Validation Self Societal Standards
have you ever found yourself
pleasing others to gain improve from
those around you
rather than focusing on your personal
interests if so there’s nothing to be
worried about
because many of us have found ourselves
in similar circumstances
since the beginning of high school i
have consciously tried to prevent myself
from trying to gain approval from others
regardless of the efforts you exert i
realize that you will never be able to
please everyone that you need
some may like you and others might not
and that’s natural
validation is like medicine if you’re
feeling unwell
you may take some ibuprofen but after
its effects wear off
you may feel the need to retake it
correspondingly
validation can be approached with a
similar concept
during quarantine a period of
self-reflection and introspection aided
us to realize that a majority of our
time is spent constantly contemplating
on how others perceive us and whether
our time is being used
productively and efficiently an
important thing to consider is that
validation is short-lived
when you achieve an accomplishment and
are praised naturally you enjoy
but after the wave of phrase wears off
you’ll constantly feel the need to be
validated
it hopes to feel a sense of fulfillment
for example
if you take medication too frequently
you will start to build resistance
against it and will require an
increase in dosage to attain the same
effect
this can also be seen with the need to
gain approval both
medication and validation if taken at
the right time
with the right dosage can prove to be
beneficial the adequate amount of
medicine can aid in recovery and improve
your health
likewise sometimes all you need is a
little bit of pressure and motivation to
help you accomplish your objectives
for as long as i can remember my aunt
has called me a nickname
dr vidya which essentially means my
beloved doctor
in the hope that i would want to become
a doctor when i grow up
it was one of the factors that motivated
me to develop an interest for the
medical field
discovered my desired career and helped
the community
until recently i didn’t think too much
about becoming a pediatrician
and didn’t research about the necessary
steps
my passions in science pediatric care
and volunteering helped strengthen my
aspiration to fulfill my objective
rather than engrossing yourself to gain
approval and recognition from others
aspire to become your ideal self and
accomplish your goals and your dreams
context is to influence as a resume is
to recognition
for example if you’re the president of
the united states
then you have both power and influence
but if you identify
with the president you have power
through association
similarly having a dignified resume can
aid in getting accepted to prestigious
colleges
therefore gaining accreditation in the
community
often students attempt to accumulate
credentials to include in their resume
this could include internships
competitions
sports recruitments followed by other
accolades
as 9th grade begins our transcript
starts to form
causing students to worry about taking
the right courses for their future
personally i felt that it is beneficial
to choose classes that relate to your
career choice
such as anatomy chemistry biology and
statistics
on the other hand i wanted to pursue a
career in the business field
which requires me to take classes such
as psychology
marketing business law statistics etc
after fulfilling these course
requirements we also have to consider
participating in various extracurricular
activities
as students we are expected to go to
school for seven hours a day
five days a week engage in after school
activities
complete our homework volunteer and
somehow get eight hours of sleep
when we try to address this struggle
adults silence us by stating that they
too had to suffer through similar
circumstances
alongside other conflicts with all these
expectations
many individuals ignore blatant symptoms
that can cause irritability
fatigue burnout and a heightened
sensitivity to sickness
which can all be caused by peer pressure
poor diets and irregular sleeping habits
although adolescence has been viewed as
a period of storm and stress by many
psychologists
stress can continue to surface
throughout adulthood
comparable to how careers such as
lawyers and physicians
were undervalued in the 1600s a modern
stereotype has formed
where such professions are of an
elevated status when compared to careers
such as models dancers and
teachers individuals often aspire to
venture into non-traditional careers
but often hesitate due to parental and
societal expectations to choose a
well-received career
the primary rationale behind this
reasoning is job stability and
cumulative earnings
due to this the concept of job
satisfaction is often overlooked
if they do decide to oppose the
community and choose a rather
controversial profession
people have the pressure and compulsion
to prove the validity of their career
and exhibit their success
after graduating individuals obtain
additional responsibilities that may
require
accountability and management
furthermore
in order to adhere to societal standards
people agonize about getting married
and finding a suitable life partner in
indian culture it is common for the
parents to present a suitable
bride or groom for their child
oftentimes the parents or
matchmaker will present a suitable
partner for their child to meet
the new netflix original indian
matchmaking addresses a major and
generalized issue that is often
overlooked in the indian society
especially for women after you pass the
age of 26
you slowly begin to feel the intense
pressure of getting married and settling
down
you will feel like you’re surrounded by
unattainable expectations
but ultimately you should do what is
best for you
it is important to realize that you
should be living life only on your terms
not anyone else’s when conversing with
parents and referencing the assortment
of articles
we discovered that parents receive an
abundance of tips and tricks to help
them when expecting their first child
regardless of whether their advice is
helpful they effectively implement the
underlying formation
of competition parents offering advice
often gloat about their child’s
accomplishments and drug comparisons
after discoursing parents become
concerned about their child’s progress
and worry of divine in the race
this reminds us of a movie called hindi
medium
which showcases the harsh realities of
school admissions in india
after watching the movie we realized
that gaining admission into prestigious
schools is a money-making business that
is prevalent throughout various nations
in the movie the parents were required
to attend an
interview to make sure they were of a
particular monetary and societal
standing
before the child can be given
consideration for admission
equipment to outcry from preschoolers
parents should avoid coercing their
child into
participating in numerous activities and
straining themselves
solely to satisfy societal standards
criticizing students by comparing them
against their peers
is an example of demoralization which
depletes self-confidence and diminishes
mutual adoration between students
recognizing that every child is unique
and has their own
strengths and capabilities is an
important perspective that everyone
should possess
instead of dismaying the child with
persistent pressure in comparison
finding innovative and uplifting methods
of constructive criticism
can drastically improve self-perception
and inspire creativity
throughout one’s life they face several
complications and adversities
that influence their future and improve
their outlook on life
based on experience people may
opinionize that adolescents
suffer through more drastic changes than
adults or vice versa furthermore there
are countless similarities
among stressors when complicating
different stages of life
similar to how we were stressed during
midterms week adults face analogous
circumstances
during grueling weeks in their line of
work
along with these stresses people face
constant character judgment
and comparison based on their actions
capabilities
and accomplishments in high school there
is persistent collocation between
students regarding class rank ap awards
and other academic accolades
similarly when employed people face the
constant struggle to attain
promotions higher salaries bonuses and
recognition
with all these aspirations set in place
the need to gain approval
increases because individuals place
higher expectations on themselves
and desire to seek the validation of the
community
i have experiences firsthand during my
adding adigen
or dance graduation in south indian
classical dance
this taught me how to focus on my goals
and stop worrying
about fulfilling obvi’s wishes several
people would comment on the food
the decor or the attire rather than
observing the culmination of our hard
work
this experience helped me realize that i
should only focus on factors that i can
control
but the more relatable aspect the
increasing popularity
and usage of social media has caused a
majority of the population to seek some
form of validation
based on the number of likes and
comments they receive
some people unknowingly attach their
self-worth on trivial matters such as
follower count and social status
as the need for validation increases
their lives begin to revolve around
insignificant matters
which can later cause problems in their
personal and professional lives
this may later affect their mental state
and increase their vulnerability
to anxiety depression low self-esteem
and self-loathing these issues have only
recently been taken seriously
and now there are several facilities
that give individuals the help they need
many times the symptoms displayed are
disregarded until a setback causes
everyone to notice them
additionally there are various beauty
and relationship standards
that fail to portray the reality
everything that you see on social media
should be taken with a grain of salt
social media should be used as a tool
for interaction and entertainment
rather than as a source of jealousy and
competition
for some popularity has the same
importance as maintaining
a work-life balance parenting and
stability
ultimately the promise of our speech
revolves around validation and its
impacts on both self
and society we understand that it’s
easier to advise than to follow
but taking steps towards consciously
aiming to prevent yourself
from people pleasing can drastically
improve your quality of life and
self-image
conversely society should encourage and
empower others
to fulfill their dreams rather than
judging or discouraging them
our vision for future generations is to
realize and understand
that life is not a race there is no
finish line and that everyone is on a
different path that they must discover
for themselves
thank you