Success And The Three Battles
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let me share a story with you
when i was a kid i loved aeroplanes
growing up in a small town loving the
capital city of togo in west africa
every flight that departed from that
town could be heard
by everyone and so my fascination for
aeroplanes grew
day by day and tough luck to me my mom
and my sister knew that
and they used it to the advantage every
time i refused to
eat a meal that was cooked at home
because we didn’t grow up with much
we act the same thing from monday to
sunday
so here’s what they will do they’ll
promise me that right after i finish
eating the meal
we’ll go and catch a plane and to make
me believe it
they will ensure that they dress me up
in that one christmas attire
which was the only thing we basically
had
for special occasions and for christmas
and i’ll go very enthusiastically eat
that meal and right after my sister will
take my hand
we’ll take a walk for fifty two hundred
meters and she’ll be like
sorry the pilot has left
oh i fell for it each and every time
though when i look back right now i just
really couldn’t
understand how could i have fallen for
such but hey
it’s the mind of a kid
however though i will say that those
actions already planted in may see that
will
push me to wanting to go after things
that can enable me to buy my own flight
ticket
ladies and gentlemen it is my pleasure
and honor to be standing here today
understand which are called the stand of
truth
this then is going to allow you the
opportunity to stretch your mind
to new dimensions so
in you seeds of confidence innovations
new lifestyles and even healthier
relationships
this position is going to allow me the
opportunity to disrupt and distrust
anything important which could hinder
your success
the truth is i am obsessed by success
not the success which is viewed as the
accumulation of
cars and mansions not the one which is
viewed by the domination
as one group over the next
none but the success which is
beautifully defined
by james william as
an inner ideal which is persistently
pursued
with courage and an outer achievement
related
to that idea
irma anti-girl hits the nail on its head
for me
when he defines success as the
progressive realization
of the worthy idea in other words
whatever it is that you find yourself
doing large
or small significant or not petty
or not as long as you find yourself
progressing in your worthy ideal
you can qualify yourself as successful
create parameters right here’s the thing
though
when we apply the definition of this
wise man
in the life of an already individual
there are two hiccups
hiccup number one in order for you to
even
pursue an ideal you’ve got to
have one hiccup number two
an ideal that is worthy to you today
may not necessarily be worthy to you
tomorrow
and i give you a very great bonus in
hiking number three
an idea that you judge worthy to you
the idea that is in your mind is only
framed
based on the things that you have been
exposed to
an idea that you judge worthy to you
it’s only based on the conditioning
of your society’s norms to think and to
dream
coming to that realization blew my mind
for all my life i have been chasing
success
and in my line of work which consists in
helping people
build a bridge between where they are to
where they want to be
or helping companies go from idea level
and actually incept and scale
i’ve come to understand that are three
types of people
there are those that have no reason to
bounce from their beds in the morning
no purpose no reason to do whatsoever
and there are those who struggle
consistently between who they are
and their life purpose now you have a
third group
who by fire or ice wake up every single
morning doing
whatever they can to fulfill
what they believe their life mission to
be
nicolas butler said it best that there
are those
that watch it happen those who wonder
what the heck was just happened
and then there are those who make it
happen
but you know what blew my mind the most
is to actually find out that
whether you are the one that’s making
things happen
or the one that watching that happen or
the one who wonder
what has just happened those three
people
fight the same pattern
and it’s the battle against the three
toughest demons of mankind
fear self death and low self-esteem
fear an emotion induced by
a perceived danger which causes us to
flee or retreat
physiologically speaking or emotionally
in the face of adversities
self-doubt a paralyzing force which
stops her from taking action
low self-esteem is a feeling of being
unlovable awkward
and incompetent the lack of confidence
my story of chasing success starts
from when i actually finished my high
school
at the age of 15 and going to university
with a ratio of 4
000 students one professor i decided to
leave my country
to a better destination which will offer
me the opportunity to realize
the dreams that i had the journey was
long ladies and gentlemen
it was tough and rough on that journey
days came where there was no shelter for
me
this came when i had no food to eat this
came when there was nobody to go to
with 18 months spent on the outside on
the road
my mom thought i was dead
but was it worth it was it a journey
that
taught me the things that i wanted to
learn out of life
oh yes it did but notice
that even the day that will come the
days that will come
each and every day i will wake up
fighting for the worthy ideal
that was ready for me at the time by the
way which is
providing for my mom and taking her out
of the debt that she
took mostly to raise us notice
that my idea they were only framed
based on where i came from
so deep within i’ll be battling
also against those three demons
and even when i made it to senior
management
accounting for millions of dollars
managing over hundreds of people
and eventually deciding to start my own
coaching and speaking business
speaking to millions of people around
the world
they will still come creeping in in the
middle of the night
telling me hey do you think you can do
this
asking me do you believe that you really
can make a difference
you know you are african who wants to
hear what you’ve got to say
you know that every time you actually
fly in a worsened country
you are taken in at the first suspect
to be asked questions do you think you
can do that
and i will find myself pacing in my room
every night
talking myself out of it
fear self-doubt and low self-esteem
the three demons continuously feeding
from our perceptions
notice fear is an emotion induced by a
perceived
dangerous threat what this means is you
your perception
you shift your thinking you shift your
thinking you create a new set of
actions when you set up actions to
create new habits with new habits
you forge a new character you need a new
character
a new belief system
perpetual transformation is the ultimate
key against
three demons my favorite bible verse
says that don’t conform to the things of
this world but be transformed
by the renewing of your mind
do not conform to your perception do not
conform to circumstances but
be transformed by the renewing of your
mind
fear self-doubt and low self-esteem
the reason why africa even though the
richest continent on earth is still the
poorest is
exactly because of the three demons
we can blame colonization and slavery as
much as we want
but it’s only when we tap into a deep
sense of realization
when we are fully aware of what we are
dealing with deep within
and take concrete actions to renew our
self-esteem only then
transformation happens and that’s when
you’ll see a young african being
innovative enough
to be able to come up with the
technology like cool tap water
which can desalinate seawater and power
up an entire town
or generational african transformation
which can be
triggered by a virtual education
platform
called afrimani university education
platform supported
by a capital patient enough
with a purpose to renew the self-esteem
of the young africans
and entrust them with the technological
thinking and skills
which they can use to trigger the
development on the continent
and while they are they might as well
build
a network of black successful
entrepreneurs around the world
to mentor the young ones on the
continent
transformation is what is needed
let me share a story with you one day
this woman inbox me
and she shared a story with me that
broke my heart she said that she lived
with the husband
that beat her up called her names
strangled her
and she said i quote that sucked
life out of me so immediately i said hey
look
before we do any kind of work please
seek assistance from the state or moving
with another relative
yes what she said i don’t think i’m good
enough
if i leave who will want me
he’s paying half of the rent so
i can leave so even though this woman is
gambling with her life and a lifetime
trauma
she chooses to do what most of us do
she chooses to die slowly inside
and that is the exact purpose of the
three demons to use life challenges
to deem our light inside and to make us
subdue to what are called the zombie
factor
the zombie factor it’s a state in which
a person has no drive no purpose no
goals
no ambitions nothing to look forward to
in the next day
it’s basically a person that is stuck in
a time machine
counting down to their date of death
fear self-doubt and low self-esteem
the three demons which can suck life out
of you
transformation is defined as the change
of ones after form
from one which it was to another which
is the result of an inner change
an inner change which can be triggered
by the recreation of a new environment
and the truth is it may not necessarily
be comfortable
now comfort is not powerful
but that is what we need
for that woman her time machine could
have been her husband
for others it’s their boyfriends their
families
and for some it’s their jobs
it’s time ladies and gentlemen it’s time
we take a stand against the treetop
estimates of mankind
it’s time that we transform by the
renewing
of our minds i know somebody listening
to me right now he’s thinking oh yeah
it’s easier said than done
yeah you correct it’s not easy and you
almost never will be
to think and dream beyond your
circumstances
let alone take blind faithful actions
to bring those dreams to life
but that is the exact purpose of
transformation
being able to create in the face of
adversities
a friend of mine wrote that god is an
observer
man is a creator i’m going to share this
with a personal story of mine
right after i left corporate i started
few businesses in one of them was pretty
successful
i started with a very close friend of
mine
one morning i got a call from the bank
that our bank account was trained
and right after the car from the bank
the tax taxman called
and apparently that friend of mine
emptied our account
and is in the wind till today
so i had two choices
to either be stuck with the fears and
the doubts
and the low self-esteem that this
experience has brought me
or use it as a springboard to actually
bounce back
and recreate a new reality
the choice is always ours life is full
of challenges
sometimes we let ourselves down or
sometimes
the people we love and trust the most
that actually
let us down
but the truth is what are we are the
ones who watch it happen
what are we are the ones who wonder what
the heck has just happened what are we
are those who make it happen
we have the choice to become
slave of those three toughest demons of
mankind fear
self-death and low self-esteem
and be sucked by the zombie factor or we
have the choice
to use those three turn them into
confidence
and bounce back and change
our life for the better so we can
fulfill our purpose
and achieve our full potential
my name is steven dosu remember she can
be great and see you on time
you