Every marriage can avoid divorce
a man
runs to the coast desperately and has
his employee
where the vote is he replaced him as
soon as he finished painting
it the children went sailing the almost
crazy father
bursted into crying and shouting that
these children were drunk
that they would not be able to swim back
from far away
he had forgotten to tell the painter
to repair the call in the queue
to which the painter replied come down
sir i saw that
poll and reported your children
will be fine they will return so
it was just a small detail
in this situation departure rapture
and separation were strongly felt
pain and suffering preceded the thought
of loneliness
of not having that someone we once loved
and promised everything to the shocking
thought
of losing someone dear to us have a
night
how many details do we set aside normal
pay attention to we take so many things
for granted
we enter into the rollercoaster every
more
competition find the house a better
car luxury we stop
listening actively we no longer
compliment our prayers
no sweet talk nor smiles or spontaneous
gestures
flowers just for the anniversary
our eyes breathe very easily to others
and now the distance really established
at this point we mistakenly attribute
everything to a lack of communication
this is only a consequence of our
struggles not acknowledging the other
controlling and disrespecting
criticizing and
judging accusing always being on the
defensive
despising underestimating our partner
unlike many couples that remain in a
state of
arrest development with its forces
it is a very dangerous and deadly game
i think that the painter must have been
a therapist in this case
surely we are doing something very wrong
otherwise
there will not be so many separations
and divorces
i invite you to take the following
information to understand
what level of your relationship you are
and how you can work for a beautiful
future
they want dreams one time
a warning the list i will talk about
could be overwhelming just prioritize
together the elements you want to work
and enjoy you will experience that the
results
are rewarding today is about
avoiding a divorce and creating a manual
for everlasting relations
and pay attention that i said create
not writing manual creating means taking
action and working
a couple must create with synergy
both should enhance their mutual work
no matter what has the initiative or a
stronger willpower in this case
you should turn it in a collaborative
action remember jfk
this is not worthy and gay is what we
can do for
from a place of responsibility
once and for all our original love
and family plans we are co-articulates
of our own destiny we shape
our relationships in order to shape our
present
and in turn our future it is more than
luck
we are blessed with so many things when
we are
when our expectations are somewhat
unrealistic or when we
demand things in the way we want them it
is very difficult for our partner to
contribute
and participate when we constantly work
on a marriage
on our marriage with love determination
desires dreams creativity
and innovation always keep us
at the forefront of our bodies
now there is a very important aspect
that i want to clarify before
in matters of life there is no
perfection
rather imperfect people who come
together
out of life to build their perfect
relationship
we must find ways in which two different
personalities
perhaps of different cultural
backgrounds can contribute
to a healthy happy and lasting way
some common grounds should be conceived
first loving with freedom this means
being clear
that your partner does not belong to you
that the other is a person who freely
decides
to maintain a relationship with you
loving with freedom means accepting that
the other person has the right
to make decisions and to choose what it
what to do with his or her life
second everyone should have a private
face
it means that if we want to share our
life with another person
we are accepting that we are two
different people
and not two in one time putting our
insecurities aside
and getting our partner with us because
he or she wants
after all our partner knows
thousands of people but still prefer
third share quality time with your
partner
share all your time you can never stop
taking
taking care of the relationship never
stop it
and when you want the other to change
change
love flows depending on how we act
acting in new ways will bring new
results
the list and strategy begin
with my favorite work commitment
that is to go live with one common goal
never threaten to live the relationship
don’t even
think about it learn to laugh even in
difficult times
always be there for each
other create channels of reciprocity
always validate that what is correct
favor autonomy and individuals
build confidence and trust if
constant affection have empathy to
understand the conflicts of
your partner and give rise to the soul
of the other person
listen intently use all your senses
how different would it be if at someone
who really listens
who really pays attention to us and is
not
adding something or giving advice
arrogance and superiority
should not have a place in our
communication
ask questions don’t assume things that
are only in your mind
we should be like a child who has a
never-ending curiosity
there’s some quest to learn and discover
your feelings never assume that your
partner knows
all the ways in which you love them
sometimes
they need to hear it clarify doubts
immediately do not postpone them
never assume we are not fortunate
tailors
don’t take anything personal we all have
bad days
work to maintain closeness people grow
weaker
when they are distant from each other
break your own limitations and talk
about everything
you know there are couples who never
talk about sex much
and then there are surprises especially
in this age
where monogamy has a different
definition than
at a generation angle
negotiate with your partner in order to
reach agreements
and balance interdependence in
everything
do it with total respect it is easy but
costly to live a life of dependency
dependency destroys both people
the ideal is the balance we create with
interdependency
it is like a dance of giving and
receiving
without ignoring avoiding or forgetting
be vulnerable it means and shows that
you’re authentic and honest
be very careful with your words
especially during arguments they can
only be forgiven
not forgotten pay attention to what it
is said
in anger many things are said because
they were
kept inside for a long time
creative collaboration sensuality
and intimacy constantly build a loving
conspiracy
every relationship has those nonsense
that only the two of you understand
those things that you can both laugh at
without having to say a word they can be
gestures or details that appear at some
point
and if you don’t have them yet try
creating them
always invest time in sexual activity
as if you are learning something new
every moment
may passion grow not only at intimate
moments
but also when we make the other feel bad
make plans for for the future since
marriage is a covenant for life
you both have to review and adjust
dreams
very early and
you know that sex is good having
conversation in bed
is better have your partner for the
inner beauty and all the simple things
he she has
and quickly forgive and do not hold
grudges
forgiveness is if you give to yourself
holding your
grudge impacts your health and stress
level
we all cherish and harbor the fantasy of
the perfect family
emotions and biology play always an
important role
in the as it relationships you are
really determined to
recreate if you must accept and
understand the true reasons for
which it got to this situation otherwise
we continue the connection with the past
to the former spouse
or in the other case is looking for them
or projecting them
on the new part and approach
sincerely apologize and ask for
forgiveness
don’t even try to control or manipulate
your partner
means don’t demand that things be
your way only everybody wants to win
argument
it does not really matter what the
beginning or end of the fight
is the important thing to consider is to
forgive
accept that the error was done
and move on how we end the fight
will be a starting point of something
better
strengthen the religious relationship by
shifting the mood
empathy and unconditional given will
reinforce the partnership
bring back all your skills and
generosity
this is part of the creative effort that
will bring dignity and happiness to your
hearts
and minds of course it is necessary to
always
have a broad sense of reality create
individual spaces and enjoy them during
leisure time
visit your friends family etc outside
the relationship
do not stop doing what you liked before
starting the relationship
love is reinforced 100 percent of
each one is given and accepted
the happiest couple share a feeling of
deep friendship
they know each other intimately they
know what their
tastes are their hopes and fears
that is the secret ingredient and the
support of which
a stable healthy and happy relationship
is built
those who come together through
friendship show great
consideration and two concern
for their partner express their life
their love beautiful gestures and also
small details
remember the first tip or breaks to
start building your manual
ask yourself what and how do i begin to
add and contribute how can i help you
to do better and to develop as a person
what should we do always to keep our
emotions and desires positive be aware
of the importance of
everyday moments and remember what i
mentioned earlier
that in matters of life there is no
perfection
but two imperfect people who come
together
out of love to build their perfect
relationship
not to worry they say
if the extraordinary sequence of
elements that
created and were present when we met our
love
one cannot bring two people back
together again
what will those things are still present
buried by bread at present
there are a couple of my favorite quotes
that i want to share with you
the first is from a latin american
author
called julio cortazar and it says
come sleep with me we will not make
blood
love will make us
and the other one is love you
not only for what you are but for
when i’m with you the author is
thank you very much