Selflove is the basis of success.
[Music]
you’re
ugly you’re weird
you’re dumb
how many of us have said anything like
that to a friend
colleague or relative probably not too
many
so why have all of us said that to
ourselves
why do we say meaner things to the most
important person
ourselves than anyone else
hi i’m funvi padala and today let’s
explore the trait everyone needs
self-love according to the
merriam-webster self-love is defined as
love of self and that’s the definition
we’ll be using for today
now that’s pretty simple so if you all
fail the quiz at the end of this we
might be in a little bit of trouble
but first i want to tell you all about
my struggle with self-love
i’m very body conscious and i don’t love
my body
sometimes it’s my hair or the shade of
my skin or maybe it’s a little food baby
i’m sporting
whatever it is i can always find a
reason to not be happy
about my body and i’m not alone in that
in a study done by dove soap they found
that 70 percent of girls
don’t love themselves 70
and in my experience when you don’t love
yourself you don’t give yourself credit
for your accomplishments and you don’t
feel
like a success let me give you an
example
i was in seventh grade and i decided to
take the ap computer science a exam
for those who have taken it you know how
impossibly difficult it is
and yet a little seventh grader me was
like oh let’s take it how hard can it be
let me tell you it was hard we started
learning java and preparing for the test
about a year in advance
and we started out with maybe one class
a week but as the test day moved closer
we had two hour classes seven days a
week
that’s 14 hours as a seventh grader
after i took the test i got back my
score and it was a three
for those who haven’t taken an ap test
they’re scored from one to five and a
three is a pass
it’s a little seventh grader me passed
on the harder ap
test that was meant for college students
and yet i did not feel successful
i did not notice the amount of effort
i’d put in or the amount of knowledge
i’d gained
i didn’t even take into account how hard
that test was
or that i was years younger than anyone
else taking it
i only saw the negatives
all i could think about was that i
didn’t get a five
because when you don’t love yourself you
don’t give yourself credit
for the positive things you’ve
accomplished
since then i’ve thought a lot about that
experience and gradually i’ve started to
realize that i have accomplished a lot
i just wasn’t paying attention to the
things i did well
now i haven’t completely changed since
then i’m still in the process
but i’ve gotten better at recognizing my
successes
i’ve gotten better at not just seeing
the negatives
i’ve gotten better at loving myself
how many of you have criticized yourself
for something everyone else thought was
a six
it was a success wouldn’t it have been
so much better
to celebrate that success instead of not
even believing in it
i promise you seventh grader me if i
looked at my ap score with a little bit
more self-love
i would not have counted it as a failure
i would have celebrated
for days so i implore you to learn from
my mistake
now i know i can’t just stand here and
tell you all to learn from my mistake
without showing you that i have too
so let me finally answer the question i
know has been on
all of your minds thunby why are you
wearing those shoes
this is a professional event you should
be wearing heels not unicorn slippers
well i promise you i’m not just wearing
these because i woke up late and ran out
the door without changing
well that may or may not have happened
but i wore these to prove a point
the point is if i love myself i should
be able to look past how embarrassing
this is and count my speech as a success
so i’m standing here in these ridiculous
unicorn slippers and telling you that i
do feel successful
i do and seventh grader me would never
be able to do this seventh grader me
would have been
so embarrassed by the unicorn slippers
that she would have thought
her speech a failure so if i can stand
here delivering a ted talk they’ll live
forever on the internet in these unicorn
slippers
i must really love myself
and that feels like success
thank you
you