Why Measure Success
[Applause]
today i am going to solve
y which i had solved many years back for
myself
why measure success
why measure success is there any law
book
or any guide book any rule book in which
it is written
that a person who has this kind of a
house
is considered to be successful or a
person who has
this kind of a job is considered to be
successful
or a person who has who drives this kind
of a car
is considered to be successful so what
is this measure for success
why can’t a green grocer who’s just
selling fresh vegetables
be considered as a successful person why
can’t a woman who has left her job to
take care of her child
be considered successful why can’t a
sweeper
who’s sweeping the floor immaculately
every day in our house in our building
be considered as a successful person
so i solved this while with my
experiences and i would like to share
my journey with you all and believe me
this is the first time i’m sharing this
journey
not even all my family members know
about this journey of mine
i belong to a simple family from lucknow
born and brought up in lucknow
in 1999 i landed in mumbai
with a lady friend of mine who had
promised that
she has relatives over here so when i
reached the other station i was not
acquainted with the language it was a
very different language marathi language
for me and i being a girl was 21 years
old who had not traveled out of lucknow
much
then i came to know from the lady friend
that lady friend of mine
that she had no relatives here and she
had lied to me
and it was it was night time and we
didn’t even have a place to stay
and we didn’t understand the language
not even much money
so we just i did not know what to do and
we decided that
for today tonight we try to look for a
place to at least
so we went out and after lots
of we tried and we went to lots and lots
of places and finally
opposite one of the government hospitals
we found a
lodge which gave us a cubicle not bigger
than a two-seater car i would say
to stay in which all the patients who
couldn’t who were not accommodated in
the hospital were staying there
so that was the condition which i faced
we just
sat inside the room and i was very tired
and i just wanted to rest for some time
and the moment i just wanted to half lie
down i saw that the bed was full of
hundreds of
bed bugs and this was the first time in
my life that i ever saw
bed bugs and so many that time
that time this question came to my mind
what do i want to
do do i want to try my luck and be
successful or
or i want to go back and i decided
somewhere this wand came that i want to
be successful because this image of
success is instilled in all of fast
since our childhood
so i just wanted to go ahead and try my
luck at least
universe was very kind to me on the
fourth day
through auditions through friends i
bagged a role that was a main eat
on just fourth day and i was so happy
that this is the time i have achieved my
success now i will be there where i
wanted to be always
and everything went smooth the shoot
started everything was really really
good
and then after three months my dad
passed away
and things completely changed for me and
i became the man of the family
all of a sudden after that when i came
back to mumbai
after all the ceremonies i came to know
that after one month
the show was shutting down and i will be
left for no
with no work so i was like oh my god i
just thought that i am successful and
now why is this happening
with me why i just wanted to be
successful
and then i decided that okay fine this
is the
life and i will it was not easy those
days were really really difficult
but i started learning and meeting
people
that how to get work and auditioning and
do everything which was possible for me
to do
after all this the cycle started every
time i used to get a show i used to feel
that now is the time when i have gained
the success which i have always wanted
but then after a few months or an year
when the show used to shut down i used
to feel that
why is it shutting down why i’m feeling
so unsexy unsuccessful and this was a
cycle which began
by this time years passed by and then i
had a small house of my own
i had a car of my own and then another
setback happened
which changed my life this is i’m
talking about
a few years when i had everything basic
comforts i had
a person who came with nothing had basic
comforts over here had earned that much
okay and then another setback was that
again i was doing a main lead in one
show and my call time was 9 a.m i’d be
very punctual i always be on time i
reached there
and they told me that you are required
at 3 pm i said okay fine i’ll go back
home and come back again
and when i reached shoot again at 3 p.m
i just got some strange vibes i felt
that something is going on and they are
not telling me something freshy is going
on
and i sat in my makeup room preparing
for my scene
and then but i had this gut feeling that
something is wrong
and then the producer came and told me
that lata do you know
this is your last scene channel has
replaced you and there’s another girl
who’s already shooting for the same role
since morning and this is channel’s
decision we cannot do anything
and i got a shock because that
it hit me on my self-respect
all my confidence which i had gained
with so much of difficulty
was shattered completely that i’m being
replaced someone else is shooting i’ve
not been informed also and they’re just
making me do the last scene
so i was so shocked that i was not able
to drive back home and a
friend drove me back home and then i
started thinking that
why again why i did not achieve the
success which i
wanted to achieve and i was just about
to achieve
so this whole chase or the search for
success continued and then
i went for meditation because i was not
in the right frame of mind
i went for vipassana if you have heard
in which we have to do one drug for ten
days continuously
i went to igatori i stayed there and
tried to look for this
with this question in mind that when
will i be successful
why am i not getting the success which i
want in spite of me
being punctual all the hard work all the
dedication
everything and from there my life
changed
when i came back i got the answer
and the answer was that all this why i
did not feel successful
because all this time i was measuring
my own journey with journey of the other
people
i was measuring my success my
house my car my lifestyle my status
with the other people around me
i was not appreciating my journey at all
i was not giving gratitude for whatever
i had at that time
i was not thanking god that thank you so
much at least i
i have a place to stay how can i forget
the dingy
cubicle in which i had stayed that night
so i got the answer
that whole this whole journey
all this time i was just comparing
comparing and
measuring my success with other people’s
success
and this happened even in the code time
especially the lockdown period which
most of our industry was really really
affected
because what happens that we have uh
everyone has a standard of life
and when we feel that oh my god there’s
no verb will
i will i have to sell this luxury car
will people think that i am not
successful if i sell this luxury car
if i my status come downs why where is
it written that if you have a luxury
car car only then you will be successful
where
is it written so this is the journey and
then the day
that day i learned and my dear friends i
would really like to tell you from my
experience
that there is no measure for success
there is totally no measure for success
life is
all about experiences
life is just an experience is gaining
more
and more experiences
experiences over material wealth
but it is not wrong to achieve
everything material it is very good
but one must stay detached with the
material things
whereas gain the experiences
so in my eyes success is not what all
i have achieved what all shows i have
done what move which movie i did this is
not successful
success is how many times i got up or
anyone gets up
after falling down after falling down
how many times you get up you fight
with all the obstacles in front of you
and then
move ahead with a conviction gaining
experiences
success is all about your grit it is
all about learning it is all
about moving ahead in life and learning
should never stop
this is one thing which i have learned
from my experience
learning should never stop the day
learning stops
then you are not successful the day
learning stops
all your progress will stop this is not
success
and finally it is giving back to the
society
if we do not give back to the society in
whatever form or in whatever small or
big measure
we want to give we are not successful
first of all we should stop comparing
and measuring our success
today i decided to quit television
to take care of my son and pursue my
other interests so it does not mean that
now i’m not successful
so there is no measure for success only
experiences
and experiences and the day i stopped
measuring my success
i felt content i was very happy with
whatever i had
i was content and then i observed
there’s
success on it all started following me
the day i stopped following it it
started following me
because then it did not matter all
mattered
is that i’m moving ahead in life i’m
honest to my work i’m honest to myself
i’m learning and moving ahead every day
i’m learning and moving ahead
and then success automatically started
following me
so my dear friends this was my whole
story which is actually very very long
this is what
success means to me experiences
learning moving ahead and
being content with yourself
measuring your journey not with others
but with your
own journey that’s it
you