisine just a reminder
of what we already know
because the issue is not that we don’t
know what to do
the issue is that we don’t do what we do
isn’t it
but i miss i love cooking
as a most of chemists
so here is my attempt to structure a
recipe
to how to embrace change simple and
basic
three dishes starter
main dish in a dessert
simple in basics now as my compatriot
leonardo da vinci said
simplicity is the ultimate
sophistication let me try to go through
the main dishes and going into the
ingredient of the main dishes
enhance perception started perception
home perception our perception
perception of what
perception of the now of the present
moment
you all believe to have a perfect
perception of the present moment
yeah well they want to believe yes
without hesitation
they should try to compete with my 90
years old grandfather
to look for mushrooms in the same floor
spot be ready for a humiliating
experience
if you want a more suitable example how
many times happened to you
that the understanding from a
presentation
was totally different from the
understanding
of the same presentation followed by one
of your colleagues
to the point that you wondered if you
were at the ending exact to the same
presentation
well the what probably happened
is that at a certain moment you or your
colleague
switch it to what we’re going to call
the automatic flying mode
our mind often without asking our
permission
switch to an autopilot flying into past
memories
start imagining future options
and we lose the present moment isn’t it
right this recipe strongly recommend to
stop the automatic frame mode
when a change is approaching
we cannot respond properly if we don’t
have a super clear understanding
of what is happening all around us
in case you have some doubt about your
perception
slow down and start asking short
questions to yourself
and to anybody that can be of any help
be vocal
accept help
and now the main dish joy testing
joy is an insurance of success i hope
that everybody agree
many prestigious authors have already
addressed the importance
of joy for our mind and body
including the magic biochemistry that
our brain
generates when we are joyful well
for these reasons this recipe
recommend to measure
our joy level every day
at least five minutes a day
as a joy meter does not exist yet
we should com we might compare our
happiness of today
with yesterday and
visualize ourselves into the following
days
if we feel that our joy is to be damaged
we need to go immediately back to the
drawing board
and remove or
compensate counterbalance or
the recurring damaging foundations
this requires some analysis followed by
action
to redesign or to reorganize some
creativity might be involved
if you never try to be creative when you
are upset or sad
good luck
furthermore this recipe is recommending
to
focus on the upside ah another one to
talk about outside
yes there is always always
enough glass are full in any
darkest situation always the upside
sometimes are small
tiny and funny sometimes they are huge
and very serious it is our job
to take the time and to find them
in case tomorrow morning you wake up
with
60 of your body paralyzed
it’s not my wish but i have some
experience on that so i can share it
the list of upside is so long
that we do not have the time to talk
about all of them you want some example
of the funnest one for example my seat
is certainly more comfortable than yours
certainly
and i’m available to testing if you are
intrigued
if you love traveling i have dedicated
jack king gate dedicated austin stewart
dedicating security line
no cue and passport control a dedicated
boarding bus with private elevator
i’m always first on plane all the
frequent flyer
silver gold platinum all behind me
the nd card is by far better than any
platinum
card
and now let’s move to the more serious
one
now i’m traveling with my two sisters
francesca
by the way my bodyguards they’re in the
room of course because they have to
secure everything where i go
i have time for their standard family
their asthma and their prodigious keys
i finally time for my wife sarah
to share my love and to receive her love
i have time for friends
i have time to ask the full rescue team
they put me they put me back
in a new life expressing
a new different full potential
i was in paradise
together with you and i have neglected
not any longer
and now you believe you could finish no
and now
the desert respond well the desert is a
very very traditional cuisine
we take our goals we prioritize them
the two large goals or issues we
break it down in very little objectives
one by one always in one direction to
achieve the goal
but maybe one of the ingredients that
often even the
largest famous chef forget is
celebration yes celebration
celebration of what celebration of
any minor progress to achieve the goal
if we do not remember in seconds last
time we have celebrated
it means we are on the wrong path
try to make this exercise what is the
last time you celebrate
birthday christmas no
too far me the last time i’ve celebrated
is um
this morning first because i woke up
that is not a given to everybody
especially during this time
second because i’ve been able to go to
the toilet by myself
and i’ve been able to put my underwear
and my trousers back
let me check yeah free or any help
isn’t it all this to do what to have
breakfast with my sister and to come to
meet you
for a tennis talk but it’s not this
fantastic
this morning i’ve celebrated already
minimum three times to be on the
conservative side
now i promise to my doctor and to saint
peter
to add a warning to the recipe
this recipe should help us to become
more adaptable in other words
more successful and happy however
is not making us invulnerable so please
please i know you are still you are
young but maybe at home there is
somebody that has already passed this
please add to your
duty a basic
maintenance program for that masterpiece
of a chemical engineer
your body is
we do not we don’t need to meet saint
peter
to realize that we are already in
paradise
and now a real mediterranean limoncello
quoting a phrase from the famous novel
elgato pardo of giuseppe tomas di
lampedusa
se vogliamo que tuto rimanga
if we want everything remain as it is
everything
must change
head spinning is normal it’s the article
of the limoncello
in other words
let me rephrase it and maybe is helping
you
if we want to continue to our life
happily
as we have believed it so far everything
must change in other words resisting to
change
is resisting to life but if all this
start to make sense let’s embrace change
exploding or our energy to realize
dream and passions we are in evolving
paradise
but in case you know a better place
please please send me an email
thank you