Unlocking the Secrets of your Face
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you
that on a screen is me
me when i was 20 years old and now when
i’m 40
i’ve changed we all changed that is a
fact
we changed so much that in some cases we
can’t even recognize ourselves
why do we change why do we go through
this metamorphosis
there are some phase keys that are
hidden in plain sight
that can solve personality trait puzzles
can you spot differences between me and
my younger self
you can that’s the easy part but can you
spot
what i’ve lived what i like how is most
likely to behave
what are my passions not so easy
but you still can do that and not only
with me but with anybody
we are all face readers since birth
i’m full of emotions right now
do you ever have emotions
of course everybody has emotions for
quite a while
i asked myself what these emotions are
and
eventually i found out that they are
just reactions
reactions of our bodies they are the way
our body
is telling us that we live
and you probably heard about emotional
intelligence right
danielle goldman described it very well
the secret is that
nobody is born intelligent we gain
this intelligence by emotional practice
and through this emotional practice we
gain emotional growth
nobody is born intelligent
you can see actually on someone’s face
how emotionally mature
he or she is and just by looking
at the inner corners of that person’s
eyes
the lower the inner corners of someone
eyes come
the less mature that person is that is
because when we express emotions
we use a lot our facial muscles you
probably heard that like
that eyes are like windows to our soul
or the gates to one’s heart
we use a lot the muscles around
our eyes not only for receiving
information
but also for giving information we use
them a lot in our non-verbal
communication
so the more the inner corners
are kept by the tension caused
by the emotional express that shows me
that that person didn’t have time to go
through
all his emotions to process them to
integrate them
so he’s less mature from that point of
view
as we mature the tension around these
muscles disappear
and our eyes start to become leveled
you may be wondering how this
information can be of any help
well you can predict one’s behavior
based on how
much emotional practice that person had
because
if he’s immature from an emotional point
of view he will tend to be more
reactive he will be more emotionally
triggered
the more mature that person is
the less reactive the more controlled he
will be
we will not expect a certain behavior
from that from that person
you heard again about positive and
negative emotions right
there’s no such thing all emotions can
be positive or negative
it is only up to us to give them that
power
for instance happiness is an emotion
sought by many
but it’s also an emotion in in which if
we stay too long
we become euphoric and we can lose
contact with our reality
fear on the other hand is an emotion
blamed seen as negative
but remember that fear is the emotion
that is keeping us alive
and kept us alive for billions and
billions of years
from a biochemical point of view an
emotion in my body
means an hormonal imbalance
when i have the so-called positive
emotion
the happiness hormones in my body arises
and when i have a so-called
negative emotions or less pleasant
emotions
the level of stress hormones arises
these hormones which we all have
are the words that our body uses
us uses to tell us things facial muscles
are like all the other muscles in the
human body
the more we use them the stronger they
become the stronger they become
a bigger volume they will have that
they can be linked to our personality
traits puzzles
because nothing that happens on our face
is by chance we mold each muscles
each muscle through hundreds and
hundreds
of micro expressions whenever we have an
emotion
we’ll have immediately after an
emotional adjustment mechanism
that can be goosebumps that can be
crying
laughing cold shivers down the spine
palm sweating
but also facial expressions and micro
expressions
micro expressions for the facial muscles
are what
going to the gym is for the other body
muscles
physical exercise the more i display my
emotions
the stronger my muscles will will become
and they
can be linked to my personality traits
no
facial feature on its own will reveal a
personality but only
a small fracture of someone’s
personality how that person
is using the muscle or the
muscle group in order to display
emotions
and to behave
have you ever looked in the mirror and
see how different the two sides of your
face are
how on the left side for instance the
eyebrow sits lower
or one ear is bigger than the other or
on one side of the face
the lips are less full or one cheeks
it’s higher than the other
have you ever wondered why that thing
has happened
i assure you it’s not due to the way we
put the head on the pillow at night
so the facial muscles again are
responsible for these differences
but they are controlled by those two
hemispheres of our brain
which in fact are not that different one
from the other
they tend to become different when
they are influenced when we are
influenced by
different factors
one become more active and send stronger
signals
to our body when we are in a emotional
stress
situation and the other one becomes more
active
when we are in a rational stress
what’s emotional and rational depends on
whatever we are doing but when i’m
talking about
emotional most of the time we understand
stress provoked by
by our relationship our family our
health
our passions all those things that we
value the most and when i talk about
rational stress i i mean stress provoked
by our jobs
our social life
so when i whenever i am in an emotional
stress let’s say in all my non-verbal
communication i will keep my
left side which is my emotional part of
the body and face
retracted i will have the tendency to
use more my right hand to put my
right foot in front and to to expose
more of my right face keeping the stress
part retracted because i want to protect
that part of my body
on the other hand when i go through a
rough time in my job
life in my rational life
i will retract the rational part of my
body
finding my everyday balance in my
emotional life
so i will use my left hand more i will
display emotions more strongly on my
life
on my left side of the face
the more i balance between these two
lives that i have my emotional life and
my rational life
the higher uh the level of facial
asymmetry will be
that’s why we don’t have um
a perfectly balanced face even though we
looked for it
because it’s important when we
when we are attracted to someone we look
unconsciously to that
high facial asymmetry in fact nobody has
a
symmetrical face you may be wondering
again why is this
information relevance or how can it help
me well it helps me in communication
because
if i see a friend if i see
a colleague who is going through a rough
period of
emotional stress let’s say his life and
his family is not going so well so
he will retract his left part his
muscles on the left side of the face
will be lowered
and i want to have a good communication
with that person i will keep the
communication only
on a rational base i will talk about the
weather the president
anything that doesn’t matter to that
person because
i don’t want to deepen the pain on the
other hand if i see a colleague
which has the rational part of the face
lowered it looks tired
i want to raise him from that
suffering that he has so i will talk
about emotional subjects
i will ask him about his wife i will ask
him about his hobbies his
pet and so on
the theory states that
emotion most of the emotions are
displayed symmetrically
on our face actually in face reading
this is the first
way to divide the face right will always
be
rational part of the face we’ll show how
that the rational stress affects that
person
and their left side of the face will be
the emotional part of the face
showing how that person is affected by
this type of stress the second way
in which we can divide the face in phase
reading is in facial levels
we have three levels the upper part
middle and lower part
before going any further i want you to
understand that no personality
trait is better than the other
we cannot judge and through face reading
we tend to understand more what that
person went through
in order to for to form a personality
trait like that
nothing is good nothing is bad in when
it comes to
human personality okay
so regardless the race
regardless the point in the world in
which we
are born regardless our nationality we
are
all born with the same facial ratio
meaning that
the upper part and the middle parts have
the same height
and the lower part is roughly
half of any of those two
up until we reach sexual maturity or the
puberty
the head bones are soft and can be
easily molded
by the tensions from the facial muscles
up until this age the personality trait
that forms our personality engine
are forming after that we can become
either a mental person
a practical person or a lustful person
nothing that happens on a face is by
chance
everything is molded through thousands
and thousands of muscle movements
what does it mean to be a mental person
it means
to be a person who will solve the
everyday
problems using the least energy
consumption
possible a practical person means
a person of the here and now will solve
everyday problems not thinking too much
about it but
by putting his hands on
and the lustful person will be a person
who will seek
to fulfill his pleasures his passions uh
a more sensitive person if you like
okay again you may be wondering how this
information can be of any help i have
this
three people in front of me and how can
it help me well it helps again
in communication and let’s say
we work in sales and as a matter of fact
we are all
marketers even if we are aware of it or
not even when we go to a job interview
we try to sell ourselves let’s say
for the sake of an argument that we work
in sales we
want to sell a car would you sell
your car to these three clients in the
same way
no they will not be interested in what
you have to say
unless you speak their personality
language
you we have to sell the car in three the
same car in three different ways
to the first client we will sell the car
mentioning
the design the company values and
standards we will mention the
low impact on the environment he will
not be impressed by brands
we have to give space and time to a
client
like that in order to allow him to
process the information through all his
mental filters
he will not rush into buying
to the second type of the client the
mental person and by the way
three quarters of all human beings are
in this
category we have to sell the car
mentioning
the utility of the vehicle the cost of
the maintenance how easy his life will
be
once he he bought that car
we have to mention the space luggage we
we will mention
details that this guy will use in his
everyday life
in order to solve his tiny problems
to the third type of the client we’ll
sell the car by mentioning
the big rims the leather seats the audio
system
brands are very important to this type
of client
we have to talk about the gadgets of the
car even though he will not understand
at first
what those gadgets are used for we can
mention feelings too to that this type
of client we can
talk about the envy and the jealousy
that everybody will
feel once he’s seeing driving his new
car
not everybody is interested in what i
have to say
or anybody else has to say
unless we speak on their personality
language
each muscle each feature is molded
in time and nothing that happens on the
face is by chance
each face tells a story everything that
is on anybody’s face is telling a story
is showing how that person will behave
in a certain
moment we are all a we are all face
readers
since birth let’s use face reading in
order
to become better versions of ourselves
face reading is a method that enhances
communication
communication with your partners not
everybody is the same
not everybody wants to receive attention
in the way we do
and we have the tendency to give
attention to give
to talk to others in the way we like
to do it surprise our partner is a
different person
face reading enhances your communication
with your friends
communication with your colleagues
you heard about the battle between
generation there is no battle
it’s only a communication problem we
don’t
talk the language of our of our parents
and our kids will not talk our language
because
from a social point of view and
technological point of view we evolve
much faster than we do
from the emotional point of view of or
muscular
point of view face reading
enhances your communication when it
comes to your clients
or in your company between departments
face reading is also
a tool when it comes to self-knowing
society teaches us how to lie
how to build a different reality
there is one part in us that we cannot
lie to and that’s our subconscious mind
and luckily for us our subconscious mind
is responsible for more than 90 percent
of the volume of our facial muscles
is not what i want to show with my face
that it will affect
my face shape but is how i feel how i
react
are those those tiny micro expressions
that i do again and again and again and
for
long periods of years my journey when it
comes to phase reading started more
than six years ago but
four months is an average period in
which anybody can learn how to read
faces i mean if
i could do it anybody can do it
most of the time i am asked what’s
stopping me to go on the dark side
to benefit from others by
using face reading and the answer to
that question is
morals we can buy a knife from a lot of
stores but
that doesn’t mean that we are going to
stop somebody with it
face reading proposing offers
a level of understanding that no
communication method
offers when you use
face reading we we can have less
conflict
more understanding more cooperation
face reading not only that makes you
more adaptable
to our ever-changing social life
but makes you so much better on a
personal level
thank you