Microaggressions What they are and how to stop them

[Applause]

how y’all doing

i’m ryan watson davis and today i’m

going to be talking to you guys about

microaggressions so raise your hand if

you even know what a microaggression is

if you don’t you’re ignorant but no

offense

let me explain if you

don’t know any information that was

never given to you

you’re ignorant that’s okay you can be

ignorant now when you get information

and now you reject it

now you stupid

so today i’m going to absolve

your ignorance of microaggressions

microaggressions are a one-sided

behavior or

statement that may seem harmless but

really discriminates

against a marginalized group for example

um somebody may say hey

you’re pretty for a black girl not to

boost myself but i’m

i think i’m pretty regardless like

i don’t have to be a certain race in

order to be pretty

i can just be pretty or if someone says

oh you’re doing that that’s so gay

that discriminates against the lgbt

lgbtqia community

that may or may that definitely may hurt

their feelings

so in order to stop those you just need

to

criticize you need to evaluate and you

need to acknowledge

criticize what the microaggression

was really intended to mean was it

intended to hurt your feelings

was it set out of ignorance

you never know not until you ask that’s

why you also need to evaluate

your microaggression might hurt someone

else so if someone does

say that hey this hurt my feelings

evaluate that your feelings are hurt

that you did might you did hurt

someone’s feelings

so also acknowledge acknowledge that

i hurt someone’s feelings if someone

tells you that they

got their feelings hurt by something

like of what you said

their feelings are valid don’t get

defensive

don’t get angry just acknowledge that

you hurt someone’s feelings and then

say i’m sorry let me try that again

i’m just curious about abc and d

and then i’ll tell you about def

simple so

another thing that is very important

about microaggressions microaggressions

would be the bystander

effect does anyone know the bystander

effect if you’re familiar

shoot your hand up right quick okay

well just in case you’re ignorant

the bystander effect is when you observe

things going on

but you don’t actively participate

for example if someone said you might be

a little cuter if you lost a little

weight

now if you hear it

and you just standing there and you just

looking at him

you’re a bystander now sorry to say

you are a bystander but a strong

link in the chain of diversity is allies

if you hear something that is out of

pocket or that might hurt someone else’s

feelings

speak up say some i know it’s scary

i really do know but imagine how scared

the person is who is receiving

the microaggression imagine how they’re

feeling

what are they supposed to say what are

they supposed to do

if it was set out of ignorance do they

know that it was offensive

if it was said with ill intention

how will you know ask

stand up for each other we

all we got so we really just need to

work together

get rid of these microaggressions if you

do have a true question

just ask rather than trying to give a

backhanded compliment

or accidentally hurting someone else’s

feelings

but if you do three things just

criticize

evaluate and acknowledge

and we’ll all be unified

no matter how diverse we are thank you

for coming to my ted talk

thank you

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你们都做得怎么样,

我是 ryan watson davis,今天

我要和你们谈谈

微攻击,所以如果

你们知道什么是微攻击,请举手,

如果你们不知道,但是 没有

冒犯

让我解释如果你

不知道任何

从未给你的信息

你是无知的没关系你

现在可以无知当你得到

信息现在你拒绝它

现在你愚蠢

所以今天我要开脱

你对微攻击的无知微

攻击是一种片面的

行为或

陈述,可能看起来无害,但

实际上

歧视了一个边缘化群体,例如,

有人可能会说,嘿,

你对一个黑人女孩来说很漂亮,不要

自我提升,但

我认为我是 ‘我很漂亮,就像

我不必为了漂亮而成为某个种族,

我可以只是漂亮,或者如果有人说

哦,你正在这样做,那太同性恋了

,歧视

可能或可能的 lgbt lgbtqia 社区 肯定会受伤

他们的感受,

所以为了阻止那些你只需要

批评的人,你需要评估并且你

需要承认

批评微侵略

的真正意图是什么它

是为了伤害你的

感受它是出于无知

你永远不知道直到你 问这就是

为什么你也需要评估

你的微攻击可能会伤害

别人所以如果有人

说嘿这伤害了我的感情

评估你的感情受到了

伤害你做了可能你伤害了

别人的感情

所以也要承认

我伤害了别人的感情如果 有人

告诉

你他们的感情被你所说的事情伤害了

他们的感情是正确的 不要

防御

不要生气 只是承认

你伤害了某人的感情 然后

说对不起让我再试

一次 我只是对 abc 和 d 感到好奇

,然后我会告诉你关于 def

simple 的

另一件事,这

对 microaggressions microaggressions

wo 非常重要 应该是旁观者

效应 有谁知道旁观者

效应,如果你熟悉的话,请

尽快举起手,

好吧,以防万一你不

知道旁观者效应是当你观察

事情发生

但你不积极参与

时 如果有人说你可能会

更可爱 如果你现在减轻了一点

体重

如果你听到它

并且你只是站在那里并且你只是

看着他

你现在是一个旁观者 现在很抱歉说

你是一个旁观者但是一个强大的

链接 多样性链是盟友,

如果你听到一些

自掏腰包或可能伤害别人

感情的事情

,说一些我知道这很可怕,

我真的知道,但想象一下

接受微攻击的人有多

害怕想象他们是如何

感觉

他们应该说什么

如果是出于无知他们应该怎么做他们是否

知道如果说是出于恶意而令人反感

你怎么知道要求

为彼此站起来

我们 l 我们得到了所以我们真的只需要

共同努力

摆脱这些微攻击如果你

确实有一个真正的问题

只是问而不是试图给予

反手恭维

或不小心伤害别人的

感情

但如果你做三件事只是

批评

评估和承认

无论我们多么多样化,我们都会

团结起来谢谢你来参加我的 TED 演讲

谢谢