Do you screen or scream
do you scream or scream
what do i even mean
i don’t know about you but the virtual
world was only something of a
distraction for me an annoyance
it was a nuisance checking my phone
constantly making sure i didn’t miss a
message notification
never mind the constant stream of emails
my screen time would you believe was 12
to 14 hours per day every day
to contextualize that a recent study in
the u.s found that people spend around
three hours 15 minutes per day and i was
12 to 14 hours
crazy
many times i screamed on the inside what
am i doing with my life on my phone all
the time on the screen all the time
exhausting
anyway
i know i sound so anti-social being on
my screen time all the time
i should point out i’m actually all
about people i love people the energy
the vibe the physical and social
interaction i had actually spent hours
driving and meeting people both
personally and professionally i would do
it every day
sacrificed and i must add time away from
my family
to me though it was essential it was
part of being successful embracing the
grind hard work pays off right i was
being productive efficient building
relationships on the go super network or
super connector or was i
was i really building meaningful
productive relationships or was i being
a full very busy fool
my work-life balance wasn’t unbalanced
24 hours a day so much screen time i had
to sleep spend time with my family the
maths don’t add up
i was screaming on the inside daily
anyway the word changed
global pandemic
zumbam
i didn’t even know what zoom was in
march 2020 within one week i crash
course that held five webinars and
became the go to the expert this was the
new normal and i leaned into it i
embraced it me and millions of others
simultaneously around the world the
energy shift was amazing i could feel it
i could see it it had superseded
anything i had ever experienced before
in the in the normal world
this was very special and momentum was
building very quickly and that excited
me
i formed relationships connections
friendships all over the world all
virtually
this new concept of building
relationships changed my thinking
forever did i actually want to meet
people again
i wasn’t sure i did
thought provoking right
the dynamics of connecting and
communicating changed daily
i personally just flowed like water with
it at ease
i was in the virtual world and it felt
good every single meeting i had a
definiteness of purpose turning up with
intention not like the casual back the
back physical coffee meetups that were
so unproductive
i’m also aware now that a good energy
and vibe is required for an online
meeting it has forced me to level up not
just show up
but show up my best self every time
i suggest now that virtual emotional
intelligence is a thing
showing up virtually it’s a thing
this empowered me to be my best self
has anyone listening to this felt the
same thing
my whole mindset shifted and now i
actually was being super productive i
left my 95 and rocketed under the
stratosphere i was a different place now
mentally and virtually
the way we communicate has changed
forever virtual coffees chat rooms
two-way audio apps
i know it all sounds crazy but it’s real
and it’s happening and it’s right now
now
is the time
a moment in history i would suggest
now i don’t even have to leave home
drive 500 miles a week spending fortunes
and coffee and lunch
having to leave my wife and children i
don’t have to do it anymore
valuable time that i can never ever get
back and i always find that very tough
personally
time is precious and the virtual world
has taught me that
time is precious
i take time to listen more now and that
statement will make a few people listen
to this smile
in fact i am less than the other people
much more than i ever have
i’d suggest as a result we are now
living in a world where we’ve been
forced to listen more
that has to be a good thing right
my late father-in-law used to say to me
gary
you have one mouth and two years for a
reason you’re supposed to listen twice
as much as you talk i never got it i
like talking
go figure
it’s a strange old world we love them
but strange good never ever ever in my
wildest dreams did i ever consider that
somebody on the other side of the world
was as close to me as living next door i
speak to people from all continents
every day a uk time clock’s not even
enough anymore in my home i need the
world clocks such as my communication
around the globe
i spend quality time on my screen now
i’m not screaming anymore
i think it’s actually a good thing we’ve
been forced to embrace all things online
after all physical things have bands
limits restrictions but not the virtual
world
freedom is a beautiful thing and i feel
free as a bird it has changed how i view
the world forever i interact forever how
i develop friendships forever the
virtual world has changed me forever
how strange does that sound that i’m
favoring virtual over physical
i’d add that i’m actually a very tactile
person who loves meeting people hugging
shaking hands maybe i’m virtually
tactile i don’t know think about that
and before anyone thinks that i’ve gone
crazy and i’m this virtual creature only
now wait for this
wait for this here’s the twist in the
tail and this idea for you
i think it has also enhanced my physical
and personal relationships the virtual
world
the ones i do have
how so
as time is precious i only meet for the
relationships and the meetings that are
of real high value
not having casual back to back
minimalist coffees i qualify all my
meetings both personal and professional
so when i do meet up i am being super
productive i am adding high value the
outcomes are better for both
that has to be good right
do you like this new world that we live
in today
do you like this new world we live on
today i’d like you to think about that
do you scream
or scream